liverlover

By the way - everyone with money in Canada in RRSP, locked or unlocked, or money in a savings account, or any other type of account - there are extra forms that have to be filled in when you do your U.S. taxes.
See TDF 90-22.1 for any non-U.S. account for which you have signing authority, AND 8891 for RRSP, AND the last two questions of Schedule B of the 1040. Big penalties possible if these are not done.

Hi Liverlover,
I expedited by EAD successfully without cover letter + evidence of decline in joint savings account.
I recently learned that my card is in production (after 95 days waiting). Unfortunately, by time it will arrive it might be to late.
I wish I filed for an expedite earlier.
Good luck!

You are both to blame for not working on the relationship.
1. You say you hardly communicate by (your) choice.
2. He has a little 'platonic' friend on the side.
3. You are near the end of your visa journey and can't make it another couple months ? Seriously ?
4. He sounds like he wants to end it ? I would too if my spouse wouldn't want to talk to me.
Many couples here have been separated for years, me included, so I don't get the problem you both have created for yourselves.
I especially don't get it since it's Canada. Wish my fiance would live that close.
I am sure he doesn't want to see you crying on skype, so I am with the 'suck it up club', change your attitude,
smile, laugh, happiness is a choice and a good thing for the relationship, no one wants a whiner and complainer, does not
exactly keep the fire going !
As for him having the 'friend' over.....oh hell no ! Deal breaker. Adios.
But you removed yourself from him and detached, what do you expect to happen ?!
Everyone else here can skype for hours and make several calls a day, you chose not to.
There seem to be underlying issues and currents of conflict that have nothing to do with the distance.
He seems to want the relationship but if you don't get on board he will move on without you.
I think the ball is in your court.

Yep, this.
Both of you appear to have missed the part where she said she didn't want to sit in her room and be sad, so she didn't - and thus doesn't talk to him. His needs aren't being met because she's not spending time talking to him, so he's hanging out with other people, and telling her about it. Or is there some particular sexist reason I'm not aware of that the wife in this scenario is allowed to have a full social life, but the husband must sit at home and pine away without any contact with his wife, or other people?
OP in this situation is living a life she is apparently not happy with her husband living, and she won't live the life her husband wants her to live - one that involves sitting in her room talking to him when they're both at home.

At first I was against all the blame-the-victim posts but Mike&Lyn zeroed in on something important here.
It doesn't make sense the way you concluded that you hardly communicate because you don't want to be depressed and crying in your room. So communicating with your husband makes you depressed? Ignoring that you are married makes you feel happier? How about what your husband wants? Isn't making him happy something you care about?
The second item above regarding huge differences of opinion on what is important in a marriage is actually the most important thing to talk about, but the one thing you don't want to detail. I gather that the husband wants to be talking to his wife every day on Skype or whatever, but you don't want to. So this is what he means by saying your family is more important to you than your own husband. It sounds like it goes further than this though and I don't think we have the whole story here.
But therefore the husband, who is not getting companionship from his wife, is seeking it elsewhere. He wants you to see that attractive women like his company. You ignore him while other attractive women enjoy spending time with him. He's told you that it is unacceptable to be rejected by his wife - that he expects his wife to communicate regularly with him. It's a red flag alright: it is a huge billowing signal that if you don't give him what he wants then he's going to get it elsewhere.
It really does feel wonderful when the most important person in our life has abandoned us and someone else shows us that we are worthy of their esteem. I agree with your husband - you guys just don't sound right for each other. I don't think this is just a matter of being apart. The fact you are so completely different about wanting to communicate while apart says something important about your compatibility.

This in my opinion is the problem. You need to get on the damn phone, skype, whatever, every day and be talking to him. You need to show him you really care about your relationship. Your actions are sending him the opposite message.
I've been in a relationship with my fiancée for 8 months. In those 8 months we have compiled over 1200 pages of chat logs and countless hours on the phone. It's the only way either of us keeps our sanity by knowing, without a doubt, that every day our partner is there for us going through the same thing we are going through.

This!
I almost feel like he's telling you this stuff so you don't get as mad at him if he decides he wants to end things. I mean...he's saying he just met this woman, and he invited her back to his house for her to cook him dinner? Oh hell no. Your husband is fulfilling his need for a physical (as in, physically present with him, as far as we know anyway...) and emotional connection with a different woman, quite literally putting her in your place. On purpose. OP, did you go visit him today? You guys really need to talk about all this. Do not settle for his excuses. Don't end up going through all of this trouble to be with him in vain.

Hmmmm, definitely sounds like a red flag to me also. Hanging out with an attractive, new co-worker texting each other all night talking about music and religion. I'll give him credit for being open and honest with you, but zero for respect. It's one thing to have a social life with coworkers, but another to spend other "fun" activities with each other...alone. Should've thought about this before even getting married and the difficulties of the significant times apart. It is hard, I know.
I know sometimes talking on Skype can be boring and sometimes you run out of stuff to talk about, but one of the things I found out is to really incorporate your life and his life like as if you guys are actually together, but digitally. Use technology to its fullest...skype/msg each other wherever you go. Go on skype dates, celebrate different things - birthdays, monthly anniversaries, shopping, eating, heck, wrap your cellphone in a plastic bag and take him in the shower with you...just be creative!
Like some said here, try the best you can to keep the relationship alive and talk to each other. It would be such a waste to end it, with so much time and effort to be together. Gonna have to dig deep and figure out what both of you really want before throwing in the towel. Oh, and by the way, most relationships start out as platonic and feelings for each do grow deeper whether you want it or not. If you can get him to realize that he's totally disrespecting you for hanging out with his "attractive" coworker, then I would advise him to stop it and put more focus on this marriage. Just my two cents.

I think your husband's behaviour is adding up. I did the same thing to my husband years ago when we were both still in high school. I was breaking down emotionally over the distance and sought comfort in another man who I ended up dating. I'm lucky my husband took me back after my lapse of judgement... not many people are that forgiving.
Either way, from my own point of view I don't think it would be appropriate for my husband to invite a woman co-worker back to his apartment. Would he have brought her back if you were living with him? I doubt it.

This is the deal breaker, for me.
Whatever you decide on, good luck.

Good grief I disagree completely. His needs are not being met because his wife is stuck in another country and he's tired of waiting so he opens up emotionally to some other woman? I think he's realised there are woman on his doorstep right in front of him that he doesn't have to wait for and he wants out of the relationship so he can go play.
CanGirl you don't want to be married to a man who doesn't think you're the highest, most important priority in his life. Don't let him treat you like this and make you think all this is your fault.

Your husband is communicating with you. He's telling you what his needs are, and how they're not being met. This? Is part of marriage - listening to one another. An appropriate response is not "be more like me," it's to figure out what you can do to help him have his needs met while also meeting your own.
If you're not willing to work with him to make sure his emotional needs are being met, then it sounds like the problem isn't with him.

Sadly, I think it is very legal.
I will give you another simpler examples.
You know it's legal to be a tobacco smoker in US (in proper areas).
But there are companies that do nicotine tests, and you will not be hired
if you are found to be a smoker. I worked for one before.
Also, US government says, you can't discriminate against age, sex, religion, etc.,
but that government like (CIA, FBI, Police) have age restrictions on certain positions.
If they don't want you, you probably don't want to be there anyway.
There are plenty of other jobs, just let this one go and move on to the next job search.
That's American style...
Best wishes