LSnBigBear

Big Congrats. I guess it pays to stay busy and ignore the process some lol... God Speed on the rest of this ride being smooth for you and your fiancee.

As I relocate for new employment, I will be living in temporary housing with a friend as I start my new job in a week. I will live there roughly one month maybe two at most and plan on submitting our application for Visa mid to end of March. My questions are:

1) I need to order new checks. If I put his address and then change to other address before I send off the I129 will that look bad or be questioned? I may just wait to order checks until I fine permanent housing if so.

2) If I use his address and then get moved how do I change addresses so USIC is aware of my new address?

Excited to get this going.... I ordered copies of my divorce decree and birth certificate so I am very much ready as is my fiancee..

Thanks

Shawn

As I relocate for new employment, I will be living in temporary housing with a friend as I start my new job in a week. I will live there roughly one month maybe two at most and plan on submitting our application for Visa mid to end of March. My questions are:

1) I need to order new checks. If I put his address and then change to other address before I send off the I129 will that look bad or be questioned? I may just wait to order checks until I fine permanent housing if so.

2) If I use his address and then get moved how do I change addresses so USIC is aware of my new address?

Excited to get this going.... I ordered copies of my divorce decree and birth certificate so I am very much ready as is my fiancee..

Thanks

Shawn

I am pregnant by another man. my husband knows about it and he is really mad.should i just not file for citizenship?what happens if uscis find out?

If your husband is accepting the situation then I hope this means your love is mutually strong. If so then give more details as to how many months you're pregnant and when is your citizenship test and interview in comparison to your due date? You being pregnant by another man is not illegal that I am aware of. Morally yes it is wrong. But not illegal.

Good luck

Shawn

I have seen the same. My buddy had to borrow for everything except the I129. Her flight and then her AOS as well due to his financial situation. I am saving 3k for just the process for my fiancee. That should cover most situations even extra days stay in Manila for Medical if needed.

Yes it is crazy in this day and age for many wanting to go this route....

There is No Such Thing as a Smart VJ Member. I PROVE IT EVERYDAY!

As long as you get Married in 90 days. The Only Requirements are 2 witnesses of your Vows to eachother and a preacher/or authority to marry you.

Dan, you are such a Romantic. Maybe at least get her an Ice Cream Cone though. I also say. Keep it simple. I'm not into fancy myself. It just depends what you both want and plan.

I do not recommend the Little White Wedding Chapel in Las Vegas either....Wedding costs $500, full attire, Limo and everything included.... 10 months of Marriage, HELL, to get rid of her $30,000...... Priceless. I would have liked to be able to afford an Ice Cream Cone then LOL>>>>>>>> GO to JP or do something small... That's all I am doing per her wishes as well. Later we will do something for her parents and family. Right now just getting this party started is my goal....

I have to have my fiancee fly from the Philippines to North Carolina.

Going into Raleigh isn't the easy place to fly into directly so of course she will need a layover in New York which I think will be the POE.

To give her enough time for the waiting time, finger prints, and camera shot at immigration.

Is there a way to manipulate the layover time for your POE while ordering your tickets online?

Here a few suggestions. First I hate Newark with a passion. It is a tough airport to get around. However Filipinos are resliant people. She can get through the airports as long as her English is okay enough to communicate. Airports (even the rude folks in the Northeast lol,, joke guys as us midwesteners raised people always make this comment) will help her get to and from. I know from traveling to many countries that every POE is different. Some will just allow her to re-check her bag after it clears customs. This happens in Detroit, Atlanta, Houston and LAX if my old memory serves me correct. I did not fly through Newark on International flight. Are there any other people from Philippines coming in her timeframe? Maybe schedule her at the same timeline as people she met in Manila at Medical or via this sight. If not as others kicked the snot out of you already lol, take time to meet her if she is uncomfortable. I am still open when our time comes as my fiancee has god english but never flown. I wish I had time off to go back and take the entire journey with her. But I do not. I would suggest working with another person in same timeline and bring her at that time. Good luck..

Thanks Everyone for the feedback.... Much appreciated...

Include your tax ID number, any licenses you may have for your business along with any customer recomendations letters etc.... Place a letter in explaining it as ammendment to the area on form they are requesting.

Good luck

Shawn

Why are people so convinced every guy friend is out to bag their female friends? How narrow minded. Sure, many guys do this, but there are also many cut from a better cloth who just enjoy the companionship. This fear has lead to so many unnecessary fights. If this is the case, I'm also wildly attracted to all my guy friends, so in reality our friendships are a cover for our passionate, hidden lustful feelings for each other. Please

Gervi: I agree with you but he has lied... That is now the issue.. Like I said in earlier post I was guilty with my ex until proven innocent only because I was 100% honest about my past while living in Philippines.. Looking back I have learned her insecurity is because she herself cheated on her ex American husband... It all spirals over time... Being honest is best... The old saying "one never has to remember what he talks about if he always tells the truth"

Matters of the heart are always difficult to give advice too. If you love him then continue talking it out.... Men are sometimes odd ducks when it comes to enjoying the attention... I had a simlar but different situation.... I was "briefly" married a second time to an insanely jealous "westernized" filipina that lived in USA 20 years prior to my marriage to her.... She accused me "wrongfully" of cheating many times. I took her on my business travels as well as going as far as give her my passwords while allowing her to view my cell phone bills etc... But she was still accussed me.. We went to counseling and the pastor told her that men need some space when it comes to these types of situations as me giving up all my freedom ie passwords caused me to give up my manhood so to speak which he said I should have never done.. Reason I am telling you this is that as you work this out, and I hope you can, TRUST must be in there. How trust happens after this is so very difficult.. It means that for some time periods that he needs to lose his "manhood" privledges and you need to sensor what he is doing.. I was innocent so giving up my passwords etc was no issue.. Still being wrongfully accused angered me and ultimately ended our marriage... I could not take her insanity. There has been a lot of damage done in your marriage.. I will say both need to get in front of God (oh no I mentioned the G word) and maybe if you can work it out renew your vows.... If he does not adhere to what you want then kick him to the curb and take all you can from him....

For all out there reading this... There are two good books all couples should read.. One for women is "Every Man's Battle". For men "Every Women's Battle" It teaches us why we are different and how to be senstive to the other.

Good luck... Trust needs to be in relationships!

I lost my birth certificate. I found this link to obtain a copy from Indiana... Is there a better method?

http://www.vitalchek.com/indiana-express-vital-records.aspx?click_id=606297533627039746

Thanks

Shawn

These are the guidelines that are used for immigration purposes: http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/i-864p.pdf

Thanks.... I am still happy as this your link looks like the one I posted... Thank you though for the link.... Take care

Hello everyone. I was pleasantly surprised that the poverty guidelines are low if that can be a positive . Wow I meet and exceed right now to start our K1 as I thought poverty for two persons was around $25,000 yearly.. I found the information after doing my taxes as I thought I would check. Thank the good Lord I will be making much more starting Feb 20th after being off work 23 months.... Word of advice.... Don't move up the Corporate Ladder. You are first to go in tough times and then out there with a lot of Plant Managers /Directors fighting for the same job... Here is the website http://aspe.hhs.gov/poverty/

Good luck!

Shawn

Okay I need to defend her fiancee just based on my crappy love life luck..... For example my brother knows about Carmela but does not know that we are engaged and starting the process next month. He even waved to her one Webcam just last night.. But he is going through a nasty two year divorce and I just mentioned in passing while he was here for 5 days visiting that " i think I will be married by years end as I love being married" He knows I was married almost 21 years first time. He said and I quote "you don't need to bleeping get married again. Save your money" Now it is nothing against Carmela but more his current situation and my past two failed relationships. My sisters feel the same way.. 2 of 3 are divorced.. We are a close family in terms of being there for each other even though they all live 800 miles away.... Since they live so far from me I plan on just saying "hey I got married to Carmela yesterday" I know my family then will say congratulations and even chip in for a gift. They will love and be supportive.. But prior to marriage they will give me all sorts of BS as I am the youngest.. They have seen me travel to and from Philippines about 18 times since 1998 so they are use to me doing as I please and working where I want. They are homebodies from the midwest. My brother visiting me in Florida is a big ordeal for him....

And my lovely fiancee has not mentioned it much either. Her employer gave her hassle when she said she had a foreigner BF. Her Manager gave her all the bad things about how foreigners come to Philippines to play etc. Carmela never got a chance to tell them she lived at my place often while I was in Cebu. She mentioned just briefly to her mama.. All her mama said was "goodluck".. She lives away from her parents and works on her own....

I also have an odd relationship with my youngest son.... He is a Military Officer and his wife is something else. She will just use this to fuel more of separation between my youngest and me. He has a child and I don't want to cause him more issues with his nutbag wife. My oldest son is okay and will just be happy I am happy and not alone. He worries about me being alone... I know he will just say "congrats dad" and move on when I tell him...

So there are circumstances to everyone's reasoning.. We don't hide as our Facebook both has us in relationships. We share photos... We are on the dont ask dont tell... I've been down the K1 process before. Made mistakes, talked to much, got my hopes up and I got burned by a woman..... So now we are just loving each other from afar, missing each other and will have this process started after our one year anniversary and I start my new job end of this month... Wooo I am tired after my L O N G rebuttal. lol Just don't shoot the fiancee so fast until we know his reasoning is all I am saying in one sentence ,,

Well you have been given some very good advice as well as some slappin around lol.... One thing I want to discuss is your comment about "Filipinos being close to their family and not wanting to move away" I see this seldom, as well as having a company there with 300 Filipino employees therefore I see it much different. Most of my staff of 9 Managers were from different islands with half only going home to see their wife and kids two times a year. It is very common and very much in their culture to do what is best to support their family. Keep in mind the #1 exported product (if I can call a human a product) in the Philippine is "people". Nurses, Cruise Ships, Nannies, House Keepers, Marriage and unforunately human trafficing.

Factories now in the Middle East recruit pinoys as I lost some to the Middle East due to wage.

WHat we has the petitioner need to do is make sure our fiancee is comfortable throughout the process. I made some mistakes in 2007 with how I handled the stressful situations. I will not do this again. In addition find in your living city here in the States a Filipino Community so she can interact with her own kind. You should know being Military how important this is. The first time I found a foreigner friend in the Philippines was about 4 months into my tenure. I almost kissed my English Mate lol. We need our own culture even though we love our spouse very much.

Just keep her in your thoughts as you make your decisions. I would let her know the square meters (not feet) of your mothers home... 4 bedrooms to her means it could all be within 50 Sq M or 500 sq ft. Keep it simple

One more Item as I read more great advice from others. Like I mentioned I did the K1 before and called to stop it in the 11th hour just prior to her interview date being scheduled. USCIS said via phone "it is too late to notify Manila just tell her not to go to her interview" Me not caring then I just told her I cancelled and she should not attend interview. She went to interview as I heard from my ex GF via email there about 2 months after I "cancelled" stating that my ex fiancee not only went to interview but but was living in USA. She ended up with another man that was her customer at the restaraunt she worked at. Hmmmmm.... I guess she met him after my contract ended and I came back and started her process... Not a bad gig. I paid for everything and he reeped the benefits (not worth it though) which I could care less as long as it does not hurt my current process. MOral of story as I read about your fiancee. For most Filipinos, Visa in had means they will figure out a way to get here..... So maybe taking time to sort things out at this point will not help... I hope it does.... Just look at my made for tv messed up love life COL (cry out loud ). Good luck

Okay "disclaimer" for what I am about to say as I lived in the Philippines and dated quite a few women over the years and even broke off an engagement (K1) in the 11th hour and later like an idiot married a westernized filipina that has lived in USA for 20 years. BTW that marriage lasted 10 months. So disclaimer is I am not great at this yet I now believe after a year (next month) with my fiancee that I have learned from my own mistakes as well as their culture. So take what I say as you will and not desrespectful.

1st: Most of any marriage arguments are due to finances. Both she and you need to understand this..

2nd: Jealousy will be a part of your relationship early on. So forgive her for how she reacted when your ex contacted her on FB and harrassed her. In addition you being honest and dating around telling her you were doing it while you were in Philippines,,,,,, not smart on the relationship part as they never forget... But kudos on being moral and honest. You need to read her signs of if she is a (pardon me for being direct) a gold digging and spoiled filipina or is she genuienely in love with you for you? This is one reasond I waited to make sure after being gone from Philippines six months and dating my fiancee for one year are we in love or is it convenience. It is love from all signs I compare to now and my past. I finally found my lifemate and love of my life. So you and her need to really look at this now due to squabbles as is it love, money and a better life or is it the stresses this damn process causes.

3rd: You need to look and make some sacrifices as well. Yes she pulled back during the process due to the BS she was receiving from your ex. But her hanging in there "may" say more about it being love.

Now onto some examples as I have lived in the Philippines on and off again 5 years and have 14 years now experience in the Phils from my first visit.

> I have one friend from Canada that met his girl via a social. Married her his second visit. Supporting her well for the time it was taking her Visa. I knew something was up as after 17 months she was not with him in Canada. He works alot and earns well so he traveled back three times during the wait. He finally did some checking an dfound she never went for her medical which was holding everything up.. He blew up. She finally confided she did not want to leave her family. I was at their wedding and his wife is not a scammer but just is a 19 year old nieve woman..... So he got angry and reduced her money until she decides with an imposed deadline for her to get her medical... Now she is going for medical and has a change of heart and will come to Canada. Now is it money or love??

>> My other friend here that I met in Japan as we were traveling to Phils married his filipina here last August after she arrived in July on K1. He was earning 6 figures when they met, he lost his job and had to borrow to bring her here from friends and family if that tells his current status. She is having difficulty understanding they are now poor as all she wants to do is earn from massages she does for friends and his family then send her money back to her family. She cares less about them and how they live.

They fight often which was another reason I have waited. I dont want the big D three times now and my fiancee understands this and has been patience.

Like I said, I believe in my heart I have found the one for me FINALLY. I love her unconditionally. She knows my earnings have decreased as I was not a big spender when I lived with her in Cebu prior to being an executive there earning USD prior. She is educated, supportive and understanding. She compliments me and keeps me calm. She has seen my budget so she f my status and the savings needed to get this process moving and her here.

I believe some of us petitioners are at fault as we do not always inform our fiancee of the total finance picture so what are they to think "all Americans are rich".. Living there this is the general concensus of Foreigners...

SOrry for being winding on this. I just want you to know as much as i do about my failures. You seem like a good person so now you must figure all this out. I hope some other threads help you more

Good luck

Shawn

how would i be banned? if i get turned away i don't think i will get a ban from coming back, just a ban from using the VWP....

the whole reason i started this thread was to get FIRST HAND experience of someone not mentioning they were going to see their fiance, and if the officer KNEW they filed the K-1 visa, or if they just didn't mention it...

i am NOT coming there on a tourist visa

i have NOT told them i filed for the K-1 or that i even have a girlfriend there

all i want to know is if the border control officers can see on their little passport info screens that i have filed for K-1? does it show up VERY clearly right there, or would they have to search for it or put in a request blah blah. i really don't feel like straight out announcing i am going to see my fiance, since i mentioned before i have never said that before. so i think my best bet would be to just say friends again...somehow i think i will have a way bigger chance than saying yes i've been coming here for 2 years to visit my friends now i am coming to see my fiance.

so again, my question is this.

CAN the border control officers see that we have filed for K-1 visa? I know someone said that they do know about it, but does anyone have any EXPERIENCE with going there and being denied because they did not mention it?

and no more rude replies please...thanks.

From a basis of 3 years ago I understand the boarder patrol did not have access to your Visa filing as long as your requirements are met upon entry. This may have changed in 3 years so don't quote me. What I would do is request permission ahead of time. There is no rule that one cannot see their fiancee if they are in the country legally. However, I am attaching some guidelines you will want to follow.

As others mentioned... Be Honest is the best as you only get one chance at this if you falsify anything....

http://www.visapro.com/Immigration-Articles/?a=1252&z=36

my fiance dont want his family and church to know about our relationship. he said that he want everyone's respect. do u think this is reasonable? we are already married in our marriage tradition in the philippines.

Great question as I have somewhat taken the same approach as your fiancee due to a couple of reasons I will explain. First: I have gone through 2 divorces in 7 years. 1st wife I was married 21 years and 2nd only 10 months. So my family gives me hard time to not marry again unless they can interview my fiancee. It is a joke but for us due to my failed relationships I just keep my personal life to myself. Second: When I did this process in 2007 and then stopped it late in the process I felt both like a failure and embarrassed. So this time I am playing it more superstitiously and will wait until my fiancee is approved and ready to come to USA. For me I know this process is not easy and stressful. People may change as it is stressful. I feel so good with my fiancee that I want to tell everyone, but feel it is best to wait for her approval. I am waiting until after we celebrate our first year of dating to start K1 process as we lived together some in the Philippines for 6 months when I lived there. Now we are long distance as I am in USA and she is in Philippines

I have on my Facebook that I am in a relationship and no one has asked me so I am living with the "dont ask dont tell" policy. Maybe it is just I am odd but I want this to work out. My fiancee is okay with it. I live 1200 miles from my family so they will not be a large part of our life anyways. I do not know your fiancess's past but if he is older then there may be many reasons similar to mine..]]\

These are my thoughts as a man. Can't say your fiancee is going through the similar..

Hi guys! I do not know if dressing to the nines or "to kill" is suitable for the interview. I have had interviews before for the Schengen visas. Just a polo shirt, and a decent trousers or jeans did the trick already. I do not know exactly for the US Embassy. Any idea?

I know three that have gone through the interview. They wore business casual attire. All were females and they wore dress slacks similar to an Office Uniform for women in Philippines and nice shirt. Look professional not flashy.

Good luck: Shawn

Thank you for your feedback.. I appreciate your time and advice.

Age is doesn't matter to me it just a number. Some say it shameful to have a bf/gf which older to you well i say No..

why do i feel shy or shame if you love that person truly? I'am 23 years old Filipina my boyfriend is 45 white guy and i feel better to be with

him. We know each other, we love each other and more we understand each other. As some people says that were not "fit" or what other term, because he is big and tall were me is small and short. I replied, so what who care its not bout the sizes and the age its about you the both of you. Its not about the people around who gives color to the relationship, it is you and him both of you. Im gladly proudly to say that we are so happy of what we have now in our relationship. I love Shawn and no one can change my feelings to him. Even thought were ocean apart but we can stand our love for any test of time as we have strong faith trust to each other.

Carmela

First couple I thought of was Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian LOL

Not sure if I mentioned in my prior posts but my brother is 48 and his lady friend is 61. My niece is a Junior in college age 20 and has been dating her junior high teacher who is around 60 I think. Can't say her parents were happy with her choice at the time but after 2 years they are still happily together. I see nothing weird in this day and age Live, Love and be Happy!

I have lived in the Philippines on and off for 5 years. When I returned to USA first time in 2007 I lived in south Atlanta. When I went to my local sportsbar few women paid this 45 year old much attention "UNTIL" they noticed I paid mostly with my American Express Platnum card. I suddenly transformed into a 25 year old Fabio as women ages 22-62 became interested in me.. Moral of the story, American women are no different then any other women in the world. I am no fool so I played along and had a 26 year old girlfriend for a while. Just stating the obvious. Love is love and lust is lust. I will happily take my chances with my filipina fiancee.