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I can answer some of your questions:
You should send an email to the U.S. Embassy in Lagos at lagosIV@state.gov to ask when your interview date is. They will reply you within a week with your interview date and packet 3 attached. They will also include further instructions regarding medical exams and how to pay the $240 fee (I believe it can be paid in dollars or naira). I have read that more recent letters of intent you and your fiance provide should be sufficient to prove engagement (in addition to photos, chatlogs, emails, etc).

I dey hear your gist but no one said that all of the 221g's issued in Lagos are due to the bonafide marriage issue. Some of us are delayed for a piece of paper that they aren't even collecting or only taking a glance at once its presented.
I don't feel we are attacking the employees and if some of us want to question their practices we can. We have a right to determine whether people are being treated fairly at the Lagos consulate or if there is an abuse of power. Just because someone is doing their job doesn't mean they are being fair and impartial.
I for 1 am thankful they are doing their job but that doesn't change the fact that we have a right to marry the person of our choosing... even in the US we can marry a murderer, inmate, pedophile.. drug dealer... crackhead etc.. Its our choice and unless the person is a security risk or risk to society why deny us or delay our desire to wed.
This is not about the CO and their wish to be 100/100 on their approval success record and they need to accept the fact that they won't "get all the bad people". This is not a soap opera this is our lives, our families lives, and our kids lives and ultimately its OUR CHOICE how we decide who we wish to create a life with not the embassy. In addition, I'm not seeing the same level of denials or issuances of 221g's in other regional threads that are considered fraud risks.
USCIS asked for certain documents and if you provided what is required why is there a problem. As with any other US government agency that was created to SERVE its people you wait in line to submit what they've outlined and you get what you apply for... objectively. If they were really trying to protect us they would put additional roadblocks on permanent residency or the non-USC's ability to petition for another from their home countries not impeding our choice to START a family. Its the petitioners choice... whether they make a good or bad 1 as to the person's character. Bad marriage choices happen here too. Most of us our intelligent people. We have suffered a broken heart before and we don't need the embassy step-parenting our choice of a 'good spouse.'
Now, we are looking into how I could move there for a while to meet their subjective idea while we get started on our life. Because of paper addiction I feel I am being forced to suspend my career indefinitely and possibly ruin myself financially to marry someone that is not a threat to others. Obviously, it would have been easier for us to settle here but for us settling here was always an option to begin with, not a requirement.
All in all, the CO's are wrong when they delay applicants for nonsense reasons.

I don't believe that anyone would lie about their status if it was denied... I think there's a kind of mix up somewhere, otherwise, who amongst our member here is the alleged lier? There might be a sudden change and maybe the individual was tired of sharing? Maybe after some deeper such a person wanted to move on to the next level by coming back to get the strength need to continue here, I don't know... But I am not holding brief for anyone that tell lies... But I feel nobody can claim approved when denied actually, it make no sense at all... Let's verify our facts and continue to help one another... Moreover, this forum is mostly anonymous posters, hence nobody really get to meet you unless you choose to be fully identified... I hope we can focus on more realistic issues rather than trying to insinuate that some people are lying... The help I got from people here in this forum made me believe that people here are truthful and not liars... May God bless all

Congratulations and good luck with everything Chi. Happy Birthday in Advance!
God Bless you and your future husband.

I was going to said the same thing. When your financee is feeling up to it, really probe her to figure out what questions they seem to be getting stuck on. Not that this has anything to do with anything, but I remember you were considering a translator for her did you end up going that route? Was your fiancee understanding the questions? Try to get her to tell you how the question was worded, not how she interpreted it. Dont let too many days pass though so that she does not forget. So that if you guys get married, and she faces the interview again she has a better strategy of how to answer ( such as repeating her understanding of the question before answering). Not saying this is the reason for her denial, but its better to cover all your ground. Interviewing, etc is in my field of study and there is something to be said of the power of interpretion. Good Luck Gowon.

Wait about a week after you receive NOA2 and start contacting the NVC. It does go through there first. Yes, this is not on the NOA2. When NVC receives it, they will assign a case number, and you can get that from them. Wait another few days or so, and call them again. If they forwarded the petition to the consulate or at least sent the electronic copy, they can give you the date. Shortly after, the petitioner should be receiving the letter from NVC with case number and stating the address of the consulate that the petition was forwarded to.

Moving to effects of major family changes.
OP - divorce and move on. Count your lucky stars that you haven't filed I-864 for her AOS as you would be on the hook with the government.
You are right, she may be going the VAWA route and for that you never want to be alone with her - always have a third party present if you do have to meet.

DO NOT SETTLE FOR A MUTUAL RESTRAINING ORDER. I will be used against you in the future. Her only was to stay in the US is by AOS through you. You have no saying on whether she gets a work visa or not. Also, DO NOT ATTEMPT TO CONTACT HER. It will be used against you at the TPO hearing. Any communication should be between the attorneys. If she calls, tell her to contact your attorney and hang up.

There are some of us April filers here: http://www.visajourney.com/forums/topic/361055-i-129f-april-2012-filers/page__pid__5732033__st__285#entry5732033
As you will see, you are not alone, and there is nothing we can do about it until the time span reaches a certain point. USCIS updated the processing times page on Sept. 13th. It shows February 27th rather than 5 months now. This date only affirms that there is a backlog. It is not reliable for much else. If you look at VSC approvals for I-129F in Igor's List, you will see it's a bag of mixed nuts. Some late February filers ARE just getting approved. However, the majority of the current approvals on Visa Journey alone have been March filers with several April filers thrown into the mix. It is moving forward in some form or fashion. The only thing we can really do is wait at this point.

Wow. I think the moral condemnation and finger-wagging that the people posted above is very misguided and has no place on this forum. Of course OP didn't help his case by making assumptions about the sort of life the baby would or wouldn't have. If she didn't want to carry the baby to term it should be her choice. However, the time window for making a decision is limited. She should have dealt with this months ago. Yes it is true that babies can live after 3 months pre-term delivery but they often have a multitude of developmental problems, physical and mental that can be life long. Also though abortion is legal in the US many states don't even allow such late term abortions unless the mother's life is in danger, if it was the product of rape or incest, or the baby has serious complications.
It doesn't sound like either of you want the baby so find a good family to adopt it. There are lots of adoption agencies she could turn to. But the question you should be asking yourself is should you still even be with this woman? Yeah the guy may have been manipulative but she still allowed it to happen. How did she not see him take off the condom? Unless she's blind of course. You weren't there so you don't know what really happened. You should consider her actions that got her into this situation seriously, not just the callous nature she has exhibited towards the pregnancy. And you'd better believe this will come up at her embassy interview. She would have a lot of explaining to do.