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[Astig11 1]

you may be right killing with kindness.best to move out and have a peaceful life away from the drama.......

the daughters are 45 & 47..

hubby is 64 ..

2nd wife is 57..

and 3rd wife (you) is 37..

yep, this is like an episode of Jerry Springer.. which means.. there is a lot of drama..

i take back what i said about killing with kindness.. i did not know this information.. i thought you were talking about teenagers..

[VanessaTony 3,567]

my husband ex was 57 yrs old same they dont liked her i am younger i am 37 yrs old and hubby is 64...this might be the reason also because of our age gaps with my hubby...

Yes the age is a factor. It is common to think someone "young" marrying someone "old" is a gold-digging situation... but, and no offence here, but 37 isn't exactly the typical "young gold-digger" stereotype.. It's also common for American people to think immigrants married solely for money or immigration benefits so that's two things against you. Add race and the prejudice is extreme.

Because they're older than you it's harder to just ignore it. If they were younger you could just put it down to age and immaturity. The simple truth is they're obviously bitches, and they obviously think very little of their father. I would say that texting you was an attempt to come between yourself and your husband. Tell you husband, he gets angry with them and tells them off they say he chose you over them and their hatred of you is validated. Or he doesn't support you and it makes them worse thinking that it won't take much to make him get rid of you. Or he gets so upset at the family drama and leaves you. It's all a power game.

Your husband DOES unfortunately need to pick a side and it needs to be yours. He needs to tell them their behaviour isn't acceptable. They disrespect you? They're not welcome in your house. They're adults, not children, and they need to suck it up and realise that you're not going anywhere. It will be THEIR choice to not spend time with their father because they refuse to accept you.

You could either just let your husband handle it, or invite the girls over and as a family talk it out. I would personally invite them over, or go to a neutral location (like a restaurant) and talk it out. Beforehand though you and your husband need to talk about who will do the talking (you or him) and what you are and are not willing to accept as well as an "exit" sentence. Something that you say when it's just got too intense and you think it's time to leave.