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    I-751 March 2020 Filers

    in Removing Conditions on Residency General Discussion

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    17 hours ago, Julia80 said:

    Same here. Sent 3/10 NOA 3/17 - dead silence since then. I’m starting to worry as my estimate for approval keeps being pushed. Tonight it got pushed past the date of my extension letter, even though it’s not a definitive date, I still worry as I’m desperate to fly home and see my family as soon as I am allowed (due to COVID). I usually go home three times a year so this is really getting to me now. I haven’t seen my family since December 2019. I was hoping to go in June 2021 if the pandemic allows. I really didn’t want to have to use my letter to get back in, I was hoping for my card by then. Right now it’s saying end of October 2021 😩

    Got my NOA on 3/25 and I haven't heard since then. My application is being processed at the Nebrasca service center(LIN). I also have not heard about biometrcis either so I am not sure exactly at this point. I usually travel twice a year as well to see my family and I am not even sure about using the extension letter to get back in the country due to the trouble I had in the past with the dvance parole.

     

    March 2017 AOS Filers, Part II

    in Adjustment of Status Case Filing and Progress Reports

    Posted

    On 3/19/2018 at 3:05 PM, Mawiet said:

    At long last, my wife and step daughter have their green cards.  For my wife the website updated and showed approved, then a few days later we received the paper NOA/Approval, then a few days later we received the green card.  For my step daughter they never updated the website, then today we received the paper NOA/Approval and the Priority Mail package with her green card.

     

    No interviews.  Both are two year green cards.

     

     

    Congrats! 

    Case approved for K1 Visa, NO2 received, what's next pls help :)

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Case Filing and Progress Reports

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    Hello delarikcysamesex!

    My fiancé filed the petition last may and we received our NOA2 in July 18. So we're both in the same timeline.

    I have the same question too if I should ask him to call the NVC for my MNL number so we could just jump in to the medical and book an appointment at the Manila USEM or just wait for the packet to be sent in my address and wait for the instruction. We're same sex too.

    But it looks as though that it's better to call them or email them to get the MNL number to lessen the waiting time.

    I am now in the process of gathering all the documents and forms as well as the evidence to prove the bona fide relationship and hopefully be done before the medical and interview so I do not get stressed out or exhausted running around thinking about what's missing and what not.

    Good luck and hopefully the CO will give us a go. :)

    Next step

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted · Edited by Kim&Gary

    I want to ask, you guys have filed for K-1 visa or some of you to get married with a foreign fiance/fiancee and to be together, right? And to continue the relationship while you wait for the process is you have been communicating to each other over the internet and I do believe that is how you keep your relationship and still be in contact to each other.
    Therefore, is it impossible for us to keep on falling in love with each other by talking almost everyday? Whether it be cam or chat. Actually it is literally everyday that we converse.


    We've been talking to each other almost everyday since our first contact. I do think that's enough of time to see if we have a strong connection (Not the internet connection, LOL) and after we've met, we strongly believe that we are right for each other and it did not stopped there. When he got back to US we talked to each other more often, more than 6 hours a day and the only time we do not talk to each other is when one goes to sleep.


    Sure, we've had our misunderstandings, fights, conflicts, but we are more passionate about our relationship to not let challenges over come us.

    You see couples here met through an online dating site or an application for smartphones or IOS. Thus, such medium gave many people an ease to find their true love.

    Do you still remember when people write letters to each other? And they would express their feelings to each other even though they haven't met each other yet and only they provide such black and white pictures. Our technology is really great, like right now, we can reach out to people who are going through such situation same as ours and I am posting this then in a snap, you will see it. It's a case to case basis.
    For those who do, during your first conversation with them, can you not tell if you are interested and attracted to them? Would you entertain them if you do not feel any interest in knowimg more about them?


    The only difference between dating in person and dating online is that, the physical aspect. Surely, some of you went to bars or clubs to look for the hottest gal or lad while some of you might bumped into someone else's shoulder while they were on a train or in a park and felt such spark that they long to feel again and keep it to last.


    I don't see the point why some of you question the feeling or love we have for each other. But I understand where you are coming from. I guess, we all have our own differences and we just need to respect each other's choices because at the end of the day, what matters most is if love really exist and if its real in which in our case, it is real and I am confident about that.

    Or what if both of us are blind, like literally blind and we fell in love with each other. Would you call that ridiculous? How many of you have a child children already? Maybe you let your girls watch Cinderella. Ohh, and the prince fell in love with Cinderella immediately at first glance. It is such a great story, isn't it? But how come you questions our integrity of being in love with each other? When you let your girls watch such fairytails.

    We have a lot of plans when we get together and he plans on visiting me again anytime soon, so I think that will do. But we are doing it not to be able to provide more evidence rather, to solidify our relationship together and have more bond for each other.

    Anyone here a fan of William Shakespear?


    So, forsooth you are familiar with this;

    "LOVE LOOKS NOT WITH THE EYES, BUT WITH THE MIND, AND THEREFORE IS WING’D CUPID PAINTED BLIND." -William Shakespear

    Or this,

    "NO SOONER MET BUT THEY LOOKED, NO SOONER LOOKED BUT THEY LOVED, NO SOONER LOVED, BUT THEY SIGHED, NO SOONER SIGHED BUT THEY ASKED ONE ANOTHER THE REASON." -William Shakespear

    Have you not watch the documentary about Law of attraction? I suggest you do.
    And what is the sense of the free will?

    One commentator here said, I am still young and that I can still find the right man for me. Ehhhh' Here he is. (Okay, not physically here with me, but in my mind and in my heart) I don't believe in Mr. Right, it's in our choice, it's in our own judgement, in our own hand if we think they are the right person for us and I am happy with my decision to marry him and be with him because for me, (Okay, this will sound cliché :dancing: ) age is nothing but a number but with the level of maturity I and Gary have, we are on the same level and we let each other not fall short. We work out our differences and that is essential for our relationship to survive as we are very commuted to each other.

    One also said, we do not have the right time frame or time being together to have our relationship to mature and be sure about it and that we barely know each other by the short time we are together and the span we talk to each other. May I ask you, when is the right time? When we can all say, this is the right time, this is what we have been waiting for.
    I do understand you might think I might just got overwhelmed with all these, but I do know, and I acknowledge all your thoughts. Whatever time we have together is enough for me to distinguish if he is the one I would want to share the rest of my life. Am i am sure about it. Like, sure sure.


    The concerns too about my welfare once I got in the US. Isn't it that there is a mandatory SEMINAR mandated by our government for the people who are securing such Visa? and if he beats the hell out of me I could assume that I can handle myself. Ohhh, and 911.
    I may still be young for him or he is old for me, but I don't see it as a backlash to try and think about myself first because I know him more than you do and I am sure of it and I do not see him the way you could think of.

    Gary is not willing to relocate here as he prefers to live in US and that is the reason why we filed for the K-1 visa, otherwise, how come some can assume that I might just want to secure a visa to enter US when if my fiance is willing to reside here, we wouldn't be filling for the visa anyway.

    And lastly, When we are together, we spent our time in the most unforgettable way. We went to visit the Manila Orchidarium, my ever favorite Planetarium and the Rizal park where we were able to meet our national hero, Jose Rizal and the guy who killed Magelan, Lapu-Lapu. So, it wasn't like a meet and great, okay bye thing. We bond together.

    I am sorry if I made such post that made most of you confused about my situation and I appreciate your thoughts regarding this matter and have made me prepared for the interview. but the boiling blood is unacceptable. Do I need to call 911? Already?

    Currently, when we are together again, I just hope that I can share it all to you.


    And if we made it, should you wish to come to our wedding, we are more than happy to send you invitations to attend our wedding.

    I wish you all good luck and please keep them comments coming so we get a better view or what possible things we may encounter.

    And my post was about the age difference and if our time being together is enough or not so we could plan more. I just wanted to hear what your thoughts are so I and Gary can discuss about it.

    Despite of it all, its a lovely day and we are very positive about it and our relationship and commitment to each other grows stronger than yesterday.

    Thank you so much guys.

    and I will leave you all with this quote,

    "You can be in a relationship for 2 years and feel nothing and you can be in a relationship for a month and feel everything." :goofy:

    Kimberly

    Next step

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

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    Hi, This is Gary. Kim asked me to post a response because he felt some of his comments were being misunderstood. I will admit that there are some parts of our story that sound a little off beat. I hope by giving some of my background and some more details we can assure people of the legitimacy of our relationship.

    First, I was quality assurance engineer, an occupation not noted for its people skills. When I retired I approached finding a life partner the same as solving an engineering problem. That is not the way most people would do it so I can understand if some people find what I did a little cold. After spending a career being married to my job I went out to the Gay Cupid site with the intent to find a partner to spend the rest of my life with. I was overwhelmed with the number of responses I received so I started narrowing the number down. I spent months in text and cam chats talking to potential mates, but I realized that I needed to meet face-to-face in order to gauge a person and how their personality matches with mine. When I got down to a couple of people that showed strong possibilities I scheduled a trip to the Philippines to meet them in person. When I met Kim in Manila we had been chatting almost daily for 3 months.

    I knew Kim was special from the very beginning because we shared so much in common. When we met in person I was fairly sure he was the one, but I had to fair and meet the others to be sure. I always stressed that this was a mutual decision not me picking someone, They had an equal opportunity to judge how they felt about me. At the end of my visit I talked with Kim and his feelings were just as strong as mine that we were meant for each other. After I got back to the US we have been in almost daily conversation, often four or more hours. I have met his family through Skype and Facebook and he has started the same with mine. Since I come from a much larger family he hasn't met everyone yet. His mother shared some of the same concerns expressed here but is feeling much more comfortable after cam chatting with me on Skype. Likewise, some of my family were concerned about Kim taking advantage of me. They too have come to see that we really are in love with each other.

    I will be honest, we have had our differences. One of the tests of a true relationship is what happens when there is a strong disagreement. We have always been able to resolve our differences. There have been hurt feelings and tears, but in the end we have always come together stronger than before. Are we rushing things, maybe, but our feeling is why waste time that we could be spending together. I have done everything possible to prepare Kim for life in Minnesota, from videos of falling snow and daily weather reports on the cold to buying him warm winter clothing so he will be ready to face winter. We are already putting together a list of places to go and things to do when he gets here. One of those things is signing him up for college so he can complete the degree he started in the Philippines.

    I want to say I appreciate the comments that have been made already. Because Kim has never flown before he had wanted me to fly over and fly back with him when his K1 was approved. But now we see the importance of me going over there sooner than that to strengthen our case. Rest assured, Kim will go into his interview with more than five pictures and a two day visit as proof of our relationship. Any other advice for Kim, me, or the two of us would be welcome.

    Next step

    in K-1 Fiance(e) Visa Process & Procedures

    Posted

    Thanks for elaborating and letting me have the full picture.



    I wish you every luck and success in your relationship and in your life in general, but let me reinforce this message in a direct fashion: a K-1 visa is for the purpose of getting married to the petitioner in the United States. You must have that intention when you apply. It's not for see if you can live together, it's not to see if you love eachother, it's not to give you assurance of how you feel and to make your decision. All of that must be already decided when you make your application at the embassy. The consular officer will expect you to be as intimate as a couple that is 100% sure about sharing a life together. You are expected to know each other's life history and families, it has to be the whole thing. You need to have the intimacy level of a married couple, which is beyond passion and attraction, and if the CO senses you don't, s/he'll bust you.


    I do perfectly understand what K-1 visa is and we both know what K-1 Visa is for. we both agreed to see if we really love each other and see if we can live under the same roof because we are just being realistic. I have read a lot of post here regarding the K-1 visa. Some of the post are about their relationship as failed when they have lived together. My country is different from US. Especially the culture, that is why we are taking extra measure to distinguish our relationship. We are sure about each other that's why he filed for the K-1 visa so we can get married and live together. I think, being realistic in all aspect will be such a good help. we have established a good relationship already and we strongly believe that our relationship is true, but that we just want to take extra step to know if we really love each other, not that we have doubts, but to see if things change after we've met. Everything have decided already before he filed for the petition. Our relationship is beyond attraction and passion so I do not see any problem with being realistic if things might change.



    Try mentally taking the back seat of the car and evaluate what you are saying from an outsider perspective as far as the present state of your relationship goes:



    "but we do not have any commitment or whatsoever because we both want to sure about what we feel for each other" (present tense)


    When I said, we do not have any commitment or whatsoever, is that is before we have met each other so that we can assure that we are not rushing things especially that he was considering other guys. And right after we've met, we took some time before he asked me to be his boyfriend. I hope I made it clear here.


    "It was around March when he decided to file for a K-1 visa petition" (it was supposed to be a joint decision)


    It is a mutual decision. I used the phrase "HE DECIDED" because he is the one to decide to file for it or live here as I am amenable to what his decisions are if they are good with me too.


    "to see if we really love each other and that we both really want to be sure of what we feel for each other" (that's OK as a relationship thing, but to file for a K-1 all of these need to have been sorted out already)


    It has already been sorted out before we decided to take the next big thing. again, it's just being realistic. Even marriage fails sometimes, what more for a relationship? That is why we are just really being realistic about things. I see not backlash in this thing and I think couple's should consider it too even if they have a strong relationship.


    "to see if we can live under the same roof" (a K-1 visa does not serve this purpose)


    I do understand. But that's the reason why K-1 visa has 90 days of validity. And we want to use some time of it so really see what we got. Long distance relationship is not easy, and so does living in a different country where you'd have to leave your family and friends to be with the person you love, thats why we both agreed with it. So, instead of rushing into things and get married and at the end of the day, we are having problems, then it will cost more problem.



    These statements rang my CO alter-ego's alarms. Please see the point I make here: there's nothing wrong with the relationship itself fraud-related, i.e. I can easily see the relationship is real, however you don't meet the statutory requirement of having a full genuine intention to marry the petitioner within 90 days of admission. The K-1 is not a "let's try it out and see if we really can/want to do this", and unfortunately there is no such visa.



    I'd give it time to the relationship, and file for a K-1 once you are past that phase already and fully ready to marry and live a life together without second thoughts.



    My best wishes and I hope everything works out! You're welcome to message me and ask questions anytime, glad to help.


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