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I found this pretty dead on for your situation:

Child Custody Philippine Legal Counseling

This lawyers link also talks about the right to choose the parent you live with at 8:

Phil Child Custody

Hopefully it helps. Either way, I wish you guys the best!

Thank you for the Philippine E-Legal Forum site on your second link as it clearly states what I thought and most of the other posts agree on. Please read it thouroughly as it does mention children under 7. But please note the last sentence:

What is the general rule as to custody over children?

The general rule is that a child under seven years of age shall not be separated from his mother, which is based on the basic need of a child for his mother’s loving care. Article 213 of the Family Code provides that “[n]o child under seven years of age shall be separated from the mother, unless the court finds compelling reasons to order otherwise.” This is more pronounced in case of illegitimate children, as the law expressly provides that illegitimate children shall be under the parental authority of their mother.

better have your girl find a lawyer. Im not an expert but the ex-boy's mom was kinda right, once the child is less than 8, it will be the custody of mom PROVIDED that the mom can provide for the kids.

Thank you for your reply, As you state you are not an expert, but please sate your reference of how the age of 8 is acceptable for a man not a husband, or his family to state the child is theirs? The Mother of the child does provide soul assistance for the child. It was a given that the ex-boyfriend would assist in the childs private eduacation but yet he never did. So in steps the ex-boyfriends Mom but only paying a smaller portion and never on time for which the actual Mother of the child always paid the bill.

Yes I will speak with an PHI attorney. That was my initial question as to who had a good contact.

Thank you for your time.

Hello all,

I need PHI Lawyer advice on an ex-boyfriend and his families right to take an eldest child of 8 or even if the ex boyfriend and family can try to take both kids which inclusdes a 6 year old. I need to know the PHI LAW and something we can do to stop this attempt of taking my Girlfriends kid or kids. Any references of a PHI attorney in the Zambo city would be greatly appreciated.

My Girl had broken up with her boyfriend in August 2012 after the second time he was caught cheating with another woman. The first time he was caught was while she was recovering from giving birth to their second child who is now 6. He had seduced and slept with her very young teenage sister and was caught making out with her in the hospital outside her room. She walked to the door and seen them making out in the hallway.

She got smart and left him in August 2012. His family is connected by lawyers in their family and even a Sister who is a Mayor.

My Girl has been on her own and working for the same company for 7 years. She has always paid the bills and all of the kids private eduacation. Although the Ex-boyfriends Mom has assisted but on very irregular times especially when the payment was due. My Girl always paid the tuition to keep the private schooling to go on when the ex-boyfriend Mom didn't help assist for the oldest child. Seems they only want to help with the oldest???

The ex-boyfriend has been approved to work as a nurse in Canada and has a visa approval waiting. The ex has not been working for many months and most of his time he used his money to go to Manila nad ####### it up. The Ex boyfriends Mother suddenly paid half of a LOAN that was given to her by my Girl and secured by her Uncle and at the same time produced a paper and asked her to sign. The Paper stated that She, the MOM, would give up all rights to her child if brought to Canada and if she ever was to travel to Canada she would not have the right to her Son.The Ex boy Mom stated that since She was with her son for 5 years or over that she was in a 'Common Law' mariage nit a mariage but still the same. She then stated that since the eldest son was 8 years old that Fillipino law states that an 8 year old child has a RIGHT to choose which parent the child wants to go with.

My Girl accepted the payment of half the debt the ex-boyfriends Mother had paid for her borrowing earlier last year and was also over 6 months late, and said to her with Respect "I will need to take this document home and read it before signing".

After reading it is a clear document that gives up all rights to her child. Stateing the ex boyfriend can take him to Canada if he gets the Nurse job/visa.

Of course, She refuses to sign but hasn't told the ex family this yet.

Problem is, both the parents are schooled in PHI law. They purposely made this document stating her name as a 'Common law marriage' stating the 5 year together PHI law. The Sister is the Mayor of the local province.

I told her this, DONT SIGN ANYTHING. Stop letting the children stay at the house of the ex boyfriends family. They are YOUR Children. You now have a nice place that is more than suitable. If the ex-boyfriend or Mother try to get to the kids again, file a Police report and request a Restraining Order against them. Reason for the Retraining order, Possible abduction of your child or children and transfer to a foreign country with out your consent. I don't put it past this family to FORGE her signature to take either the oldest child or even both if they have a chance and fly them to Canada with their son the playboy.

Seems money of this family and their position in the community may work against her. She's woriied that even a Police report will go unoticed as the daughter of this family is a Mayor.

Help! Would it be good for her to notify PHI imigration to say her children are NOT to leave the country with the ex boyfriend?

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

This post of my question of wheather Zamboanga is safe to travel, has some very intersesting and way off comments. Some replies state I shouldn't carry a gun when I NEVER said such things in my post that I would carry a gun. READ MY POST BEFORE REPLYING! Other replies stated that I should not show up in Zambo and have an attititude that I can take care of myself as that will get my loved ones hurt. As I stated, I'm not looking for trouble but can care for myself and loved ones just like here in the USA. I simply said "I can take care of myself if no guns involved". If I am approached in a city in the USA by a thug, I will assess the situation and take appropriate measures. Yes it seems that Zambo is not the City for me to visit, but don't degrade me for being a Man that will stand up and fight when confronted and his girl and children are there and say that's not right and I'm just asking for trouble for my loved ones. I'm not looking for trouble in any City. If the poster that said I should NOT be strong and fight for my self and loved ones then that is the lay down theory of acceptance that someone else is more powerful than you. Never works, never turns out good.

Thank you to all of the other VJ posters that actualy read my post and your replies that have answered my question. Yes, Zambo is not safe. Such a beautiful City, I hope someday I can visit.

WOW, Don't get mad but I'll call you a fool and your Girlfriend a thief?

All I can say. If you think I'm the one being conned for paying the extra $50 a month when it was my suggestion? You have very little faith in man kind. PS. If this is such a crappy deal then why don't YOU find an apartment that is close to her work and also close enough to her boy's school so she can feed them lunch every day as she likes to.

PS. We are all flying to Cebu on April 1st and staying at the Radisson for 2 weeks.

Thank you so much for answering my question.

God bless.

Thank you to the persons for assesing whether my girlfriend should live with her two boys in a $4,200 php a month house. It seems quite rude to say this is too much and I only ask are YOU living in a house at this price and how comfortable do you find it. Are you living in luxery? or are you simply ok and comfortable. I'm so proud of my girl for getting into a safer and more private house and I'm only helping her with the additional cost as she still pays what she did at the boarding house and I cover the rest to assure her and the kids safety and comfort. I only asked how much a WIFI would be? Not wether you think my relationship is real. If your unhappy with your life or relationship don't expect others are too.

oh okay... are you really sure about this. I mean, i have nothing against my kababayans.. but this story seems unrealistic. i have met a lot of filipina that would exaggerate stories to get the $$$$ coming.

For your sake.... do investigate properly.. Anyone can just take pictures and send them, doesnt mean they will be staying.. SOrry to say this... how much do you really know your gf...

dont get mad.. just a piece of advice.

WOW, Don't get mad but I'll call you a fool and your Girlfriend a thief?

All I can say. If you think I'm the one being conned for paying the extra $50 a month when it was my suggestion? You have very little faith in man kind. PS. If this is such a crappy deal then why don't YOU find an apartment that is close to her work and also close enough to her boy's school so she can feed them lunch every day as she likes to.

PS. We are all flying to Cebu on April 1st and staying at the Radisson for 2 weeks.

As what I know wifi cost Php1,000 more or less. That is the amount I paid for my wi fi connection.

Thank you so much for answering my question.

God bless.

Yes it is a one bedroom with a large living room. It does has a ktichen and a CR. I've seen pictures and it is so much better than the boarding house Id'e seen with which had teens and young boys staying that played jokes on her. Not funney jokes, They locked her in her section of her room with a padlock! Not funney for a Woman and her kids. Not to mention the same young guys had drilled HOLES in the walls so they could look at her while she undressed and put her kid to sleep.

My one wish is that I could walk up and meet these young men, and show them what a real man is.

Thank you for all of your replies,

We are having a family vacation in Cebu so in April. I'm flying her and the kids to Cebu. I was only asking cause I know at a latter day I will be asked to go home to her family in Zamboanga. As is said, a future visit to Zamboanga and her family will be expected. I'm not afraid but my family is. The known presence of Muslim exprtreme is a US presence and on a target list of City that no US citicense should travel to.

She has family in Dipolg. North of the Zamboanga but still on Mindeneo island. I really want to visit her family here some day. My girl wants me to have a house built here to so we can visit.

Hey Brad it's you again, what type of plan did your girl bought from Globe? I am Globe too (Samsung Galaxy S3) under a plan of Unlimited Mobile Surfing for PHP 1,799 a month. So even without internet connection, I still can use Viber and Skype using it's unlimited 3G/4G connection. For some reason, it works wonder (on certain location). Try asking your girl what type of plan she get for her Globe android phone.

She pays the normal Globe price for having a Globe SIM. I dont think she even pays anything it's just an active Globe SIM.

Thank you for your reply,

My girls BoardingHouse was 2000 php but we found an apartment for 4200 plus water and electric. Your price seems so much lower, I wonder where you lived for such a low price of that. Was it a good place and safe?

We will soon have a vacation together in Cebu that will be worth more than I can say. My Girl recognizes that Zamboanga is not safe for me so she insisted we meet at another location. I was willing to go to Zamboanga as I'm not intimidated by anything but she said she couldn't be happy knowing my family would be scared. I still say, I'll go to Zambo and walk proud down the streets. besides guns being pulled on me, I'm very capable of my security. I guess a big man that can fight is not impressive to her, she just wants nothing to go wrong. If no guns are pulled on me, I can defend and win. I've read how other white men have been to Zambo with no issues. What puzzles me is that some of her relatives live there and she whants me to meet them someday. So I'm ok with this. Sorry if it hurts religios boundries but she is worried Muslim will hurt me as this has been the past for white visitors. I am a caring Man and have no hate towrads anyone. So can I visit her family someday in Zambo or should I look for a place we can all be happy with no pressure of my race.

Thanks,

Brad

Hello all,

Thank you so much for the advice,It means the world to me to see that other care for us and will help us. I think I will look into the Globe DSL if it's avaialable for her apartment. and the cost is very affordable for our need to talk and see each other with our CP applications like TANGO.

Thanks.

Brad and Dale

Hello all,

I'm so happy I now have my Girlfriend out of a boarding house and into a private apartment in a house located in Zamboanga City. The move allows her saftey for her and her kids, privacy, and a much needed feeling of a home she can call her own. So many benefits of her having both her kids with her, a 6 and 8 year old boys,I can't even express how happy I am that she now has this It's a long story with her ex-boyfriend 'Playboy' and his family trying to take care of her kids and keep them for their own that this is a major step in giving her back her rightful being as a Mother. She and her kids are very happy to all be together again. FINALLY!

I'm helping with the extra costs of living and water/electric among other daily life needs but we really like to use WIFI for our talks with Android cell phones using VIBER and TANGO. Can anyone tell us what would be an average cost of installing and using a DSL through Globe in the Zamboanga City for her new place?

God bless, Thank you all for any advice you can give us.

Brad and Dale

I want to add my experience. I have been using Vonage to PHI 29.95 monthy to call my girl who has Globe on a Android phone I boought her. There service is so BAD but it is a way I can document calls. The Vonage from my cell Phone with their Vonage Extentions App is Terible. It drops calls all the time and most calls I have to Force a stop of the application after Vonage drops it to reconnect. Tonight, I see Vonage cant connect and that is typical. Bit, I will still keep a a documented way I can call her and is better than buying a load from services that charge per minute as we talk for a long time on each call.

What we prefer is when my girl is in a WIFI area or at her Sisters or work place and can connect with WIFI. The reason I bought her the Android cell phone 'Samsung Galaxy or ???' is because she can download apps like VIBER which allow free phone calls between users and TXT too. The quality is WAY better than vonage. We also like to take advantage of the Android app TANGO as I bought her an Android phone with a front facing camera and we can not only txt, call but we can have video chats like Skype.

To sum it up for me, I need the Vonage to call when my girl is not in WIFI and it also helps document our calls. I just helped her and the kids get into a new apartment and my next step would be to see if she can get a DSL with WIFI so we can use our Android cell phones for the best quality calls. However, I will still need the Vonage as VIBER and TANGO calls can not be documented.

Just my two cents and I hope it helps.

Brad

I'm still new to Tagalog but have never heard the term 'Tampo' From what I read, I should be worried. LOL.. Please explain Tampo to me.

What a great topic!

My girl is already shopping for warm stylish clothes like boots. I really like Caryh responses as I am also in Minnesota. I send her pictures of our snow filled tree's and the total white background of snow filled grounds. I try to express how much we in MN love the Winter and if you embrace it then it is a very good time. I ride Snowmobile, love slidding/tubing/hiking and just getting outdoors and being active. That is what keeps you warm here in MN. I also point out that we allways stop for hot cocoa or coffee and the busy day in a MN Winter rarely will leave you cold.

It's so good to hear from others that have been through the changes of life after a continental move and I'm so glad we have this forum for me and her to discuss as she also has a VJ account.

Brad

Thank you all for your feedback,

As many other aspects of the K1 need thourough proof like a relationship, Im reading that a person with enough income at the time of the I-134 is enough. Just a number with a tax filing to prove. Seems so simple but I hope you all seen my concern. Nothing in this process is a simple number of meeting a statisticle number of pay and their is the ambiguity in all in the person evaluating the visa. Not a straight forward question and that is why I asked about adding more to the I-134 to try to help my case.

Thank you all.

Thank you all for your replies.

But as Moonescape states "Their only intersted in your liquid assets' Then the line in the I-134 Personal Property does have an affect or they wouldn't ask. A car, personal home property like household furnishing and major equipment should be included if it does have value and as far as liquidable asset then to me that is the easiest to sell if needed besides stocks and bonds compared to a property as it is individually owned. I thank you for your input.

They care about your CURRENT income meeting the guidelines, not your income from 2009 or 2010.

If you want to include the car yes you need to have it professionally appraised and include the paperwork for it. You shouldn't need to do that at all if you currently make the proper income for the household number and can prove that.

Thank you for your reply Inky,

I guess my concern was the radical change in yearly income might need more stable property based income to satisfy the I-134.

Thank you so much for your reply.

Brad

When it comes time for me to record and send my I-134, I have had a fluctuation in income from 2009 when my position at a large City in USA, I'm the US Filer, that I work for was eliminated and my pay dropped $30k and had a home foreclosure but I kept all credit cards up to date and my credit score/FICO has remained over 700, but I was fortunate enough to retain a job in the City and since 2009 am now close to making the same pay again in 2013 within $5k of the position I lost in 2009. I will be filling for my future Wife and her two young sons so a house of 4 is my responsibility. My lowest income in 2010 was $49k but now 20k better in 2013. I want to submit as much financial information as possible to accurately reflect what I make in real dollars and give us the best chance of approval. I want to submit as much financial information as possible on the I-134 to accurately reflect what I make in real dollars and what I have in Life Insurance, savings, City Pension, and personal property that is worth money.

My question is about the I-134 question #7 stating: I have other personal property, the reasonable value which is:

Can I Submit my classic car that was bought from original owner in 1992 and has all documents including original window sticker and has had a frame off restoration with all original or NOS parts? Would I need to submit photos and a professional appraisal which I know will be $50 - $60k?

Would personal property also include the several thousands of dollars in home furniture, household items like kitchen appliances that are needed for a home and house maintenance equipment like riding lawn mowers and power snow blowers, etc.?

For the guys, the car is a REAL '138 code' 1967 Chevelle Convertible SS – 396/350hp factory engine and m-21 4-speed tranny. All is original but a rebuild on the engine from a pro engine build shop required an electronic ignition due to too much horsepower. 408hp Dyno tested now. Paperwork from day one includes every oil change receipt from Southside Chevy Dealership the car was bought from in 1967. Car currently has 89K.

I guess I just want to know what I can list as ‘Personal Property’ that would have a good influence on this decision.

http://s291.beta.photobucket.com/user/BradsCarBucket/story/4655

Thanks for any advice and as always God Bless :-)

Brad

Thanks for the link. Looks like it will $635 for each child as I plan to do the AOS all at once.

Thanks again.

Would the $1070 be for each K1 and each K2 ? as in Wife and 2 kids?

Thanks.

Sending prayers. Good luck

i am not sure about that but as long as nobody knows in her ex side of the family thats shes taking the kids outside the country your good.as long as the kids is under her custody you should be ok. when i go for the interview for my kids they ask where is the father of my children and i said i dont know and never had contact with him since my youngest is born.thats it.i dont know if the ex family can make a problem if they found out that your petitioning the kids.if they have proof that they are giving money or support to the children even its not permanent they can have a right.jst hope for the best and try to do secretly same as i did even though my ex never been in my childrens life i was still worried if they make a problem as my daughter using his last name but thanks to God never have problem at all

Thank you!

That was the pefect answer as it relates to us. I have been trying to get the oldest son in her home but she lives in a boarding house not suited for her and 2 kids. My girl has recently found a home and I'm going to be helping with monthly payments. My biggest concern is the oldest boy staying at her ex boyfreind house - LOLA and she is very controling. Can Lola claim that the son is her resposibility if he stays there?

we are on the same boat i have two kids also and my oldest use her real dads last name and the youngest use my last name.never have any problem at all and they are here with me in the US now.but if the real father support the children then he has the right to make a problem.and if there is a custody battle they cant leave the country until it resolve.its all depends on what the ex and the mother agreed too but if there is no commitment between the father and the children then the mother has the right to do anything she wants for her children.

Thank you for your reply,

I realy need to know more about this situation. As I understand, The Mom is the soul provider since no marriage. The Father has NO Support directed to him and he doesn't pay but his Moma 'LOLA' does but only at certain times. Actualy missing monthly Private school test payments. I have sent paymnets now to cover this and her bourding house to stay in a clean, nice place. I really want the oldest to stay 100% with his Moma. And this is going to happen.

Anyone else have Lola issues?