HuffyTheSlayer

That's what I think too. The signature gives a snapshot of one's journey.

I think the point of the tracker is for the major events that happen on one's N400 timeline. I mean, we could put NOA Priority Date, NOA Received Date, Yellow Letter Received Date, etc. I personally think a color coded system where someone is either eligible at the date of application or soon to be eligible. If people want to get more specific, then you can add info to your signature. Just my humble opinion.

Email received from USCIS yesterday (2/14/2012) informing me they have sent me the letter for my fingerprinting date.
Sounds good to me!

The reason men fall into affairs is because they listen to their johnsons before their brains. Whose fault is that? Their own. Who could have made a smart decision? Them. Men (and women) with no self control are the ones who cheat. It's very sad that some people in this day and age don't have the power to just say "no" to their genitals.
I don't think a past history of foolish men should be the reason that you avoid friendships with good looking women. Are you not able to control yourself? It is your body, it doesn't control you.

Why are people so convinced every guy friend is out to bag their female friends? How narrow minded. Sure, many guys do this, but there are also many cut from a better cloth who just enjoy the companionship. This fear has lead to so many unnecessary fights. If this is the case, I'm also wildly attracted to all my guy friends, so in reality our friendships are a cover for our passionate, hidden lustful feelings for each other. Please

Agreed, Up and Away.
As for Harsh_77, while I would hope that the US acknowledging same-sex marriage on a federal level (and therefore opening up immigration options for them) would also encourage other countries to recognise same sex marriage. If the foreign partner is from a country that doesn't allow/acknowledge same-sex marriage there would still be a pathway for them to join their USC partner through the K-1 Fiance visa. We can't force other countries to recognise it of course, so some couples would be unable to apply for a spousal visa unless the partner came to the US beforehand, married and returned to their home country. Or if they got married in a third country which performed gay marriages and then applied through their home countries consulate. A bit of a hassle for sure, but obviously the US does not govern other countries laws. The most important thing would be that USC that are in same-sex relationships would finally be receiving the same rights that hetero couples already receive.

I have a friend who is in a relationship with a guy from Australia and like you, it makes me so sad that as the law stands right now they could not marry and adjust his boyfriends status. They have been together a long time. Right now his boyfriend is here with a student visa and they are hoping once he is finished with college that he will be able to get approved for a work visa. It tears me up inside because I imagine how I would feel if me and my husband were a same-sex couple and had the same uncertain future. I hope your friends are able to figure out something so that they can be together. Of course my bigger hope is that the US repeals DOMA and allows same-sex couples the same rights as straight couples. Love is Love.

I don't see how it's different from hetero couples. They would still have to prove the validity of their relationship just like hetero couples.

I have a friend who is in a relationship with a guy from Australia and like you, it makes me so sad that as the law stands right now they could not marry and adjust his boyfriends status. They have been together a long time. Right now his boyfriend is here with a student visa and they are hoping once he is finished with college that he will be able to get approved for a work visa. It tears me up inside because I imagine how I would feel if me and my husband were a same-sex couple and had the same uncertain future. I hope your friends are able to figure out something so that they can be together. Of course my bigger hope is that the US repeals DOMA and allows same-sex couples the same rights as straight couples. Love is Love.

IT is really heartbreaking.... Gay people love as hetero people and I personally think they should have the same rights....
This is really sad..... really sad... at least for hetero couple, no matter what, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, not for them.... Sad sad sad!!!
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new week .... get your act together and start sending interview letters NBC (and FP letters).

I showed my boyfriend this thread. He wanted to share his rules for my proper deportment and behaviour around him. It's handy for the other ladies!
I demand that you lay prostate at my feet and look up at me in an adoring fashion while I play WoW There must be constant adulation of me as the King I demand that you keep the toilet seat UP when you finish going potty


My food must be cooked to perfection I demand 5 star service


When my glass is empty, you must refill without me asking.


When my plate is clear, you must ask if I want a second portion or if it is okay for you to take it away You get to eat in the kitchen


After I'm done.


You are to read to me the daily news, without interjecting any comments


You must cut my meat before you serve it to me


You dare not insult me with inferior food

Gary wants you to believe that by only subscribing to strict gender roles will you be happy and successful.
His posts are often filled with anger, so taking heed to them would be like taking driving lessons from a blind man.

I agree, especially when it comes to your "lessons." No thanks!

My marriage is not like yours but my relationship has lasted 20 years. Don't blame feminism for the failure of your earlier relationships and marriages. Most people with hyphenated names, wives who make good dough working at jobs they enjoy and husbands who cook because they like it and are good at it do just fine without your "education". They may even be doing better.

That is one big fat lie and you know it.
This is not a matter of her holding her end of the "bargain" or not. It sounds like she does cook, but has an issue with hoarding things for later. I don't seen any woman here defending her behavior. And how do you know if the "bunch of women" here on VJ "do not hold up their end"? That is one very delusional post.

I have no intention of ignoring you because I am not the one who feels insulted.

How was your post about Alla any helpful to the OP or even on-topic? And how exactly is pointing out that Ukrainian customs are similar to a lot of other poor countries insulting? Dude, grow a thicker skin.

I am going to hazard to guess that Nina was trying to explain the attitude of the OP, not his wife.
But all the American women thank you for giving us another opportunity to be very thankful that you married a Ukrainian.

I gotta say I was laughing at the "king of the house" phrase as well. I find it funny that some of the best chefs in the world are men, but how ridiculous since cooking is a woman's job, isn't it?! *Sarcasm* At home, my husband and I share the duties, just like Austramerican has mentioned. There isn't any chore that is just mine or just my husband's, everything is shared even snow shoveling, which some people leave for the men to do. When he cooks, I do the dishes, and when I cook he does the dishes, and so forth. My father is also an excellent cook, his mother always taught all of her sons to cook and do their own things. She did this because she wanted them to be able to take care of themselves; "You never know who you're going to end up with" she used to say.
Anyway, in relation to the OP, I don't know what's going on with him and his wife. There are always 3 sides of a story, so hopefully he'll come back and give us an update. Granted, I don't think the wife is right in limiting his food but there must a reason for her doing it.

I didn't explain Ukrainian customs, I explained 3rd world mentality and that is definitely not an unique Ukrainian thing.

I'm not married yet, but I lived with Ben for a year before he had to go back to Australia for us to file the K-1. I LIKE cooking so I did a lot of the cooking, I grew up not exactly well off and I was always taught never to waste food also. I had 4 siblings so basically when I learned how to cook it was for many people, though I was never FORCED to learn how to cook, I just enjoy it.
BTW, for all the "man is the king of the house" and "cooking and cleaning is womens work" types, my dad is man enough to make the money AND cook and clean, he cooked most of the time in our house growing up! HE wanted to because he enjoys it, my mom and him shared the duties and he was never ashamed or scoffed at it as women's work because thats what a REAL man does! It's supposed to be a partnership, and while in my house I don't expect my man to cook and clean if I am the housewife (which I won't be til we have kids), he is man enough to do the laundry, dishes and take out the trash when we were living together, and I didn't even ask him to, he just wants to because we are a team and support each other.
He's even taking it upon himself to learn how to cook meals because he appreciates all the delicious meals I made for him and wants to return the favor <3 And thats the way it should be, if he acted like Mr King of his castle all the time and just took it for granted that cooking was my job it would take all the joy out of cooking and quite frankly he would have to make his own meals But fortunately we are a team as it should be!
Your house can be how you like as long as you are both happy, but that's not to say that everyone should live like you.
As far as this guy, that sucks. She is not being fair. However, having a serious sit down talk with her about how it makes you feel and how you feel it is unacceptable is a lot better to do than holding it all inside until you explode. Also asking her what prompts this behavior and that you feel it is hurting the marriage is a convo that totally needs to happen asap. Obviously you married her for a reason, its time to man up and have a conversation as husband and wife, but more importantly, as adults. Not talking or just mentioning it passively is not going to help, you need to have a straight up one on one convo, both of you are married to each other so there should be some mutual respect between you, and love. Ideally if she understands how important to you it is and if you can understand that she can't change asap (she needs to be willing to compromise at least) then you two can be on the road to healing. Good luck.

I really needed a chortle today, beyond my usual girlish giggle.
*giggle*
I better get back to waiting upon my boy now -- he hardly ever lets me near the internet machine because, he says, that is for the KING.

It might be that you don't have to do the bio since it has been less than a year. It happens to more people, maybe to you as well. I hope it is the same in my case, I filed about a month before you and haven't heard a thing since my NOA yet. Also doubting if I should call since the 30 day mark has been passed

One of the worst things for me when I first arrived was lack of food because I couldn't stand the majority of it. Awful stuff. I was hungry a lot and I would get tired a grumpy. Tony didn't restrict food, that would be insulting and condescending. I am an adult, just as you are. She is treating you like a child by "telling you" what you can and can't eat.
Tony earns the money (most of the time), I cook. I typically cook the same as Kathryn, a portion each and an extra for Tony to take to work (or eat later). I've told tony he couldn't eat something when I've got it planned for something else but I think that's been once. It's his house and his food too just as this is your house and your food too.
First you need to ask her WHY you can't have more. Is it because it's expensive? Is it because she's trying to control your weight (seeing American food in my experience is richer/fattier)? Is it just because that's how she is? Is it because this is her way of "control"?
I don't give two sh*ts about the "man of the house" #######. That's completely irrelevant. Relationships are about mutual respect. You can't just sneak around and eat the food because she could have it earmarked for something else. If she's the one cooking then that's her prerogative... she could be the kind that plans the meals for the week and doesn't by anything extra (for budgeting). What does she do if you eat the food?
You need to talk about this. You need to tell her just how upset this situation makes you. But you need to compromise. If it's about money then you might need to just put up with it till you can afford to help out with the bills. If it's about control you could see a couples counsellor to talk about her control issues. But i will admit one serving is standard. More than one is considered gluttonous... but of course that depends on how much the serving IS. As was previously said, men have different needs to women and she just might not realise it.