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Im so sorry!!!!! Im still keeping hope that CC has not moved that much!!!! Maybe Im dumb but I am hoping the EPs will pick up speed anyways!! Hang in there.

Thank you Shanelle, that's really kind of you. Kvetching lol. Love that expression. Our own worries and stresses always feel like real worries and stresses, and you can't really compare;) They are ours, and they feel stressful to us in that moment and thus they are totally legit. Just knowing that there are people out there that care is good enough for me!! Thanks again for the kind post.

Brentos - rant away!
You just sound frustrated, yet really level-headed and humble;) Excellent Canadian traits;)
I think it's just hard. I usually don't share this stuff in public, but if it helps, I will let you know that we DO understand as most of us also have life things that make this experience extra hard. My husband was diagnosed with lymphoma a couple of years ago, and although he's in remission every lump and bump makes my heart ache and wonder if I will be trapped here while he gets sick again. He now needs to get a surgery for another issue (minor) but it needs to be expedited because of the cancer history so he will have to take a couple of weeks off work, which is hard. And I can't be there, because our lawyer insists I should not try to visit. We pay two mortgages, and we are both financially tight. My career may go off-kilter entirely if this drags on too long, and I am giving up a LOT work wise here in Canada to move (including an approximately 40% cut in my pay when I move). So I definitely understand, and I can't say that I haven't had the same thoughts - why can't this go faster for us? (and then I immediately chastise myself for having thoughts like that while other people wait for years).
But we love our partners and you have to hold on when you find that love. So we do. Hang in there and never apologize for being frustrated. And if there is anything you can do to make this go faster, feel free to do it! I personally have seen mostly pregnancy and health related issues for expedite on this board, but I won't comment on this as I would be talking out of my butt if I did.
M

Why did the rep tell you to send it again? Did you have to send everything all again? Maybe you will get a CC before they even scan in your second email!!

Hey, thanks. I know people aren't responding because they don't know what to tell me. That's ok - at least I can vent. I resent the docs, now I am thinking it's probably not a good idea, but all I can do is hope that this will not set me back months. Just having you guys all here helps. I decided that crying wasn't constructive yesterday, so I focused on my other life. Still have a cool husband who cares and worries about ME, so didn't want to scare the poor guy with more tears.
Thanks so much, it means a lot that you posted. M

WOW, M!!, you too are going through an agonizing time with this process, I'm sorry I will pray for you that the rest of this journey goes quickly and all things fall in to place, that your husband's surgery is successful, and that cancer stays in remission. I know don't feel so sorry for myself..........I worry when my husband is slain for 3 days with mirgraines and I want to be there to care for him, but, I will take this vs what you are going through, and, Brent too. Sorry peeps for my kvetching :S

I dont want to worry you more! it was missing the seal. M

No problem and thank you.
I have no idea why he insists on what he insists. He has already cost us two months at USCIS (we got an RFE for a certificate of divorce that I ASKED him about and he said the copy that I had should be fine and it wasn't, and I figured an immigration lawyer should know this right?). We are keeping him for now because we are at the end of the process and we paid so much money that I will get whatever work I can from him. Overall, lots of people here visit, but our lawyer has kind of made my husband worried about the border thing, so now he doesn't want me to cross either - he's been visiting instead. And I don't want to worry my husband anymore than he already does. So if it was entirely up to me, I'd try anyways with lots of proof of ties and intent to come back and that's that. Don't worry about it.

Brentos - rant away!
You just sound frustrated, yet really level-headed and humble;) Excellent Canadian traits;)
I think it's just hard. I usually don't share this stuff in public, but if it helps, I will let you know that we DO understand as most of us also have life things that make this experience extra hard. My husband was diagnosed with lymphoma a couple of years ago, and although he's in remission every lump and bump makes my heart ache and wonder if I will be trapped here while he gets sick again. He now needs to get a surgery for another issue (minor) but it needs to be expedited because of the cancer history so he will have to take a couple of weeks off work, which is hard. And I can't be there, because our lawyer insists I should not try to visit. We pay two mortgages, and we are both financially tight. My career may go off-kilter entirely if this drags on too long, and I am giving up a LOT work wise here in Canada to move (including an approximately 40% cut in my pay when I move). So I definitely understand, and I can't say that I haven't had the same thoughts - why can't this go faster for us? (and then I immediately chastise myself for having thoughts like that while other people wait for years).
But we love our partners and you have to hold on when you find that love. So we do. Hang in there and never apologize for being frustrated. And if there is anything you can do to make this go faster, feel free to do it! I personally have seen mostly pregnancy and health related issues for expedite on this board, but I won't comment on this as I would be talking out of my butt if I did.
M

Thanks for letting us know!! Its good to know they send them SOMEtime:) great for you - halfway there!!!

I was going to start with an "LOL" but I know it's frustrating. However, if you can't rant here, then where can you really rant to people who understand?? Most of us have been there!!! Hang in there and rant away. God knows I have.

Any chance you could make a sheet/column for those of us doing EP processing? I know many of us get no emails with a "scan" date at all, but case completes would be reassuring, even if people don't get emails to confirm receipt. Again so far, NVC tells me they send nothing for EP submissions, so… I guess I just wait till April. But it really helps to have others' numbers on there!
Perhaps you already have this I just haven't noticed. Sorry if so! Thank you SO SO much for doing this in the first place. Helps pass the time.

Hey all, so for those, like me, who like to give themselves ulcers - I talked to NVC tonight to see what to do about the extra docs (and TwoChickies what you said was the same thing they said to me, so thanks!), and I asked about the 60 days issue and he said as far as he knows it's still 60 days, not 66, not more:) They HAVE been delayed because of snow days but it should get back to normal soon, as there are no more federal off days and weather will hopefully hold for a bit. So everyone get some sleep and those of you so so close, holding my fingers crossed for you all. And for those interested - I re-sent the long form birth certificate to them by myself today, as he said that they should attach it to my file. And no, they still had no record of receiving that email from the 12th, which kind of sucks, but isn't surprising so I won't worry about it.
M

I hate these moving targets!!!! It's so freaking frustrating when they keep on changing things. The CEAC website still says it will take 30 days to review docs, but we all know it takes 60, and now apparently 66. I know it's probably secondary to the snow days and off days that they've had lots of in the past month or so, but it just frustrates the heck out of me. If we were this lackadaisical in my business I would be out of a job in about 30 minutes.
M

I hate these moving targets!!!! It's so freaking frustrating when they keep on changing things. The CEAC website still says it will take 30 days to review docs, but we all know it takes 60, and now apparently 66. I know it's probably secondary to the snow days and off days that they've had lots of in the past month or so, but it just frustrates the heck out of me. If we were this lackadaisical in my business I would be out of a job in about 30 minutes.
M

Your post was great!!! And it helped a lot. I am away from home with choppy Internet access, so I've been trying to get on here and say thank you! And also let whoever cares know that our case number and IN were assigned just today!!!! So Dec 23rd folks it's happening!!!
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Thanks Ms. Hogan, I appreciate your measured response to frustrations and good advice. This process has been somewhat stressful due to the fact I feel like I have no control over what my lawyer is submitting, especially since he's in the U.S. Like I've said before, we've kept him on since it has been hard for me to do all this paperwork as both my husband and I work 12-16 hour days most weeks. I've actually sent him some of the advice posted on VJ lol… as he would tell me things and I'd be like "but that's already been suggested on VJ!!" lol. I think he gets frustrated with me but I don't care - it's about MY life. Anyways, thank you! Much appreciated, as always.

I'm really sorry to hear about your checklists! I think it is human to try and regain a little bit of control of your life, and have some say in when and how things happen. I am sorry that that happened with the emails, but I am not sure I would not have done that too:) I think this is even harder considering all we are all trying to do is be with our loved ones, and it sometimes does feel like we are being punished despite not having done anything wrong. That said, as much as it is not MY personality, I think there is something to those who have a "you have no control so just let it be" attitude from the get go - I think it helps refocus on the things in your life that you CAN control. It is hard to watch people just speed through the process in a few months (and still complaint about the wait lol), while you are rearranging your life because your own process hit a snag. The truth is, the ability to share these frustrations with people here have been invaluable. I think I would have gone a bit crazy if I hadn't been able to read and post here. I have a lot riding on being in the U.S. by July, but that may not happen, and that's HARD.
Hang in there!! For me, as Valentine's day comes around, I know that I have this great forum and my awesome, beautiful, patient husband to depend on!
lol maybe they can't lose it but it seems we have to keep on them to remind them to LOOK at it!!!!!

Yes please do! One way I deal with this process is by being excited for those who hear good things;)!!

Thank you so much for the wonderful response!! I appreciate the positivity. I hope that NOA2 comes soon for you! And yes, I agree that true love exists, that is the ONLY explanation I can imagine that would make us crazy enough to go through this process;)
All the great responses and support have gotten me through the down point and have redirected my efforts to moving forwards, regardless of what happen for what hiccups I come upon.
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Congrats on the approval!!!!! I have seen your posts before and I thought how patient you guys are with this process. I am super happy for you both!! Thank you for the kind words, I've been overwhelmed with the support and level-headed advice.
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Thanks everyone!! I appreciate the supportive comments. Again, I realize this is a bit of "poor me" and I usually hate that but my husband just left this morning, and I won't see him till June and it just all came crashing down. oh and I have a horrible cold that's making me even whinier. I really love this site and I appreciate the support!! I only hope I can reciprocate to others once it's all done.
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