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Forgot to post my timeline:

July 2011 - Applied for VAWA with I-765 and I-485 with fee waivers - receipt date Aug 4, 2011

August 10th 2011 - Received NOA's for all 3, fee waivers accepted

August 26th 2011 - Received EAD (never did receive prima facie. I guess they issue the EAD quickly in lieu of prima facie)

Silence for several months

Early July 2012 - Re-applied for EAD based on pending I-485

Mid July 2012 - Received NOA for 2nd EAD

August 1st 2012 - Received EAD (also very quick)

Silence for a few more months

October 26th 2012 - I-360 approval (notice said it was approved on the 22nd)

November 19th '12 - Case transferred

I think there's someone else here with a similar approval and transfer timeline. I don't remember who it is.

There you have it. I did not receive any RFE, and Catholic Charities is my legal advocate.

Hi Everyone,

So I thought I would write a quick note, introduce myself, seeing as Im now part of the VAWA group.

I married my US citizen wife at the beginning of the year. We filed my adjustment papers in July. In March time she started becoming increasingly emotionally and psychologically abusive, in part due to a heavy addiction to alcohol and drugs. I tried to help her through these problems no matter how many lies I was told. We were married, and my job was to try and fix that problem and try and ignore all the abuse. I had my pending adjustment used against me by my wife almost weekly, with threats to revoke her side of the paperwork. One time she was so drunk and emotionally abusive I threatened to leave the relationship if it didn't stop, to which she just laughed and told me I couldn't leave as I had nowhere else to go, and if I left she would get me deported the next day. About a month ago I started making plans to leave her, but couldn't get very far as my EAD took forever to arrive and I had no access to any other funds. The day after out interview notice came, she changed the locks on our house, cleared out and cancelled all our bank accounts, disconnected my phone, ended the relationship via electronic communication, and left me for dead.

I'm now in the process of trying to figure out my VAWA application to file before our interview date in a couple of weeks.

I don't have any money, so I can't afford any legal help, and legal aid can't help as Im not a permanent resident in the states. Therefore Im forced to file on my own. Im scared and terrified every day, and Im even more terrified I wont get this package in on time. I don't really know how to put the package together, so Im trying to learn as much as I can, get it sorted ASAP, all whilst now applying for jobs with all the free time I have, now that I have my SS number. Im now somehow trying to figure out how to start seeing a therapist/counsellor, so I can start getting the help I desperately need, as well as for my paperwork...somehow without paying for the time being.

Its all a bit of a mess, but Im trying to keep positive, and get through this as quickly and as smoothly as I can.

This is my story so far

Sorry about your experience Dewave2. You're among friends here so we'll help each other however we can.

Dewave2 I'll post some resources for you in the VAWA thread, in case there are other male victims that could benefit.

I have a quick question .i have filed my vawa on oct 25,2012

And I have one of my friend who is my witness who have seen that abuse .and he is willing to write me affidavit shown that he has seen me going through with my wife and her cruelty .like I have already filed if I want to send them that letter can I do it or should I wait for them to touch my file or send me rfe.please help !!!!!!!

Sahilkundra, you should have your friend write his affidavit and you should hold on to it. If you're sent an RFE for proof of abuse, then you can send the affidavit. Like sandranj has said many times, don't send unsolicited mail to Vermont for your VAWA case. It may never find it's way into your file if you do. Wait until they ask for it.

I guess it's time for me to finally post here. I've been following this forum for over a year, and am only now compelled to post to help others like me, who've been through the pain and trauma of domestic abuse.