thedutch

I am a practiced extrovert, and whenever I'm in a situation like yours, I find I have to practice like crazy, as awkward as it is to do so. I wish you luck as you adjust to your new home and meet new people. By the way, despite being with me in the US for 3 months in 2013, my wife took several months to adjust when she moved here as an immigrant in July 2015. Five months later, she's slowly accepting and enjoying the things around her. You are not alone.
One more thing, from your husband's perspective, I would recommend easing up on him a little, if you can endure it. If you can find someone from home to be your sounding board for complaints, it'll go a lot better on your relationship.

Who are you to make judgement who deserves a greencard and who doesn't? As long as your uncle is abiding the law, then he can come shop or do whatever he wants. This is a free country. You can't do anything about it.
If you don't like your uncle, then don't host him in your house, that is your right.

Again what do your feelings have to do with his status? You don't want him to shop in the US? What a strange thing to say. If he got a green card through the lottery and he wants to shop in the US only, who cares? He doesn't seem to be breaking the law. You may not like him and you may have valid reasons not to, but again, who cares? You seem to want to cause trouble for him. Put your energy elsewhere.

I URGE to not let her do that!
I did something similar, all driven by emotions and came back to Brazil before my AOS was finalized. It´s being 7 months and counting that I don´t see my husband. Please don´t let her do that! It´s just so painful and costy to restart the whole thing again.
I wish someone had stopped me at the airport and put me back into my feet. Look up on myy timeline and you´ll see the journey this is being.
As much as I pray for your in law to get better, I´ve learned that when in this process we must be a little selfish.must be other ways for her to be present and supporting her family without being physically present. I learned that the hard way. Unfortunatelly, her family members will have to understand that she now has another family in another country and that she´s subject to a long and expensive process before she´s free to come and go whenever she wants. There If it was today, I would have never had done what I did.
Being physically present there won´t change anything after all. She can be there by other means.
It´s just too horrible and painful to go through all the journey again. It´s painful, very painful to be away from my husband for all this long and not knowing when I´ll be able to hug him again. Our lives were out on hold the second I boarded that plane.
PLEASE, TALK TO HER, OFFER HER COMFORT AND MAYBE ALTERNATIVES BUT DON´T LET HER GO BACK. PLEASE.
That´s just my personal experience and advice to you.
God bless your in law, your wife and all her family.

Dear Broken,
I can understand. You have invested your time, your money, your patience, your heart (most of all, hopefully). Unfortunately, it didn't work out, due to her cheating? Have you ever reconsidered working it out before saying forever farewell? I am by no means defending a cheater, but sometimes, it really doesn't mean anything. Some people, being alone, confused, stressed out - do stupid things. That doesn't mean she stopped loving you, and wanted to brake up.
Now, you, or both of you, don't want to work it out, which automatically ends your journey.
You were to come to America so you could start a life with your fiancé. Not to see the country, gain any kind of experience, or visit your friends. That all falls in the water, especially since your relationship ended before it even begun.
You cannot sue her. You shouldn't be able to. I am sure, at the time she did have good intentions, to bring you here, and share her life with her. But sometimes it doesn't work. She had also invested in the two of you.
You seem to be infatuated by the idea of an American life, and more upset over not having a chance to taste it, rather than your failed engagement.
Keep your head up. Leave it all behind, and go back to the life you had before her. You can live your dream elsewhere, not just in the US.
I wish you the best of luck.

If you aren't married then there is no divorce. It's time to go back home.

Do you have ANYTHING joint? Health insurance?
Your wife chose to go through the visa process, which is expensive, long, and stressful. Not to be rude, but it feels a bit odd, that after you came here she became so selfish, she refused to commingle with you in any way.
Do you have photographs? Receipts of gifts you bought for each other? The fact that your license shows the same address as hers only shows you live together, it is barely an evidence of a true marriage.
I know of a couple of cases where the USC "freaked out" after the foreign fiancé came to America, because it is so different than spending two weeks vacationing somewhere, but even those couple of cases I've heard of got joint health insurance, a joint bank account, etc...

Maybe she wasn't selfish. Perhaps she had foresight.

First of all: stop the charity. He DOES NOT need clothes for over $1000 dollar (unless he brought no clothes at all). I am not making money at the moment and I'm relying on my husband for things I need and I would never ask him to buy me expensive things.
And you have to tell him that it doesn't matter if you're a couple or strangers: it's "please" and "thank you".
Stop trying so hard to please him if he's treating you awful, it only shows him that you're willing to take it and his behavior won't stop. He is acting like a child so treat him like one: set boundaries.
As long as you're not showing him that his behavior is unacceptable he is going to keep disrespecting you and will walk all over you. Put your foot down, you can do it! I hope the two of you can work this out.

I'm sorry to say this, but his behavior is not about being homesick. He is just completely disrespectful to you and you should stop serving him everything on a silver platter and bring him back to earth.