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19 minutes ago, arken said:

First decide which route you two want to go then only think of paperwork which is nothing more of filling info and following instructions.

 

Refer to @missileman’s favorite comparison post to decide CR1 vs K1. Then follow the guidelines.

 

You can choose to spend several thousands of dollars on a lawyer or on the honeymoon.

Okay thank you !!! 

31 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Great, now we can go forward!

 

In the big picture view nothing has happened that can not be resolved, you have options, many do not. So the two of you need to decide what works best for you.

I guess me and him have to talk now but paperwork seems so complicated. Would you advise us to get an immigration attorney? To make sure we’ll make no mistakes? 

2 minutes ago, geowrian said:

I think the issue is the way you presented it. You originally said (underlining is my emphasis):

"They harassed me with questions, searched my phone, only found out I had a boyfriend. The officer eventually made me say I was doing a little job on the side without finding any evidence just by pushing me to say something like that."

 

This implies you had some level of innocence and they were out to get you for something you didn't do. Now it turns out you were actually working and knowingly doing so without authorization ("People do what they can to survive" and "no need to keep telling me what I’ve done is wrong. I know. "). Had you come into the conversation just admitting to the unauthorized work and getting caught, I believe there would be less focus on that part and more on the next steps.

 

I think you will find that people are more sympathetic and empathetic when you are upfront with them.

You are right. I think I’m still in denial and not fully accepting my current situation... 

5 minutes ago, The_Empyrean said:

This is an immigration forum, not broken hearts club, remember this. We're here to help you with immigration side, and explain you stuff that we know.

 

Not always our points come out as nice, actually, most of the time than not, it will sound rude. Cause breaking rules is never nice, regardless of wrong or right.

We're here not to judge you, but to give you advice based on your given information, and offer a possible way out. We look at the cases from the eyes of the officers.

 

Not sure which one would you prefer? Saying that the officer who turned you is bad and give no legit good information with it and just tell what you want to hear, or tell the truth. 

 

No one here is being personal with you. If your past or future has nothing to do with the current situation. Your main focus of being in US shifted from studying to your partner, therefore you're on the wrong visa. You admitted here that you stayed here longer to study, because you love your Boyfriend. They didn't let you in, because you wanted to use Student Visa, to stay with your boyfriend (might not be literally to stay with him), not primarily to study, hence the turnaround. 

And I appreciate that because I got answers and that’s all I needed. Thank you all. 

10 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

You also need to understand that the more people abuse student visas, the harder it is for future genuine applicants to get them. It’s not all about you. 

It was never my intention to go there and work on that visa. I was a genuine student too and would have never stayed that long if hadn’t met my bf. 

Just now, AtlToBlr said:

Last I was on a student visa, you could work upto 20 hours per week on campus. Have the rules have changed since then? 

Nope you can still do that ! 

Just now, SusieQQQ said:

You just indirectly confessed to the charge you lost the visa for, there. 
anyway, that's water under the bridge. Using a student visa as a means to staying with someone is fine as long as you adhere to the conditions of the visa, you didn’t and now it’s time to move on. If it was just a matter of a few months, then it doesn’t look like this has upset the apple cart too much.

Damn you could also be kind and empathetic. People do what they can to survive... and as I said I came here because I needed solutions for the FUTURE, what happened in the past doesn’t matter anymore so no need to keep telling me what I’ve done is wrong. I know. 

Just now, missileman said:

Maybe he could relocate to your country?

We live in nyc and our life and our friends are over there. Plus it’d be hard for him to work in his field here. 

1 minute ago, jakelake said:

 

If your visa had not been cancelled, when would marriage have come up? It seems to me that marriage is now being used as an option because there are no other ways to get to the US?

Is the marriage then out of love or a means to get to the US?

Yes we were planning it, just wanted to wait a few more months and then this happened.

we truly love each other and my heart is broken right now. I do not have any special love for the United States. I make more money in my own country and have a better life here. I just fell in love with him that’s all.

12 minutes ago, NBSUFFERN said:

Looking the situation at hand, I guess, both K1 or CR-1 are good for you.   

 

Yes, you've to be married, for applying for Visa under CR-1 category.    Hope this helps.

 

 

Thank you for all the advice on what to do in the future. 

Just now, Ray.Bonaquist said:

When you sign an immigration document, you’re admitting under oath everything in it is true, unfortunately.

I know that. But we didn’t discuss working matter in that document because I chose to end it. You do not have to answer any questions if you do not want to. 

6 minutes ago, Ray.Bonaquist said:

Too bad. Forget about returning to the USA as a visitor or in any other non immigrant visa except perhaps H1 which allow dual intent. You should not have admitted what wasn’t true and at this point you can’t go back and change it, your records are set in stone and you signed that document he gave you.

 

If/when you guys get married or engaged, he can petition an immigrant visa for you.

 

Good luck.

In the sworn document I didn’t admit to anything I just ended it. That’s the only paper I signed.

In any case, I do not want to apply for a non-immigrant visa again. 

Thank you ! 

4 minutes ago, missileman said:

If you both decide marriage is in your future, he should join us here.  First, you should decide whether a K-1 or a CR-1 is right for you.  Then, studying the guides on this web site would be a good start.  This info might be useful:

 

Every couple has their own priorities, and each couple must decide which visa is better for their situation.

K-1
    Slightly faster arrival in the US 
    More expensive than CR-1    
    Requires Adjustment of Status after marriage (expensive and requires a lot of paperwork)    
    Spouse can not leave the US until she/he receives approved Advance Parole (approx 5-6 months)    
    Spouse can not work until she/he receives EAD (approx 5-6 months)    
    Some people have had problems with driver licenses, Social Security cards, leases, bank account during this period    
    Spouse will not receive Green Card for many months after Adjustment of Status is filed.

  

CR-1
    Slightly slower arrival in the US 

    Less expensive than K-1    
    No Adjustment of Status(I-485, I-131, I-765) required.    
    Spouse can immediately travel outside the US    
    Spouse is authorized to work immediately upon arrival.    
    Spouse receives Social Security Card and Green Card within 2 or 3 weeks after entering the US    
    Opening a bank account, getting a driver's license, etc. are very easily accomplished with GC, SS card, and passport.

    Spouse has legal permanent Resident status IMMEDIATELY upon entry to US.
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So if I look at the pros and cons, the CR1 would be better. However, does that mean we need to be married already to apply for that visa? 

Just now, SusieQQQ said:

Seems a K1 or CR1 is the route for you to go, then (assuming the boyfriend is a US citizen). As above, the denial of entry/cancelled student visa won’t affect those types of visas.  Good luck. 

Yes he’s a US citizen, forgot to mention it. Thank you. 

7 minutes ago, Illiria said:

Are you implying that an officer made you lie saying you had a job when you didn’t? because that is a very serious thing to allege

 

Or did you in fact have a job that was in violation of your student visa? 

21 minutes ago, SusieQQQ said:

This seems to be happening more often. They’re really cracking down on people violating their student visa terms by working on the side. A “little” job is still not allowed.

Not sure there’s much you can do if you admitted to a CBP officer that you were working against the terms of your visa. Is your relationship with your boyfriend serious enough for marriage? 

Yes I know that in my case a student visa is no more an option for me. I met my bf in 2016 while I was spending the summer in the US. I went back to give our relationship a chance. It’s been 2,5 years and we are in love. All I want is to be with him. 

Hi all,

I’ve been living in the US with my boyfriend on a F1 visa, studying English. I am from Switzerland and we both went there to visit my family. On the way back to the US, I was sent to secondary at the us port of entry. They harassed me with questions, searched my phone, only found out I had a boyfriend. The officer eventually made me say I was doing a little job on the side without finding any evidence just by pushing me to say something like that. They cancelled my visa, sent me back home and told me I should re apply for a correct visa such as K1 if I were to marry my boyfriend or working visa but I don’t think I could find any sponsor for such visa. What should I do at this point?