Do you and your fiance(e) have a large age difference?

[peezey 0]

I am 32 years Claudeth's senior and this is by far the best relationship I have even been in. She is totally amazing and blows my mind just about every day. My family doesn't care about the age difference as long as I am happy and I am all of that. My oldest daughter, who is 6 years older than Claudeth, did tell me that she wasn't going to call her 'Mom'!

As far as the visa process goes, the age issue never came up and we, thus far, have blown through the process. She had the visa in 4 months and got the GC in 5 months.

There is clearly discrimination going on, then. Either gender or race or both.

I guess you lost me here, why would is there clearly discrimination going on?

Because there are quite a few older women/younger men who have had the complete opposite...did not "blow through the process"....are still mucking through the process years later and don't even have their SOs with them in the US yet.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

I was attacked so I responded! Nope we had no probs. at all

[one...two...tree 2,762]

The reason they probably scrutinize more closely couples with large age differences is probably because it's against nature. Humans aren't wired to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma.

Not to say there aren't many perfectly happy and legitimate relationships of people with large age differences. It's just not as common to see someone 22 love someone 65 without ulterior motives.

Especially when they come from countries such as the Phillipines, Africa & South America do you not think?

Down here girls are conditioned to marry older guy in order to "accomplish" something in life...

We've had such traditions here in the states as well. When you have a society where a family's financial security depends primarily on the man, then it makes perfect sense. Since more women in this country are in the workforce and have comparible careers with men, it's less common that it once was.

Security to some woman is of the utmost importance, even here in the states today. A man's portfolio, job and car can be quite a love potion.

On the flip of this - my ex-wife didn't even have a high school diploma when we first married and she never got her college degree. We were on two different levels in terms of education and career goals, which was a constant problem in our relationship. Consequently, my relationships after my divorce have been with women who are more career oriented and educated. Am I being opportunistic or just sensible?

[Jasman0717 9]

Right on. This is a great topic Gary and have, over the past year and a half, seen lots of discussion and I always enjoy reading the constuctive posts. As I said before, I weed through the useless ####### and look for information that could be helpful to me.

[peezey 0]

Sorry Charles and I took your lolipop! maybe your mommy will get you another one. Your getting cranky, I think its time for a nap.Would you like me to sing you a lullaby?

Seems you have had some practice with the baby talk.

[Reynaldo 0]

I was attacked so I responded! Nope we had no probs. at all

Off topic:

Poor you...

Back to the topic...

[sharky 2]

Sorry Charles and I took your lolipop! maybe your mommy will get you another one. Your getting cranky, I think its time for a nap.Would you like me to sing you a lullaby?

Seems you have had some practice with the baby talk.

actually he's used to more threatening talk, this was to erekose a few days ago:

MESS? ####### is the mess? anything you disagree with? RIGHT! The mess is whats comin outta your mouth! do you want a link to where you can bye a bib? I have yet to hear a remedy from you or anyone of your ILK. Get out of your Fkin arm chair, sittin on the PORCH bu!!shite! People like you ARE the problem. I can sit here all Fkin day long and CRITISIZE,and FEEL GOOD. Face it! there isnt a PLAN the man could come up with that would satisfy you, or any of your kind.

You sit here and argue the finer points of the situation. Got an answer HE!! NO! You should dig a DEEP HOLE, cuz when the SHITE hits the fan and your little tail is betwixed your legs and your SCREAMS for HELP are unanswered it will be way to late. How many need to DIE here or anywhere else to make you realize the fact that there is an enemy? and its not the right wingers. Some of you have taken your eye off of the true ENEMY and focused it within. Keep BASHIN, and put the focus on us, just dont forget to turn around and LOOK to watch where you have walked!

GOOD LUCK, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, You will need it!

now what's that about maturity you were talking about????

[peezey 0]

Sorry Charles and I took your lolipop! maybe your mommy will get you another one. Your getting cranky, I think its time for a nap.Would you like me to sing you a lullaby?

Seems you have had some practice with the baby talk.

actually he's used to more threatening talk, this was to erekose a few days ago:

MESS? ####### is the mess? anything you disagree with? RIGHT! The mess is whats comin outta your mouth! do you want a link to where you can bye a bib? I have yet to hear a remedy from you or anyone of your ILK. Get out of your Fkin arm chair, sittin on the PORCH bu!!shite! People like you ARE the problem. I can sit here all Fkin day long and CRITISIZE,and FEEL GOOD. Face it! there isnt a PLAN the man could come up with that would satisfy you, or any of your kind.

You sit here and argue the finer points of the situation. Got an answer HE!! NO! You should dig a DEEP HOLE, cuz when the SHITE hits the fan and your little tail is betwixed your legs and your SCREAMS for HELP are unanswered it will be way to late. How many need to DIE here or anywhere else to make you realize the fact that there is an enemy? and its not the right wingers. Some of you have taken your eye off of the true ENEMY and focused it within. Keep BASHIN, and put the focus on us, just dont forget to turn around and LOOK to watch where you have walked!

GOOD LUCK, ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, You will need it!

now what's that about maturity you were talking about????

Oh I know! I couldn't even repsond to that wackiness.

Edited December 20, 2006 by peezey

[Yodrak 7]

garya,

Yes

No

Not applicable (no bad reactions)

Yodrak

Do you and your fiance(e) have a large age difference?

Did you get any bad reactions from family or friends, or anyone else?

If so, what did you do, make a joke of it, insult them back, get mad, or what?

[doodlebug 3]

[Alex+R 0]

The reason they probably scrutinize more closely couples with large age differences is probably because it's against nature. Humans aren't wired to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma.

Not to say there aren't many perfectly happy and legitimate relationships of people with large age differences. It's just not as common to see someone 22 love someone 65 without ulterior motives.

Especially when they come from countries such as the Phillipines, Africa & South America do you not think?

Down here girls are conditioned to marry older guy in order to "accomplish" something in life...

We've had such traditions here in the states as well. When you have a society where a family's financial security depends primarily on the man, then it makes perfect sense. Since more women in this country are in the workforce and have comparible careers with men, it's less common that it once was.

Security to some woman is of the utmost importance, even here in the states today. A man's portfolio, job and car can be quite a love potion.

On the flip of this - my ex-wife didn't even have a high school diploma when we first married and she never got her college degree. We were on two different levels in terms of education and career goals, which was a constant problem in our relationship. Consequently, my relationships after my divorce have been with women who are more career oriented and educated. Am I being opportunistic or just sensible?

The difference is in what you have compared to what they have. If you chose women like that and you were 21 and broke with no education, that's opportunism.

I wouldn't call a man's portfolio, job and car a "love potion." No woman is going to love a man for it--but she might use him for it.

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

Batman,Sharkboy,and something named Peezey!

The TRIPLE THREAT! ...............

[Yodrak 7]

Alex,

So your definition of a large age gap is 2 generations?

I agree that humans aren't "wired" to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma, not many of them anyway, but a fair number are inclined to seek a father or mother figure for a partner.

Yodrak

The reason they probably scrutinize more closely couples with large age differences is probably because it's against nature. Humans aren't wired to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma.

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[Alex+R 0]

Alex,

So your definition of a large age gap is 2 generations?

I agree that humans aren't "wired" to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma, not many of them anyway, but a fair number are inclined to seek a father or mother figure for a partner.

Yodrak

The reason they probably scrutinize more closely couples with large age differences is probably because it's against nature. Humans aren't wired to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma.

....

...and I think that's sort of just as gross as going for grandpa. But that's just me. I realize that it's not going to be gross to everyone. If I were Daddy (or, possibly, Grandpa) in the relationship, I would definitely question the motives of my ladyfriend. A lot. Many times.

Edited December 20, 2006 by Alex+R

[Pinocchio Liberal 268]

The reason they probably scrutinize more closely couples with large age differences is probably because it's against nature. Humans aren't wired to want to sleep with grandpa or grandma.

Not to say there aren't many perfectly happy and legitimate relationships of people with large age differences. It's just not as common to see someone 22 love someone 65 without ulterior motives.

Especially when they come from countries such as the Phillipines, Africa & South America do you not think?

Down here girls are conditioned to marry older guy in order to "accomplish" something in life...

We've had such traditions here in the states as well. When you have a society where a family's financial security depends primarily on the man, then it makes perfect sense. Since more women in this country are in the workforce and have comparible careers with men, it's less common that it once was.

Security to some woman is of the utmost importance, even here in the states today. A man's portfolio, job and car can be quite a love potion.

On the flip of this - my ex-wife didn't even have a high school diploma when we first married and she never got her college degree. We were on two different levels in terms of education and career goals, which was a constant problem in our relationship. Consequently, my relationships after my divorce have been with women who are more career oriented and educated. Am I being opportunistic or just sensible?

The difference is in what you have compared to what they have. If you chose women like that and you were 21 and broke with no education, that's opportunism.

I wouldn't call a man's portfolio, job and car a "love potion." No woman is going to love a man for it--but she might use him for it.

Comon Alex, all your doin is over analyzing the whole subject, Its all about enjoying each others company and living life.