What can we do?

[Devkpaik 1]

How do you guys deal with the time apart? It's already been about one month and I'm going crazier and missing her more and more everyday we are apart. We spent the last seven months together 24/7 living with each other, and now all of a sudden we can't even see each other. I freakin hate this. We are trying to get a K-1 and it is supposed to take anywhere between 4-6 months... We talk about four times a day but it's not the same. I try to tell myself, and she tells me that if we get K-1 we'll be together forever, but it's hard to think like that when a K-1 isn't even guarenteed because you can get it denied, and you have to wait so long for it and you don't even know if you'll get it.

What do you guys do to deal with it? I am going crazy here and it's just eating me away. Any ways to deal with it would be great, because my ways obviously are not working...

Thanks

[MelindaandTarek 0]

littleasianman7 - first of all good luck on your journey.....and I can share with you what has helped me, however it is a hard situation to be away from your SO....my SO and I have been apart since April and when I go back to Egypt in November it will be 6 months apart - - and I will see him again at the end of the journey.......so this is what has helped me:

staying busy - with family and friends

focusing on things I need to provide him in his packet 3 and gathering that info now

staying connected through chat, text messages, and phone calls, I like to text him when I am doing something special or like when I am going to a fast food place I will call or text him and ? what he wants....

started to make plans of things I need to do before he gets here

started getting some things for him when he comes

printed out a lot of pics and put them in frames and placed around the house

tried to focus on the positive - focusing on the end result and that is us having forever together

also telling myself that this time apart can only make us stronger and also appreciate the little things, walking hand in hand, sharing a movie together or a meal together......I think that is about all I can think of that has helped me...and there are still days that are hard however I also reach out to others here who know exactly what this is like.......

I hope some of these things can be of help to you...good luck again in your journey....

[ANJING 0]

Trust me, I understand exactly what you're saying. Staying busy and positive is the best way to cope with it. Good luck.

How do you guys deal with the time apart? It's already been about one month and I'm going crazier and missing her more and more everyday we are apart. We spent the last seven months together 24/7 living with each other, and now all of a sudden we can't even see each other. I freakin hate this. We are trying to get a K-1 and it is supposed to take anywhere between 4-6 months... We talk about four times a day but it's not the same. I try to tell myself, and she tells me that if we get K-1 we'll be together forever, but it's hard to think like that when a K-1 isn't even guarenteed because you can get it denied, and you have to wait so long for it and you don't even know if you'll get it.

What do you guys do to deal with it? I am going crazy here and it's just eating me away. Any ways to deal with it would be great, because my ways obviously are not working...

Thanks

[JelloShotGirl 0]

Hey! I can relate to how u are feeling! My best advice is to make sure u talk everyday(u already do) write letters, text, email, webcam....put pictures of your loved one beside your bed, also put pictures there of you together, that really helps! i think its a feng shui thing LOL! I cant say waiting for the visa is easy i am not gonna lie, waiting is heartbreaking, especially after being together everyday for so long....all i can say is that each minute passes u two are closer to be together. and keep positive, as long as u are honest and follow the directions from uscis and visa journey i know it will be a breeze for you two. Just keep positive cuz if u think ur not gonna get the visa u will go crazy. Just eliminate that thought from your head......u are gonna get the visa its just a matter of waiting! gud luck always and be happy!

[afterforever 0]

Trust me, I understand exactly what you're saying. Staying busy and positive is the best way to cope with it. Good luck.

How do you guys deal with the time apart? It's already been about one month and I'm going crazier and missing her more and more everyday we are apart. We spent the last seven months together 24/7 living with each other, and now all of a sudden we can't even see each other. I freakin hate this. We are trying to get a K-1 and it is supposed to take anywhere between 4-6 months... We talk about four times a day but it's not the same. I try to tell myself, and she tells me that if we get K-1 we'll be together forever, but it's hard to think like that when a K-1 isn't even guarenteed because you can get it denied, and you have to wait so long for it and you don't even know if you'll get it.

What do you guys do to deal with it? I am going crazy here and it's just eating me away. Any ways to deal with it would be great, because my ways obviously are not working...

Thanks

Believe me, I know how you feel. I have been waiting for three years to be with my fiancee. I filed in May 07 to bring her here but am still waiting for my NOA2. A long distance relationship is one of the hardest things I've ever had to endure in my life. It is definitely not for the faint of heart but you do not know how difficult it really is until you are in one. My fiancee tells me the same thing your does but it does not make it any easier for me either. I just have to take it one day at a time. At the end of each day I thank God for the strength He gave me to get through that day. The next day I pray to God for strength to get through the new day. Like I said, I have been waiting a long time so it must be working (I think I do have more grey hair thought). Good luck.

[Jasman0717 9]

We spent a lot of time on the phone or Yahoo messenger. It took a while but she finally made it here and I have been in heaven ever since

[wael253 0]

How do you guys deal with the time apart? It's already been about one month and I'm going crazier and missing her more and more everyday we are apart. We spent the last seven months together 24/7 living with each other, and now all of a sudden we can't even see each other. I freakin hate this. We are trying to get a K-1 and it is supposed to take anywhere between 4-6 months... We talk about four times a day but it's not the same. I try to tell myself, and she tells me that if we get K-1 we'll be together forever, but it's hard to think like that when a K-1 isn't even guarenteed because you can get it denied, and you have to wait so long for it and you don't even know if you'll get it.

What do you guys do to deal with it? I am going crazy here and it's just eating me away. Any ways to deal with it would be great, because my ways obviously are not working...

Thanks

first i'm sorry about the way that you feel ..

i don't know if thinking that way will help you to feel better but anyway it works for me and my wife ...........

me and my wife have been apart for almost 7 months .. whenever we feel so down we just look at other people who have been apart for much longer say a year or two .

[Kimberlyanne 0]

SALAM ,, I TOO WOULD LOVE TO KNOW THE ANSWER OF THIS 1 .. LOL . YES , IT IS HARD . BUT , YOUR LOVE WILL GET YOU THROUGH THIS . INSHA ALLAH ...I MET MY FIANCE LONG B4 I ALSO WENT TO HIS COUNTRY(MOROCCO).. AND IT WAS 3 1/2 YRS B4 I STARTTED THE K-1 PROCESS.THE BEST ADVISE I HAVE FOR YOU , IS TO KEEP CONTACT AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE . BUT ALSO MANAGE YOUR LIFE HERE . YOU MUST BE READY TO HELP HER TO ADJUST TO COMMING WHEN ITS THAT TIME.IT WAS SO HARD FOR ME SINCE I RETURNNED FROM MOROCCO . ALSO I THINK I OVER-STAYYED MY TIME. IT BECAME SO COMFORTABLE.I WAS THERE 3 MONTHS AND 4 DAYS.I HAVE BEEN HOME NOW FOR 7 MOS. IT HAS BEEN THE HARDDEST 7 MOS OF MY LIFE.I HAD TO LEAVE MY HOME AND FAMILY SO I CAN GET THIS PROCESS GOING AND TO LEARN TO STAND ON MY OWN . ITS A HARD PROCESS TO GO THROUGH , AND , ITS EASIER WITH NO DISTRACTTIONS.FOR ME , MY FAMILY WAS A BIG DISTRACTTION.SO IM NEW HERE IN GEORGIA , STARTTING A NEW JOB AGAIN TOMORROW. BUT I SEE NOW THE MORE PATIENCE I FIND , THE BETTER IT IS FOR MY FIANCE.AND WITH IT ALSO BEING RAMADAN TODAY , I HAVE TO FIND THE PATIENCE FROM WITHIN .I WISH YOU AND YOUR FIANCE A FAST JOURNEY.TRY TO KEEP BUSY.AND KEEP UP WITH THE FORUMS HERE. IT HELPS TOO . TAKE CARE....

[ThaiStyleUSA 1]

I too know exactly how you feel. It's been over 2 yrs since my fiance and I met each other. Since then we had seen each other twice...in September of last year when she came to visit me for one month; and this past April when I went to Thailand to visit her for 3 weeks. It is tough without seeing each other all of the times. We communicate everyday. I call her twice a day and we talked about 30 mins each time. We also send emails and text messeges to each other as well. She would call me in the morning my time to wake me up by letting my phone rings twice; and then I would send text messege to her. Also, I am a single parent so that means I am always busy. Everyday I droped and picked them up from school; and it's 3 different schools too. We're pretty much understand each other now. Besides, it's shouldn't be too long for her to come live with me now. I know she will be here before Christmas. I should be receiving my NOA2 anytime now. I had mailed my package since May 9th.

Just stay busy and find something to do. Before you know it...you both will be together. Good luck!!!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Time flies...the time will go by before you know it as long you don't just stand there and wait for life to happen. Your life doesn't depend on your partner and vice versa... the missing part will always be there, but don't let it consume you. Fill your leisure time with friends and family, and also time for yourself to just be and enjoy being.

[kisschick1976 0]

The only thing I can add to this is, Have dinner together every so often. Dress up nice and sit in front of the webcam, maybe even with skype or yahoo voice chat on. It's silly but it feels so damn good. Send hand written cards or letters every week and maybe some care packages once a month. Nothing big really, maybe a shirt that you've slept in and smells like you... that will mean a whole lot to her. If it dosen't, well then you just sent her some dirty laundry to take care of Ask her to do the same. It works wonders

The first month after a visit is ALWAYS the hardest I've found. Don't forget about your friends and family, it's easy to turn your back on them when you're all sad. They are the ones who can help you get through this. After she's gone to bed, use the time difference and go out... play pool, go see a movie, go rent a movie (netflix has been helping me out a lot lately) go see a friend, experiment in the kitchen.

OH another idea! Both of you can do this one use your camera and take pictures of your day from the moment you wake up and at least once an hr so that your last picture in the series is you in bed going to sleep. Take a picture in the shower, on your commute to work, your work station, what you had for lunch, a picture of you talking to her even I have done that a couple of times and he thought it was sweet. Now if only I could get him to do that for me!

The longest we've been apart was 8 months and that was between visit 1 and visit 2. That was the longest 8 months ever but we made it My Jonny will be here in less than 4 weeks now :D:D:D

Good Luck!