Jim&Aura

Very sorry to hear about your situation. I am now luckily engaged to a wonderful Mexican lady, but prior to meeting her, I had "relationships" with several Filipinas that I met on a variety of those dating websites you mentioned. Luckily, I never made to the stage of filing immigration packets for them, and even though I was stupid enough to sent money here and there to some, it didn't sum up to an amount that was even remotely material for me. But aside from those 2 differences, your posts sounded eerily familiar to my experiences in many ways. I think the thing that really saved me from going full blown as that my best friend was scammed by a Russian girl a long time ago, and I have always had that in the back of my mind as a possibility (along with the thousands of stories online of course), which made me cautious enough to never send large sums of money, even though I was very tempted at a few points early on... before I caught on to their habitual lying behavior.
It almost seems like they learn some of this in some kind of scammer's school, because although I have corresponded with women from all over the world, I have never experienced the frequency and blatancy of the lies coming from Filipinas. Yes, I know there are good ones, and in fact, I actually am still friends with a few them that I just never clicked with romantically. In fact, it is thanks to one of these friends that I learned a lot that helped me to uncover and prove a lot of the lies that were being told to me. Certainly, the hospital bills scam is one of the most frequent but I have heard literally everything in the book at one time or another.
As another poster mentioned, the good ones will almost never ask for money. Among scammers, some jump into scams right away and others take their time... kind of building up to it. Bottom line, if you decide to continue to pursue Filipinas (or any other long distance dating), take the time to learn what various things cost in the country the girl is from. This can go a long way to determining whether an eventual ask for money is potentially legit, or an obvious scam. For instance, the hospital bill amount you paid was absurd (no offense meant). Trust me when I tell you that there is almost no way that any 1 or even a series of operations/treatments would cost that much in Phil. If they were even close to that amount, 95% of Filipinos would not be able to afford it. In addition, the $1,500/month is WAY more than even most large families make there... probably 3-4 times that in fact. I know it's a crappy way to go into a relationship but with things like this, you really have to assume the worst and work your way back from that. Otherwise, you will find yourself sending more and more.
Another thing that I have noticed (and experienced) is that money scamming aside, there are also those Filipinas that are basically "dating" numerous foreigners online and then the first one to actually go over there and visit wins the contest, so to speak. Or they could even juggle multiple visits, playing along until the first 1 who offers to file for a Visa for her. This sounds like it could have been the case with you, and I indeed found out that this was exactly what one of my contacts was doing. She essentially disappeared for about 1 month (after being online every day), which is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
To address a previous post about why anyone would pursue Filipinas... well, despite the high scam rate, they actually are very tempting, especially for guys that like Asian women. Firstly, unlike most Asian-countries, Filipinas generally speak English at a much higher rate vs others. Also, it is almost a norm to see relationships with men much older than women. In addition, white foreigners are considered almost status symbols in many Phil circles, so that almost gives an average guy super-star status... something that can be very intoxicating.
Bottom line is this... cancel your petition for her and cut all ties, not matter what lies she concocts to convince you otherwise. Give up on getting any of your money back or trying to punish her in any way. Both will be nearly impossible and will drain you of energy and soul without any benefit. Better to use all your energy to find a new girl.
Finally, I will say something about long-distance/internet dating in general, just based on my experiences. It is very, very hard to build enough trust to make these kinds of relationships work, especially given the very high % of scams. It is almost impossible to know exactly what is going on with her unless you actually are able to spend a decent amount of time hanging out with her where she lives. This was the big difference for me when I met my current fiance in Mexico about 2 years ago. There is just something different about being there with them, spending actual time with them and their friends and family... things that make it nearly impossible to hide any kind of scam.
Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or have any questions... I almost consider myself an expert when it comes to scamming Filipinas.

Very sorry to hear about your situation. I am now luckily engaged to a wonderful Mexican lady, but prior to meeting her, I had "relationships" with several Filipinas that I met on a variety of those dating websites you mentioned. Luckily, I never made to the stage of filing immigration packets for them, and even though I was stupid enough to sent money here and there to some, it didn't sum up to an amount that was even remotely material for me. But aside from those 2 differences, your posts sounded eerily familiar to my experiences in many ways. I think the thing that really saved me from going full blown as that my best friend was scammed by a Russian girl a long time ago, and I have always had that in the back of my mind as a possibility (along with the thousands of stories online of course), which made me cautious enough to never send large sums of money, even though I was very tempted at a few points early on... before I caught on to their habitual lying behavior.
It almost seems like they learn some of this in some kind of scammer's school, because although I have corresponded with women from all over the world, I have never experienced the frequency and blatancy of the lies coming from Filipinas. Yes, I know there are good ones, and in fact, I actually am still friends with a few them that I just never clicked with romantically. In fact, it is thanks to one of these friends that I learned a lot that helped me to uncover and prove a lot of the lies that were being told to me. Certainly, the hospital bills scam is one of the most frequent but I have heard literally everything in the book at one time or another.
As another poster mentioned, the good ones will almost never ask for money. Among scammers, some jump into scams right away and others take their time... kind of building up to it. Bottom line, if you decide to continue to pursue Filipinas (or any other long distance dating), take the time to learn what various things cost in the country the girl is from. This can go a long way to determining whether an eventual ask for money is potentially legit, or an obvious scam. For instance, the hospital bill amount you paid was absurd (no offense meant). Trust me when I tell you that there is almost no way that any 1 or even a series of operations/treatments would cost that much in Phil. If they were even close to that amount, 95% of Filipinos would not be able to afford it. In addition, the $1,500/month is WAY more than even most large families make there... probably 3-4 times that in fact. I know it's a crappy way to go into a relationship but with things like this, you really have to assume the worst and work your way back from that. Otherwise, you will find yourself sending more and more.
Another thing that I have noticed (and experienced) is that money scamming aside, there are also those Filipinas that are basically "dating" numerous foreigners online and then the first one to actually go over there and visit wins the contest, so to speak. Or they could even juggle multiple visits, playing along until the first 1 who offers to file for a Visa for her. This sounds like it could have been the case with you, and I indeed found out that this was exactly what one of my contacts was doing. She essentially disappeared for about 1 month (after being online every day), which is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
To address a previous post about why anyone would pursue Filipinas... well, despite the high scam rate, they actually are very tempting, especially for guys that like Asian women. Firstly, unlike most Asian-countries, Filipinas generally speak English at a much higher rate vs others. Also, it is almost a norm to see relationships with men much older than women. In addition, white foreigners are considered almost status symbols in many Phil circles, so that almost gives an average guy super-star status... something that can be very intoxicating.
Bottom line is this... cancel your petition for her and cut all ties, not matter what lies she concocts to convince you otherwise. Give up on getting any of your money back or trying to punish her in any way. Both will be nearly impossible and will drain you of energy and soul without any benefit. Better to use all your energy to find a new girl.
Finally, I will say something about long-distance/internet dating in general, just based on my experiences. It is very, very hard to build enough trust to make these kinds of relationships work, especially given the very high % of scams. It is almost impossible to know exactly what is going on with her unless you actually are able to spend a decent amount of time hanging out with her where she lives. This was the big difference for me when I met my current fiance in Mexico about 2 years ago. There is just something different about being there with them, spending actual time with them and their friends and family... things that make it nearly impossible to hide any kind of scam.
Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or have any questions... I almost consider myself an expert when it comes to scamming Filipinas.

Very sorry to hear about your situation. I am now luckily engaged to a wonderful Mexican lady, but prior to meeting her, I had "relationships" with several Filipinas that I met on a variety of those dating websites you mentioned. Luckily, I never made to the stage of filing immigration packets for them, and even though I was stupid enough to sent money here and there to some, it didn't sum up to an amount that was even remotely material for me. But aside from those 2 differences, your posts sounded eerily familiar to my experiences in many ways. I think the thing that really saved me from going full blown as that my best friend was scammed by a Russian girl a long time ago, and I have always had that in the back of my mind as a possibility (along with the thousands of stories online of course), which made me cautious enough to never send large sums of money, even though I was very tempted at a few points early on... before I caught on to their habitual lying behavior.
It almost seems like they learn some of this in some kind of scammer's school, because although I have corresponded with women from all over the world, I have never experienced the frequency and blatancy of the lies coming from Filipinas. Yes, I know there are good ones, and in fact, I actually am still friends with a few them that I just never clicked with romantically. In fact, it is thanks to one of these friends that I learned a lot that helped me to uncover and prove a lot of the lies that were being told to me. Certainly, the hospital bills scam is one of the most frequent but I have heard literally everything in the book at one time or another.
As another poster mentioned, the good ones will almost never ask for money. Among scammers, some jump into scams right away and others take their time... kind of building up to it. Bottom line, if you decide to continue to pursue Filipinas (or any other long distance dating), take the time to learn what various things cost in the country the girl is from. This can go a long way to determining whether an eventual ask for money is potentially legit, or an obvious scam. For instance, the hospital bill amount you paid was absurd (no offense meant). Trust me when I tell you that there is almost no way that any 1 or even a series of operations/treatments would cost that much in Phil. If they were even close to that amount, 95% of Filipinos would not be able to afford it. In addition, the $1,500/month is WAY more than even most large families make there... probably 3-4 times that in fact. I know it's a crappy way to go into a relationship but with things like this, you really have to assume the worst and work your way back from that. Otherwise, you will find yourself sending more and more.
Another thing that I have noticed (and experienced) is that money scamming aside, there are also those Filipinas that are basically "dating" numerous foreigners online and then the first one to actually go over there and visit wins the contest, so to speak. Or they could even juggle multiple visits, playing along until the first 1 who offers to file for a Visa for her. This sounds like it could have been the case with you, and I indeed found out that this was exactly what one of my contacts was doing. She essentially disappeared for about 1 month (after being online every day), which is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
To address a previous post about why anyone would pursue Filipinas... well, despite the high scam rate, they actually are very tempting, especially for guys that like Asian women. Firstly, unlike most Asian-countries, Filipinas generally speak English at a much higher rate vs others. Also, it is almost a norm to see relationships with men much older than women. In addition, white foreigners are considered almost status symbols in many Phil circles, so that almost gives an average guy super-star status... something that can be very intoxicating.
Bottom line is this... cancel your petition for her and cut all ties, not matter what lies she concocts to convince you otherwise. Give up on getting any of your money back or trying to punish her in any way. Both will be nearly impossible and will drain you of energy and soul without any benefit. Better to use all your energy to find a new girl.
Finally, I will say something about long-distance/internet dating in general, just based on my experiences. It is very, very hard to build enough trust to make these kinds of relationships work, especially given the very high % of scams. It is almost impossible to know exactly what is going on with her unless you actually are able to spend a decent amount of time hanging out with her where she lives. This was the big difference for me when I met my current fiance in Mexico about 2 years ago. There is just something different about being there with them, spending actual time with them and their friends and family... things that make it nearly impossible to hide any kind of scam.
Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or have any questions... I almost consider myself an expert when it comes to scamming Filipinas.

Very sorry to hear about your situation. I am now luckily engaged to a wonderful Mexican lady, but prior to meeting her, I had "relationships" with several Filipinas that I met on a variety of those dating websites you mentioned. Luckily, I never made to the stage of filing immigration packets for them, and even though I was stupid enough to sent money here and there to some, it didn't sum up to an amount that was even remotely material for me. But aside from those 2 differences, your posts sounded eerily familiar to my experiences in many ways. I think the thing that really saved me from going full blown as that my best friend was scammed by a Russian girl a long time ago, and I have always had that in the back of my mind as a possibility (along with the thousands of stories online of course), which made me cautious enough to never send large sums of money, even though I was very tempted at a few points early on... before I caught on to their habitual lying behavior.
It almost seems like they learn some of this in some kind of scammer's school, because although I have corresponded with women from all over the world, I have never experienced the frequency and blatancy of the lies coming from Filipinas. Yes, I know there are good ones, and in fact, I actually am still friends with a few them that I just never clicked with romantically. In fact, it is thanks to one of these friends that I learned a lot that helped me to uncover and prove a lot of the lies that were being told to me. Certainly, the hospital bills scam is one of the most frequent but I have heard literally everything in the book at one time or another.
As another poster mentioned, the good ones will almost never ask for money. Among scammers, some jump into scams right away and others take their time... kind of building up to it. Bottom line, if you decide to continue to pursue Filipinas (or any other long distance dating), take the time to learn what various things cost in the country the girl is from. This can go a long way to determining whether an eventual ask for money is potentially legit, or an obvious scam. For instance, the hospital bill amount you paid was absurd (no offense meant). Trust me when I tell you that there is almost no way that any 1 or even a series of operations/treatments would cost that much in Phil. If they were even close to that amount, 95% of Filipinos would not be able to afford it. In addition, the $1,500/month is WAY more than even most large families make there... probably 3-4 times that in fact. I know it's a crappy way to go into a relationship but with things like this, you really have to assume the worst and work your way back from that. Otherwise, you will find yourself sending more and more.
Another thing that I have noticed (and experienced) is that money scamming aside, there are also those Filipinas that are basically "dating" numerous foreigners online and then the first one to actually go over there and visit wins the contest, so to speak. Or they could even juggle multiple visits, playing along until the first 1 who offers to file for a Visa for her. This sounds like it could have been the case with you, and I indeed found out that this was exactly what one of my contacts was doing. She essentially disappeared for about 1 month (after being online every day), which is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
To address a previous post about why anyone would pursue Filipinas... well, despite the high scam rate, they actually are very tempting, especially for guys that like Asian women. Firstly, unlike most Asian-countries, Filipinas generally speak English at a much higher rate vs others. Also, it is almost a norm to see relationships with men much older than women. In addition, white foreigners are considered almost status symbols in many Phil circles, so that almost gives an average guy super-star status... something that can be very intoxicating.
Bottom line is this... cancel your petition for her and cut all ties, not matter what lies she concocts to convince you otherwise. Give up on getting any of your money back or trying to punish her in any way. Both will be nearly impossible and will drain you of energy and soul without any benefit. Better to use all your energy to find a new girl.
Finally, I will say something about long-distance/internet dating in general, just based on my experiences. It is very, very hard to build enough trust to make these kinds of relationships work, especially given the very high % of scams. It is almost impossible to know exactly what is going on with her unless you actually are able to spend a decent amount of time hanging out with her where she lives. This was the big difference for me when I met my current fiance in Mexico about 2 years ago. There is just something different about being there with them, spending actual time with them and their friends and family... things that make it nearly impossible to hide any kind of scam.
Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or have any questions... I almost consider myself an expert when it comes to scamming Filipinas.

Very sorry to hear about your situation. I am now luckily engaged to a wonderful Mexican lady, but prior to meeting her, I had "relationships" with several Filipinas that I met on a variety of those dating websites you mentioned. Luckily, I never made to the stage of filing immigration packets for them, and even though I was stupid enough to sent money here and there to some, it didn't sum up to an amount that was even remotely material for me. But aside from those 2 differences, your posts sounded eerily familiar to my experiences in many ways. I think the thing that really saved me from going full blown as that my best friend was scammed by a Russian girl a long time ago, and I have always had that in the back of my mind as a possibility (along with the thousands of stories online of course), which made me cautious enough to never send large sums of money, even though I was very tempted at a few points early on... before I caught on to their habitual lying behavior.
It almost seems like they learn some of this in some kind of scammer's school, because although I have corresponded with women from all over the world, I have never experienced the frequency and blatancy of the lies coming from Filipinas. Yes, I know there are good ones, and in fact, I actually am still friends with a few them that I just never clicked with romantically. In fact, it is thanks to one of these friends that I learned a lot that helped me to uncover and prove a lot of the lies that were being told to me. Certainly, the hospital bills scam is one of the most frequent but I have heard literally everything in the book at one time or another.
As another poster mentioned, the good ones will almost never ask for money. Among scammers, some jump into scams right away and others take their time... kind of building up to it. Bottom line, if you decide to continue to pursue Filipinas (or any other long distance dating), take the time to learn what various things cost in the country the girl is from. This can go a long way to determining whether an eventual ask for money is potentially legit, or an obvious scam. For instance, the hospital bill amount you paid was absurd (no offense meant). Trust me when I tell you that there is almost no way that any 1 or even a series of operations/treatments would cost that much in Phil. If they were even close to that amount, 95% of Filipinos would not be able to afford it. In addition, the $1,500/month is WAY more than even most large families make there... probably 3-4 times that in fact. I know it's a crappy way to go into a relationship but with things like this, you really have to assume the worst and work your way back from that. Otherwise, you will find yourself sending more and more.
Another thing that I have noticed (and experienced) is that money scamming aside, there are also those Filipinas that are basically "dating" numerous foreigners online and then the first one to actually go over there and visit wins the contest, so to speak. Or they could even juggle multiple visits, playing along until the first 1 who offers to file for a Visa for her. This sounds like it could have been the case with you, and I indeed found out that this was exactly what one of my contacts was doing. She essentially disappeared for about 1 month (after being online every day), which is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
To address a previous post about why anyone would pursue Filipinas... well, despite the high scam rate, they actually are very tempting, especially for guys that like Asian women. Firstly, unlike most Asian-countries, Filipinas generally speak English at a much higher rate vs others. Also, it is almost a norm to see relationships with men much older than women. In addition, white foreigners are considered almost status symbols in many Phil circles, so that almost gives an average guy super-star status... something that can be very intoxicating.
Bottom line is this... cancel your petition for her and cut all ties, not matter what lies she concocts to convince you otherwise. Give up on getting any of your money back or trying to punish her in any way. Both will be nearly impossible and will drain you of energy and soul without any benefit. Better to use all your energy to find a new girl.
Finally, I will say something about long-distance/internet dating in general, just based on my experiences. It is very, very hard to build enough trust to make these kinds of relationships work, especially given the very high % of scams. It is almost impossible to know exactly what is going on with her unless you actually are able to spend a decent amount of time hanging out with her where she lives. This was the big difference for me when I met my current fiance in Mexico about 2 years ago. There is just something different about being there with them, spending actual time with them and their friends and family... things that make it nearly impossible to hide any kind of scam.
Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or have any questions... I almost consider myself an expert when it comes to scamming Filipinas.

Very sorry to hear about your situation. I am now luckily engaged to a wonderful Mexican lady, but prior to meeting her, I had "relationships" with several Filipinas that I met on a variety of those dating websites you mentioned. Luckily, I never made to the stage of filing immigration packets for them, and even though I was stupid enough to sent money here and there to some, it didn't sum up to an amount that was even remotely material for me. But aside from those 2 differences, your posts sounded eerily familiar to my experiences in many ways. I think the thing that really saved me from going full blown as that my best friend was scammed by a Russian girl a long time ago, and I have always had that in the back of my mind as a possibility (along with the thousands of stories online of course), which made me cautious enough to never send large sums of money, even though I was very tempted at a few points early on... before I caught on to their habitual lying behavior.
It almost seems like they learn some of this in some kind of scammer's school, because although I have corresponded with women from all over the world, I have never experienced the frequency and blatancy of the lies coming from Filipinas. Yes, I know there are good ones, and in fact, I actually am still friends with a few them that I just never clicked with romantically. In fact, it is thanks to one of these friends that I learned a lot that helped me to uncover and prove a lot of the lies that were being told to me. Certainly, the hospital bills scam is one of the most frequent but I have heard literally everything in the book at one time or another.
As another poster mentioned, the good ones will almost never ask for money. Among scammers, some jump into scams right away and others take their time... kind of building up to it. Bottom line, if you decide to continue to pursue Filipinas (or any other long distance dating), take the time to learn what various things cost in the country the girl is from. This can go a long way to determining whether an eventual ask for money is potentially legit, or an obvious scam. For instance, the hospital bill amount you paid was absurd (no offense meant). Trust me when I tell you that there is almost no way that any 1 or even a series of operations/treatments would cost that much in Phil. If they were even close to that amount, 95% of Filipinos would not be able to afford it. In addition, the $1,500/month is WAY more than even most large families make there... probably 3-4 times that in fact. I know it's a crappy way to go into a relationship but with things like this, you really have to assume the worst and work your way back from that. Otherwise, you will find yourself sending more and more.
Another thing that I have noticed (and experienced) is that money scamming aside, there are also those Filipinas that are basically "dating" numerous foreigners online and then the first one to actually go over there and visit wins the contest, so to speak. Or they could even juggle multiple visits, playing along until the first 1 who offers to file for a Visa for her. This sounds like it could have been the case with you, and I indeed found out that this was exactly what one of my contacts was doing. She essentially disappeared for about 1 month (after being online every day), which is a dead giveaway that something fishy is going on.
To address a previous post about why anyone would pursue Filipinas... well, despite the high scam rate, they actually are very tempting, especially for guys that like Asian women. Firstly, unlike most Asian-countries, Filipinas generally speak English at a much higher rate vs others. Also, it is almost a norm to see relationships with men much older than women. In addition, white foreigners are considered almost status symbols in many Phil circles, so that almost gives an average guy super-star status... something that can be very intoxicating.
Bottom line is this... cancel your petition for her and cut all ties, not matter what lies she concocts to convince you otherwise. Give up on getting any of your money back or trying to punish her in any way. Both will be nearly impossible and will drain you of energy and soul without any benefit. Better to use all your energy to find a new girl.
Finally, I will say something about long-distance/internet dating in general, just based on my experiences. It is very, very hard to build enough trust to make these kinds of relationships work, especially given the very high % of scams. It is almost impossible to know exactly what is going on with her unless you actually are able to spend a decent amount of time hanging out with her where she lives. This was the big difference for me when I met my current fiance in Mexico about 2 years ago. There is just something different about being there with them, spending actual time with them and their friends and family... things that make it nearly impossible to hide any kind of scam.
Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or have any questions... I almost consider myself an expert when it comes to scamming Filipinas.