Redflame2012

Hi! Just introducing myself. I live in California and have started a group for people who are new to the US.

If you live, or will live, near or in L.A. send me a private message so I can give you details.

Good luck with your VJ journey!

Redflame

Hi Haley!

Pleased to 'meet you'. I live in California too! Which city do you live in or near?

Red.

_{I feel if you were sure about marrying this young lady, you wouldn't have to ask for advice...You know what you should do.}

_{Good luck!}

_{PS: Sometimes love isn't enough...}

Due to disappointing numbers, I've decided to postpone arranging the first meetup session.

Diane,

It's not a matter of 'not minding' about working illegally. You can't work period. Again, working at this stage is not an option for you. When you adjust your status, this may cause problems. Again, working is not an option without the necessary documentation.

Take care!

Red.

Having your condition is not a reason for them to deny your visa. Don't worry. Be honest at all times about your medical history.

I know you are afraid of losing love and frightened of living in Waterloo, WI....Sometimes people get caught up in the 'romance' of their situation. You are thinking of the possible impact your decision will have. Nothing wrong with that. I feel it's not that you don't love this person. Its more about can you live where he lives with everything it entails. One 'thing' does not come without the other.

I agree with someone else' suggestion. If it is possible, spend a few months in Waterloo with your hubby-to-be. Faced with the day-to-day reality of the life there, you can make an informed decision.

There is nothing wrong with being unsure.

Good luck to you!

PS: If your hesitation is more about the 'qualities' of your chap, that is another story. Personally, I wouldn't have to think another second. I'd call it off as this situation is a recipe for disaster.

You know what you need to do. No one can give you advice on this one. Everyone of us have gone through some degree of isolation whilst waiting for our greencards. Can you live in your fiancé's home town? Your 'worry' and 'depression' are red flags. Think carefully. Think very carefully before you quit your job and leave your country. Your future is at stake and if the thought of it brings tears and depression perhaps you need more time to consider your future.

Good luck!

Hiii All,

If you live near or in LA, and you're new to the US or lived here for while, please contact me.

I'm starting a social group for 'ex-pats' - people new to the US or have been here for a while. Females only. Sorry guys!

Redflame

PS: If you have contacted me before or I have contacted you, no need to respond to this post. I'll contact you soon with details for our first meetup coffee morning.

Cappuccino Boy,

Thank you for your interest! However I was thinking more of a women only coffee meetup....I should have stated this in my original post. No offense intended to the men!

Redflame

Thank you to everyone who responded. Next week I'll 'PM' peeps with the location and date of our first meetup.

If anyone else is interested, please contact me.

Redflame

Thank you for all the responses to the proposed meetup. Next week, I'll PM those interested with the location and suggested date. If anyone else wishes to be included, please contact me.

Redflame

If anyone will be living near, or in the LA area, please 'PM' me if you'd like to keep in contact. Perhaps you'd like to join our meetup group?

Redflame

Sabrina,

It's understandable. I know. I've walked in your footsteps. The important thing is to be sure this is what you want to do. The romance of the situation is different from the reality. You are leaving everything you have ever known - its like walking onto a blank page. However if you are sure, 'don't look back'. Take each day as it comes and see your future as a new adventure. Take it from someone who has been in the US for a little over 5 years.

I'm starting a 'meetup' group for new 'ex-pats' and 'old' - I wish I could have found one when I came here. This doesn't mean to say I didn't want to make American friends. It's just nice to share experiences with other women, especially as many, like myself, felt quite isolated while waiting to adjust status (ie green card). It's a pity you won't be nearer to my location as I'd invite you to join us.

Redf.

Hiii Wyld Blu,

The meetup will either take place in Reseda or Woodlands Hills. It would be wonderful if you could join us!

I'll keep you informed via 'PM'!

Redflame

PS: How long have you lived in the US?

Loving,

Even if you can't meet up, perhaps we can stay in contact via email and Skype. Let me know by 'private message' what you think. I know its not easy, especially during the first

year of being here.

Redflame

Loving,

Hiiiiiii! Nice to meet you!

It seems you live just outside of LA. Am I correct? Would it be too far for you to travel either to Reseda or Woodland Hills?

Redflame

PS: Please send me a private message with your answer. Click on the 'envelope' beneath what should have been my picture. LOL.

Elle,

Do you want to join me and Perdia for coffee one weekend? Please 'PM' me! I'm hoping to find a few more souls willing to join us and perhaps willing to meetup on a regular basis for brunch or shopping etc.

Redflame

Hi Cam,

Do you want to meet up? I'm in touch with someone else who lives in L.A., 'Perdita'. Perhaps we could all meet up

for a coffee? 'PM' me if you're interested.

This offer goes out to other like minded souls!

Redflame

Hello Anotherlostsoul,

That's such a sad ID! How are you? Have you just 'landed' or lived in the US for a while?

Redflame

Cam, Loving and Cassie are you interested? Anyone else? Remember 'PM' me. Let's get together - '...a stranger is only a stranger until you say hello...'

(Reseda, L.A., California)

I live near Reseda, Ca. Since so many of us want to make contact with others, lets arrange

a place to meet. If you are interested, 'PM' me!

Redflame

Hiya,

I live in California too! Send me a mail!

Redflame

No one can tell you what to do with your life. You know this. However can you trust this man with the rest of your life and that of any children you may have? When you are alone in a foriegn land, and struggling to adjust, will he be your rock? Don't leave your native home for foriegn shores for someone who is not worthy of your love and trust. But, like I said, it is your choice. Choose wisely. A lifetime is a longtime to be unhappy and trapped in a marriage with children.

I suspect you know the answer to your question...Personally, I would book a flight home and start my life again...If I was you, my trust in him would be gone...I would also have to ask myself if this man could be trusted with my future and the future of my children-to-be.,,, God bless!