skooter85

Hi everyone,
My wife and I got married last summer and we couldn't be happier. We're in the process of getting the AOS done and her work permit just got approved, which is really exciting. My family loves her and I really like who I have met of her family so far. There just seems to be a small issue.
Her mother, who came to visit us last fall and who is a very nice person, has been pressuring us to go out there and visit her in the summer. As we are moving to a bigger place in a week and I am starting a new project at work, the idea of taking a vacation overseas is honestly pretty unrealistic at the moment. Her mother has offered to help with the airfare but I feel that she is still not understanding all the pieces involved in taking an overseas vacation - cost of food, the rest of the airfare, vacation-y stuff while we are there, and taking time off from work. Not to mention we have been working very hard to get my wife more acquainted with the U.S. and becoming integrated, so taking weeks off just to go back to her country seems a little backwards right now, honestly.
We tried explaining this to her mother, who then insisted she would just fly out here again and visit. As the sole provider right now, I have no issue with this, however, since I am the only driver in the family it seems a little unfair to expect me to use my vacation time to drive people around on grand tours of California when I would really like to save up vacation to take smaller, realistic trips with my new wife.
Now her mother has turned to being a little passive aggressive with her (not me, she doesn't know how much of the conversation I know about) saying things like "You don't want to see me", "You don't miss your country", etc etc.
Have any of you encountered this before? What was your way of dealing with it without hurting anyone's feelings too much and not stressing yourselves out?

Hi skooter85
Same here we'll be having our interview this June. I think it's a normal reaction to be nervous as we are too Based on what I read, I think we have to just bring all the evidences that we have or a copy of the same AOS package that we sent just to be sure. What we understood, we need to bring at least 2 months recent pay stubs so I guess what we'll bring is the month of April and May pay stubs.
We hope we can get more responses on other VJs too with regard to their interview experiences. Best of Luck to us and God Bless us

Best advise is to breathe ?
Most people that I know that did AOS in the states told me that it's nothing like what's advertised on YouTube or other resources.
Normally the officers are cherpy people and arnt there to make you feel uncomfortable. They have all your evidence and all they want to know is that it's correct.
Relax and just take your time there's no rush to answer questions. ?

Helloooo everyone my wife and I went for the interview One question One Pic and boooom Done we were approved for the GC o yeah feel good
On May 4, 2015, we registered your permanent resident status and mailed you a Welcome Notice for Receipt Number MSCxxxxx. Please follow the instructions in the notice. Your new permanent resident card should arrive by July 3, 2015, after this registration or after you complete any ADIT processing referred to in the welcome notice, whichever is later. If you move, go to www.uscis.gov/addresschange to give us your new

Great news! Congratulations

Congrats!

Hi everyone,
My wife and I got married last summer and we couldn't be happier. We're in the process of getting the AOS done and her work permit just got approved, which is really exciting. My family loves her and I really like who I have met of her family so far. There just seems to be a small issue.
Her mother, who came to visit us last fall and who is a very nice person, has been pressuring us to go out there and visit her in the summer. As we are moving to a bigger place in a week and I am starting a new project at work, the idea of taking a vacation overseas is honestly pretty unrealistic at the moment. Her mother has offered to help with the airfare but I feel that she is still not understanding all the pieces involved in taking an overseas vacation - cost of food, the rest of the airfare, vacation-y stuff while we are there, and taking time off from work. Not to mention we have been working very hard to get my wife more acquainted with the U.S. and becoming integrated, so taking weeks off just to go back to her country seems a little backwards right now, honestly.
We tried explaining this to her mother, who then insisted she would just fly out here again and visit. As the sole provider right now, I have no issue with this, however, since I am the only driver in the family it seems a little unfair to expect me to use my vacation time to drive people around on grand tours of California when I would really like to save up vacation to take smaller, realistic trips with my new wife.
Now her mother has turned to being a little passive aggressive with her (not me, she doesn't know how much of the conversation I know about) saying things like "You don't want to see me", "You don't miss your country", etc etc.
Have any of you encountered this before? What was your way of dealing with it without hurting anyone's feelings too much and not stressing yourselves out?

Haha, I laughed out loud at the first line. Good way to start the morning.
Makes sense - for a while it was just her and her mother so I can completely understand the empty nest syndrome and all. Good news is that she's made it pretty clear to her mother that it's something that needs to be discussed as a couple and not "shotgunned" just because her mother is having a hard time coping. The passive aggression I think comes from her mother grasping at straws in frustration - thing is, she just saw her in October - we have skype, video messaging, IM, texting, phone, etc. I really just want for my wife to integrate here - driving, getting a job, going to school, all these things comes before the MIL's travel plans in my opinion. Her daughter made a choice and sure, it's between the two of them how they deal with the distance and I can help so much, but the passive aggression is quite frankly ridiculous.
Please don't get me wrong - I adore my MIL - she is a very nice woman and I am fortunate that we get along so well.
Thank you guys so so much for your input - it's really helped put me at ease.

Haha, I laughed out loud at the first line. Good way to start the morning.
Makes sense - for a while it was just her and her mother so I can completely understand the empty nest syndrome and all. Good news is that she's made it pretty clear to her mother that it's something that needs to be discussed as a couple and not "shotgunned" just because her mother is having a hard time coping. The passive aggression I think comes from her mother grasping at straws in frustration - thing is, she just saw her in October - we have skype, video messaging, IM, texting, phone, etc. I really just want for my wife to integrate here - driving, getting a job, going to school, all these things comes before the MIL's travel plans in my opinion. Her daughter made a choice and sure, it's between the two of them how they deal with the distance and I can help so much, but the passive aggression is quite frankly ridiculous.
Please don't get me wrong - I adore my MIL - she is a very nice woman and I am fortunate that we get along so well.
Thank you guys so so much for your input - it's really helped put me at ease.

OP I hope you find a way to keep everyone happy it's friggin hard balancing life in America and keeping your loved ones family happy too!
Always remember there's your vj family too to talk to.

Hi everyone,
My wife and I got married last summer and we couldn't be happier. We're in the process of getting the AOS done and her work permit just got approved, which is really exciting. My family loves her and I really like who I have met of her family so far. There just seems to be a small issue.
Her mother, who came to visit us last fall and who is a very nice person, has been pressuring us to go out there and visit her in the summer. As we are moving to a bigger place in a week and I am starting a new project at work, the idea of taking a vacation overseas is honestly pretty unrealistic at the moment. Her mother has offered to help with the airfare but I feel that she is still not understanding all the pieces involved in taking an overseas vacation - cost of food, the rest of the airfare, vacation-y stuff while we are there, and taking time off from work. Not to mention we have been working very hard to get my wife more acquainted with the U.S. and becoming integrated, so taking weeks off just to go back to her country seems a little backwards right now, honestly.
We tried explaining this to her mother, who then insisted she would just fly out here again and visit. As the sole provider right now, I have no issue with this, however, since I am the only driver in the family it seems a little unfair to expect me to use my vacation time to drive people around on grand tours of California when I would really like to save up vacation to take smaller, realistic trips with my new wife.
Now her mother has turned to being a little passive aggressive with her (not me, she doesn't know how much of the conversation I know about) saying things like "You don't want to see me", "You don't miss your country", etc etc.
Have any of you encountered this before? What was your way of dealing with it without hurting anyone's feelings too much and not stressing yourselves out?

Haha, I laughed out loud at the first line. Good way to start the morning.
Makes sense - for a while it was just her and her mother so I can completely understand the empty nest syndrome and all. Good news is that she's made it pretty clear to her mother that it's something that needs to be discussed as a couple and not "shotgunned" just because her mother is having a hard time coping. The passive aggression I think comes from her mother grasping at straws in frustration - thing is, she just saw her in October - we have skype, video messaging, IM, texting, phone, etc. I really just want for my wife to integrate here - driving, getting a job, going to school, all these things comes before the MIL's travel plans in my opinion. Her daughter made a choice and sure, it's between the two of them how they deal with the distance and I can help so much, but the passive aggression is quite frankly ridiculous.
Please don't get me wrong - I adore my MIL - she is a very nice woman and I am fortunate that we get along so well.
Thank you guys so so much for your input - it's really helped put me at ease.

Hi everyone,
My wife and I got married last summer and we couldn't be happier. We're in the process of getting the AOS done and her work permit just got approved, which is really exciting. My family loves her and I really like who I have met of her family so far. There just seems to be a small issue.
Her mother, who came to visit us last fall and who is a very nice person, has been pressuring us to go out there and visit her in the summer. As we are moving to a bigger place in a week and I am starting a new project at work, the idea of taking a vacation overseas is honestly pretty unrealistic at the moment. Her mother has offered to help with the airfare but I feel that she is still not understanding all the pieces involved in taking an overseas vacation - cost of food, the rest of the airfare, vacation-y stuff while we are there, and taking time off from work. Not to mention we have been working very hard to get my wife more acquainted with the U.S. and becoming integrated, so taking weeks off just to go back to her country seems a little backwards right now, honestly.
We tried explaining this to her mother, who then insisted she would just fly out here again and visit. As the sole provider right now, I have no issue with this, however, since I am the only driver in the family it seems a little unfair to expect me to use my vacation time to drive people around on grand tours of California when I would really like to save up vacation to take smaller, realistic trips with my new wife.
Now her mother has turned to being a little passive aggressive with her (not me, she doesn't know how much of the conversation I know about) saying things like "You don't want to see me", "You don't miss your country", etc etc.
Have any of you encountered this before? What was your way of dealing with it without hurting anyone's feelings too much and not stressing yourselves out?

They won't have the number instantly for you when you apply. You can return the next business day to ask for your number. You won't receive the actual card for about 7-10 days in the mail.
~ Moved from AOS from Family Based Visas Progress Reports to Social Security Numbers - topic is SSN ~

Just got email and txt notification that EAD is being produced. Sooooooo beyond excited to be working again!!!! Now hoping for no more snow and fast delivery!

USCIS Vermont received AOS packet Jan 10. Biometrics apt was feb 5th in Philly. Interview scheduled for March 18th in Philly as well. Still no update to EAD since Jan 14th. Happy i485 is moving fast but getting antsy with i765 taking so long. Keeping fingers crossed for everyone waiting for updates!