Marieke H

I'm sorry that things didn't work out, but I am glad to hear that this is a well-thought-through decision. We see too many posts here by people who withdrew their petition during an argument and now regret it, but can't reverse the decision that they had made while they were mad. Wishing you all the best.

I believe that you were given all the information you need to be able to withdraw, but I agree with @OldUser: please be 100% sure that this is what you want. Once you send that letter, there is no way back. You will not be able to unwithdraw the petition.

Sleeping in separate rooms is not necessarily an issue; lots of couples do that for all kinds of reasons: health, snoring, different work schedules, or just being very restless sleepers. You should have just been honest about this instead of trying to make up some answer and hoping your husband would make up the same answer. The bank statement with no deposits is likely an issue as well; they want to see comingled finances, and the statement you provided clearly does not show that. Wait and see what the decision will be, but in the meantime, it won't hurt to consult a lawyer so you can be ready for any scenario. Don't worry about citizenship for now; you won't receive citizenship as long as your issues with your LPR status have not been resolved.

If you don't want to answer the questions asked here, the only advice we can give you is to apply for an ESTA, answer all questions truthfully, and see what happens.

Yes. But... Be aware that when your fiancé(e) is approved, moves to the US, and you marry, they will have to go through the Adjustment of Status process to apply for the green card. This needs to be done within 90 days after entering the US. This process comes with an I-864, which will require you to be at 125%. So yes, the visa may be approved if you are just at 100%, but you need to plan for what comes after that if you want to eventually get the green card.

Apparently the page for Frankfurt does not specify that they handle DCF requests from people living in the Netherlands, so I would include in your request that the consulate in the Netherlands is unable to process these requests. There's a bit more information here: https://www.ustraveldocs.com/de/de-iv-visaapplyinfo.asp

I know I have seen something a while ago about Frankfurt specifically handling DCF requests from people residing in the Netherlands, but I can't seem to find it right now. I think it won't hurt to include in your request that the Consulate in the Netherlands is unable to process DCF requests. I will search some more and see what I can find.

This would have been so helpful to include in your initial post... The consulate in the Netherlands generally does not accept DCF requests, so contact Frankfurt. Make sure to very clearly explain the situation: you have to relocate for your job (include documentation), your spouse cannot go back to her home country (explain why: no ties, does not speak the language, unsafe), and it sounds like she will not have legal status in the Netherlands after you leave (on what kind of visa is she currently there?). I think this is a classic example of why DCF exists in the first place, and if presented well I think there is a good chance of getting approval. Feel free to share here what you intend to include in your request, so we can help you to increase your chance of success. Good luck!

They fill out the DS160 to the best of their knowledge with the current situation and plans. If plans change, they will be able to explain that at the interview.

You were advised in your previous posts over the past few years that in your situation and considering the consulate you are going through, establishing domicile in the US is very important. Did you do research on domicile and what you need to do regarding this? It is more than providing a relative's address; you need to show that you plan to live in the US. There are many ways to do this, but the best way is for you to move to the US now, find a place to live, find a job, get the children enrolled in school, etc. Not having a joint sponsor only makes it even more important that you move to the US and start working; your spouse will not get a visa if you can't show that you are able to financially support him. If this is not possible for you, it might be better for your spouse to look into employment-based visa options.

You are overthinking it. You are just being asked to indicate if the person plans to travel alone or with other people, and if they are planning to travel with others, who those other people are. The point is that you are providing the information that you are required to provide. You are not adding them to the application; everyone needs to apply separately. Everyone applies separately and they are all asked to provide information about their travel plans, which includes who they are planning to travel with.

It isn't really a reference; they just want you to list where you have worked. Fill out the details that you know about this employer. You can use Part 8 of the form to clarify that this employer does not exist anymore.