do we need to process adoption for my baby?

[roxan 0]

hello to all! im new here.. i would like to hear from your comments about my situation...i have a pretty baby girl which i had when i was single now that im married to an american citizen. i have a friend who told me that my husband should adopt my babby while we are still here in the philippines. coz the interviewer might ask about it...and there is a posibilities that they will deny us (knock on woods!). im bothered though coz other say its not needed coz my babby is using my family name and i never put my ex's name on her birth certifecate i put unknown....i wouuld love to hear from you. God Bless!

Edited July 10, 2007 by roxan

[Dakine 26]

hello to all! im new here.. i would like to hear from your comments about my situation...i have a pretty baby girl which i had when i was single now that im married to an american citizen. i have a friend who told me that my husband should adopt my babby while we are still here in the philippines. coz the interviewer might ask about it...and there is a posibilities that they will deny us (knock on woods!). im bothered though coz other say its not needed coz my babby is using my family name and i never put my ex's name on her birth certifecate i put unknown....i wouuld love to hear from you. God Bless!

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It's very difficult for an American to adopt a child in the Philippines as for one the child has to be abandoned.

Plus the child has to be in PHYSICAL and legal custody of the person adopting for 2 years in the Philippines.

Best is for hubby to do a separate petition at the same time as he does yours.

[redpixie 0]

Similarish question. My son's going to come over with us when (please when) our K-1 goes through. It says that I need to have permission from his dad, but we've had no contact at all since I was pregnant (he's not a nice guy). Do I need to search him out, or should I just explain that he has never been a part of my son's life. He's not named on my son's birth cert as it is required for the father to be there, or submit documentation, to be named on the cert.

Anyone help?

[Sapphire 0]

Similarish question. My son's going to come over with us when (please when) our K-1 goes through. It says that I need to have permission from his dad, but we've had no contact at all since I was pregnant (he's not a nice guy). Do I need to search him out, or should I just explain that he has never been a part of my son's life. He's not named on my son's birth cert as it is required for the father to be there, or submit documentation, to be named on the cert.

Anyone help?

Talk to a lawyer in your country, that is not common knowledge and it depends on the legislation of each country.

You have at least 2 issues to deal with: 1) father "unknown" - since it's not on his birth certificate - but still it might depend whether or not the baby was born within a marriage - 2) the issue of the father's agreement (if the father is known). In some countries (like in mine) the agreement of the father is not necessary in order to take the baby out of the country, in case one of the parents has the custody of the child.

So, my advice is to act fast (was the baby on the petition?), talk to a lawyer specialized in family matters, and don't contact the father unless it's really necesary, to avoid being submitted to an emotional blackmail.

Had he been involved in your child's life... that would have been another story, moral & legal implications arising from there as well.

Wishing you good luck, B.

[Sinergy 3]

Firstly they wont deny you just bc you have a child and its not your husband's. He does not have to hurry and adopt, you can do that in the US. adoption is an option, not a nessesity. Your husband can do it if he wants, it wont interfere with the interview.

My main concern was tho you thinking youd be denied if he didnt adopt your baby.

Good Luck.

Edited July 10, 2007 by Ionescu

[jazzy 0]

hello to all! im new here.. i would like to hear from your comments about my situation...i have a pretty baby girl which i had when i was single now that im married to an american citizen. i have a friend who told me that my husband should adopt my babby while we are still here in the philippines. coz the interviewer might ask about it...and there is a posibilities that they will deny us (knock on woods!). im bothered though coz other say its not needed coz my babby is using my family name and i never put my ex's name on her birth certifecate i put unknown....i wouuld love to hear from you. God Bless!

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i am sure theres no problem in your case as long as you can prove to the consular officers during interview that's its your baby and you have baby pictures with her since birth you will be fine.

jazzy

[redpixie 0]

Talk to a lawyer in your country, that is not common knowledge and it depends on the legislation of each country.

You have at least 2 issues to deal with: 1) father "unknown" - since it's not on his birth certificate - but still it might depend whether or not the baby was born within a marriage - 2) the issue of the father's agreement (if the father is known). In some countries (like in mine) the agreement of the father is not necessary in order to take the baby out of the country, in case one of the parents has the custody of the child.

So, my advice is to act fast (was the baby on the petition?), talk to a lawyer specialized in family matters, and don't contact the father unless it's really necesary, to avoid being submitted to an emotional blackmail.

Had he been involved in your child's life... that would have been another story, moral & legal implications arising from there as well.

Wishing you good luck, B.

Thanks for getting back to me about this. I think we should be okay as I am the only one with parental responsibility for my son and, as such, his father has no legal rights toward him. I checked that with a family lawyer out here, just to know the situation really.

My son was not born within a marriage. I have never been married and I was only 21 when he was born. His "father" (I hate to use that word for that man) played the usual "I'm too young, I want to have fun" line and I ended up having my son three weeks before going back to start my second year at university. While I was rasing a child and studying for my degree, he wanted to party and do nothing. Ahh well.

Like I say, he's had no involvment in my son's life and my son is now coming up to 9 years of age.

Thanks again:)

Edited July 11, 2007 by redpixie

[island_princess 2]

We had the same situation and plan. I went to DSWD to process the adoption, but I was turned down. The parents must be married at least two years, of which we do not qualify.

hello to all! im new here.. i would like to hear from your comments about my situation...i have a pretty baby girl which i had when i was single now that im married to an american citizen. i have a friend who told me that my husband should adopt my babby while we are still here in the philippines. coz the interviewer might ask about it...and there is a posibilities that they will deny us (knock on woods!). im bothered though coz other say its not needed coz my babby is using my family name and i never put my ex's name on her birth certifecate i put unknown....i wouuld love to hear from you. God Bless!

[roxan 0]

Firstly they wont deny you just bc you have a child and its not your husband's. He does not have to hurry and adopt, you can do that in the US. adoption is an option, not a nessesity. Your husband can do it if he wants, it wont interfere with the interview.

My main concern was tho you thinking youd be denied if he didnt adopt your baby.

Good Luck.

ok thanks a lot for your comments. my friend just brought that up when we were talking. thats why i was worried coz i dont have any idea about that. God Bless!