Arazia

This seems to come up every now and again every few weeks.

I think there's a double misconception with Nebraska and Texas and their processing times. Firstly, there are some of us, like myself, who switch over from where we originally sent it to California, since that is where our processing is actually taking place. Others leave theirs at their original locations. So there is a bit of a discrepency there. I've thought that maybe some of the reason for the difference in times is hold-over from earlier in the year before IMBRA where things were moving faster at some locations. No idea really though, I haven't a clue how it's all calculated out.

I hadn't heard about a separate location for processing the transfer applications, though. Where did you hear about it?

Please excuse my mis-typing. I lurk this forum while at work and sometimes do rush responses. When I wrote about a place on the forms for refused a visa, I meant a place for denials at the border. I was thinking 'refused a visa waver' not a visa itself. Probably a stupid mistake.

As for not having read the next series of forms... I've glanced at them, but I don't know them by heart, nor do I remember what fields are on any of them.

All I wanted to say was that people had told me that being denied at the border doesn't really effect the visa process. There might be questions down the line about it, but plenty of people get approved with entry denials.

I've asked this exact same question, and overall the response I've gotten is this:

Being denied at the border really doesn't effect the visa process -that much-. There is (supposedly) a place on the visa forms down the road that will ask about if you have ever been denied a visa before. But there are plenty of people for many many reasons who get denied visas. You just fill out the form, and if they ask, you explain the situation. Not a big deal really.

But, ultimately, it's up to you on if you want to take the chance that you might be turned back. It might be better for the petitioner to visit the beneficiary's country instead, but if that's not possible, you really should make the decision between yourselves.

Hope this helps...

Parents...

I've now been in this situation in two different ways.

My own parents treated me like a child well into my twenties. It took them a long time to let go of that parental need to control everything. My mother still gets bossy if things aren't cleaned to her specifications, but for the most part what helped with that situation was getting distance, real distance from them. Not talking to them every day, and not clearing every decision with them is also good. Making sure that when you make a decision, you sound firm and sure about it. If you sound unsure, it opens up the door for them to come in and give their unneeded advice. (Unless of course you're looking for it, but that's a different issue, I think...)

Of course, now I'm dealing with parents on the other end of the pond. My fiancee', who I will freely admit is younger than most would expect, has parents who pretty much try to control everything. They have multiple times, subtlely, tried to get him to see the 'light' when it comes to me. About how having this kind of relationship is bad and such.

I really wish I had all the answers. Dealing with my fiancee's parents isn't like dealing with my own. While things did go away eventually with my parents, or at least dull down to the point where it's tolerable... I don't know what it is exactly that you have to 'click' in a parent's head to get them to accept their children are adults.

Merf.

You won't get e-mails for the NOA1.

You have to use the case # from your NOA1 to sign up for the website and then you can opt for e-mail updates. Of course, those have been flakey lately so sometimes they aren't of much help.

Anyways, welcome to the game and best wishes for things to move quickly.

That's my Harry. One of my two favorite pictures of him.

And my kitty sweethearts:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v224/Ara...-14-05_1718.jpg

I'm a bit of a late-comer to this discussion, so excuse me if I repeat something already said...

Every one of us here comes from a different background, different experiences, and while we're all on this similar journey, we certainly aren't the same. What is 'okay' for one couple may or may not be okay for another one.

In my own case, there really isn't any urge to wander. We talk every day (and not because we need any 'security' from it, but because we love each other's voices) and if we're in the mood, we take care of such things that way. Of course, it doesn't remove the need for touch that is perfectly natural, but taking it one day at a time helps.

I wish I could give expert advice, but I really don't know. I never have had to experience that exact emotion, need, or temptation. Trying to re-connect seems the most logical suggestion. Send a letter, give a call, plan a trip to visit. Sometimes having that visit date in your head where you know you'll see them again helps, especially as the visa process can be so unpredictable.

1. Don't sweat the petty things and don't pet the sweaty things.

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But seriously...

2. Don't always believe the bad things others say, especially about yourself.

3. It's a good thing to lend a helping hand or a shoulder to cry on, but sooner or later you have to let people stand on their own two feet.

4. Sometimes the road to being a better person is paved with words left unsaid.

5. Don't assume to understand the actions of others, even if you've walked in their shoes.

Congratulations on your approval.

I hope they get the notifications fixed soon.

Make sure to update your timeline for our statistics folks!

And of course, good luck with your continuing journey!

No news yet on our K-1. It's 45 days into things, so I don't really expect to hear much for a while unless CSC decides to do something to surprise me.

Harry's family situation is still tense, although it's eased somewhat since his father started seeing a therapist. We really miss each other, and it's a day to day battle sometimes. Still, it's nice to hear about other's interviews and know that someday we'll get to that point.

Not much do do but cross our fingers and wait for a while.

yep...beat me to it

Guides: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...amp;page=guides

K-1 Guide: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...mp;page=k1guide

K-1 Flowchart: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.ph...amp;page=k1flow

This is just my logic and it may be off a bit but...

If your getting caught in name-checks for the K-1, you'll likely get caught in them again for the K-3. You'll likely have to get right back in the begining of the line for getting things approved and it may take even longer.

I also don't see how a lawyer can help in this case. It just seems like a hole to throw money down before sitting on your rear waiting again.

Personally, I can see both sides of this issue and this argument. I understand why someone who has businesses and such might opt for a pre-nup, but at the same time it really is something that should have been discussed long before she ever came over to the United States.

There are many people who the idea of a pre-nup means that a person really isn't serious about a relationship. Especially those who are religious, some take great offense to the idea because it suggests a 'way out' of a marriage. In the end, we really don't know the full story of what is going on here, so it's hard to judge one way or the other.

I don't think it's right to say that this woman was a gold digger just because she paniced or was unsure about a pre-nup dropped on her once she uprooted her life. I also don't think it's right to judge the OP as there may be a lot more going on here than just that.

While there is no legal requirement to support the K-1 visa holder for the 90 days present in the country, I do agree that there is some moral requirement to at least fund her plane ticket back to her own country.

I'm 5'10". Harry is 6'2". He wins the height contest.

Again, from the point of view of someone who works with computers for a living... when there's a major bug, sometimes it can take a few days for things to get sorted out and fixed properly. So, let's say there was a problem with one run of approval data. Maybe a couple of days worth before they caught the error. So you've got a chunk of data that is out there that didn't get run into the system. Usually they have to stop, fix the eror, then re-input the data.

So, what it looks like is the error occured on the online system that handles the updates and notifications, but that the paper side of things is still working fine. Which is a small blessing I think. It probably took them a little while to fix the problem, then re-load the data. That's all.

Vermont seems to be quite known for quick approvals. As for the 'processing dates' on the USCIS websites, if you look at the date they were posted, they are usually six months back. Which is the amount of time they are supposed to take to process applications. It really has no bearing on what they are actually processing.

About one year or so. Exact dates got kind of mooshy. x.x

Congrats.

Congratulations!

Congratulations!

Don't forget to update your timeline!

So it means that if i have been touched at 7am on the 18th somebody has been working on my case the day before?!

It's quite possible, especially if that is prior to their business hours. Or maybe someone just came in really early on that shift. I know here (where I work) we have some people who start as early as 7am, because we allow flex-hours. Who really knows. It's speculation in any case.

But it is unlikely that you got a touch without something happening to your case. Even if it was just moved from one desk to another, that's a touch reason right there. If they 'touched' cases for no reason, just automatically updated the time... we'd see a lot more people with a lot more touches every day, I think.

Now, I am no expert on exactly how USCIS handles things, but I've said this before from my own experiences... companies often use automated update programs. My own company does so. Usually ours run at 5:30pm in the evening, or at 6:00am in the morning, so either right before people come into work, or right after they leave work.

People have noticed a lot of updates tend to come later in the evening from CSC. Not sure if it's the same at Vermont. Basically, what it probably means is yes, your case got worked on, but the auto-update routine on the computers they use to update the online system probably didn't run until that morning.

I don't know if that's any comfort or not. I don't think all online updates get made in real-time.

Congratulations!

Make sure you update your timeline, and best wishes on your continuing journey.

Congratulations!