We_Destiny

Thanks AM I would love the list...

Hey LL I am sooo glad you brought this topic up... This is going to be one of the games played at my Bridal Shower..

The gele wrap contest...the best one wins.......i will give them 5 minutes and a mirrror.... Nigerian women are banned from this game....I will have another one for them like the toilet paper gown.

Thanks a Bunch

Seriously as Stevi mentioned the job you currently hold needs to be extremely GREAT. Another thing is, yes you have to be honost but when you walk into the embassy claiming to want to come to US to meet K1 requirements, to shortly thereafter move to the US to get married. The odds of you receiving a tourist visa are next to none. I don't mean to be harsh, but if it was that easy visajourney would not exist. Alot of people probably would go that route.

Seriously unless your job is GREAT and you have a SUBSTANTIAL Bank account and own PLOTS of land, and are already married in Nigeria with kids (which would void the K1 anyway) it would just be a waste of time and money. Answer me this.... how many people do you know in Nigeria that have been issued a tourist visa ? and better yet what was the proof of strong ties they gave ?.......

I agree with Sylvia if she can't go to nigeria maybe meet up in Canada, London or the Islands. Or better yet, she should just visit Nigeria for a shorter term like O said 2 weeks.

This journey requires a lot of planing and sacraficing it is by NO Means easy on the pocket, emotions or anything else.

Good luck with your journey..

We required a marriage license for most....but he could not open his own account until his social arrived.

That last you tube video with the gold gelei is how I learned.. Like chipas and akinstacey sometimes they end up looking like hot messes, but a little patience and a few attempts it can be sorted out.

What color are you looking for?

For people to be able to truely help you, you need to fill in your time line

AM I have a few pair of brass knuckles....if anyone mentions the word sc&mmer can bust them up

Logged on today with the intentions of celebrating my last day of class yesterday until Sept ......Been on my grind with those papers ....Son anyways, I log on and I see MADINESS!!!! Had to drop into the cafe for a drink...Although I don't think the type of drink I want is here . Maybe shoulda stopped into the Sub-Saharan Bar.... but oops we don't have one.

So what do I do now????

Uno

'betcha by golly wow' with norman conners started my love affair with Phyllis.....

I have seroulsley looking at using one of her tunes as my weddiing songs.... But like sade they can be a little sad.... Maybe I should start a thread beging for suggestions?

A better version of meet me on the moon...Sorry Ubo for taking over your comment about Phyllis

I guess it is a Chicago Than... What do you think you know about Phylis..One of the greatest female voices of all time.

I wish you could hear "One on One" Love is hea followed by As you are both featuring Pharoah Monk on Sax.....My, My, My.. The two songs together is a true moment of Bliss....

However Meet me on the Moon is a true Phyllis interpretation of her life of desire and non-acceptance... I remember the moment I found out she took her life....a tragedy...

Better yet, if you truely want to hear some Phyllis selections PM me and I will mail you a compilation...Art needs to be shared...

hey all y'all

(umm, wherez Charles!?!)

I have been readin' and catchin' up on stuff.

seems like y'all got it goingz onz up in herre .

but moving on, today has been fairly good for me

I went and purchased a "phyllis hyman" cd....omg, I just love that woman (r.i.p.).

(b4 somebody axe me who she is, google is your friend and so is u2ube)

and, and I went to B&N and a book "this is who I am." I that book, more so the artistry.

every woman needs to read that book, and so should our daughters.

the authors webbie is www.rosanneolson.com"

you can view her art work there.

as far as running folks off, I hope and pray I did not skeerred nobody off.

hell, what can I gain from running away a potential source of information and guidance.

e're body is welcome here...jmo.

nice to see "BE" back in da howse B) . I hope you get your hearts desire and then some mz.thang .

Bassies Z, who knows, maybe God is tryin to somethin.

:::sangin:::"can't sleep at night, and you wonder why, maybe God is tryin' to tell you somethin"

"Mother" Omoba, I pray every thing works according to Gods plan for your life.

I know God is infallible.

When God brings you to a situation, he will bring you out of that situation.

He is purifying you and refining you for your predestined breakthrough.

oh Lord!

LL what are you talking about??

Hey did someone call my name?

I have some goat meat to add to the stew

Enough with the doomsday....People here are grown and I can tell you the pot is hot and that you should not touch it. But, if you decide to touch it even if I disagree it is your choice. All I know that I said to you what was in my heart to say, and will be able to move on. You may get burned you may not, but either way I will be three to walk with you whatever path choosen.

If someone would have told me my husband was scamming me I would not have believed them, I know that anything is possible and I can only make decisions from what I feel is right for me. I have made some wrong ones but, I have made more right one using the same logic. It is my opinion that we should not nag and harras people all repeating the same scammer comments. There has been a many of times I have typed something and walked away, I will come back and copy my thoughts and see what the last post pointed to. Alot of times I would read my exact same thoughts posted by someone else or the flow of the conversation might take a turn, so I don't post those thoughts. I lost my window to comment or the relevancy of the point..... so be it.

I am merely saying that it does not take 35 people saying the exact same thing making the exact same warning. If maybe, you see someone has already posted your sentiments maybe the thumbs or diitto or just silence knowing your point was already made by someone else might suffice. JMHO

Huh? What? Lurking very presumptive statements.... are you responding to the right thread or person, is this informative piece of information (judgement) meant for the original poster or Louis from the other thread ?

The captain of the scammer police brigade..... (on duty) always ready to save the day....

Something else that is concerning that has not been mentioned is the time you spent talking online. It is extremely expensive to get online in Nigeria. Only people with money have it at home that have to contend with the power outages to boot.

If he was trying to scam you, he is online trying to scam others while he maintains this relationship with you.

So even if your relationship has turned legit there is a good chance he is scamming other people. Scammers do not fall in love and just stop scamming. This is his way of life and if he found his way to it he will continue until another form of money is available. Would you want to be with someone who scams for a living? Even if it is there only way of making a means?

If someone is sick in the hospital in Nigeria you are not chatting online at all unless you are rich. Internet cafe's are expensive and per minute use. Some are owned by scammer so that is when a scammer is set up for free, because they are bringing in an income. Mutual people will pretend to be one person so that if one is in the cafe they can correspond for the person who might not be able to make it in.

I only wish you the best. No one doubt you or your capabliities or mean to insult you. These scammers are educated people with degrees and no place to use them.

You will get support with your journey no matter what you chose so keep comming back. It works if you work it! *wink

Not to get off topic. . But..... BESANGIN......I hope your still on track with your transformation.... How is skinny coming along?

I recall you posted your skinny face picture...it was so encouraging...

I need to pm you and find out your method.

Look at post 30 & 57 of the thread...... she has a websit and eerthing

I am so jealous I WANT a heart....

P I'm glad you got a chance to perform damage control.....

By the way, why are we tripping on this lady? She even said she had mental problems and that her kids were in forster care most of their lives, and by the way who files for child support or tries to enforce it when the child is 28, and you did not raise them? Would it not be the systems (governments) option to enforce it or not enforce child support (since they supported the child, besides the money would not go to her)? Who seeks alimony after 28 years for a marriage that was only 3 weeks. ....He must of really put it on her..... If I was not married

You know she could have gotten a job as a paralegal or some type of researcher and not still been the poor victim (blah, blah, blah) .... but, don't get it twisted the crazy b knows how to document evidence and compile and spat rules and regulations (she even knows Nigeria's Laws hehehe). She needs to enroll in some sort of fast track law program and abandon her crazy horny lady stalking ambitions.

But for real... I am glad that she posted this crazy hott mess of a situation. To furthure encourage others (to remain nameless.. it is not that I don't care) to get off the crazy bus. We all see what happens when you don't know how to let go and let God....... All be warned

just remembered to look at (4:55) in the video....OOOOOOOOOOOps

If you have a copy of the identification card and the credit card front and back of the person that booked the tickets you should be able to confirm your flight with the copies. That is what we were told to do when my SO travelled.

Is that SINBAD?

Yeah... Uno... Great Song

My husband cannot possibly miss anyone in Nigeria , he constantly talks family aand friends everyday . They call one another back and forth everday. We just had it out about that recently. In April I was in Ethiopia for 3 weeks and for the whole month of June I was in Ghana. On both occassions we spoke mostly everyday for a few minutes sometimes more, but, he would say I dont have a phone card (yadda, yadda, yadda) and I would fuss. Because, he talks to people in Nigeria everyday; I would say yeah you used your phone calls up talking to everyone else .

But seriously at least 5 people a day........they have not had a chance to miss each other.

Uno be careful

I was in accident 95 and ended up having a bothched surgery that left me with chronic arthritis. But before it was diagnosed I continued to work as a meter reader for the utility company and walked 8 hours a day. By the time I would get home my knee would feel like they were on fire, and my then doctor prescribed various arthritis drus but none helped with the pain , therefore, I could not sleep because of the pain. Well, eventually my doctor prescribed an anti anxiety as a sleep aid Alprazolam 2mg. It was no joke the sleep would be so hard it was like I was stuck (my mind would be awake, but I had o coax my body into wakin up). I took them for a week or so and realize how strong they were, I then began to break the pills until I came up with a dosage that did not leave me lathargic in the morning, that ended up being cutting one pill into 8 pieces ( remember a 2mg pill into 8 pieces. Mind you 13 years later a still have a bottle of the pills and they still work.

Anti anxiety under the guise of sleeping aid pills are no joke. just thinking about them is making me drowsey.

Destiny