Justin and Kate

Hey, dear VJ's members!!!! Thank you SO SO much for being so into my post! Your comments helped me a lot....I gethered all infor you posted and after thinking for a while with my future husband we decided no to take this risk. He's so affraud to lose me !!! SO we doing Florida this time and will take cruise to USVI for our 1 year anniversary ! Sounds not bad, huh? thank you everybody one more time!!! I dont know what to do without you all guys

this comment doesn't sound humanely ... "just kick her out".... she is a woman with 2 kidds who left her country and everything to be with a man....well....who maybe even doesn't worth her love....

Well said! It's easy for an American to change their mind and go back to their lives but for the person leaving their country it's a MUCH bigger risk and change...and I'm the American saying this. You know my Russian fiance actually wants us to do our bedroom in wallpaper...blah lol. But then I think she's leaving her who world there to be with me so if something like wallpaper will make her more comfortable it's the least I can do. Without knowing what this guys problem is I think it's very rude to ask someone to leave in just 2 weeks! For over a year {I imagine} this woman was right for you then after two weeks here everything changed? Not cool!

Reading your lengthy post I can't help but see you as a guy who is way too obsessed with sex. Is that really the main reason you brought here to the US? I sure seems that way.
Intimacy is something that will come natural when a couple feels comfortable with one another. Your constant nagging about her doing you even if she doesn't feel like it won't help putting her at ease. I also doubt that your porn collection will help.
Real intimacy starts in the brain; it's not a purely mechanical act, at least not for women. What you need to do is make her feel welcome, cherished, as somebody who will complete you and is looking forward to a wonderful life in a wonderful country. If you can't pull that off, all you may be able to achieve is a woman who gives in to your demands as often as she feels she has to. That's not a basis for a marriage. You may as well spend your cash on hookers; they'll give you exactly what you bargain for without having to put any effort into this.
Look, I have no clue what your fiance's motives are as I have never met her, never heard her side of the story. Seems to me like you haven't heard it either though.

My fiance's visa interview at the USEM Manila Embassy today was a success. I am happy to announce that her K1 Visa is on the way! She was APPROVED! PRAYERS PEOPLE and HAVE FAITH! Believe! Thank you all for all the very vital information that I got here! VISAJOURNEY ROCKS!
Any suggestions for the cheapest one way airfare?
What about the CFO seminar, should we wait for the visa before proceeding?
Thanks again Peeps!
From Weng and Jet

I'm not sure if this gives you any more hope or not, but I have a friend that recently was able to change his fiancee's interview date by calling and giving his reasons. They had already purchased plane tickets and had the whole wedding planned before they received their interview date. When the packet came the date was about 3 weeks after the date they bought the tickets for. He had been working with someone from his local senator's office and they were able to have some influence I gather. They changed the interview date from July 21 to June 23. She made it to America on July 1st and they are going to be married soon

When we had to reschedule our interview I called the Embassy in Almaty and the people who answer the phone are locals hired by the US government, but there are USC that are working in the Embassy. I found the Embassy in Kazakhstan to be very efficient. In fact too efficient. They sent us the interview information and medical information and the interview date which was in less than two weeks. This was a problem as the medical results took more than two weeks to get.
I would have the USC call the Moscow Embassy and explain the situation and see if they can accommodate you. After all it is now in their hands not the USCIS or NVC. Every Embassy is different and as others have said it does not hurt to ask.
Good luck and congrats on getting an interview date.
Dave

Back in 2009 during our time there, I emailed them more than a dozen times. Always received a reply within about 3 business days; most were short and sweet. Didn't remember any run-around answers or grammar or spelling issues.
Email them and request your request. No need to be lovey dovey about it, just state why you would like an earlier date, if at all possible.

It doesnt hurt to try =)
I think you can do it. She told me that most girls were able to get faster dates for interviews..... Good luck anyway!!!!

Never say never and please do email them. Be professional and courteous. They are USCs like us and they will do all in their power to accomodate, I do believe.

You don't have a good answer because both the immigration system and human nature are imperfect. You've definitely lit a fire and many have shared good opinions and thoughts. So now I'll throw my nonsense in as well and waste some more peoples time.
First let me say - fraud is fraud - I am not addressing the foreign Charlatans.
Though I am not a fan of "try before you buy" - I do think that even folks who took their relationship seriously can have a moment of unsteadiness or a few threads unraveling of uncertainty whether they are the USC or the Beneficiary.
Reverse the situation.
How many of you are ready to say today that you will give up EVERYTHING that you are accustomed to here and HAPPILY move to the countryland of your fiance?
Some folks are fortunate to have fallen in love with someone from places where the US opens its doors to you for visits. For folks that do not have the luxury of 'free travel' entry, such as my fiance in the Dominican Republic, how do you really give them the opportunity to understand and experience what life will be in your neck of the woods? Language, culture, customs, financial constraints, predjudice, etc. are variables that impact your happiness. The simplest things can make daily life miserable. How do you explain snow and freezing temps for weeks on end to someone who has never left the tropics?
The time and money I have spent on plane tickets has not only been about getting to know him and his background better, but for me to know the country and decide if I am WILLING to MOVE THERE PERMANENTLY if his a$$ gets denied entry to the United States...
How many of you have really considered your "Plan B" if living together in the US is NOT an option? Ready to live humbly in their land if necessary? Have you checked into what other countries you could enter together and live in permanently if you dont want to live in their country? Or would you DUMP your Beneficiary because it would just be 'too difficult' on the relationship? Blah blahhh blahhhh Waaa waaaa waaaaaa.... cry me a river......
That is what we essentially ask them to do.
We take months to make our final decision before WE decide to petition the person. Often times we stomp around through their country and get the perk of entering the situation with eyes more wide open then theirs. (And dont try to fool yourself, once you get to that point, it is OUR decision to petition no matter what folks say about mutual. No matter how much they are in agreement, the final say still lies with us.) Why is it incomprehensible that our beloved beneficiary might need a little bit of time to be reassured that they have made the right decision too? A chance to feel a little bit in control? An opportunity for their eyes to be opened?
Personally, I know if I unwittingly followed a man that I loved to Siberia, I probably couldnt hack it. My "Evil Queen Quotient" (aka ####### quotient) would go up dramatically. No doubt, I would be A DIFFERENT PERSON than the one he knew before......
Anyone can walk away from a relationship due to causes known and unknown. That is human nature. Unfortunately, the outcome after 90 days or 990 days can be exactly the same. A desire from their part to see what they are getting into should be respected. Our relationships havent weathered a 10 year storm.... they are all pretty much 'newly founded love.' People shouldnt be penalized.
The "tools" we have at our disposal to navigate immigration are not the best. Financial and free time dont permit folks to fully explore 100%. Most of us have work obligations that screw any chance of spending time to be 100% sure. I'll take 95% and use part of the 90 K-1 Visa days if he or I have to secure the last 5%.
Both sides championed by the folks here on this board have merit. Sucks when a plane ticket to your loved one is $2000 and you only get 2 weeks vacaton to be with them... But a K-1 isnt going to change what you already know for the most part about each other and your relationship. You should be confident you are here for the purpose of marraige and only a huge surprise or change in circmstances/personality should sway you from that goal.

Its like the governments expect you to decide whether you're going to commit for life without ever living together even, thats silly.

I believe that what is silly is thinking that everyone needs to live together in order to commit to a relationship. Some of us becuase of religious/faith reasons do not live together. We enter a relationship knowing this is serious thing. I think the K1 process teaches you patience as a couple. It teaches you to communicate with your partner.

When love comes into your heart not everybody starts from a same principle! Everyone has the right to manifest love in his own way....
Some need more time to formalize their relationship and others not!
Some were part of disappointment when they discover that their relationship was not based on love but rather on a greencard or others foreigners coming here became house maid or even abused. And so, this relationships was not based on love but interest !!!! But for those who love truly does not matter that they were married after one week or after 10 years and for the love to not vanish you should work on it from the first day till the last. But in the end what is certain in life is that nothing is certain and everything has an end.

Personally, I believe the whole immigration process is rather flawed - not just K1. Many people are denied visas for ridiculous reasons and other people are given visas who probably should never get one. Many people in other countries are put down and made to feel inferior due our governments policies. Furthermore, many people who are considered illegal often come into the country through a legal process - however, laws are strict and complicated and many times these people don't realize the consequences of overstaying their visa or I-94.
I do not enjoy a government official looking through my private photos and conversations to determine whether I'm in a legit relationship. It's an invasion of privacy. But it's the system and process that we currently have so I will do what I need to do if that is how I can be with the man I love.
Everyone has their own path to love. We all hope that being with the people we love will bring more happiness into our lives. Our goal should be to help as many people obtain this happiness. Happy people are better people, thus making their community, our country and our world a slightly better place.
There is really no need for judgement or bitterness.

I have no idea what you hope to gain from this post. I don't see why you just couldn't keep those comments to yourself.
True, I see some relationships on this board that I think are a bit ridiculous but those are few and far between.
Please, sir, tell me about your highly successful relationships that let you look down upon us K-1 filers with your long nose of yours

I couldn't agree more with so many comments on here. I especially like the comment about relationships here based on lust. And so many of you said it...why on earth would you commit to be engaged to someone without going there and meeting them first. I also agree that the length of time a couple is required to be together should be much longer. There are so many fraud cases out there. In my case, I talked with my husband online for almost a year before I went to visit him. There were no talks of marriage or a visa. When I was there with him for almost a month, that's when talks of marriage began. But we both knew it would be a while longer before we were sure of that. I went again that following year and met his family...spending that time with him...what made me decide to do the K1 visa was not "could I live with this man for all my life?"...it was "could i live without him all my life?" I couldn't have made a better decision. The entire process took a long time...but it was time we both needed to realize what it means to be in love and appreciate our time together.