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Hello, I am worried about my sister and her going to Africa. She has already gotten a passport and she has only been conversating with this nut job online.  The strangest thing about all of this is that he 
"randomly" found my sister on facebook. He is not a friend of a friend or anything. He appeared out of nowhere requesting to be friends. And my naive sister accepted his request. Now supposedly they are in love. He is muslim and know alot about this religion. My sister has 2 children from another man and is older than he is. This guy has never been married before. This just really pisses me off to no end. How do I find out if he is not affiliated with ISIS? Does anyone know how I can do research on this weirdo before my sister leaves the US to go visit this loser!!!? please respond asap I really need help on know what to do to put a stop to this.   

The sad thing is when people assume "why you would be okay with all of this until now?" In her description it states that he was abusive throughout their relationship. That should answer that question. In abusive relationships many are not reported and their is no court or police records and even in those cases only 20% of the abuse is actually known.  Thank God she did and was able to report and document abuse. So, unless you have been involved in an abusive relationship you will never know nor understand its affects. Alot of people say "omg! if I was her/him I would just leave him/her etc...."  If he is so abusive why did you stay? What did you do to get him so angry? What people need to start doing to talking to the Abuser and saying what is wrong with you!? You need to get help. The victim is always repeatdly victimized in our society while the perpetrator/abuser/oppressor is always somehow given the excuse or sympathy. After all most Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist thrive off of empaths and their sympathy and that is the very emotion the lures their next victim in.  Also, their is no set criteria for a persons emotional well-being to attract these type of sickos. You don't have to have low-self esteem nor be codepent because these disorders can fool almost anyone.  Most of the time when you are being abused by Sociopath/Psychopath/Narcissist it is a dance with the devil himself you will be lucky to come out alive and fully functional at all.  So, I can assure you that she was NOT okay with all of this until now.

Find way to prove he used  to make this Idiot u married does not reap where he didnt sow. Sorry for ur going  through I am praying to God for you. 

The sad thing is when people assume "why you would be okay with all of this until now?" In her description it states that he was abusive throughout their relationship. That should answer that question. In abusive relationships many are not reported and their is no court or police records and even in those cases only 20% of the abuse is actually known.  Thank God she did and was able to report and document abuse. So, unless you have been involved in an abusive relationship you will never know nor understand its affects. Alot of people say "omg! if I was her/him I would just leave him/her etc...."  If he is so abusive why did you stay? What did you do to get him so angry? What people need to start doing to talking to the Abuser and saying what is wrong with you!? You need to get help. The victim is always repeatdly victimized in our society while the perpetrator/abuser/oppressor is always somehow given the excuse or sympathy. After all most Sociopaths, Psychopaths and Narcissist thrive off of empaths and their sympathy and that is the very emotion the lures their next victim in.  Also, their is no set criteria for a persons emotional well-being to attract these type of sickos. You don't have to have low-self esteem nor be codepent because these disorders can fool almost anyone.  Most of the time when you are being abused by Sociopath/Psychopath/Narcissist it is a dance with the devil himself you will be lucky to come out alive and fully functional at all.  So, I can assure you that she was NOT okay with all of this until now.

I feel really bad when I hear stories like yours. I want to believe that if house abuse happens, it should give you the right to revoke his green card and all the benefits that he gained because of you. 
Please get a lawyer. There should be a way to transfer your money to your parents or other relatives as a present, they can buy a real estate or some kind of the other property and there will be nothing to share with this moron since your bank account will be technically empty. 

I can imagine what you're going through. I went through something similar.  He went after everything I had: savings, 401k, house, alimony. I can see you're upset and devastated. However, I don't want you to lose yourself during this process. Material things don't matter much to me, I will rebuild and so are you. If he remarries or even cohabitates with someone,  he's not entitled to alimony. Get a good lawyer. Reach out to friends and family so you can get the support that you need in this difficult time.  Immigration might look at you as an "angry ex-wife" trying to get back at him unless you get proof of certain things.
I wish you good luck.

I guess you could try to get evidence, even as a text message or email from him. Or report him to the FBI. The information you provide could be serious (travel under a different passport, having worked for the Iranian government, arms training, violence). 
 
From a green card standpoint, it would be hard to do anything. I guess you could write to USCIS and they could do a more thorough background check on him. Without any evidence to go on, it would be hard for them to find what you are saying.
 
You can send them the restraining orders. 

Does anyone know anyone who has been profiled over Facebook? There is a guy who misteriouly appeared wanting to be my sisters friend on Facebook. He is from Algeria. He is Muslim about 30 years old. Now my sister is going to Algeria to visit this stranger and his family. I am concerned because I know the traditions and following of Muslims and it is very strange that this guy would seek a stranger on Facebook.  It is very odd because he does not know ANYONE that she knows but yet befriended her on facebook. I have heard of profiling done by visa hounds, isis, etc... were they profile people to see who would fit their description of being vulnerable to fit their needs - whatever that maybe.  I just find it really odd that this guy is 30years old never been married - Muslim man yet here he is looking for a woman in the United States who has two children from another man and who is Christian.  I know that Muslim men can marry into any other religions because it is their duty to interupt the growth and promote Islam but I also know that a women who has children from another man is considered unclean.  I just know that this man does not have any good intentions for my sister. His intentions are selfish. Does anyone know of anyone who has encountered this type of scenario? I am trying to find someone who can speak with my sister to wake her up before she leaves.  This guy is from Algeria. I mean it is so creepy. She has met his mother and family over the phone on video after only a couple of months. It just really creeps me out because his mother even asked her son to have my sister show proof that she got her passport.  Like I said I know plenty of Muslims and I do not know of a one of them that would allow, yet want or encourage their son to get with a woman whom already has children let alone being Christian/Catholic. They are devout Muslims. I think they are going to use her just to somehow get there way into the United States and then pull their sick mind games with her to get rid of her.  Do not take this wrong. I do beieve in immigration and that all religions, races, etc... are welcome here in the United States but because of the way this is looking I believe there is something underhanded going on. The fact that he does not know ANYONE on her Facebook and appeared out of nowhere, is a Muslim man that is 30 years old never been married seeking an unclean woman who has children from another man and is Christian Catholic and that his mother whom is also very religious Muslim woman would be supporting this. All of this just seems bad.  Please give me your thoughts. Please I do not want to hear non-sense of racial profiling against Muslims. What I have stated are actual facts about the beliefs in Islam regarding marriage and the duties to interrupt the growth of other religions. 

Hello, I am worried about my sister and her going to Africa. She has already gotten a passport and she has only been conversating with this nut job online.  The strangest thing about all of this is that he 
"randomly" found my sister on facebook. He is not a friend of a friend or anything. He appeared out of nowhere requesting to be friends. And my naive sister accepted his request. Now supposedly they are in love. He is muslim and know alot about this religion. My sister has 2 children from another man and is older than he is. This guy has never been married before. This just really pisses me off to no end. How do I find out if he is not affiliated with ISIS? Does anyone know how I can do research on this weirdo before my sister leaves the US to go visit this loser!!!? please respond asap I really need help on know what to do to put a stop to this.   

Hello, I am worried about my sister and her going to Africa. She has already gotten a passport and she has only been conversating with this nut job online.  The strangest thing about all of this is that he 
"randomly" found my sister on facebook. He is not a friend of a friend or anything. He appeared out of nowhere requesting to be friends. And my naive sister accepted his request. Now supposedly they are in love. He is muslim and know alot about this religion. My sister has 2 children from another man and is older than he is. This guy has never been married before. This just really pisses me off to no end. How do I find out if he is not affiliated with ISIS? Does anyone know how I can do research on this weirdo before my sister leaves the US to go visit this loser!!!? please respond asap I really need help on know what to do to put a stop to this.