the red flag??

[Tata_B 0]

Hello to everybody! Me and my favourite we wait visa К1. He has children. And 13 years ago he has made vasectomy. He is US citizen.

I don't have children.

This fact will be a red flag for the consul? What could i to expect on interview? How to be prepared in this case? I very much nervous. I will be glad to any advice.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

First, what country are you from. With that info people can reply with common Red Flags.

As far as I have heard having a vasectomy isn't a Red Flag by itself anywhere and I don't see how the CO would even know about it. Also the USC having children is generally a Red Flag by itself but either of these could be mitigating factors where other Red Flags (such as large age gap in certain countries) exist.

[san diego 407]

I don't think this is a red flag at all. Some people may get married and not wanting having children.. In addition, vasectomy is reversible..

[Tata_B 0]

I am from Russia... We have sent our letters with the petition and documents... And there there was an information about his vasectomy. They will know.

[san diego 407]

[Also the USC having children is generally a Red Flag by itself

Absolutely not true. Out of dozen common red flags having children is not one of them at all. I researched this question in detail with the attorney before applying for K1. Here are red flags:

1) Prior K1/CR1 of the petitioner

2) Too short time between meeting in person for the 1st time and petition

3) Petitioner being brought to the country on K1/CR1, divorcing, then applying for K1/CR1

4) Age difference of more than 20 years if male petitioner is older or more than 5 years if female petitioner is older or any other abnormal for the culture age difference.

5) within long period of time petitioner and beneficiary met only once.

6) If petitioner speaks English only and beneficiary does not speak English at all or very limited

7) Having relatives in US

8) Beneficiary applied for K1/CR1 before, came to the country, went back without getting married

This is pretty much it.

I am from Russia... We have sent our letters with the petition and documents... And there there was an information about his vasectomy. They will know.

Not a problem at all. You may state that you are not planning on having children or that you will try to reverse vasectomy.

[Indy90 21]

[Also the USC having children is generally a Red Flag by itself

Maybe the poster forgot to put "not", so that it should have read "the USC having children is generally not a Red Flag by itself"?

[Tata_B 0]

ооо.... I worry, if the consul can think we have age difference of 17,5 years. And moreover I don't have children.

Could you give me some advises, What kind of proof i could to show consul,

and this fact of vasectomy wasn't a bright red flag for the him (consul).

thanks for answers everybody.

sorry please for my english.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Also the USC having children is generally a Red Flag by itself

Absolutely not true.

That was a typo... I meant is generally NOT a Red Flag by itself.

[san diego 407]

That was a typo... I meant is generally NOT a Red Flag by itself.

OO! OK! Sorry!

ооо.... I worry, if the consul can think we have age difference of 17,5 years. And moreover I don't have children.

Could you give me some advises, What kind of proof i could to show consul,

and this fact of vasectomy wasn't a bright red flag for the him (consul).

thanks for answers everybody.

sorry please for my english.

Again... vasectomy is NOT a red flag. If he is older by 17.5 years this is NOT a red flag. You are OK. Don't worry about it. Just focus on proving meeting/true relationship.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Again... vasectomy is NOT a red flag. If he is older by 17.5 years this is NOT a red flag. You are OK. Don't worry about it. Just focus on proving meeting/true relationship.

Unless is the same packet where you provided the unnecessary information about his vasectomy you also rambled on about how badly you desire children of your own...

I said this only to illustrate the point I'm trying to share:

NEVER give USCIS, NVC, DOS, the CO or anyone else involved in this process any more information than they ask for. If they want to know something they'll ask you about it, trust me. On the other hand if you give them too much information it can actually raise more questions that it answers.

My wife and I are in a situation (kind of complicated) where we're applying for her first son whom she thought died in childbirth and wasn't included on her original Biographic data documents. We pondered including the explanation and maybe even DNA test results with the I-130 petition fearing that they'd cross-reference her earlier case file and deny his I-130 in addition to possibly looking to deport her. Well we received his I-130 approval just a couple of weeks ago! We're not out of the woods yet as we're sure either NVC or the US Embassy in Manila will question the circumstances but we'll face it when the time comes.

So in short, always be honest during the process. Always answer everything they ask. NEVER offer anything they didn't specifically ask for either on the forms or at the interview.

[san diego 407]

Right now I am trying to figure out how did you manage to state that he had vasectomy? What document specifically? What form? What else did you mention about this matter?

[Sergi9 110]

My wife and I are in a situation (kind of complicated) where we're applying for her first son whom she thought died in childbirth and wasn't included on her original Biographic data documents. We pondered including the explanation and maybe even DNA test results with the I-130 petition fearing that they'd cross-reference her earlier case file and deny his I-130 in addition to possibly looking to deport her. Well we received his I-130 approval just a couple of weeks ago! We're not out of the woods yet as we're sure either NVC or the US Embassy in Manila will question the circumstances but we'll face it when the time comes.

Well make sure to let us know when the book and the movie come out ... completely intrigued.

[Deputy Purple 1,294]

Well make sure to let us know when the book and the movie come out ... completely intrigued.

Not to stray off-topic but the cliff notes are:

Father paid hospital staff to sedate my wife (keep her groggy) and then spirit the baby away after birth and finally lie to her about the death. The relationship with the father was over before the birth and his mother was excited about the Grandchild. He told his mom that Anna abandoned the child so his mom was sending money to support her first & only grandchild. After learning the child wasn't being proper cared for the grandma contacted Anna, only then did they both discover how they'd been deceived by the father. Luckily in the Philippines Anna has all parental rights and the father has none so we're reclaiming him and bringing him here.

[Casprd 167]

Not to stray off-topic but the cliff notes are:

Father paid hospital staff to sedate my wife (keep her groggy) and then spirit the baby away after birth and finally lie to her about the death. The relationship with the father was over before the birth and his mother was excited about the Grandchild. He told his mom that Anna abandoned the child so his mom was sending money to support her first & only grandchild. After learning the child wasn't being proper cared for the grandma contacted Anna, only then did they both discover how they'd been deceived by the father. Luckily in the Philippines Anna has all parental rights and the father has none so we're reclaiming him and bringing him here.

Totally understand how this could have happened but I'm amazed that it hasn't caused a major problem with the I-130 for the son, let alone for the mother who is already here. If she hasn't already had conditions removed/adjusted status or whatever, I would keep all the documentation and proof of the situation including affidavits from the family members who know what happened.

As for the vasectomy, it is a non-issue for your petition. having or not having kids is a personal choice. It may come up in the interview asking if you plan on having kids and if so then you can answer that question appropriately. In all the interview debriefs, I have never heard of that question being asked though.

[Tata_B 0]

We simply haven't checked up ours emailes when have sent them together with the petition. In letters the information about vasectomy contains. Any other documents.

Thanks everybody for answers and the help. I very much appreciate yours the help.

I have a little relaxed.