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I did not say his wife is from PI.. My experiences are from RP is I have lived there on different occasions for work. I am more familiar with Filipinas then American women. Like I said we probably can pick any spanish country and get similar stories. IMO. No offense to anyone...

I would also like to add that I do have a few friends that met their wives in bikini bar, took them away and are living happily with no issues. It is like anything and anyone. Some want to get away from the bar scene and others want the life and attention... My two cents again lol

Just curious Shawn. How did you find out his wife is from the Philippines. He has not registered information on where she is from unless I missed it while reading the messages. You are right though, he should stay away from bar girls in the Philippines. THey are nothing but prostitues and not suitable as wives. I lived there for 4 years when in the Air Force, so I know what goes on in the bars. Take care.

I did not say his wife is from PI.. My experiences are from RP is I have lived there on different occasions for work. I am more familiar with Filipinas then American women. Like I said we probably can pick any spanish country and get similar stories. IMO. No offense to anyone...

First of all I am so sorry about what you are going through. I had similar issues with 2 ex GF's, Ex fiancee and Ex Wife of from the same country. Two of the four were former dancers as well while the other two were around foreigners prior to me. A wise friend of mine in the Philippines told me never look or go back in the event what we went through forces us to walk. I went back on two occasions and had similar issues as you. As much as it hurts move forward and forget her. I am telling you that the women in bars (for the most part) get use to the attention of other men and it is hard for them to break those ties when the newness of their relationship wears off. I can say I FINALLY wised up and found on accident my fiancee which had never dated a foreigner. She also is smart, has a degree with goals and is very good and neurtering to me. You get the total package if you look and be patient of which I never did previously. I can say I never question or worry about my fiancee being unfaithful. This is new for me. After 14 months of dating, living together in Philippines and now having long distant love while we start and process her Visa, I still have no worries. I know you can move on as well.

BTW I have been strangled, almost stabbed all due to jealousy so be aware. I believe if a woman is that jealous of us the they might be hiding some things as well. I say that tongue in cheek as with Filipinas they do have a small tendency to be jealous just based on their Spanish background from my 14 years experience in and around the Philippines and Mexico. Just be careful. You have a child so this makes it all more difficult. But keep in mind staying together for your son is not good for him unless Mom and Dad are living and loving each other the way marriage is suppose to be.

I cannot help you with her removal of conditions as I am not that knowledgable... But I can wish you luck and best wishes!

Take care

Shawn

Mike: Please understand that you must meet 125% of your state's poverty guidelines. You can look this up at http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=73c63591ec04d010VgnVCM10000048f3d6a1RCRD&vgnextchannel=db029c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD

That is the Official Visa website. So for example in the lower 48 states the minimum I believe is $18,912 per year to meet the minimum guidelines to be approved. That equates for fulltime employment $9.09 an hour for 52 weeks or 2080 work hours. These amounts will get you close to where you need to be.

From what I read and as others have suggested, I would really stop and think prior to continuing this journey with your fiancee. I broke mine off with my EX back in 2008 due to her attitude being similar to your fiancee. Stopping is not a bad thing as people change. If you are not getting along now and she is threatening or intimidating you then bringing her 7000 miles is not going to get any better.. I would run run run and start over with another woman if I were you. Time heals all hurts...

Good luck:

Shawn

Like others stated, Skype, YM, emails works well. Keep busy! I hate Sundays now as I don't have to work weekends but don't like to think about her so much... So some weekends I work and I am salary just to keep my mind busy. Waiting for her passport to arrive so we can file is also a topic we discuss. I also found taking a day off from chatting on occasions or doing the chat from phone where i cannot see helps because when I do see her on YM cam the next day it is new and fresh. Don't know if that makes sense but it works. When I notice her crying on cam and trying to hide it from me as she misses me, I then change subject or take the next day off as it seems to help us emotionally. It sucks waiting, but what can we all do. This is a good support group so I read a lot too.

Your questions came in tough to read on the VJ forum as your copy and pastes really made it hard to read and understand. I suggest you call the USICS Office at 1-800-375-5283. Pose or have your fiancee Pose the questions. Theya are great to answer your questions. Their office hours are 8am to 8pm so convenient as well.

I called at 7:30pm and was only on hold a few minutes.

Good luck!

I have had Magic Jacks for years. A few things to be careful with. First if your internet is slow your talking will be s-l-o-w like skype when you have a bad connection. Second becareful mailing one of these to your fiance as the country they live in may take it away and not deliver. I had that happen to a friend in the Philippines. It works just like a phone as long as you have an active internet connection. It is small a little bigge than a normal USB, fits right into USB connection. Then plug in your phone to the small cord they supply or just run it through your computer like chat. It is easy and cheap. You can pick your USA area code when you install.

Congratulations.......

my husband arrived first time here in philippines last dec 2010 and left sept. 2011 ( i was 5 months pregnant that time ) to visit his family for thanksgiving( he actually overstayed like 9 months but settled the amount at the immigration before he left ) and came back jan 2012 after i gave birth then we got married april 2012. can we file for DCF on that case? Thank you! Are we ( including our son )qualified for that category? Is he considered a resident knowing that he stayed here in the philippines for more that 6 months? And he has a proof of it; the contract of his apartment during his stay here plus his icard was addressed there and he settle his extensions.. your reply will be highly appreciated. thank you and god bless!!

I don't see any issues with your husband's over stay in the Philippines where it would matter for a K1 or K3 USA Visa. Does your husband have a USA residence? If so, no issues just get the DNA test done early in the RP. It cost about 20,000p total from what my friend told me it cost him. Once that is established then it shows a bonafide relationship so file away... Unless I am missing something you will be fine.

Good luck

Nice but said read....

Great Post. I do not take offense with the terms as some do. They are just words IMO. Not sure what most now expect from marrying a Filipina. However they should know we are not in the 1900's now. Women worldwide are much more versed on relationships with the internet. So the good old days of having a submissive Asian or Latin American Wife are over. They may still treat us like gold. But it must be given back to them as well.

My fiancee and I lived together for 6 months prior to me moving back to USA. I actually did all the cooking and she did the cleaning and laundry. A great partnership. I don't want a wife to be a slave. I want a partner. It took me some failed relationships to grow into what 50/50 is. I enjoy it now and look forward to my sweety being here with me. For the comment about sitting outside a cafe or coffee shop.. It can happen that easy in RP. Also in other developing countries. I actually met my fiancee just inside a Cafe/Lounge. I love how we met and how we have grown. No technology just old fashion courtship.

Some mentioned maturity levels and age. We are 22 years apart. But due to her being educated and oldest of 3 in her family ( and bossy lol) she is far more mature then an ex I had that was 7 years younger then me.

Maturity: What most have to understand is Filipinos attend school only through 10 levels. I have worked and Directed an American Company in RP exporting product to USA and Japan. I found that crtitical thinking and problem solving skills are lacking there. I by no means am saying Filipinos are not smart. Because they are smart. It is the educational and length of education they attend in general that may limit the other aspects of their thinking. I don't think it is maturity as much as lack of education attainment. I voluneered at Two Orphanages there and the Western Directors state that maybe lack of nourishment as an infant may cause some of the "immaturity" or lack of certain skills due to lack of nourishment as an infant. I can say I will take my bubbly, happy future wife over hitting the Mega Million Jackpot last weekend. Hands down she is awesome.

For those of you that think and refer to women in RP as anything more than a wife or partner, LOOK OUT!

Good luck to all

Yes she had all the documents. My Attorney took care of it all back then. Now I will do it myself as it is not so difficult except that one question now has me baffled. I will just state the situation with an document for them to reference as well.

Thanks

In 2008 I petitioned my ex fiancee but broke off the engagement prior to her interview. How do i answer these two questions 9 and 10 on the Afidavit of Support "Have I previously submitted affidavit of support for the following persons? I never had to support her as I never saw her after we broke up prior to her interview.

Many Thanks

My thoughts on this from living in the Philippines on work Visa for 5 years as well as my first visit in 1998. Things are changing there in terms of visitors to the Philippines. I noticed a lot more Middle Easterners there just as late as last year when I came back to USA. Just to be clear you state you and your fiancee had a bank account there and you lived there as well. In your profile the country you're from is India. There could be a corelation that you are not living in your home country. I also know and please there is no disrespect going from me to you, but the Philippines is known to have terrorist go through there, live and build there. Some are known with the Abu Sayif others are setting or trying to set there (I have a friend working in southern Philippines for our Government). So you maybe flagged for some odd reason. I would take others advice and re-file as from what you are stating you and your financee have been together and had an active relationship for 5 years. Age descrepency would only be if your fiancee is in her 60's and your just age 20 I would think. My friend just recently got his K1 approved and he is 59 to his now wife being 32.

Good luck

I am thankful I finally got a break. I think the Government felt sorry for me due to the amount of taxes I am paying Uncle Sam on the 15th. I am happy my fiancee did not expedite her passport now. Nice little savings. SOrry to those who just filed.....

I always had them ask for my credit card for PAL, NW/Delta. But never Singapore, Korean or Cathay Pacific. Good luck!

Wow I must give you credit as you really love her. I would have asked if she were this way prior to pregnancy but you already stated yes she was. I agree, couples counseling. But with any counseling both have to agree it is needed or it will not work. I suggest finding simple reads for her to understand going to counseling does not mean you are weak and cannot handle the situations yourself etc. But more over liken it to her talking with her many friends for advice and support. Tell her if she does not want counseling then she cannot discuss your problems with her friends or family which I know she is. Maybe then she will see how a Professional can help.

I lived in Philippines for 5 years. I dated many women. I finally figured out what i wanted and needed. I never experienced that childish tendencies as your wife has shown. If this is normal then you have a mess and need some help.

For those reading. I use to spoil my ex's. I finally listened to many men that know Philippines better than me. Never spoil them as they get complacent and once you start a set pattern you will always be feeding it. Also we all are creatures of want. They as with us all will want more too. My fiance and I read these posts and discuss as our pre marrital checklists to learn from others. Sorry you are going thru this.

Good luck!

This is true, There have been VJ members that had interviews the next day after the medical.

Thanks everyone. What is the normal wait for interview once I set her time for medical? I guess I am trying to say what is the lead time wait if for example I wanted her interview October 1st as her medical is September 20th. Do I schedule it all September 1st or is the wait time longer? I heard in Manila interviews are sometimes 4-6 weeks in waiting once you schedule.

BTW internationla communication glitch between my fiancee and me... I should have paid the extra 500p to expedite her passport.. I thought she said it was only 2 week different from normal delivery. it is a month ET now for filing is end of April instead of the 1st. Oh well Uncle Sam will get paid first on the 15th... Ouch! Thanks again!

Your question does not sound silly. There is no hard rule on this. For many of those traveling to Manila from the provinces, they try to get medical and interview wrapped up in the same week or within a few days of each other. There's a risk of scheduling the interview so close if there happens to be an issue with the medical results -- but then, an issue with the medical could impact the interview date regardless of how many days apart you schedule them.

Bottom line -- schedule interview and medical based on what is convenient for you and your fiancee.

Okay now I have a dumb question as I am new to this doing it on my own. Does the Embassy scheudle the medical and then we schedule our interview based on medical timeline. Last time I tried this I had an Attorney so I am a novice doing it on my own.. My sweety's passport is schedule by 3rd week of April so we can get this party started Thanks for answering

I was able to get my ex filipina GF a single entry tourist visa back in 2006. I was living and working in Philippines. I had the means to support her upon her coming to USA. What you must show is reason you will not over stay in the USA. You mentioned Assets that's good. We used Blue Horizons tours in Cebu to process and prepare her for her interview. costs are minimal for what they offer as they will interview you similar to the Embassy. Your husband needs to have money in an account as you will need to as well. Remember, they are looking for reasons you will over stay. So assets, property assets, good job in Phils or business will help you as well.

Good luck

Ouch so close. My heart goes out to you guys for this oversight. You can do it. Just re-apply. I hope your waiting game is not as long... Good luck!

I think we finally figured out how to cope with the waiting..... Ailenn an I now are placing a bet on who can get closer to the date of approval. If she wins I will have to eat a 21 day balot... She has been trying to get me to eat one for a year and a half. If I win she has to eat a jalapino pepper...raw!!

If it would get the approval quicker, I'd eat two balot even if they're chirping..

We're 135 days in since NOA1 and I'm about go nuts waiting...Thank GOD for SKYPE.

I've done it numerous times. Vinnegar, salt and a San Miguel or Red Horse chaser and you can do it.. It will be odd hearing crunch crunch crunch with an egg......lol.. Enjoy...

Great Topic... I am one person that went from making a boat load of money (six figures) to being displaced with my position being eliminated in 2010. Over the course of time I had to live on savings as I had gone though a nasty divorce that was final in 2010. So 2011 I worked little as an Independent Sales rep at about and Consulting at 19k (I returned from Philippines in August 2011) after spending 14 months there. This has been a concern for me as I just cleared the bar. I am now employed earning decent but not six figures. I have budgeted in a spreadsheet her going to Cebu for her NBI, Passport and Certificate to marry $200; our Visa fee $340, her trip and Medical to Manila I am estimating $1000 at the high so she and her mother can go together. Then if I can get off work $1800 for my roundtrip flight (anticipating an increase due to fuel costs, her one way trip $1100 and then her AOS $1100.

BUT as I look at this way as I have added up the following. If I would date an American woman here in my town I would spend anywhere from 40-60 weekly on one date. If I do this twice per month there is $100 or $1200 per one year of dating. And I think we all know that dating an American woman will most likely cost much more. So maybe I have an investment of $5550 in one year I am so very much happier waiting for my fiancee then dating any women here in the USA. I met my fiancee the old fashion way as I lived in Cebu where I asked her out in person. I tried not falling in love but it did not work.

If I look back at my first marriage for 20 years. My ex and I were 18 with a 6 month old son when we married. I/We were dirt poor. We grew together like it is suppose to be done in a marriage. My fiancee understands my entire situation and budget. She stayed at my place in Cebu and helped me.

Forward thinking. I had a vascetomy 25 years ago. She wants a baby. She knows she must save $6000 once she is here so we can go to Vietnam for the invetro as this is cheapest at less than $2000. So yes I agree everyone should think long and hard about this process. I sure did. I am ready for this! Nice topic.

I tried the K1 route in 2007. And through times and her problems with medical we found our love was not really love and we broke up. Stay strong and be patient. I am now thankful for my 2007 failure as I have my true love and best friend. To use a Tom Cruise term "she completes me" Kenard: good advice and thanks for the book idea.

Great Advice from everyone. Yes LAX is one place that upon International arrival you are in a different terminal and will clear customs then re-check luggage or take with you depending on your arrival airline being partnered with the US domestic airline. Someone will be there to assist her as they have TSA right before yo exit International. I like LAX's Customs and Immigration. This airport is as user friendly as they get unless you're in a hurry for your domestic flight lol as it can be a walk to your domestic terminal. I have done what you are requesting during a long layover and had someone pick me up for my 10 hour layover. I went ahead and just dropped my bag right after immigration to the TSA area as my bag was tagged through to Chicago.

If she does re-check don't panic if her bag is not on the baggage belt in Miami. With that long of layover they sometimes will send your bag on an earlier flight. If this happens just go to the airline baggage office and your bag will most likely be sitting there.

Good luck!