crazykuya73

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

I guess I should consider myself very lucky. My future-in-laws doesn't expect me to pay them and they told me, "Just love her with your heart". I done that and alot more. I was upfront and honest with her parents. I told them I'm not rich and don't drive a fancy car, but "I love your daughter more than all the money in the world". I even asked her father for her hand in their Visayan dialect. I still continue to learn to show them I respect them and their culture. I told them whatever money I send them, its up to them how they spend it or save. They didn't have to feel obligated to me or anything else. I told them to live their life the way they want.
You seem to act like you're the expert of the filipino culture ? My fiancee has read your thread and her thoughts of your knowledge of the filipino culture.. Well.. One word summed it up.. CLUELESS ! I read most of your threads, including this one and one previous about your last trip there. So many things should be kept to yourself and not for the whole world to know. This is a free country and you can post whatever comes to your mind, but think long and hard before you do.
I have two filipina aunts (by marriage) and both of them were already here when my uncles married them. I learned some about the culture from them and if you think you are going the be "Amo" (boss) of your future wife, you better think again !
I sent them the links to see your comments for themselves and they had some choice words... Loser and IDIOT were the nicest ones I heard.
Do yourself a favor ? If you truly love your lady.. Keep the personal stuff to yourself and you won't be subjected to all the backlash.

darren likes to give so much information bcoz he likes the attention that is given to him by all the members who posted here... same as in the village too he liked the attention that was given to him by the village thats why he loose out of control in spending his money. its already sickening hearing about the MIL issues now he is pulling out the ex issues... Its a never ending drama... you can almost make a tele novela out of your dramatics.

Thats just sad 19 and 44 i see 2 things here, poor Filipina looking for a way out and rich American buying a young slave.

Watch it Dan...calling the RUBs morons is a violation of the TOS.

Darren, I'm shocked and disappointed by your post/thread.
One reply said: Run Run Run. Hard to run 6000 Miles . The bait was set. A wealthy american serching for a young lady.
I'm just disappointed in what you said.

Darren,
As I mentioned in a previous post quoting you, you have a lot to learn. I hate to say it, but the way you are setting up this relationship I think you are creating some problems for the two of you. I also mentioned earlier not to leave the wrong impression with her family but I may have been too late on that comment. I'm sure their expectations are higher than you imagined.
I think you really need to scramble at this point. It's going to take a lot of long conversations between you and your future wife to set things straight. Concentrate on your relationship with her now. It may be hard for her to open up to you and express her true feelings at first. Be prepared for that. Don't try to control her every move, it will only lead to trouble.
Have you introduced her to any Filipinos here yet? They will be able to help explain things to her in her own language about your relationship with her family. She needs another friend here besides you. Preferably someone who has gone through what she's going through.
Good luck to both of you,

She is mine now?
I control you?
Who wears the pants and dresses?
Purpose of your post? You have a fiancee not property.

There is a difference that we need to draw between "degrading comments" and honest comments that intended to help OP but OP does not like them. The bottom line is
1) that if you do not want to hear advice that you do not like do not post anything. This is not the place to seek approval of your actions (sometimes illegal or silly). This is the place for seeking help
2) If you are voicing your opinion be prepared to hear opposite opinions, which do not agree with yours
3) If you are committing or trying to commit clearly immoral acts such as: a) Trying to make co-sponsor to pay your bills despite the fact that co-sponsor was nice enough to sign I864; b) Commit immigration fraud; c) Seek advice on how to immigrate into US illegally; d) Divorcing your petitioner after receiving temporary card after clearly fraudulent marriage and trying to stay in US; and many-many other questions on committing acts of immoral nature that I see on this site. BE PREPARED TO NEGATIVE OPINIONS.
If you follow these 3 simple rules you are OK.
The only time I agree with the OP where there is no place for negativity is when people ask questions, even seemingly stupid. Either answer question or move on. This situation I agree with OP.

Hey bluemoon...
I read some of the comments you recieved here and some of them were pretty harsh. We all make mistakes in life and its important we learn from them. Wish you the best of luck and you do what's best for you.

I would go talk to a lawyer and figure out what the next best step is. No one on here is a lawyer, nor are they God. They have neither all the information or the right to judge. Good luck on whatever you decide to do!

ya know, some people on this site are soo immature! When somebody asks a question they aren't asking for you to judge them they are asking for your help. SO if you think the person is an idiot than keep it to yourself, YOU can be the bigger person and just not comment on the topic.

Ive been waiting over 2 years to get approved to bring my wife to the usa, and spent thousands of dollars and I am still waiting. I guess we just need to fly to mexico and hop the fence if this is the case. Clearly the government is sending the message that USCIS is broken and they dont care
Ive been waiting over 2 years to get approved to bring my wife to the usa, and spent thousands of dollars and I am still waiting. I guess we just need to fly to mexico and hop the fence if this is the case. Clearly the government is sending the message that USCIS is broken and they dont care

More work for USCIS less time for legal people like us.

Well I have to work somebody put a muzzle on The little one please while I'm gone

Back to work so take your cheap shots little one. You do your best when others are not looking

I have no anger at all, not even any anger that is out of control. I see that policy for what it is, because I am informed about its real intent. So you lash out at the messenger because you do not like the message. Ok!
I honestly feel you posted that because you thought it might be of help to someone here, it just might help someone...I get your reason. And I merely stated that it was not likely to help most people here, because people here decided to enter the country through the front door and deal with the bureaucracy. And that policy would benefit those that entered through the back door.
I know you do not like the "back door" comment, but it is what it is. If Obama really wanted to help the people of the VJ community, he would sign an executive order putting into place a policy insuring this process was speed up a few notches and streamlining the reams of paperwork involved in bringing their loved ones, wives and fiance(e) to the country. Same goes for millions of others seeking to legally enter the country to be reunited with family or those just seeking a better life.
But that won't happen, nothing to be gained from doing so.

We're in America. Speak English.

No sarcasm LOL you started with cheap shots right from the start . Ms chill pill
Maybe a you need to open your mind. Because obviously
Your is closed

That's right everyone else is angry . LOL
Your first response was playing the poor abused immigrant card. Everyone else is just haters right LOL
Now take your ball and go home.
But before you go remember. Do it legally and nobody else will care. But don't try to play the pity card if you broke the law.