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I'm not sure I understand the CR-1 Visa. My fiance and I have decided to get married in the Philippines but I can't live there. If we do get married there (and we want to) I have to come home to the USA after the wedding and try to get her here later. Is that what the CR-1 is for? The rules seem to indicate that the Embassy interview will require proof of us living together with proof of joint rent, bills, bank accounts etc but I only visit there, I don't live there. Isn't a marriage certificate and affidavits from witnesses enough? Or, is it impossible to marry her there and get her here without living with her there for 2 years? I can't find clear explanation on how it works. 

58 minutes ago, Adventine said:

***Moved to the Philippines sub-forum for feedback from others in Filipino-American relationships***

 

1. Have you considered meeting up in a third country with relatively easy travel restrictions like Costa Rica? Search this subforum for details.

 

2. If it's not worth the time, effort and expense to arrange meeting in a third country, then this one is not for you. Cut your losses and move on. Google "sunk cost fallacy."

 

3. The right one is worth the time, effort and expense.

 

 

#2 - sunk cost fallacy: This was very helpful. Thanks. Geez, I don't want to hurt her. She is so sweet and kind. 

I met a Filipina online and we have been chatting every day x2 per day since October of 2020. She appears to be a very good person and I have emotional attachment to her. The pandemic prevents me from going there to meet her. From my viewpoint, it looks like the pandemic will go on for years and regardless of Covid and its variants, we will never go back to 'normal'. I see legal immigration for foreign spouses getting more difficult, expensive and time consuming and its just not feasible to fly her to Mexico and have her walk into the US like the last million illegals that did so. Certainly waiting times, restrictions, fees and requirements will just get worse too so, I think its best to forget meeting this woman and the idea of marriage, immigration etc is looking bleak, at least for now. I know she will be hurt if I break it off with her and I will be hurt too but I just can't see a way through. I don't even know if the feelings we have are real or based on reality because we have not actually met yet.  

What good reasons are there for going through all the trouble, money, time and effort to go to the other side of the world to meet her? I can just imagine that if flights and tourism open up in the Philippines, it could easily all be shut down within hours should they decide another 'wave' of the virus suddenly appear, or if China invades Taiwan and war breaks out, leaving me trapped in the Philippines which would be a death sentence for me. What are your thoughts? Is it worth it? Do you see the future as bright and full of hope? I don't. Change my mind.

Wow. Sorry to hear about your predicament. You cando it again. I did. I was married to Filipina for over 10 years and we had a daughter together and she started wrking and running with a particular crowd and also wanted to be rich. So we divorced - good bye and good ridence! While we were married still and she was seeing someone else, I was also coresponding and chatting with my current wife. I filed for 129f about 2 months after I had the divorce decree in my hands. My current wife has been here from the Phils for 10 months now.

A littel confused about your post. Its probably just the way I'm reading it but:

- You said your wife "she would not work or could not work because of the baby." then you said " so she quit her p/t job to go to school full time and that put us in bankruptcy" - was that because she quit her part time job or because of the free nursing education?

- Also you said "She found out RN's make a lot of money so she applied for and got free education to become a nurse " - How did she get free nursing school with you working and making above poverty line income?

- You said "Now with all the welfare she gets, all the money I have to give her " - You mean she gets welfare - like means tested assistance? I hope not because you may have to pay that back because of the I-864 you signed. And also you guys are not divorced yet so why is she getting money from you? Is there a court ordered Child Support and Alimony signed by the judge? Or is it some kind of separation agreement?

Sorry, just trying to understand. It may be time to no longer be concerned about what her and this guy are doing and what they will do and make, etc. Except where your child is concerned. As far as your soon to be ex- dump that and be only concerned with your child. What kind of custody or visitation do you have?

It will hurt for awhile but you will get over it and realize that the best thing to come out of that marriage was your child. And in time you will care less and less and less about your ex and what she is doing. Unfortunately, she will always be somewhat in the picture because of your child. You're not the only one in that boat.

God bless you in this situation.

Thanks for your reply. I said she did not WANT to work. She bitched and griped about having to work but she had to because our living expenses went way up after she got here. She liked to spend money and so she did. So, she got a f/t job for 10 months but had to quit when the baby was born, so after a year of being a mother, she got into school free based on our income and her not working (Louisiana = easy welfare)and our family size. But then we were struggling and she finally got a p/t job but then started school and couldn't keep her grades up because her job was getting in the way of her homework so she quit. We were so financially strapped that without her income, we began to default on Credit cards and then car and house. So, she found out about bankruptcy and said it was the only way and if we did it, she could be an RN and we'd make so much money and all would be right. I foolishly went along and we filed for bankruptcy. That freed up just enough money to pay her child support and alimony. What a coincidence! The court awarded her child support and alimony. In Louisiana, a woman can get her divorce for free, all she has to do is file a false restraining order on her husband saying he was mean to her and even without a police report or any evidence whatsoever of any violence and the divorce comes with it for free...they just make the husband pay all costs. I on the other hand, could not afford an attorney so it was open season on me in the courtroom and they just gave her everything she wanted. They even pointed out to her that she had asked for everything but forgot to ask for the house and that if she would just go down to the Clerks office, they would do the paperwork and send me the bill. But she said she didn't want it. (she would never live in a mobile home, only losers live in mobile homes) So, in order to get free housing, food, medical etc., all she has to do is rent a room so she has an address and apply as a displaced mother of a child and the State takes care of the rest. That way she can live with bf and still get everything else.

As far as paying back her welfare if they invoke the I-864, they can just add it to my bill like they did everything else.

I usually don't offer my personal opinions on here since everyone has one you know. But I agree with your comment about the commodity. The post struck me the same way. I am trying to be patient waiting for my NOA2, and looking forward to my financee being here and marrying. But I think we all should realize Filipinas are people with hearts, souls, minds, feelings, families etc. and should offer our love and support if we are fortunate enough to find that special someone who is willing to leave their homes and lives and move to a foreign country. I feel sorry for the OP that his situation turned out to be less than ideal, but IMO, just "get another one", seems very condesending and sounds as though this could be an item for purchase rather than a fellow human being. Ok I've said my peace and hope the OP is able to find a positive resolution for an unfortunate situation.

Sorry you felt I was so condescending. I guess I learned that whole "I'll just get another one" from my ex-wife.

Hi, Don't really know where to post this but I met a Filipina online, we fell in love, I went to Philippines, met her, spent 2 weeks with her, took her to Boracay and Baguio city, everything perfect. Did the K-1 Visa, she got here, we married. She did not want to work. We had a baby, she got her green card. When she met other Filipinas here who married rich men, and have big houses, swimming pools and lots of spending money, they treated her like ####### because her husband is not rich and lives in a mobile home.

So, she decided money is now her goal and I cannot provide it because I don't have a degree and just will never make a lot of money. She is 30 and I am 52 so I know she also wants to live life and have fun but I could never afford to take her out and buy her things because I don't make enough and she would not work or could not work because of the baby. She found out RN's make a lot of money so she applied for and got free education to become a nurse so she quit her p/t job to go to school full time and that put us in bankruptcy....then left me for a man that makes more money, sued me for divorce, child support and Alimony. Now with all the welfare she gets, all the money I have to give her and whatever she gets from her boyfriend, she just goes to school full time and does not have to work. She and her bf will marry as soon as our divorce is over and then with her nursing income and his executive income, they will make a lot of money together. I only make $35k a year but he makes well over 100k. So now, we are separated and will have final divorce in a year. Sucks to be me, huh?

So now I'm alone and nearly broke after paying her 40% of my income in child support and alimony but I am 1/2 Filipino and want to keep my connection to the Philippines and I dont think all Filipinas are bad, I just got one that was and I want another one....not so young maybe. I'd like to find one already here but there are so few where I live. I'm wondering if I can get another one from the Philippines after I divorce. What will USCIS think about it? What are the rules and pros and cons? Can I even do it even if I can somehow get the money to do it all again?

Anyone here ever had another wife immigrate here from PH? Any thoughts are appreciated.