LinayMiguel

LOL... my feelings exactly

This is one of the greatest topic I've ever read!You think you know other's experience but we have no idea jajajaja. But is funny how we all identify with our experience about having long distance relationships. Sometimes it sucks, but the distance has taught us how much we love each, and appreciate every single second we can share together, made us appreciate our relationship even more cause we basically had to fight for it. There's a saying in spanish that basically says the good things in life are the ones you have to work your #### for. JAJAJAJAJAJA we see other relationships, normal and regular ones and I feel like we are not like them, we are so closed to each other, we love each other so much and we never take anything for granted. I learnt that is not about how much time we spend together is about quality time, choose well our battles and fights.
Maybe sounds crazy but I think we all here are pretty lucky about finding our real soulmates, and fight for been together. I think we are all bless despite all the wait, anxiouness, all the sadness we feel everytime we miss our loveones.
A week ago OUR visa was approved by the embassy and the only thing I'm waiting for is my passport. My fiance left 2 days ago, with all my clothes and some of my belongings. And he's waiting for me at home. It's weird start packing your stuff, I quited my job yesterday and I work til friday. I still can't believe that we finally made it after 7 month of long waiting. I know that we're gonna fight and argue, sometimes good days, sometimes bad days...but we both know our way back home, and he's my home. Everytime you'll fight, remember all the things we all had to go through and think about all the people who were denied and they are still fighting.
I've seen tons of couples who basically live in the same place, but they're NOT together...being "together" is not about 2 persons in the same room, means 2 people that love each other, share, talks, support each other everyday. I don't need to be in the same room with my fiance to feel that we are together, cause we already are. Like a song in spanish says: "Uno no esta donde esta el cuerpo, sino donde mas lo extrañan" I 'll try to translate :"We are not where our body is, but where they (our loveones) miss us more".
I hope you all make it, and finally be with with your loveones. God bless you all
Andrea & Henry

LOL... thought we were the only ones who did that!!!

Completely ramdom, I know... but I am very curious as to how other people do it. For me is a first time. I am madly in love with my boyfriend (soon to be husband) who lives in another country. I never thought I would be the one to do a long distance relationship. NEVER in my wildest dreams I thought I could... but true love takes us to different places, and makes us do things we thought we never could.
It is, without a doubt, the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but we are soooooo worth it. We have our ups and our downs, but most importantly we are always there for each other. I just wonder, how other people do it? how do you deal with the distance? Just curious...

Completely ramdom, I know... but I am very curious as to how other people do it. For me is a first time. I am madly in love with my boyfriend (soon to be husband) who lives in another country. I never thought I would be the one to do a long distance relationship. NEVER in my wildest dreams I thought I could... but true love takes us to different places, and makes us do things we thought we never could.
It is, without a doubt, the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but we are soooooo worth it. We have our ups and our downs, but most importantly we are always there for each other. I just wonder, how other people do it? how do you deal with the distance? Just curious...

since this is my second round of a visa journey (first one two years just to get the noa 2 in the end visa not issued)
i have i believe the right to state im an expert on waiting.....
skype daily......text daily.......keep busy with things so that i dont stop and think to hard about anything.....
the one thing i learned the hard way was never give up......if both parties are determined and want the relationship to grow you have to keep hope alive.....once one of you gives up the relationship will end........(i was not the one that gave up)
sara

Good lord what kind of cesspool did you create and decide to take a swim in?
I'm speechless and sorry to say baffled at your stupidity (which you call nice).
You need to listen to yourself and look at your actions. How can you file a report with ICE when YOU agreed to marry your wife ONLY for her & her kids to get GCs? Sir you were an accomplice, I'm surprised that you didn't get in trouble.
Anyway, as I said, you and only you got yourself in this hellhole so you better get professional legal advice to see how you can mitigate your financial obligations to your wife and step kids.

My personal experience:
My ex, within a few months of separating, brought a woman to live with him at his house while he had our two children with him for his allowed time. I was never told anything or was never asked. When my children came back, my oldest mentioned about "daddy's new girlfriend"
When I asked my ex about it, he didnt even want to give me her name. I, of course, found out pretty quickly who she was (without being intrusive in their lives and without disrupting their privacy) and come to find out, she has a criminal record and that is why my ex didnt want to give me any information. I spoke to 3 different lawyers, and all of them told me that I have no "legal rights" to do anything about it, that he is allowed to bring anyone to live with him and I couldnt do anything "legally" about it. They also told me that my ex "legally" DOES NOT have to tell me who he brings around the kids or who comes to live with him. We live in FL...
Good Luck and PM me if you need anything else

If he's yelling something like "OMG! You're going to hit that tree!!" then it's fine. Other than that, don't get used to it. Even if you don't mind right now, if he gets used to yelling at you all the time, it will eventually escalate into more complex issues.
Also, by what you said, you're a good driver already. Go practice with a friend for a while, then go take the driving test with said friend or by yourself. Once you pass, share the good news with the husband.

Little towns with small minds that don't allow high school dances.
You know what else used to be more shameful than a divorce getting married?....an inter-racial marriage...imagine that?

And a marriage isn't defined by the wedding. It's defined by the love of the people involved, not society and certainly not you.

awww..
sorry to hear.. i am sure it is what is best for you.. at this moment in your life..
best of luck!!
but it does not mean, you can't come back and post
we are all part of the VJ family here