Did you marry an out of status or illegal alien? How did people respond?

[106206 15]

How did your friends/family/colleagues respond?

Edited October 27, 2011 by caterino

[trillium13 84]

What if they just didn't care one way or the other?

[Chicagoguy 2 27]

Nobody ever said anything directly to my but I am sure it was a big topic of conversation.

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

To this day only my wife and two of my best, decades-old friends know that I was out of status. Not my step-daughter, not any of her family, nobody has a clue. I confessed to my wife before proposing, but otherwise it's not something to brag about. Even now that I am a U.S citizen my wife nor I would never reveal that to anybody. Why would we?

[106206 15]

For me it was a mix. Most people reacted very warmly, others were kind of suprised. Timing was kind of funny which probably had more to do with reactions. No one came out and said hey you're making a bad choice or anything like that, but 'be careful' was said at least a couple times.

At our wedding ceremony my wife invited some friends of her aunt to join us, and my brother was like "hey look it's the housecleaning crew" when they walked in (none of them are housecleaners). Nice. He needs to put down the starbucks and pull the bluethooth out of his backside and remember that his sicilian half of his heritage was "the housecleaning crew" a few generations back.

Then an acquaintence cut me off in mid explantation of my marriage and told me he understands, I did it for 10K and he did the same thing about 15 years ago for some columbian girl he was friends with. Nice.

Edited October 27, 2011 by caterino

[J y Mariana 0]

I only had one person ask me half jokingly if my wife was just marrying me for a green card. Given the circumstances surrounding our situation, and the fact that I just got divorced 6 months prior, I could understand friends being concerned. But Americans are kind of stupid, and we often think we are the center of the universe and everyone in the world will do anything it takes to come live here, and that a citizen marrying a foreigner couldnt be anything but them trying to find a way in. This is obviously incredibly stupid, and to be honest if I didnt live in the US I dont think its where I would even choose to go to given the current state of affairs here.

I think some people didnt realize at first how serious I was, and thought maybe I was just having a fling down in south america, I dont know. Id love to have heard some of the conversations about it all though heh.Once we w ere finally married, and people realized how happy I was, everyone has been really supportive of the situation.

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