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4 hours ago, Kim and Jermaine said:

I second that you should check in with hiring Spar & Bernstein in NYC. They have a good facebook page where you can check them out. 

 

Also, don't make it easy for him. You need a lawyer because his lawyer will tear you to pieces to humiliate, embarrass and anger you during court. You can't go through all that without a lawyer to defend you and interject. 

 

If you reported abuse and filed protection orders, that's good proof of his instability. How long were you married before you made the first report of abuse? How long were you married before you separated and was a legal, documented separation? The fact that he lied or omitted important details to get the k1 visa is also bad for him. 

 

Hire a lawyer so they can go hard. They'll gather all the needed info from you to obtain documents to build their case. Would you rather pay big $$ to your lawyer or to your evil ex? Be strong and give him a run for his money! He probably thinks you're a pushover and that you won't fight it. Keep letting him think that,  while you work against him in secret! 

 

Good luck to you sister!

 

Edited to add: Find a lawyer who has knowledge and expertise in immigration laws as well as defending the participants during these cases of fraudulent marriages.

Thank you! I spoke to 4 lawyers and they all telling me I have to give him half even though its my parents money in my name. They bought me house and I saved up to return money. I can't prove is not mine, so I would owe him $40K as half not mentioning I lost probably $30K already. Simple divorce is $5K and I wish lawyers would be able to help me at least to give him at least. I have been told by all that I need to split it plus alimony. I spoke to Homeland/USCIS and they told me there is no way of them to prove anything with Iran, so they won't do anything. I mainly worry about I-864 which I will be on hook for many years to come. He is not too bright, but he hired an aggressive and money hungry lawyer by his rich mistress. We are still legally married, he just moved out.

7 minutes ago, URgreat said:

6 years quite a long period to know each other

 

Forget it now, and Its time to move on...

3 long distance. 2.5 in USA. I tried to get rid of him after 1 year of marriage when he started to abuse me. He threatened to kill me if I try. I have very complicated situation. trust me, I am happy he is out of my life. I am just fighting for my investments during marriage that he did not contribute in any way.

14 hours ago, NBA16 said:

I am so sorry to  hear that, i wish you the best of the luck on that. 

Sorry if it is not an answer to the question you asked  but you mentiomed in one of your posts that he traveled with diplomatic passport, doesn't it prove he worked for Iran's government? You have no evidence, a text message, copy of passport? Or by any chance you know if he used different name for diplomatic passport? Anything to prove mispresentation. (if you were not aware of all this when you petitioned for him) 

I am Iranian too, i wish i could help you, because people like him make troubles for all Iranians, they lie to a person, DoS, and embassy then they get a visa without any problem, meanwhile i am waiting for visa over 21 months. 

I tried to check if you can reach the history of his insurance (which shows the places he worked for) but it needs his national id number and insurance id number. (sorry if it sounds complicated) 

Search his name (in Farsi too) , maybe you can find something to report him. 

I really hope you win and he can't get even a dime from you. 

I wish I had hard proof. I have no way of getting it. He told me after the fact. I went to speak to Homeland Security and they told me if I don't show them proof, I cannot do anything. I was in court today and he is playing card that I abused him when in deed I had two temporary restraining orders against him. Azizam, you have no idea what I am going through. He told me he was a body guard for high rank officials, but then he got a normal job in sales. He told me he had a friend who was border patrol and cleared his passport so he can get out of Iran, but he is scared to go back because they would find out. I learned this recently when I begged him to leave me. he abused me for 2 years and I still don't understand why I endured it.

18 hours ago, 1USSister said:

I asked if he is Muslim because is there anything you can do through the religion? 

Yes he is a Muslim, but he lost his way with God.

5 minutes ago, mrmvkjts said:

OH my! I am so sorry for you having to go thru this

You say that you have chats that he sent to his family that he found a new women that he can use?

Isn‘t that proof that you could use? 

I really hope you find a good solution, nobody deserves this

Unfortunately, I don't think it matters in my state laws.

1 minute ago, cyclone27 said:

Good news is that you have a short marriage so his prospects of alimony are dim.

Almost 3 years and Im in no fault state. Cheating does not matter.

3 minutes ago, cyclone27 said:

Well  I can only give you experience of my best mate. His ex lawyered up and so did he in order to defend against her. End result almost a million dollars between the pair of them in legal fees and it financially ruined them both.

 

As much as I would love to say fighting works - far better to reach a mutual agreement because the only winners end up being the lawyers who have no incentive to settle.

I agree. I have currently restraining order and he has very aggressive lawyer. He is shooting for the stars. I don't think negotiation is on the table  

3 minutes ago, Boiler said:

So alimony seems a long shot, and more so the I 864.

I live in no fault state. I was told cheating does not matter :(. Im really screwed!

2 minutes ago, Boiler said:

Sounds like you can not afford not to get a Divorce Lawyer.

 

PS there is no 10 years I 864 limit, there is 40 quarters but that is based on him working.

He is dating wife of CEO of the company we work for. I have voice recording stating how much she loves him. He does not make much money, but still works. In my best interest is not to report it as he will lose that job and I will end up paying more. I saw got copy of chats with his Family stating he found another woman to use. She is super rich and I suspect she is helping him with lawyer.

2 minutes ago, wanderer84 said:

I would also worry about long term consequence of just settling now without involving the law. There is no telling what will happen later and I would worry if OP can be misunderstood later as if they willing took part in any of his schemes.  

 

I know nothing about the law, but given what OP tells about him, I would take no chances with this character.

yes, luckily I had no part of his fraud. I will have no choice, but to find good attorney. So far I have been talking to some and they do not work on my side. They just tell me I have to pay him, etc.

2 minutes ago, cyclone27 said:

Only problem with lawyering up - you end up losing all your money to the lawyers involved.

 

your best bet is to come to a settlement or you both end up losing.

Yes!!!! He lawyered up after he left me announcing he used me for green card and money and now he is gonna get more! I still did not retain attorney. They cost thousands and I have to pay just to defend what I worked so hard for.

Just now, wanderer84 said:

If the marriage was not in "good faith", I hope there are avenues to follow. 

On his part it was not. On mine it was. I gave him everything. I even pay for his health insurance. I put him on car insurance, etc. He admitted for using me for GC and that now he found a way of not have to stay with me and still get a green card. Unfortunately is all true.

The only way I could save my assets/finances is by filing alimony, but in my states is almost impossible to get it. I was told super slim chance.

Just now, wanderer84 said:

Wow I am so sorry to hear that. I cannot believe there are people like that but apparently there are. I am praying for you. I am sure many here will provide valuable advice. God bless. 

Thank you! Nobody can even imagine my devastation and hurt.

Just now, Ben&Zian said:

 

Try to prove it best as possible when it comes to that time that he lied the entire time. If you can especially prove he lied on original applications for the original visa you may be able to get out of it. If you can't, legally if that law in your state says he is owed half of everything/alimony... it is what it is.... again if you can manage to prove all this there may be some hope though for you to save your assets....

 

 

Problem is I cannot prove he lied on application. USA does not have any ties with Iran. I know that he traveled to Afghanistan and Saudi Arabia on diplomatic passport. Again, I have no way of getting hard proof.

I brought my current husband from Iran on K1 visa. My husband is 14 years younger than me and came without any money. Yes, I lost my mind. I fell in love with young charismatic man. I am educated and my whole life I saved with hard work and sacrifices. And it happened, he used me just for a green card (yeah stupid me for trusting). He admitted for lying on application regarding his previous employment. He admitted for working for Iranian government and having weapons training (not mentioned on visa app). He received his visa based on lies (I have no way of proving it). I refused to sign ROC (I751) and so he left and is filing it based on divorce waiver. He was abusive throughout the relationship, which was documented in court. Two temporary restraining orders. No criminal charges though. After he left (2.5 yrs) I found out he was in relationship with another older woman and have recording of them. I am ok he left, but I am not ok he is suing me for half. I confirmed with 3 attorneys that he is entitled to half of my savings (which is a lot collected during marriage.) He is also going for alimony and my 401k which I saved a lot. He did not pay a dime to me or towards my house or anything. I covered all his expenssed. Found him job. I basically lost $40K on him and will lose another $40k based on him defrauding me and the country. I made Infopass and was lucky to speak to officer who then told me they cannot do anything!!! He is permanent resident (conditional green card) and has every right to renew it based on divorce, because I cannot prove it was a sham. Even if he does not have anything in his name, no financials because some marriages agree to that. So not only he wasted almost 6 yrs of my life, he refused to have children (I never had it was my last chance), he will get my savings, 401K, plus my investments and I am being told there is nothing I can do to stop it and I am on the hook for I864 for 10 yrs, so this will never end. He is evil and is doing everything to hurt me financially. I really don’t understand why as I only gave him and provided everything and let him travel with me all over the world. I am glad that he is out of my life, but is there anything I can do so he does not take everything I worked so hard for. He received his visa based on lies and deception. I can clearly show that he was using me for money and green card. USCIS is not interested in what I had to say at the infopass. Is there anything else I can do??