Removing from this journey

[AFENABA 0]

Sorry to hear this. Lord Knows what is good for his children. Surely he will see's you thru with more blessing.

May he keep and guide you.

[Bassi and Zainab 1]

I know that you are upset and he is probably also suffering. I hope you are not making a rash decision. Please take some time and pray on this.

I wish you all the best. :Hugs:

[Ta Ta 1]

You are in my prayers

[Perseverance 1]

I am very sorry to hear this, may GOD be with you.

[Peggy 1]

Take care

[monagoz 2]

Hi all. I am just on here to say thanks for your comments and concerns and things. My fiance, if you want to call him that, and I have split because of his dishonesty and suspicion. He said that he received the medical results on Monday and that he failed. He wouldn't tell me what he failed. He kept acting stuck on stupid. He said that's why he didn't go to the interview. He could have went and probably got a blue slip or something to return and have another medical done and gotten a visa. THE IDIOT! No communication, no working it out. He had me in suspense all day long Tuesday. I even took the day off work to hear from him. Here I was thinking that he was at the interview, when all along he didn't go. He didn't call me or text me or email me, NOTHING. He didn't have the guts to call me when he received the medical results ON MONDAY! We could have called the embassy to reschedule or something.

He took my money which was originally meant for the embassy fee and spent it on things while he was in Lagos. He told me he spent it. Ugh! I tried calling him all day long Tuesday and Wednesday only to have the phone ring and ring. I knew he was nearby because one time I called he turned his phone off in the middle of the ringing. I was in a total state of oblivian all day long!! I didn't know what was going on. Was it something I'd done? Surely, not. All I had given him was my understanding, patience, love, and time...and I've sacrificed a lot for him too. He still wouldn't have told me anything if I hadn't perservered on the situation and almost literally had to beg him to tell me what happened.

Finally, I got a hold of him on Wednesday and he was already back in Port Harcourt! He went through all this almost without telling me about anything?! The JERK! (Excuse my language.) I know that he probably felt intimidated to tell me the whole story about his medicals, but to leave Lagos and go back to Port Harcourt without calling me and letting me know anything was toooootally strange. I am glad that I prepared myself with God's covering throughout this process. If it wasn't for God's saving grace in my life, I probably would have flew me and my mob down to Nigeria to beat him in the head. Three whole years have we known each other and it has come down to this. I can't believe how much he's changed since three years?!...and yes there is more than meets the eye between him and I as well that we went through during this journey. The pretences, the lies, the childishness. I will not go into modified detail here though.

What a fool I was. I just kept calling myself that. God loves this fool, God's grace is sufficient and his mercies are new. I guess you live and you learn. NEVER AGAIN, NEVERRRRRR AGAIN!!!! I am glad also that I didn't find this out during married life! WHEW! Thank you JESUS! You've done it again! God has someone better in store for me. I know that all African men are not like this one, but just be careful out there and pray for discernment and perserverance. Have all your ducks in a row. God never fails. Thank you all for everything.

[forchika 4]

Oh gosh that means he must have opened the results he received from the medicals which are suppose to be sealed until the interview. I am so sorry to hear that your journey has ended on this note, you have great courage and strength and time will heal the wounded heart. Stay encouraged and open and you will find LOVE again!!!!!! I have to agree that you have been nothing but encouraging and positive thru out your time here on visa journey.... I wish you nothing but success in the future.

Robin

[felshen 0]

Actually they give you your results verbally as well as sealing them in the envelope.

Oh gosh that means he must have opened the results he received from the medicals which are suppose to be sealed until the interview. I am so sorry to hear that your journey has ended on this note, you have great courage and strength and time will heal the wounded heart. Stay encouraged and open and you will find LOVE again!!!!!! I have to agree that you have been nothing but encouraging and positive thru out your time here on visa journey.... I wish you nothing but success in the future.

Robin

Discerned1,

I am soo sorry for this thing you are traveling through. I know God has you in has plans sweetie. Everyone comes into our lives for a purpose.. this is all in preparation.

[Destiny'sJourney 0]

I'm so very sorry to hear this, after all you've been through. I pray that God will heal your heart and uplift your spirits. He always provides! Keep the faith! Take care and God bless!

Shanon

[taurean 0]

discerned: I am VERY sorry to hear about everything. I am praying for your strength during this time. {{{hugs}}}

[BESANGIN 0]

Hello discerned1,

I have to say to you that I am very deeply sorry that you have to go through this. I am an old head on this site, and I don't come around much but every now and then will post a message of encouragement. I feel this is one of those times. You are my hero. You were so much stronger than I was when the truth was staring me in the face. Because I was afraid to take a stand and end my fiasco in the early stages, as of yesterday I am a newly divorced woman. Happily divorced, but the journey to get there was pure HELL! I want to encourage you that all though you have questions that you want answered that may never be, and there is unbearable pain and embarassment, my sister, one day at a time, God will heal your heart. I have learned so much about myself, about people, love and relationships. I take away from my experience that it was intended to prepare me for the man that God intended for me. I am living proof of what happens when you don't wait on God. I am also writing a book about my situation, and I pray that it will protect men and women against the GREEN CARD PREDATORS that prey on lonely vulnerable people. Believe me, this is not a slam at all against any African people. My lineage came through you, so to bash you is to bash myself. But there are a great deal of them who have allowed desparation to corrupt them and cause them to sell their souls to the devil for the all mighty green card. As a matter of fact I have a HUGE crush on a gorgeous man from Ghana, and would get with him in a minute if the situation were condusive to such. So I am not against a relationship with an African man. That's whole other story. Anyway, hold your head up, and do not say you were a fool. True love is never a bad blimish. It's stained when the receiver makes a mockery of the gift you have given them. Now take heart, my dear, because when God brings him, you need to be ready to receive him, because when God gives gifts, He DON'T shop at WAL MART!!!!!!! P.S. Because of your strength, I have to send you a finished autograph copy of my book. I'm sure it will put a smile on your face. Take care. Sonya

[Kanyiri 0]

discerned1 - I'm sorry this has happened to you. I hope you take time to heal and know that God has someone very special in store for you.

Besangin - I just had to laugh at your comment: "As a matter of fact I have a HUGE crush on a gorgeous man from Ghana, and would get with him in a minute if the situation were condusive to such. So I am not against a relationship with an African man" Teehee! Anyway, I'm glad things are finally settled for you and all the mess that you were faced with.

[BESANGIN 0]

Yes Kanyiri,

All is well now, EXCEPT, a sister is ready to date!!!!!!!!! So if you want to help that progress, how about asking your hubby to teach me how to tell this man in the Ghana native language, that I think he is hotter than ten active volcanoes, the burning bush, and a bushel of serrano peppers, AND I want to take him out, get him drunk, and have my way with him!!! Just kidding, but I do want to have my way with him!!!! In an innocent sort of way..... MAYBE............ LOL!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your son. Such a blessing.

[HBO 0]

Yes Kanyiri,

All is well now, EXCEPT, a sister is ready to date!!!!!!!!! So if you want to help that progress, how about asking your hubby to teach me how to tell this man in the Ghana native language, that I think he is hotter than ten active volcanoes, the burning bush, and a bushel of serrano peppers, AND I want to take him out, get him drunk, and have my way with him!!! Just kidding, but I do want to have my way with him!!!! In an innocent sort of way..... MAYBE............ LOL!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your son. Such a blessing.

Besangin,

You are too funny, not the burning bush. Are you in the States or in Ghana? You are a breath of fresh air. Keep up the good work, you really made me smile today. Your gift from God can not be taken and from a far I can see it. I would love to purchase your book when it is completed. Let me know.

Constance

[akatagirl 0]

All is well now, EXCEPT, a sister is ready to date!!!!!!!!! So if you want to help that progress, how about asking your hubby to teach me how to tell this man in the Ghana native language, that I think he is hotter than ten active volcanoes, the burning bush, and a bushel of serrano peppers, AND I want to take him out, get him drunk, and have my way with him!!! Just kidding, but I do want to have my way with him!!!! In an innocent sort of way..... MAYBE............ LOL!!!!! CONGRATULATIONS on the birth of your son. Such a blessing.

Besangin, glad to read that things are going well for you..yeah I do so love all things Ghanaian....=) Hope all goes with this the Ghanaian man you are eyeing!!!