Playing it safe: Legal Marriage

[chrisepic 0]

Well, at first we were going to have a ceremonial wedding as opposed to a civil/ceremonial wedding just so we could get her fiance visa application started sooner, but I have some blotches on my criminal record that are going to be an obsticle, regardless of the fact that I've disclosed this information with my fiancee AND her parents. So in an effort to avoid compromising this process any further, to avoid my fiancee lying at her interview and facing possible bar from the US if we're caught, we are going to play it safe, dispite the longer it will take, and we are going to have a legitamate marriage as well as a ceremony in the Philippines, hopefully in July so long as my father can commit to he $3500 budget for the wedding.

That being said, I also think that us being married will make things better for my circumstances with the criminal history thing- the fact that not only she knows, but she married me knowing, too! That can only help.

It really is unfortunate, the choices we make, not being able to begin anticipating the consequences of our choices and how they will follow us for the rest of our lives! I never thought I would be marrying someone from another country. I never thought I would substantiate a relationship over the internet and telephone. But here I am; here we all are! What an extraordinary story for our children and grand children, huh?

Best of luck to everybody. If one thing is on our side, it definately is the most potent emotion and state of all: love, right? I know I know, such a fluffy sentimental optimist. But I guess, in a world that we have encountered, where computer keys, letters, and digital voices flung half way across the world are more tangible then the actual loved ones themselves, love and optimism is all we have!

[rebeccajo 14]

...... but I have some blotches on my criminal record that are going to be an obsticle, regardless of the fact that I've disclosed this information with my fiancee AND her parents. So in an effort to avoid compromising this process any further, to avoid my fiancee lying at her interview and facing possible bar from the US if we're caught.....

I don't understand where the 'blotches on your record' would cause your fiance to lie.............

[Mononoke28 134]

The best way to go through all this process is with honesty and integrity, regardless of mistakes we've made in the past.

Best of luck to both of you and I hope time flies by so you can be together soon.

[chrisepic 0]

The best way to go through all this process is with honesty and integrity, regardless of mistakes we've made in the past.

Best of luck to both of you and I hope time flies by so you can be together soon.

Integrity- Amen! Thats exactly what my father said, which of coarse aided my conviction....no pun intended

[chrisepic 0]

...... but I have some blotches on my criminal record that are going to be an obsticle, regardless of the fact that I've disclosed this information with my fiancee AND her parents. So in an effort to avoid compromising this process any further, to avoid my fiancee lying at her interview and facing possible bar from the US if we're caught.....

I don't understand where the 'blotches on your record' would cause your fiance to lie.............

My criminal record is grounds for severe scrutiny...I wouldn't want to add insult to injury with my fiancee having to lie about our ceremonial wedding in the Philippines during her K-1 visa interview (having her say we're not married in order to continue the K-1 visa application. So we're going the K-3 route

[John and Nora 0]

03/12/07 - Decided not to file I-129F for K-3 visa. Going CR-1 route instead.

Just wondering why you decided to go with CR-1? Did you know it might be faster? Thanks, John and Nora

[TimsDaisy 0]

Um, but she wouldn't have been lying because you won't be married. If you don't get married, then you aren't married. Party + particular kind of dress does NOT = marriage.

And you're kind vague with the past blotches issue - which is, of course, totally your right. But if the concern is that she'd get to the interview and they'd say "well now, did you know he was convicted of X and Y and Z in year xxxx" - I think the overarching concern is that you wouldn't have told her. Legal marriage doesn't do much to change that.

But best of luck to you both.

[tiberonsuave 0]

Um Chris...It is YOU that have the "blotches" as you put it on your criminal record and YOU are the US citizen, right?

t

Well, at first we were going to have a ceremonial wedding as opposed to a civil/ceremonial wedding just so we could get her fiance visa application started sooner, but I have some blotches on my criminal record that are going to be an obsticle, regardless of the fact that I've disclosed this information with my fiancee AND her parents. So in an effort to avoid compromising this process any further, to avoid my fiancee lying at her interview and facing possible bar from the US if we're caught, we are going to play it safe, dispite the longer it will take, and we are going to have a legitamate marriage as well as a ceremony in the Philippines, hopefully in July so long as my father can commit to he $3500 budget for the wedding.

That being said, I also think that us being married will make things better for my circumstances with the criminal history thing- the fact that not only she knows, but she married me knowing, too! That can only help.

It really is unfortunate, the choices we make, not being able to begin anticipating the consequences of our choices and how they will follow us for the rest of our lives! I never thought I would be marrying someone from another country. I never thought I would substantiate a relationship over the internet and telephone. But here I am; here we all are! What an extraordinary story for our children and grand children, huh?

Best of luck to everybody. If one thing is on our side, it definately is the most potent emotion and state of all: love, right? I know I know, such a fluffy sentimental optimist. But I guess, in a world that we have encountered, where computer keys, letters, and digital voices flung half way across the world are more tangible then the actual loved ones themselves, love and optimism is all we have!

[rebeccajo 14]

IMBRA?

Um Chris...It is YOU that have the "blotches" as you put it on your criminal record and YOU are the US citizen, right?

t

Well, at first we were going to have a ceremonial wedding as opposed to a civil/ceremonial wedding just so we could get her fiance visa application started sooner, but I have some blotches on my criminal record that are going to be an obsticle, regardless of the fact that I've disclosed this information with my fiancee AND her parents. So in an effort to avoid compromising this process any further, to avoid my fiancee lying at her interview and facing possible bar from the US if we're caught, we are going to play it safe, dispite the longer it will take, and we are going to have a legitamate marriage as well as a ceremony in the Philippines, hopefully in July so long as my father can commit to he $3500 budget for the wedding.

That being said, I also think that us being married will make things better for my circumstances with the criminal history thing- the fact that not only she knows, but she married me knowing, too! That can only help.

It really is unfortunate, the choices we make, not being able to begin anticipating the consequences of our choices and how they will follow us for the rest of our lives! I never thought I would be marrying someone from another country. I never thought I would substantiate a relationship over the internet and telephone. But here I am; here we all are! What an extraordinary story for our children and grand children, huh?

Best of luck to everybody. If one thing is on our side, it definately is the most potent emotion and state of all: love, right? I know I know, such a fluffy sentimental optimist. But I guess, in a world that we have encountered, where computer keys, letters, and digital voices flung half way across the world are more tangible then the actual loved ones themselves, love and optimism is all we have!

[misa 2]

Um, but she wouldn't have been lying because you won't be married. If you don't get married, then you aren't married. Party + particular kind of dress does NOT = marriage.

Agreed with this. You wouldn't be married and no reason for her to lie.

[denny01 0]

i know that every embassy has their own back log etc.....but.....i DO know....K3 visa requires more paperwork and possibly will take longer.....have you checked on that for Phillipines ?

[denny01 0]

ahh....the edit thingy doesnt work ......

forget what i said above...

Not sure if marriage is gonna solve the problem of conviction......just admit to it....and have her tell them she knows.....if they happen to ask......

at least your in laws have accepted ya......that makes you way ahead of my situation.

[Reba 2]

Um, but she wouldn't have been lying because you won't be married. If you don't get married, then you aren't married. Party + particular kind of dress does NOT = marriage.

Agreed with this. You wouldn't be married and no reason for her to lie.

quite a few couples over the years have been caught by having a ceremonial (ie: not legally binding) wedding, and petitioned and applied for K1 and were denied because the interviewer deemed they were in fact married. They then had to start all over again by getting legally married and do a K3/CR1.

Legally binding or not, if you show the pictures in the frilly dress, or mention a "ceremony" at a K1 interview, you could be denied.

[edp333 9]

If the Oringinal Poster and his Significant Other believes that their covenant marriage makes them ineligible for a K1 visa, I for one respect their beliefs. It apears that Chris already knows that USCIS requires a contractual marriage to petition for a visa.

Getting the thread back to the original question, it seems that most of the information written is concerning whether the beneficiary has a criminal record. Also, the type of blotches on your criminal record and your age (i.e. under 18) will reflect on your record. Expect delays in your visa journey.

My suggestion is to be prepared and try to take care of the circumstances before the visa may be denied. Check out what waivers you may use and prepare proof of rehabilitation. Most significantly, carefully choose and consult an immigration attorney with experience in this area.