SunnyFireflies

On 4/25/2019 at 6:40 AM, FaintSpartan said:

Just got out of the interview and they didn't ask for any proof at all. You'll be fine. Now if you'll excuse me, I need to go freak out because I got approved!! 

Opps didn't see this haha. Yay!!! Congrats

On 4/23/2019 at 12:27 PM, bandito said:

Hi, I’m currently compiling evidence of ongoing relationship but I’ve encountered a problem. Most of my partner and I’s conversations contain profanity (not sexual, just a lot of ‘#### this, that’s sh*tty, etc.). I assume it would be unwise to include profanity in a package being sent to USCIS, but I have very little evidence without including those conversations. In fact, the chat in which we first confessed our feelings for one another is full of profanity too, so there really is not much other evidence. Could I just block or censor out certain words? Any advice? Thanks

I posted a question like this a few days ago. My boyfriend and I are into the kink lifestyle. So all our texts are weird as lol. (Proud weirdo) Anywho I'm sure mine are waaaaay worse than yours. You should be fine haha. 

Goodluck to you

16 minutes ago, TrustWorthy2019 said:

The simple answer is No. Follow the process and all will just be fine. Good Luck.

Okay thank you for your input. It is greatly appreciated and thank you! 

Best of luck to you as well

7 minutes ago, Nicola and Jordan said:

You’re not weird you do your own thing! 

 

My husband and I met on an online App war game haha I know it’s not the same but we all have our own unique lifestyles  Both the CO at the embassy and the immigration officer had seen K1’s who met through the same game so actually we aren’t that unique lol 

Awww thank you for your kind words

and that's so fricking cute haha. I'm glad you two found eachother. 

29 minutes ago, Wuozopo said:

Don't send texts, screen shots, social media. Not needed. Read the instructions provided by USCIS for form I-129F.  To get the petition approved they want to know

• You (petitioner) are a US citizen (send birth certificate)
• You are both free to marry (send divorce decree if previously married)
• You both intend to marry within 90 days of his arrival (both write/sign a statement saying so)
• You have met in person within the last two years (travel documents and things showing one or both visited the other) 

This is what the instructions say about how you met: 

Item Numbers 53. - 54. Have you and your fiancé(e) met in person during the two years immediately before ling this petition? Indicate whether you and your fiancé(e) have seen each other in person during the two year period immediately before to ling your petition. Select “N/A” if the beneficiary is your spouse.

If you respond “Yes” to Item Number 53., use Item Number 54. to describe the circumstances of your in-person meeting. Attach evidence to demonstrate that you were in each other’s physical presence during the required two year period. If you need extra space to complete this section, use the space provided in Part 8. Additional Information. 

 

 

And they ask a lot of biographical information about you, him, the parents, work history, marital history, criminal history, etc for security vetting. 

 

You need to plan for all the costs before you rush in.

K1 fiancé basic fees for those going through London embassy. Some are dollars, some are pounds.

$535 Fiancé Petition (USCIS)

£45 police certificate (ACRO)

£350 medical (Knightsbridge) pay at the appointment

$265 visa fee (Dept of State/Embassy) pay online 

$30 or $0 (Courier) home delivery or pick up at depot

-Enter USA and marry-

$1225 AOS/EAD/AP (USCIS)

 

You also need a job making about $20k per year to sponsor him. 

 

It is super easy to stall visa issuance in London once the petition is approved and the case gets to London. You can delay picking a medical date and interview to fit your timeline. The thing you can't guess is how long the petition approval will take, or how long to get turned over to National Visa Center, or how long it will take NVC to send to London. Once in London, you can stall a year if you need more time.

Thank you so much for your input!

Oh but what about video call screenshots like showing we cammed for 10 hours? I think that would be nice proof. Or the funny screen shots we take on cam with fliters/no fliters?

Jeez thoses prices 😕.....my pockets are crying already lol. I warned my boyfriend about how long this will take and the prices. He said he would like to help out which is nice.

Yeah that's an issue because I can't work. I'm going to ask a family memeber to sponser my boyfriend. I do get money I'm on ssi for good reasons. Not how I would like it to be but that's my life right now.

Again thank you for the advice I really appreciate it. Best of luck to you with everything. 

8 minutes ago, Hawksquill said:

It doesn't really matter what you (the U.S. citizen) will be doing or where you'll be traveling, since once I-129F gets approved it turns from your application to his application - he's the one who has to do the medical and interview.  If he had said he was planning to be out of the country for several months in the middle of the application process, that would be a problem.  If he misses his interview or isn't able to complete it within the specified timeframe, he'd be denied.

 

But also, don't expect them to bend the process for your timeline.  It could be that the approval falls before, during, or after your visit to the UK - you'll have to be prepared for all the possible outcomes. 

Ooooh okay I see. I will definitely make sure when I file that he doesn't have big plans or anything and can make the interview. 

You summed it up perfectly with your last statement. I have to be prepared for all the possible outcomes

5 minutes ago, DaveAndAnastasia said:

Processing times can change in unpredictable ways; no one knew NOA1-NOA2 times were going to go from 3-4 months on average to 6-7 months on average from Jan to July 2017, or that they'd start going back down again in June 2018 (and are back to that 3-4 month range now) with an accompanying (though somewhat smaller in absolute terms) increase in time at NVC. Sometimes events outside your control will cause delays at your consulate (though this seems improbable in London). Sometimes a case takes an unexpectedly long time for no particular reason.

 

And it's much easier to slow down the process than to speed it up. Your fiance can delay scheduling his interview for a while (though if he wants to push things more than 4 months from NOA2, he'll need to ask the embassy for an extension), and as mentioned above he'll have six months from his medical exam to come to the US. So apply as soon as you're comfortable saying you intend to marry, have sufficient evidence, and have sufficient funds on hand to get all the way through the AOS (both for official fees and to support your husband until he can work legally).

Very wise and informative input, thank you so much for taking the time to give advice. It is really appreciated

Goodluck with your process 

36 minutes ago, Eric-Pris said:

Just a general comment about all these American women going to the middle east and complaining about controlling men, the expected dress code, and attitude of the men.

 

Seriously?   They didn't know this going in? 

Omg thank you!!!! I think the same thing. I just wanna hiss shut up haha. What did you expect seriously. Then some say I'm American I'm American! Okay that's great but they're not. I'm not saying they have to completely change but me personally I would not mind compromising. Because that's what you do for eachother. 

Y'all just a side note does it matter now that I've said I'll be flying out in October of next year and going back around Feb or March 2021? 

I mean of course it matters. I agree with everyone. Filling soon is the best option. Was just wondering if that would still be considered as a cramped time sisuation?

5 minutes ago, Hawksquill said:

I'm also going to encourage you to apply sooner rather than later.  The wait times have gotten longer and longer and the future of different visas and immigration more broadly is uncertain.  You can't confidently plan how long the process will take, so shooting for him to come in October isn't really feasible.  Even trying to plan the wedding is getting more and more difficult from what I see from people's timelines nowadays.

 

Good luck! 

Oh no

Yeeeeah I had a feeling. The thing is I would be visiting from October till February or March. Sorry about that yall should have been more clear.

But still even so you all have good points. Filling as soon as possible is the best choice. 

Okay thank you for your advice. It is greatly appreciated

As for the wedding we were going to the court house if we got approved. And plan a bigger one later on.

Oh! And thank you. Goodluck to you as well

1 minute ago, Fe.Ta said:

No problem, glad to be of any help.  Again, follow others' advice and don't worry about giving text conversations.  You can have plenty of evidence without having to overshare your intimate details.  I would apply as soon as possible maybe October-November 2019 will give you enough of a window to accommodate USCIS delays AND have everything come through to possible fly back home together.  February-March 2020 might be too tight, especially if the embassy does not have readily available interview dates.  Just a thought.  We applied November 2018 and flew back to USA in June 2019.  However, every case is different, there are some that are sooner and others later.  Just plan accordingly.

Honestly if I could I would file asap. Gosh darnit 😕 not just a thought, a very good thought aha. I should have started saving earlier. Just wasn't sure when the right time would be. I'm so glad yall got to fly back together that's nice

Well guess 2021 will be our year. Thank you for sharing your wise thoughts

2 minutes ago, Ethan & Shannon said:

Applying sooner than later would be best. He has 6 months from his visa medical date to use the visa. If you apply in Feb or March there's a chance he wont have his visa in time for October. Just something to think about, you could consider applying sooner.

Well that reeeeeeeally sucks yeah you're right. The sooner the better. I would do it soon but I need to get the fee you need to submit the paper work. 

By the way it went up a lot oh my goodness. When I saw what it was to what it went to I was disappointed. Yeaaah it's not 800 but still.

7 minutes ago, Ethan & Shannon said:

No worries, you're going to be fine .

I hope so lol. Thanks again

1 hour ago, Falcon Cara said:

Last time I looked and it seems to change every few years:  The I-129f ask you to describe how you met in person, not how you met. 

Your input is appreciated thank you

3 minutes ago, Fe.Ta said:

Fill in your timeline.  When are you planning on sending the K1 application?  Once you know the month, you can search VJ for [month] K1 and it will show this year's and that month for you to follow the thread.  These will be VJ members going through the same stages (around the same time) as you.

I'm not to sure my boyfriend starts in late September. I was brainstorming and came up with the idea to file in February 2020 or March? Because when I visit him in October next year I want him to come back with me. So I have to wait and see. When I know I'll definitely do that. Thanks for the other info you gave me

5 minutes ago, Ethan & Shannon said:

You never need to submit any screenshots of messages. They don't need to know the ins and outs of your lifestyle, just that you're a genuine couple.

I have heard that but I have seen a lot of people submitting texts so I just thought I'd see what others think.

And to be clear I wasn't going to give gorey detials to them or anything. My text messges are just far from normal text. It's not inappropriate or anyting. Thank you so much for your input I appreciate it

59 minutes ago, Hawksquill said:

I'm not sure if they've changed the "how you met" question, but I didn't ever actually tell them the specific website where we met.  The focus is more proving that you've met in person and have a legitimate relationship, not the specific circumstances of how/where you met.  My answer to question 34a (when I applied back in 2016) was this:

 

"We first met online in April 2013 and met in City in November 2013. After meeting for the first time in November 2013, Husband came to visit me in the USA in June 2014.  I went to the UK in October 2014 and December 2014, where I spent Christmas with his family in City.  Husband came to the US for my college graduation in May 2015.  I obtained a tier 4 student visa to study at the University of City and moved to the UK in September 2015.  Husband and I saw each other most weekends from September 2015 to July 2016 and also spent time with his family in City during this time.  We went to the US to spend Christmas with my family in December 2015." 

 

The focus should be on showing your relationship began legitimately and has grown and strengthened through time spent together in person (plane tickets, passport stamps, photos of you in identifiable places or with family) and not just on how you met.  If you don't think adding chat logs would strengthen your case because of the nature of your relationship, don't include them.  I'd also say that they have to be on the lookout for potential domestic violence, so if the kink at all implies that that would be a concern, do not include them.

 

Or if possible, could you find portions that aren't related to the kink lifestyle (making dinner or travel plans, talking about time spent together, etc.)  Chat logs are pretty much universally accepted as among the weakest form of evidence for K1, because they're incredibly easy to fake. You won't be penalized for not including them unless your other evidence is seriously, seriously lacking.

 

We were also never asked which website we met on during any of our interviews.  The focus is really on if the relationship is legitimate, which is mostly proved by face-time and not how you met. 

Typically people outside of the community view that lifestyle as  a domestic violence situation. But it's really not. That's just a big misocncetipion. I'm saying that in general. I actually didn't think about if they would think domestic violence. Wow thanks for the heads up. And thank you for your input it is appreciated

53 minutes ago, Fe.Ta said:

Sure thing!  We are not dealing with the same embassy (England versus Argentina).  But, I am in the process of AOS already, so if I can help with anything, feel free to message.  I am sure you can also follow the monthly threads depending on when you first file the K1.

Again thank you so much! I was so worried about this haha. And sorry but where is the monthly thread? I'm so new to this.

Oh and goodluck with the AOS

8 minutes ago, Fe.Ta said:

I don't think the "where" (a.k.a. kink site) would matter as long as you focus on how the relationship developed and that is genuine.  For proof, you can do other things such as time spent together (photos, dinner tickets, travel tickets, etc.).  If you have social media, maybe posts that are on there would help as well.  From what I know and have experienced, they just want to know that it wasn't a marriage broker (if there was, some additional documentation would be needed), that there is reasonable time that the relationship is in existence, time spent together (face to face), and its validity.  You don't need to put your entire intimacy on display.  Know your case and figure out how you can prove validity.

Thank you so much for the advice! It is appreciated

1 minute ago, payxibka said:

They only care if the site is an international marriage broker or not.   And then they really don't care if it is an IMB as long as you have complied with the additional evidence requirement 

 

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer this

Hello everyone I'm still doing research and trying to learn the process. So when I'm ready to file it goes smoothly. I'm not sure when that will be since my boyfriend is still in school for one more year. He starts his last year in the fall.

My question is my boyfriend and I met on a kink website. I know I can't be dishonest. I have to tell them where we met. So will that hinder us?

I also noticed I don't call him by his name. And our text are way different than what people usually text their lovers. I don't want to get too personal or trigger anyone on what the nicknames are or what our lifestyle is. 

I have read that text are not a requirement but still. I'm wondering will they think we are very strange and deny us for our personal lifestyles?

I know I am a weird person and I'm perfectly okay with that. But I really don't want my personal life effecting my boyfriend moving here. I'm hoping they can look past the weirdness and see our relationship is genuine. If I thought about it 4 years ago I would have been more carful.

Thank you for taking the time to read this. I apologize if this question was common sense or just silly. I wish everyone luck in whatever process they are doing.

From the outside looking in I think Nicole and Azan need to call it quits. Didn't they both cheat on eachother anyway? That isn't love to me personally. 

Also she lied about having a store with Azan. And put in most of the money. They are a team he should have put more in. Her family is helping out too which is so sweet. But I just think it will not play out the way she wants it to.

Look at how he cancelled.....if it was really a family emergency my deepest condolences. If not he should grow a pair and just end it.

Then again what do I know....I don't see them behind closed doors.

I'm not speaking on the visa stuff because I'm still new to it lol.

Oh and I forgot to add.....I feel so bad for Caesar. All that money he invested omg. He could have found a genuine women and have started the process already. I think he is being scammed. I was super excited to meet my boyfriend. I could not wait. Everytime I hear them talk she sounds annoyed or uninterested. I think she is a crappy person. Ceaser poor thing but dude come on after the first or second time I would have been done. 

On 8/6/2019 at 11:33 PM, USS_Voyager said:

 

"God, there are people who sent pictures of themselves having sex in..."

 

For some reason that made me laugh ahah.