futuremrsyawson

GOD is GOOD! Hubby and I received our notice of an Interview date for September!!! I know that I know that God orchestrated the way this played out. Literally, I am supposed to be going to Accra in the next couple of weeks and was stressing over a few minor details. I set my alarm clock through my cell phone and this morning it goes off as usual and I go to hit snooze and I see I have an email!!! Upon further investigation I see it's from NVC. I jumped up and checked to see if I were DREAMING!!! Then as I open the email further it says the email was also sent to hubby!!!! Now, I have to reschedule my trip to have it coincide with the interview date!!! To all my Ghana filers, the journey to get to this point has been an eye-opener to say the least. But, please, please KEEP the FAITH! That is key in this difficult journey. I am so happy that things are happening for Ghana NOW!!!! Your time is coming!!! Blessed Luv

At 4:38AM we both received emails from the NVC telling us our case has been forwarded to the Embassy in Accra, Ghana. Our interview is scheduled for early September. So very excited, Good news finaly. Now I'm starting to get nervous. Medical Exams, X-Rays, Vaccines, Blood work. Updated Police Report, Last years income taxes. All needs to be done quick, quick, quick. So stinking Happy !!

thanks for the information about your fiance's interview. i am sure everything is going to okay once you guys submit the phone records. information like your helps people like us to know what to expect. i went for a tourist visa last year to go and visit my girl friend and so i was armed to the teeth with documents but the guy never even asked me to see a single documents!!! ! i got a 5 years multiple entry visa anyway...so all good!! i was thinking i would have to provide lost of evidence to Ghana since i told the CO i was going to visit my girl friend. but nothing. i was sort of pissed because i spent sooo much money to print out lots of documents. you never really know what to expect from the COs
when it comes to my time for the interview, i will bring every little evidence i can find. i will bring so many documents that one create a whole library out it..hahaha

Biggest myths for women about their men: "Oh, he'll change".
Biggest myths for men about their women: "She is not gonna leave me".

If you can write this sad tale it shows me you arent lost or confused. You know exactly where you are & whats going on. Living it is bad enough without writting it down.
I am sure you know the only thing to do is get on with your own life. He can learn to clean his own house or have one of those internet connections bring a mop. The huge suprise is that his Mom doesnt call. She helped create him & knows not to call. She spent years behind the mop.
Should you go to the AOS interview? Your must be joking. If you do you are not bruised. You are in fact broken.

Hello VJ family,
Today my fiancé received a call from the U.S. Embassy in Ghana, and I was as shocked as she was when she told the news. She said the embassy called her and asked her if she had all her paperwork together, and she said yes. They asked her if she would like to come in for her interview on August 17th instead of January 9th. I almost hit the floor when she told me this, GOD is great. Less than 3 months and she has an interview in 3 weeks from Ghana, that’s unbelievable. Is this normal, has it ever happen before. The only problem is she really isn’t ready, because she didn’t get her medical and she needs her police clearance certificate from Ghana which takes about 10 working days. She is going to the police station tomorrow, and she is going to call and set her medical appointment also. These are the only to things that must be done, but here’s the big question. If time isn’t on our side, will they still give her the interview pending her medical and police clearance if she goes there on the August 17th.

I absolutely HATE that our fiance's are coming from a "High Fraud" area... Sometimes I'm thinking, why couldnt he have just been from England or somewhere...lol But that wouldn't have worked because I absolutely LOVE Ghana, and him being from Ghana is probably the reason he is so honest, respectful, humble and responsible (which are all the reasons why I'm CRAZY about him). So I guess we are stuck dealing with petty issues like this. But I agree, if it at all apears like you are already married... Dont do it. I was thinking of including a picture of me in my Bridal gown (yes, I already bought it.. I know I know) just to show proof that we are planning a wedding. But I changed my mind when I thought about the fact that it may easily look like we have ALREADY had the wedding. So I guess its just the game that we gotta play for now. May Allah reward us greatly for this struggle.

Well todays was our interview so it went like this: We arrive at embassy 6;30am and we enter embassy 730 the wait was about three hours called once finger print 1 hr later called again for additional eviedence and 10 minutes later called for interview and questions are as followed;
1.who is petitioner
2.where did u meet
3which website
4. refer to my father's ask who he is
5 how long have u been married
6. has ur wife been married b4
Now questions to me:
1.does ur dad still work
2.do u work
3. how do u find the money to come to ghana
They do background checks on us the us citizen there was a lot of personal stuff that came up i was very surprised that they new wat they did, there were alot more question for me but very personal i do not wish to share please understand the interview last 10 minutes at the most BE CONFIDENT..P.S I DID TAKE MONEY GRAM RECIEPTS BUT THEY NEVER ASK FOR THEM SO I NEVER SUMMITED THEm.. GIVE ONLY WHAT IS ASKED DO NOT GIVE MORE BCS IT MAY RAISE MORE QUESTIONS....I HOPE THIS HELPS ALL MY FRIENDS ON VISA JOURNEY....A ENDLESS SMILE TODAY

Now these are the kind of Naija threads I like. It brings me such happiness when the petitioner is doing what she can to understand her Naija man. Since most of the petitioners are USC it is very important that we make it our business to understand the Naija culture, to understand the role of a women in a marriage to a naija man and understand the role of a naija man in a marriage. The reality of it is there is really no difference because the good book (the bible) spells it out for us and if we follow that instruction our relationship shall endure all test and trials. That is my advice for individuals going throught the process and seeking a relationship with there SO. Now my husband (then Fiance) has been here since Nov 2010 and I have to say after all the waiting and all the paperwork, countless visits, so many phone calls and chats that I cant even count it was WELL WORTH IT!!! I believe the long distance put communication in the forefront because for that time that was everything our affection,intimacy,and attention. If we didnt communicate we had nothing. Now I was able to go and visit as often as I wanted so I was happy about that so I was there like every three months but the good bye was super hard the infamous wall (the one you walked behind in order to go through immigration when you were departing Lagos) that separated us in the Lagos airport made me mad everytime. I have made it my businees to understand not only my husband but Naija culture we speak pidgin to each other in the house about 90% of the time. We eat Naija food in the house about 75% of the time. I have also made it my business to understand what is expected out of a women married to Naija men and how if two nigerians were married would interact. This makes my understanding and my everyday life so much better so when there is a bump in the road which arent many because we understand each other I ask myself (wwanwd) what would a Naija woman do?........lol Anyway let me get off my soapbox my man is here and I am loving it and the LDR only made us stronger....

I couldn't agree more with understanding the culture and the difficulties of not having modern technology in the process! I've been apart from my fiance for almost 6 months now and it has been difficult because he has no internet and didn't actually have regular cell phone service until last week (a new cell tower was built and it made me overjoyed!!!!). I think all of the difficulties of keeping a relationship together long distance will definitely make us stronger as a couple when we are reunited again. I also completely agree that understanding your fiance(e)'s culture is extremely important, I was lucky enough to live with him for a couple of years, which helps us talk about mutual friends, his family, things that happen around town and in his daily life. And I showed him pictures of my friends, and he met my parents, so I try to talk about my life in America for him to understand too. Communication is extremely important. Plus, he's seen me at my worst (i would get pretty sick while in Mali, plus emotional, not a good combo!!!!), so if we can handle each other then, we will definitely be able to handle each other in america!!!

Another red flag is a man that is overly affectionate in Africa. When you are there you almost never see public displays of affection. Couples don't hold hands , don't kiss. So if he is over the top touchy feely he trying to prove something and not acting within the norm. Although we are still together and have no relationship problems I remeber being in a crowded market once and it was a sister in law that held my hand when the crowd got thick. He was right beside me but she kept me close. In the market I noted if 2 families where shopping the men were together and the woman where together, the men would be summoned when more cash was needed. This is a culture where men eat before women and children. Sneaky internet behavior is a warning for men anywhere.