Help! I have to intervene

[concerned81 0]

Hello all,

I need advice regarding a situation my father is in. He met an asian lady through a friend who lives overseas. He met her while in her country. He went back a year later to visit again and ended up marrying her. My dad is genuinely head over heels but this lady is only using my father to get into the US. Is there anyway I can intervene and stop her from coming here? I know this sounds like a horrible thing to do but I am looking out for my father's best interest. It has been mentioned by a family friend that this lady is not genuine and of course my father doesn't want to hear it. I just don't want my father to be dragged down in the end...any advice or tips on how to prolong her from coming here or making it more difficult? Maybe scrutinizing thier relationship more??? HELP! =/

[MrMath 1]

I hate to say it, but it seems like your dad is an adult and entitled to make his mistakes. Even if you could prevent her from coming, he may always see you as the one that kept him from happiness.

I think you can give him some good advice that might help him make the best decision on his own. You could advise him to see an attorney, for instance, to make sure his assets are protected (and in this conversation, the attorney can advise him about his financial responsibility to his wife, should she come). You can recommend that they both seek relationship counseling before and after she comes, to ensure a good marriage.

Beyond that, congratulate him on his marriage and...if your hunch is true...be there when he needs you.

[concerned81 0]

I hate to say it, but it seems like your dad is an adult and entitled to make his mistakes. Even if you could prevent her from coming, he may always see you as the one that kept him from happiness.

I think you can give him some good advice that might help him make the best decision on his own. You could advise him to see an attorney, for instance, to make sure his assets are protected (and in this conversation, the attorney can advise him about his financial responsibility to his wife, should she come). You can recommend that they both seek relationship counseling before and after she comes, to ensure a good marriage.

Beyond that, congratulate him on his marriage and...if your hunch is true...be there when he needs you.

Yeah...I'm not one to keep him from his happiness but this lady is SHADY. Does the wife ever get denied entrance for anything? I mean what is the reason for interviews and this whole drawn out process for these foreigners to come to the US? Isn't it to detect foul play??

[Darnell 8,478]

if you truly wish to 'do something'

then hire a PI in her city, gather about 2 months of observation when your father is not there.

Then study the results. If you think it shows fradulent intent, show it to your Dad, let him decide.

[iwuvcheshert 6]

i had read a post before that withdrawal of the petition could be done by direct parties involved only, in any case that ur dad filed for the petition already. just my 2 cents worth..