lynndy38

Thanks for all the reassurance guys, yes I'll be stood right next to the arrival door waiting for him, he'll also have both mine and my husbands mobile number.

One particular officer at RDU always gave me a hard time when I used to visit my husband so I guess Im alot more cautious.

His father has already booked the ticket and has said he didn't think Lew needed the unaccompanied minor extra. He will stay with him at Heathrow until he feels theres enough time for him to get through security and down to the gate etc….

He'll have his letter of consent, his ESTA and I'll talk to him about the flight arrival card he'll have to fill out on the flight.

Oh and his passport……..Jeez best not forget that

I do think this will be good for him, its a great life skill to have and will help build confidence, if I could just get that damn IO out of my mind!!!!!

Thanks so much….Harpa, he came in July with my mum and dad, but they flew in and out of Washington Dulles. You're right though I don't want to scare him so I'll keep telling him it will be fine.

Nich-Nick I will certainly call that number you're a star thank you.

I know I worry Im afraid my mind is always full of what ifs…..I just don't want an immigration officer to be mean to my baby!!!

Wait until I have to file the next part of my CR1…..thats due in January

As usual you have been really helpful on here. Thank you again.

Thanks guys,

Im concerned because obviously Im living here in the US, so I worry they will think Im trying to bring him here to stay…..that he won't leave.

His dad supports us maintaining our close relationship with lots of trips to see each other…..but his home will always be the UK with his dad ( besides…..he'd NEVER leave and miss the football season or girlfriend…..teen love!!!)

It will be his first trip alone and its going to be a bit of a challenge but he's a bright lad and very grown up, I just really don't want him getting pulled into secondary. Im looking all over the internet on the legal ramifications of a minor being questioned.

I was looking into getting a gate pass at RDU……but doubt that would ever be allowed!

Hey guys,

I got some wonderful news that my son would be coming over and spending Christmas with my husband and I, he visited for 3 weeks in July/August with my mum and dad too.

His father will provide a letter of consent like he did on the previous visit, he already has his ESTA from that visit too.

Heres what Im worrying about….

I had a few awful times with the immigration officers at RDU airport, Im really worried they give my son a hard time.

Are they able to question a minor without an adult present? Is there anyway I can meet him off the plane and walk him through the immigration process?

He has his return flight booked, and has to be back for school restarting…..would a letter from school help if I can get one?

I am here on a CR1 (arrived 17 months ago) My husband is a Chiropractor with his own office.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

Thanks guy

Hi there!!!

What you are feeling is very normal. You are about to make a huge change in your life and theres no doubt it will be a culture shock for a while. Usually when you first arrive its a bit like being on holiday, you're finally back with the person you love and everywhere seems different and exciting. I've been here 15 months now, I lived right in the centre of my home town in the UK…..I am now surrounded by fields and wildlife!!! You will find you compare everything to back home at first but that tends to ease off, of course you will miss family and friends you learn to cope with the pain of that one! Some days I find myself thinking how the heck did I get here??? Others I am so excited at the prospect of living my life with my wonderful husband in an amazing country.

Your nerves are normal, try and turn them into excitement…..life is for living and taking chances, who better to do that than with your true love and soulmate

Thank you for sharing Lynn,

Im also Lynn living in NC, but never drove in the UK so have to learn from scratch here and Im terrified!!!! Good to know its not too horrific!!!

I just showed my US husband this thread and he said the OP did exactly as he should. However I don't think I'd have dared react in the same way, Ive read too many horror stories since I arrived about coppers going nuts for no apparent reason.

Glad I saw this thread though as Ive now found out I don't let the cops in the house either with no warrant!!!!

Cut them some slack people, they didn't have many choices before DOMA was booted out. Its alot easier for the heterosexual couples to say you should never have lied. I would think about getting advice from an immigration attorney, maybe they can advise you. I'd hope that when you apply this time around as a same sex couple they'd at least have a little understanding of why you lied in the past…..but this is a government agency that you're dealing with so logic may not apply!!!! Good luck :-)

I used the library printer, I think its 10p a copy, they also have fax machines you can use too….1.50p per item outside the UK :-)

I visited my husband during the CR1 process, took lots of evidence but wasn't asked for anything. The only thing I was asked was what did my husband do…..I answered then was on my way. I think your lawyer is covering his butt as theres always the chance of denial. But to say it could affect your visa is wrong, you'd be sent home to wait out the rest of the process,providing you have been honest.

You will still need the ESTA, be sure to fill it out honestly.

I pay $9 a month on UK proxy…..its been a god send, especially when I'm homesick.

I'm not sure about the immigration end but I do know a lot about ectopic pregnancies. It is not safe to fly right now. First, the pressure changes can affect your body. You could easily bleed out in an hour. It happened to me. I had to have 10 units of blood and CPR twice on the operating table. DO NOT FLY! You can go to a not for profit hospital and have the surgery then ask for a write off for hardship. People do it all the time. Pay $5/month on your bill if you have to but do not fly. You could bleed out in the air and no one could do a thing about it. Have you asked the doc about methotrexate? Is it too late? Please message me if you have any questions. I do this for a living and I'm 100% sure that you are not okay to fly with an ectopic pregnancy.

PLEASE listen to this advice…every passing day of an ectopic pregnancy is a danger to your health. Your fallopian tube could rupture at any minute with devastating consequences. You need to be back at the doctors NOW, ask about payment plans. Its not ideal but its life…..it kicks you in the ### at times but you will cope and get through it. Your life is worth more than $20,000!!!!!

Lots of luck, let us know how you get hon xx

I moved over in April and don't have health insurance yet, I HATE not having it.....long story.Under the new Obamacare rules we'll be fined/taxed.

Anyway I'd suggest you get him on it ASAP. Ive been really ill since October, pneumonia and then a secondary infection for which we've had to pay ALOT of money for treatment.

I never thought I'd miss the good old crappy NHS!!!!

I understand how you want to be with your boyfriend ASAP but I would really suggest you slow down.

After first meeting and spending a week with my now husband of course I wanted to start the visa process as fast as possible, i was head over heels and knew I wanted to be with him forever. But would that have been wise NO WAY!!!

We spent 4 years of Trans Atlantic flights visiting each other, the time spent together totaling about a year before we finally got married and began the process. Even when I finally moved over and although totally comfortable with him its still been challenging at times getting used to living with each other full time, the culture shock, missing family, homesickness just to mention a few.

Of course you're thinking with your heart, we all do that but please, just consider spending more time together before you have him move over especially seeing as you'll be inviting him into your childrens lives.

If it was just you I'd still encourage you to spend more time together but understand if you went ahead anyway, however putting the kids in the equation I'd say you could be taking a dangerous risk and you'd be very unwise if you didn't heed the majority of advice given in this thread.

No one is suggesting you end your relationship just simply give yourselves the chance that it can be the best it can be!!!!!

Claire I too have suffered with depression but I did self harm, plus Im in recovery from alcohol addiction!!!

I am controlled with a small dose of Paxil. I have been sober for 4 years and hadnt self harmed for 2.

My doctor wrote me a letter to take to my medical with the magic words 'I do not see her being a threat to herself nor others'

Be honest, but try not to worry. I was asked about it at interview but I am medicated and wasn't working!!!

You sound as though you're doing brilliantly, I don't think you'll have an issue, at worst they can ask you to have a psych evaluation but I doubt that very much.

Good luck!!!!

I think Beckham used the O1.

I think Beckham waved his wads of cash about :-)

Ahhhhhh to be rich!!!!

There's the H2a for seasonal agricultrual workers or H2b for seasonal employees in unskilled professions. Generally for people who plan to work seasonally in an area of the country where finding labor is difficult. An example would be an unskilled profession in small-town Alaska during the busy summer tourist season.

There's also the E visa category, which are for treaty investors (E-1) or treaty traders (E-2) (irrelevant to his profession). If he happens to hold an Australian passport, there's the E-3 visa which is a visa specific to Australian citizens, but irrelevant if he doesn't have an Australian passport.

If he happens to have $1,000,000 tucked away somewhere, he could get a green card through investing/opening a business and hiring a certain number of Americans.

Thank you, I'll pass on this information. Im not sure any of the requirements will suit his ability but at least he'll have an answer as to what visa route he can take :-)

Ask your friend under what conditions would the US government let him take a US job that could go to one of out citizens. Which government thinks it's a good idea to let in a foreign worker when the job can go to one of its unemployed citizen?

The situation is when the US employer cannot find local talent an be able to document that before the government will allow a foreign worker to take that job.

There are lots of people here who can do digital printing and design. He is not likely to get an employer who will spend $5000 to get him a work visa.

He cannotly simply come and look for a job. That's not how it works.

I agree aaron and was pretty sure it wouldn't easy.

Most folk have NO idea when it comes to emigrating to another country I'd imagine him and his girlfriend was just thinking he'll find and secure a job and thats it,he can move over.

I was clueless when I started my journey, and my US citizen husband was totally clueless to his own countries requirements too.

I just don't want to give him the wrong information,hence me posting here.

Thanks again,

I just emailed him and popped in a few of your quotes.

Im hoping he's not thinking its just a case of finding any job then its all systems go......is there no other way other than the H1B or the L1 are those the two main ones for an employment visa?

Again your support is greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much for the replies guys, I get the feeling he's looking for what he does right now.......something along the lines of digital printing and design, but I don't think his present company have a US branch. I know he hasn't got a degree though.....I don't think he's a highly skilled worker.

But its a great helping just knowing the kind of visa he should look for.

I warned him about doing everything legally.......no thinking he can come on a visa waiver and just stay!!!

People that are unaware of the how the visa system works think they can just find a job and move over......I had no idea how hard it was until my CR1 journey.

So.......if he secures a job they have to sponsor him?

What if they find out he has a girlfriend...will that affect anything?

Thanks again you're all awesome.

Hey guys......

Got a question.

How could a UK resident move over to the US via finding a job in the USA?

Because Ive been through the visa process Ive had a friend contact me with questions.......

Theres a relationship, but they're under the illusion that if he finds a job in the US he can just move over and they can marry at a later date if they choose to.

Ive told them it is WAY more complicated then that. Ive given them details of this web, but as Im being asked questions I just thought I'd post......I don't want to give the wrong advice.

So.......whats the options for moving over to be with your US partner?

If you secure a US job does the employer have to sponsor you?

Can someone advise or lead me in the right direction please?

Thanks guys

I have been wondering about you.......all that fear and worry for nothing....but I was exactly the same!!!!

But with out the traffic cone incident ;-)

Huge congratulations to you both, now the hard work begins, get your house sorted and move over!!!!

He can apply, but would need to declare his previous visa refusal. His chances of receiving an approved ESTA are not zero, but are pretty damn close to it right now.

Scotland is part of the UK; the OP would need a visa to marry there just the same as they would in England, Northern Ireland or Wales.

Off course they'd still need a marriage visa.....I was talking about the actual marriage ceremony.

I married my US husband in Scotland last year because of the UK marriage laws which stipulated your foreign spouse had to reside in the UK at least 8 days before you could apply to get married then there was a 2 week notice time too....so about a 3 week wait before you could get married.

Scotland did not require the '8 day head on pillow' residence. Nor the notice of marriage time.

Thank you for the geography lesson but I am English...I kinda know where Scotland is.

Just wanted to say its much easier to get married in Scotland rather then the UK unless your fiance can take at least 3 weeks off.

:-) it feels wonderful doesn't it.......good luck, and 'see' you on this side :-)