BethAnn and Omar

No I didn't send them to NVC. I just brought everything to my husband's interview. But they never asked for any of it lol.

OK i definitely don't think you need to print out all 6000 messages. Here is what we did: I submitted one year's worth of phone records and about 6 months worth of Viber chat and was never asked for any of it. Just our photos and how many times I visited my husband before and after we were married.

To print out Viber messages I think you go to settings from your account and then there is an option to email chat history. It will come as an excel spreadsheet.

I filed as single for all the years that my husband was in Jamaica and I was here since he has never been to this country and didn't have a ssn#. I hope that won't come back and haunt me.

I don't have experience with DCF but I imagine that the requirements for the interview are the same as regular consular filing. We did the CR1. The officer was very interested in knowing how many times I've visited my husband, especially after we were married. I brought all my flight itineraries, 1 year's worth of phone records, lots of photos (50), Vyber chat history. And we were never asked for any of it lol. The officer just looked at a few photos and asked me for the dates. Just remember the date of your husband's last visit- we were asked that that the interview.

We did the CR1 and we didn't have any of those things

We just had a ton of face time and photos showing all of my visits to Jamaica

We also had phone records and chat history but thats it and we were approved withno pproblems

I wasn't sure whether or not to post this in the Regional forum but since I'm sure others can relate I thought this venue might be more important. For those of you who don't already know me, my husband arrived on a CR-1 exactly one month ago from Jamaica. And boy what an adjustment its been. Basically he's taken over the household- setting down rules, etc. I have to get rid of my cat, pick up my clothes, clean regularly, stop smoking, cut down on the drinking, not go out to bars anymore, etc. Don't get me wrong some of these are probably good changes, but it is very strange to go from living alone for so long and making my own decisions to now having someone come into my house and basically take charge. Our relationship is good- we argue here and there but nothing like it use to be when we lived apart. But I don't agree with all his decisions (like getting rid of the cat for one) and I'm afraid that if I don't make the changes he is asking for that he will leave and go back to Jamaica. He's never actually said that and some of this is my own insecurity. I want him to be happy and I know he's given up a lot coming here to be with me. We've been together three years now and married for two. I love him dearly and I know he loves me but he is a bit controlling. So where do I draw the line? Do I make the sacrifices he's asking for- as I know marriage involves some compromises but I'm not sure if he knows that concept.

Sorry to vent like this but was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this.

Thanks in advance and much love to you all.

BethAnn

Ours was stuck on Ready for two weeks and two days until it changed to Administrative Processing for one day and then Issued.

Nobody deserves to be insulted or made to feel bad out themselves. I understand you love this person but how in the world can you consider staying with someone who apparently has no consideration for you and who no longer wants you around? I understand that you left everything to come to this country for this person and that must be so hard. But please, please, consider ending this relationship because it just doesn't sound right to me. And btw you are NOT fat OMG.

Just keep the faith. I know it will be issued soon!

My parents didn't attend my wedding in Jamaica because they didn't approve and my husband was asked the question of whether or not they attended at the interview and he just answered "no, they couldn't make it." It wasn't an issue at all. The CO was more impressed that I had visited my husband 14 times lol.

Hey there! Ours took exactly two weeks and three days from our approval to Issued. I'm sure your's will be issued soon. What does the status on CEAC say?

Congratulations girl!! I am so happy to hear this. And I am glad your fiance was able to be there with you. I think that is great.

Hi there! NVC received our documents on August 26th, Case complete on September 19th, Interview date assigned on October 1, and Interview was on November 26th.

My husband came from Jamaica. He arrived on December 23rd. He is doing okay with the cold weather in Connecticut but he does complain that he is cold a lot. He wears his hat and gloves in the house lol.

My concern is that so many people seem to be rushing into these visas without taking the time necessary to properly get to know their partners. And by that I mean actually spending a lot of in person time. I know its expensive to fly to some of these countries. Hell I am 18000 dollars in debt from trips to Jamaica. But I wanted to take my time and get to know my husband to be confident that he was the one for me and that his intentions were genuine. Getting engaged to someone you've never met and thinking about filing for someone you've never met is crazy. You are just setting up yourself for heartbreak. And it bothers me when people talk about just meeting in person to fulfill a requirement. Marriage is a lot of work not something to be treated lightly. Sorry I'll stop lecturing now Lol.

Long distance relationships are extremely trying on both parties. There is no way around it. My husband and I fought a lot and now looking back at it I really blame the distance and frustration of not being together. I used to get so mad at him because he wouldn't talk a lot on the phone and this really bothered me. There was also some trust issues there which have more or less dissappeared now that we are living together. Sometimes I thought he did not love me either but I know now that that is not the case. You will be fine just hang in there. Try to cut him/her some slack. I felt like you did like we weren't going to make it but we have (so far so good). Feel free to PM me any time if you need to talk.

Yeah I think you are jumping the gun a little bit by talking about marrying someone you have never met in person. How do you know you are really compatible with one another if you've never spent face to face time with one another? I waited 9 1/2 months before I married my husband- and I visited him 8 times for two weeks at a time before we got married. I understand that may not be possible in your case, but please take it slow and make sure you really know the person before you jump into engagement or marriage. I hope you are not offended by my advice because I really want to make sure you don't get hurt. I know several people who went through the process, not from Nigeria, but from Jamaica, that were essentially used for a visa and greencard. So please be careful and like others have said take it SLOW.

RANNK1 I appreciate your post very much. I'm sure it wasn't easy to share all that. Back in September I wrote a post about marrying a Jamaican, where I talked about all the negative stereotypes that come along with it as well as my own doubts about the validity of my relationship, even though I've been married to my husband for two years and together for three. Luckily things have worked out for us and we are better than ever now that he is here in the US. But I know of other women that weren't as lucky as I was, who were basically used.

So thank you for your post and warning and I am sorry for your hardship. Time to pick yourself up and move on to greener pastures. You'll find someone who truly appreciates you, I promise.

Hey my husband was able to get this form filled out for him when he checked in with the airlines before he boarded in Mobay so he didn't have to worry about anything on the plane.

Hey girl I am 12 years older than my husband and we had no issues getting through at all.

I can totally relate. I have a massive fear of flying- mostly taking off and any type of turbulence. Before my husband arrived, I was flying to Jamaica every two to three months and had to take pills and drink massively just to calm myself down. My whole body would be shaking at times. I thought with flying so much I would get used to it but I never did. My husband just flew for the first time in December and was great! Go figure lol.

Congrats! I wish you both all the happiness in the world.

Yes Pinkrlion is right. My husband's visa was ready for pick up exactly one week to the day after being issued. His visa was issued on a Friday and ready for pick up in Montego Bay the following Friday. Also, don't panick (like I did) if your waybill doesn't show up right away after the visa leaves the embassy. My husband's visa was picked up on a Tuesday and we didn't receive the Waybill number until Thursday.

Good luck and Congrats!

My husband just POE'd at JFK from Jamaica on December 23rd and said he was in and out of Immigration and Customs in less than 15 minutes. All they did was fingerprint him and take a photo and stamp his visa and look through his paperwork. That's it. No questions were asked.

Yeah mine went to issued 1 day after changing to AP. But it took us 2 weeks and 3 days after approval to get issued. Before it changed to AP on CEAC it was stuck on Ready.