Texas Bound

TexasBound I cannot imagine how you feel at this moment.

Just remember you did nothing wrong. Except fall in love.

Hug your little boy and hold him close.

When I divorced my first husband my son was 4 1/2 month old and he was my rock.

If I did not have him I would have lost my mind.

Time heals...I know you don't want to hear it.

Hang in there.

That is so true. My little one is a Godsend. He brings me daisys from the yard & kisses me good morning everyday. We didnt get off routine even when you know who was here. He has my full attention now & this weekend we will bake a "Happy Cake" together.

The Visa showed up today, Nickiesha will be able to make her flight tomorrow.

CONGRATS to you 2 Eric !!! Wow, what a great way to start off your weekend, huh??

TGIF !!

Congrats Eric!!

Ive been thinking about TExasbound all night. I am so sorry this happened to you. You know I would hire DOG THE BOUNTY HUNTER!!! : ) Im not kidding. I would track him down and make him look into my face as he went away. He wouldnt forget me ever again!

Today has been particulary very hard for me. Im doing my best to try to compose myselft at work without bursting into tears. I just cant understand. I prayed & waited for this for so long. I am at a loss. I am at a loss, I am at a loss.

Oh TB it's going to be alright..

I swear Im trying to change my thought pattern. But I was so consumed with him & this whole process. There is nothing I can do. He wont call me. He couldnt event tell me that he ever loved me the last time he screamed at me on the phone earlier this week. He calls from Private #'s. He yells at his mother & cousin who tried to talk to him. Im sick to my stomach. Ive thought about calling this chick but what good does that do, I dont even know how in depth their relationship truly was......but what good does that do---he is in charge of his own decisions, he packed, caught a flight & left . No one made him. I had so many dreams. We had so many dreams, i thought. He begged me to hang in there with him & so I did, he gets here & quits on me. I tabulated everything it came up to over 8k in 8 months. He didnt risk nor lose a dime. How could he quit on me?

Ive been thinking about TExasbound all night. I am so sorry this happened to you. You know I would hire DOG THE BOUNTY HUNTER!!! : ) Im not kidding. I would track him down and make him look into my face as he went away. He wouldnt forget me ever again!

Today has been particulary very hard for me. Im doing my best to try to compose myselft at work without bursting into tears. I just cant understand. I prayed & waited for this for so long. I am at a loss. I am at a loss, I am at a loss.

Texas Bound....it's sucks and I will be praying for your strength. I know it may not feel like it right now but it really is a blessing the truth came out BEFORE you got married! I know that one day you will be thankful that this revelation didn't come on the 91st day! He obviously isn't very bright and he will definately reap what he is sowing!!! Holla!

Thank you to you all & Congrats to many many other. This a.m. I contacted USCIS & Ice (DHS) & advised them of what happened. They updated their records. I had to offer to give Ice a lot of the contact info as far as his #'s up north & associates, other woman etc. (odd). But they did receive it. You are correct I have no responsibility & he still has 90 days. I feel better day by day, but even more knowing that I was given the correct guidance from you guys as to what my next step should be. It was very hard to make those calls but it was a good responsible step in order to secure myself & my son. I think I will disappear now. Thank you Visajourney, too bad you cant tell me my future. Be blessed.

Here's what I would do if it were me:

Write a letter to USCIS explaining the facts only. State the date of his entry and the date he left the residence. Try to keep the emotion to a minimum.

Reference the petition number and his visa number.

Give them the last address he was known to be located at.

Give them contact information so they can get in touch if they would like to verify the situation.

Thanks all. this a.m. I contacted USCIS & Ice (DHS) & advised them of what happened. They updated their records. I had to offer to give Ice a lot of the contact info as far as his #'s up north & associates, other woman etc. (odd). But they did receive it. You are correct I have no responsibility & he has 90 days. I feel better day by day, but even more knowing that I was given the correct guidance from you guys as to what my next step should be. It was very hard but a good responsible step in order to secure myself & my son. I think I will disappear now. Thank you Visajourney, too bad you can tell me my future. Be blessed.

Hey you wonderful people. It hurts too much to repeat, but here is a little about what has been happening to me. Click on the link below on the main Forum for K-1

Be blessed & keep me in your prayers. Please, please pray for me to have strength.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=65230

He was very adament about working immediately so I paid the extra $$ for him to go through JFK. He told me he had family there & wanted to meet everyone so he could stay for a day or two. I kept changing the flight to where I am I did this 3 times, scared. I was lied to by everyone. He never stayed with his cousin while he was there, he was with this woman and others. His cousin covered up for him & finally fessed up the last couple of days. He told INS that I threatened him (not true). He was very knowledgeable about a lot of things. I never lied once or dishonored him. I dont understand why or how this happened to me. I deserved so much happiness. So did my 4 year old who kissed him goodnight & kept him in his prayers before bed. Evil does exist.

The I-134 is not a legally binding document, they cannot hold you to it. Just report to ICE and USCIS if you feel that it was a fraudulent K-1 case.

I agree with this. Since you never married, once the 90 days are up if he is still in the US it will be an overstay for him. You won't be responsible at all.

Sorry to hear that this happened...check your PM

Jamie

May God bless you all. This sight was very helpful when I began the process. It is a true & sad story. I am davastated

There will not be any working out. He used me to get here 100%. A girlfriend whom I didn’t know about bought him a ticket back to her state up north & he left the first 6 days he was with me. When he arrived in JFK she picked him up & drove him to Maryland, he only came to see me for 6 days to get the ss card (which wasn’t ready yet). They claim they told INS that I threatened him (this is a lie) & they told him that he still has 90 days to stay here. He refuses to call me or any of his family. His mother found this womans contact #'s & photo at her home. She has been begging me to have him found even if I must file a missing persons report & or all INS to deport him. She feared that he was being threatened by them. It is a whole mess. After the last voice mail they left his cousin, I know that he planned all of this & only had intentions on using me. I want all responsibility voided off of me so I wont have any problems if something happens; especially when he doesn’t go back to Jamaica. He truly knew what to say & do at this point. Please help.

If the K-1 fails prior to the 90 days & we dont marry, when does my sponsorship end? How can I have it end immediately prior to extradition ?

sonshyne.....when are you guys getting married???

texas....how are things with you guys???

Darlene....i am taking mike to get his done on friday for the price of 295...she said that includes everything...i told her i have his vac. card and chest exrays and she said bring all that in and the price should go down....i am thinking ya it better....it is such a scam!!! you can only pay in cash....

Boooo Hoooo, where has my sweetie disappeared to? Will the original Man please stand up? This transition is taking its toll, just one week today. Brighter side, he has painted 4 paintings for the house, lovely.

Congrats to those who are welcoming their bundles of joy.

texas girl u gotta keep us posted as much as u can. sean will prolly come in june and then u and i will be in the same boat at least the men will be. he is already quiet and im havin some problems finding the vibe for him again so i know its going to be tough.

nannygirl- my prayers gp out to you to make the best decision. maybe you should take him on a vacation to see his family then leave him there one way ticket.

Okay TEXASBOUND!!! Finally came up for air!

How are things going?

HELLO FAMILY!!! Wow, it took a minute to catch up on whats been going on here.

1st Nannygirl----Hugs to you, Please pray & communicate.

Sonshyne....no visa yet!!!! I know how you feel truly.

Ricardo....congrats.

OK, me. Well, sweetie made it last week. Got the Employment stamp---mission accomplished. He will start work in 2 weeks w. many options. He got sick the first few days because he was up north in the freakin snow. Of course his family up there (need I mind you extended family who didnt do shi***to get him here in the 1st place) didnt know what to do to take care of him etc. The weather was a true shock to his system. He did enjoy meeting them though. Im sure theres more to it that Im not being told. Anyway, his so called cousin screwed him out of his flight a couple of times ---didnt get him to the airport etc. You know I was pissed off. Nonetheless, he is here now. His first day he was sleeping a lot, not talking much or eating. This is what I call depression!!! I know thanks to many of you that this transition will take time. So Ive been helping him through it. We have gone out to a Caribbean dinner, malls, riding around just etc. he has finally met my family (who love him), he has been totally awesome & accepted by my 4 year old--He even started to teach him how to ride his bike yesterday. I need to just get him acclimated to the surroundings a few times. He loves the weather ---he can wear his shorts again. One day at a time. I hate leaving him to go to work, but he is understanding. I am willing to go home everyday for lunch until he gets his job to keep him on his toes & going. I do feel for him. I just have to remind myself that yes, he did leave everything he knew. It did feel like he resented me. I understand though & in time we will be back up. Im trying to get him comfortable & to be happy being here & remind him that he can still be independent. This a.m. I got a "I love you too" which put a huge smile on my face. Tonight we are going to a NBA game & Im anxious to take him to Home Depot & the Market. We went to a Caribbean grocery store which was worthless---no Betty Milk, no blue mountain coffee, no Horlicks--what a mess. All in all, I am still so happy he is here. I keep reminding myself that its not me & he is not on vacation like I was before. One day at a time, one step at a time. I do feel that if he didn't have an opportunity to work quickly it would be devastating. I couldn't imagine having him wait up to 6 months to work. That would be too damaging. My next step is to have him driving.

Thanks for that. This is a challenge. But I am in prayer & hopeful. With a job on the horizon he will get his manhood back quickly.

Try a different office. We went to the local one and they said it cannot be done. We went ot another on and issued no questions asked.

did you get it instantly? What was your time frame?

Okay TEXASBOUND!!! Finally came up for air!

How are things going?

HELLO FAMILY!!! Wow, it took a minute to catch up on whats been going on here.

1st Nannygirl----Hugs to you, Please pray & communicate.

Sonshyne....no visa yet!!!! I know how you feel truly.

Ricardo....congrats.

OK, me. Well, sweetie made it last week. Got the Employment stamp---mission accomplished. He will start work in 2 weeks w. many options. He got sick the first few days because he was up north in the freakin snow. Of course his family up there (need I mind you extended family who didnt do shi***to get him here in the 1st place) didnt know what to do to take care of him etc. The weather was a true shock to his system. He did enjoy meeting them though. Im sure theres more to it that Im not being told. Anyway, his so called cousin screwed him out of his flight a couple of times ---didnt get him to the airport etc. You know I was pissed off. Nonetheless, he is here now. His first day he was sleeping a lot, not talking much or eating. This is what I call depression!!! I know thanks to many of you that this transition will take time. So Ive been helping him through it. We have gone out to a Caribbean dinner, malls, riding around just etc. he has finally met my family (who love him), he has been totally awesome & accepted by my 4 year old--He even started to teach him how to ride his bike yesterday. I need to just get him acclimated to the surroundings a few times. He loves the weather ---he can wear his shorts again. One day at a time. I hate leaving him to go to work, but he is understanding. I am willing to go home everyday for lunch until he gets his job to keep him on his toes & going. I do feel for him. I just have to remind myself that yes, he did leave everything he knew. It did feel like he resented me. I understand though & in time we will be back up. Im trying to get him comfortable & to be happy being here & remind him that he can still be independent. This a.m. I got a "I love you too" which put a huge smile on my face. Tonight we are going to a NBA game & Im anxious to take him to Home Depot & the Market. We went to a Caribbean grocery store which was worthless---no Betty Milk, no blue mountain coffee, no Horlicks--what a mess. All in all, I am still so happy he is here. I keep reminding myself that its not me & he is not on vacation like I was before. One day at a time, one step at a time. I do feel that if he didn't have an opportunity to work quickly it would be devastating. I couldn't imagine having him wait up to 6 months to work. That would be too damaging. My next step is to have him driving.

Missed you guys today. Ill catch up next week. All this talk about food is making me hungry. I have no idea what to offer sweetie Sunday when he gets here?

I heard that Mcdonalds shut down in Jamaica because no-one would buy it!!! I wont dare offer him a burger. Ha

WAIT, are you speaking about Damien (your hubby)?? Oh, I though you meant Damian Marley. Girl, now you know I love me some Damian M. because I am just ranting on and on and on. I am laughing so hard right now, I think I am going to cry. (Inhale/Exhale). Ok, I am sorry. But yea, Gyptian is a good artist. I have never seen him perform in person though. And as you know Damian is another fav of mine. I think I need to take a nap now.

you are funny. I love Damian Marley too. He's coming to town with Stephen sometime in May.

I walked right by him one night backstage. He opened up here for U2. He was very shy & quiet. Sitting on top of a table talking to a few of his back up singers. He is truly talented. I didnt hound him, its unprofessional in my business to do that, but it was neat seeing him up close.

Plus good to see a brotha open up for an international band band like U2.

Girl I feel you about the emotions, I've just changed BACK from the B****H from helll lol!

Been sick from maybe 3 weeks pregnant though and STILL throwing up

I am SOOOOOOOO scared of getting pregnant

Please dont be. It is a heck of a lot better than this whole freakin process. Promise, believe me. Id have labor 10 x to this mess.

Oh my gosh. & to think that soon I wont be just a visitor or vacationer, I will be FAMILY!!!! IM SO EXCITED.

I know what you mean. I feel like I'm part Jamaican myself Everyone is jealous when I tell them I'm going to visit my in-laws!

My new father-in-law is an opinionated sweetheart that refuses to retire, drives a school bus and collects cowbells and pennies dated since before my own mother was born. My mother-in-law doesn't say much but bakes some great pies and always has something to wrap up for us to take back home.

Guess I am one of the luckier ones with no real issues with acceptance here.

gotta love it. My soon to be mom n law each time has cut me up a lot of sugar cane & froze it for me. When I got back home I ate on it wishing I was back in Jamaica. It was so darn good.

Hey Trinilad!

You mentioned a $250.00 wedding!!!! How did you guys get such a good deal and can you please offer some tips? Thanks!

Wow, what happened?

Congrats to Texasbound!

And also congrats to the others who have been approved and/or received their visas!

thank you

Being in the travel industry for the past 16 1/2 yrs...when a client wants to go to a "warm/caribbean" destination, my very FIRST suggestion is ....how about Jamaica? If I had a penny for EVERYone that has said to me....Oh no, not Jamaica, it's dangerous, dirty, the men rob you like crazy, etc etc etc ........"I" would be RICH !!!!! Since I have soooooooooooooooo much personal experience and I am also a "Jamaican specialist" (in my industry), I educate them as much as possible and to this day, I've never had ANYone of my clients come back to me with a bad experience. We AMERICANS do that to Jamaica in GENERAL and it's VERY unfortunate !!!!!

Oh my gosh. & to think that soon I wont be just a visitor or vacationer, I will be FAMILY!!!! IM SO EXCITED.

Texas....is he coming today??? or on the 8th??

He is going to Jfk for the stamp & will hang with his cousins for a couple of days since he hasnt seen them since forever. He will be on Texas Ground Easter Sunday. You cannot imagine how Happy I am. This ordeal was unbelievable.

I called & called & called & a lady felt my pain & told me to have him come in yesterday. You know they are shut down Fri & Mon which again will cause major delays. God has blessed us again.

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

I will be tracking your messages on our next steps. I will follow them to a T.

OK, someone asked a day ago....WHO IS NEXT UP FOR INTERVIEWS?

I've been reading all that's been going on lately, and I just wish that everyone would look at their situations from a different perspective. It seems as though some people are having great experiences, while others are having not-so-great experiences, but the one thing that you ALL have in common is that you are ABLE to have these experiences. As someone who is unable to have these experiences (good, bad, or indifferent) with my SO I get angry AND jealous with all that is going on. I ( and probably many others ) simply want the opportunity to begin to really live together as man and wife and make a go of our lives together completely, but due to unforeseen circumstances, I'm unable to. In a sense, I feel like you should be thankful, because you got what you wanted. And though it may not be what you thought, at least you have the opportunity to make the decision of whether or not you will continue to try. Not everyone has that. Your lives are in your own hands. Ours are not. Everyone should be grateful that they have the power to control their own destiny at this point--good or bad. I have enjoyed many conversations with everyone up here, and I truly appreciate everything that EVERYONE has to say. Please, let's just remember that we are all adults, and hopefully we will be able to agree and disagree without tearing one another down. Love you guys!!

Tamisha

I agree. May I add, while many speak of their personal experiences lets not place judgement on others. I laughed last night as I remembered a poem I wrote when I first went to Jamaica, then I thought about the Embassy & the rocky road. I still love Jamaica...I still love their people, the culture. I will not let only few change my mind about all, a country.

Again, lets only speak specific & not express sentiments against all. I too appreciate & respect all ideas. I am always open to learning. The comments I dont care for or agree with --goes out the window. Open Minded.Peace.

He is going to Jfk for the stamp & will hang with his cousins for a couple of days since he hasnt seen them since forever. He will be on Texas Ground Easter Sunday. You cannot imagine how Happy I am. This ordeal was unbelievable.

Yippee See you got your wish - he'll be here by Easter!!

Thanks for celebrating with me.

Texas....is he coming today??? or on the 8th??

He is going to Jfk for the stamp & will hang with his cousins for a couple of days since he hasnt seen them since forever. He will be on Texas Ground Easter Sunday. You cannot imagine how Happy I am. This ordeal was unbelievable.

I called & called & called & a lady felt my pain & told me to have him come in yesterday. You know they are shut down Fri & Mon which again will cause major delays. God has blessed us again.

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

Thank you. Part of the delay is with the National Visa Center completing the fingerprint checks. I think, but it could also be the delay in Kingston submitting the request.....Hmmmm that sounds more like it. Good luck yall.

Now to plan a budget, find a job, plan a wedding................Migraine go a way.

Texas....is he coming today??? or on the 8th??

He is going to Jfk for the stamp & will hang with his cousins for a couple of days since he hasnt seen them since forever. He will be on Texas Ground Easter Sunday. You cannot imagine how Happy I am. This ordeal was unbelievable.

I called & called & called & a lady felt my pain & told me to have him come in yesterday. You know they are shut down Fri & Mon which again will cause major delays. God has blessed us again.

Ok, here's a question for you vets:

I have been employed at my job since January 2001 but I am temporary status, meaning no benifits. Will that look bad on my I34?

No. Not if you've been with them for 6 years. And you make enough money to meet the poverty requirement.

Exactly correct. They dont even look at your benefit plans or insurance coverages. Just the $$$ minimum income amount.

Congrats Anna. Hang on for a ride.