Should I be worried?

[Okay 5]

Dear friends,

First of all, thank you to whoever made this forum and God bless you. The topics are so helpful and so needed, I thank God for Visajourney.

My story:

My husband and I met on Facebook and then continued communicating on Skype. He was my secret admirer at Facebook for 2 years. He would send me messages that made me feel so special and he was so kind to me. In July 2013 I asked him to join Skype because I was doubting he was a real person. I thought the messages on Facebook were too good to be true. So he did and since the moment we started talking on Skype, we were glued to one another. He is my soul mate, my everything, so mature, understanding, good listener, good advisor, supportive and positive person. Every day, we talked for 5-6 hours. and during weekends when we didn`t have to go to work, we would do our long dates, marathons.

Those of you who met someone on Skype, know that talking is the only thing you can do. This was a good experience for us in order to get to know each other very well. I feel like I have known him for decades.

At the end of July, he asked me to marry him on Skype. I started crying and said yes. Even though we haven`t had seen each other in person until he came to my overseas country, I was absolutely in love, flying, and so aware that this person is a blessing from God. So we both started preparing our documents for concluding a marriage.

The moment we met at the airport, October 24, the Universe stopped. It was magical, emotional moment. We were just hugged and crying, telling each other how much we love each other. Everyone at the airport was staring at us, because we were acting like we were on the Moon or something, and there we were.

Everything was set up for the wedding. I had to do the preparations myself over here because he was in U.S.A, but he was my emotional and spiritual support during the whole process of the wedding preparations. My parents were freaked out, as well as the environment where I live, where on-line communication and relationships like ours are so strange, unacceptable. I am ashamed to say this, but all summer long, I was wearing long sleeve shirts, even though the temperatures were 40 Celsius, because I had bruises. My mum would beat me because of my decision to marry, according to her `a complete old stranger for getting the Visa and going to the U.S.A.`. That was a huge stone on my heart during the entire happy period, that my own mother was thinking that I would to get married because of the visa. I wish nobody ever experienced that type of disrespect and hurt feelings from their parent. It is so painful.

When my husband first got at my parents house to meet them and to tell them that we love each other for real, everything changed, My mother understood that it is all real, because it is totally impossible to act love. It either is there, or it is not. We got married few days after that. In the small country where I live now, I feel like all the time I am getting those negative looks as it is very hard for people over here to understand that true love happened. My husband had to get back to U.S.A. because of his work. Then we filed for I-130 and are in the process of initial review.

I would be very thankful for your honest opinions, suggestions and ideas considering our situation. My question is, whether our situation will be suspicious to the USCIS. I am aware that none of us can really know that, but I felt like pouring my heart out, because I don`t know what to think. Nobody here understands me, I am all the time under huge pressure and negative comments. On the top of that, I am a journalist and somewhat a public person, so my actions are all the time taken into consideration even from people I don`t know. My brother went out to the grocery the other day, and some of our neighbours that I don`t even know, told him:

-Hey, your sister got married to an old man for going to the U.S.A?

This is so devastating and has nothing to do with reality. I feel so bad because of my brother having to listen to these comments. I love my husband and the age difference of 29 years hasn`t bothered to none of us, because we have so many things in common and we love each other. It is breaking my heart that I am here without him, but decided to read the Bible more and to focus on what we have, and that is time spend together on Skype, and lots of love.

Since I never entered U.S.A. before, my husband and I don`t have mutual property neither bank account. He left me his card from a U.S.A. bank, so that I can use it. We both save money on it now. He wrote a letter to the USCIS explaining this situation, because we can`t have a mutual bank account without my physical presence at the States. He also put my name on his life insurance that he gets through work and we submitted that as a proof of bona fide marriage. Besides that, we got 3 affidavits from friends.

We also submitted a copy of a newspaper that did interview with us about internet love, since I am telling you, for the society I live in, this situation is news-worthy. Do we have enough?

Thank you for your time and forgive me for my bad English, since I am not a native language speaker. God bless you all and I pray for all of us.

[Pitaya 2,577]

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[Ketsuban 1,035]

I think as long as you have pictures of you two together and provide very compelling screenshots of your Skype chats/video feeds, you can make a good case.

I know what you mean about people commenting about marrying someone in the US. I'm from the UK, a country people don't generally try to escape from, and even my mum and work colleagues think I married my husband just to get the opportunity to live in the US I dated this guy since I was 15 and didn't even consider moving to his country. Originally we were going to live in the UK, but sky-high rent and the new £18,600 salary rule kind of prevent that from happening...

But yeah, my point is, you know deep down your reasons for marrying your man - because he sends your senses reeling! and now you want nothing more than to be with him, by his side. As long as you keep that knowledge in your mind, you can rise above others' cruel and jealous comments.

From one future immigrant to another - Good luck!

[Okay 5]

I think as long as you have pictures of you two together and provide very compelling screenshots of your Skype chats/video feeds, you can make a good case.

I know what you mean about people commenting about marrying someone in the US. I'm from the UK, a country people don't generally try to escape from, and even my mum and work colleagues think I married my husband just to get the opportunity to live in the US I dated this guy since I was 15 and didn't even consider moving to his country. Originally we were going to live in the UK, but sky-high rent and the new £18,600 salary rule kind of prevent that from happening...

But yeah, my point is, you know deep down your reasons for marrying your man - because he sends your senses reeling! and now you want nothing more than to be with him, by his side. As long as you keep that knowledge in your mind, you can rise above others' cruel and jealous comments.

From one future immigrant to another - Good luck!

Dear Ketsuban,

Thank you for your reply. We have the logs from the Skype communication, all together with call duration. I was wondering if we should also take screen shots from our communication too? Like, picturing the screen on the lap-top? Thank you so much and I wish you good luck with the process too and to be with your loved one forever

[christeen 966]

It might help us.give advice that is sometimes embassy specific if you can tell us what country you are applying from. Each embassy has its own expectations of proof and what they consider red flags and we can better direct our answers based on that. Some have hight thresholds for proof of relationship.

I can tell you do not stress not having the co mingling of finances as most international couples will not have joint accounts, especially with one of the parties never having been in the USA.

You will fine MANY Internet based relationships her on VJ... It may not be common where you live, but it is very common here. And you will always have haters, you have to ignore them if they are just being cruel or ignorant... Good luck on your journey.

[Okay 5]

It might help us.give advice that is sometimes embassy specific if you can tell us what country you are applying from. Each embassy has its own expectations of proof and what they consider red flags and we can better direct our answers based on that. Some have hight thresholds for proof of relationship.

I can tell you do not stress not having the co mingling of finances as most international couples will not have joint accounts, especially with one of the parties never having been in the USA.

You will fine MANY Internet based relationships her on VJ... It may not be common where you live, but it is very common here. And you will always have haters, you have to ignore them if they are just being cruel or ignorant... Good luck on your journey.

Thank you for your support. Thank you everybody. After I-130 is processed at USCIS and in NVC, it should go to the U.S. embassy in Macedonia (The former Yugoslav republic of).