kenyanqueen

If she didnt want peoples' thoughts on her situation she wouldnt be posting it on a public forum.
It'd be different if people were being distasteful in replying saying "you're this or that if you have an abortion" or "you're selfish if you decide to keep the baby", as long as the replies are constructive and her wellbeing is considered in peoples' answers then no one is stepping out of line.

There is no way to apply for it again - you already applied for it with your spousal visa. You wait for it to come.

Agree to above post. You will receive your GC in the mail and it could take 4-6 weeks. I got mine after 4 weeks

dont be dreadful the interview is hassle free.i was so tensed before the interview but all was well and quick.that i laughed at myself on my way out.

congratsss...i cant wait 4 that day to come

VJ is such a great tool to get great info and support from others... Why is it so hard to be nice n less controlling? Who monitors this stuff? It can be depressing sometimes in an already trying time.. This probly is not the correct forum to post this topic im very sorry in advance but im a new member and i enjoy reading informational posts and conversations but i do not appreciate the few people that come across as if they are superior in this process. My question is.... If we cant come here to ask questions/ make comments about our journey without being plucked out of a group of participants and being attacked for having different views, where do we go? Im not expecting to make life long friends here but i never imagined being treated in such a mannor that i felt i needed to have my defense mode on high at all times! Giving advice is great, accepting veterans advice is smart, but i dont think the people giving advice should be allowed to be so belittling when advising others. Its sad people feel they dont need to be polite just becuz they know more. Thats why we initially come here to VJ, to get responses from others who have answers to our questions. Can it be given a little more tactfully? Most people are on here with kind helping hearts! Thank u to them!

How comical to see a conservative whining about losing a gov't benefit, due to Republican backed budget cuts. The icing on the cake is to then blame it on The Kenyan. Only in Murika!

When I sent my fiance a list of the documents I needed from her, I got them back in about 12 hours. She doesn't even have a printer or scanner in her house. If you want my opinion, I'd say he is lying to you. Stalling since November is not procrastination or "Africa time," it's "I don't actually care about you." He has another woman, I'd bet $100 on it. Why would you want to marry someone you have so many doubts about anyway? We all have some little minor doubts or worries, but your situation is pretty bad, IMO.

I find your generalization pretty offensive. Maybe your husband was "shopping for the best deal" when he married you but that's not the case for every African. Beside not everybody sees the USA as paradise on earth and in some cases the USC are the ones who are not ready to move. Also immigration is not a "family matter" in my case. My family financed my education here without any issue so they sure as hell are not waiting for my husband to come and saved them. Makes me wonder what type of family you got married into sheesh

In most K1 petitions in Nigeria, the CO says there is lack of bona-fide relationship, or it is for immigration purposes. If I knew what I know now about Nigeria's process, I would of never spent my money or time or energy with K1 at all. I would of used that money to make few more trips and enjoyed being with my man, and then married him and came back and bypassed the "%$#@#" that comes with this VJ and just filed CR1 when good and ready. So much energy and time is lost....
At least with CR1 or I-130 one can reaffirm, if it is sent back. With K1 they just let the darn thing sit on someone's desk and expire. When it is finally sent back to the US nothing can be done to reaffirm the petition. It is a lost cause.PERIOD.
In our case it was not because I needed a co-sponser or lack of relationship. It was the fact that when a petitioner follows the instructions of filing given by USCIS, without having access to a group such as this (VJ) with the eye opening information and reality of what visa journey is really like. A petitioner doesn't know what is ahead or expected by the Nigerian US CO "THE GODS OF VISA" at an interview. When a petition is not educated on the facts and the truth and is approved here with minimum evidence at first and then sent then the petition is sent to Nigeria,we assume that the evidence which was provided was enough for the US therefore it is sufficient enough for the remaining process. OH BOY that is the farthest thing from the truth...reality hits like a brick wall when a fiance goes in for an interview and is giving the ax.
In this process there are many loop holes as we have discussed this many times in the past here on VJ. Also, those with ill intentions have created a much harder journey for those who are legit.
The second time around one becomes wiser, humbler and more prepared for what is ahead. As the saying goes "live and learn"...ultimately this is a marathon and not a race...one must do it gradually and with knowledge which the members here provide.
I wanted to post this subject because it is a fact which some if not most of us are facing. I hope we get more input and insightful respond. Thanks for letting me share my views.

So sorry to hear about Luigi, pets are a part of the family and when they die the loss can be devastating. I have a 12 year old Corgi who can no longer walk up and down the stairs, we have to carry her. My husband has been here since October and he has become incredibly attached to her, and her to him. Hubby started a new job this morning and she was lost without him today. We are sadly aware that her days are numbered, she has been a treasured part of the family for almost 13 years, my kids grew up with her. It's so sad to think of what ours lives will be like when she is gone. Once again I am so sorry about Luigi, you took him from an abusive life and gave him a loving home, he was lucky to have you