Permission from a parent for a minor child

[bxa 0]

Looks like we might face a prolonged battle with father of a child in order to get his permission for the child (11 yrs old) to travel with his mother (my wife) to live in US.

While there is a slim chance that the biological father might just sign the permission, I am wondering what to do if we have to go through the court system in Ukraine. Our interview is probably a month away. If we are not ready with the permission, how can the interview be moved? Should it be moved?

Thanks

[Ellie-n-Vladimir 3]

Why now, before the interview, you think you might? Were you absolutely sure you get it?

Buy his permission.

My friend was facing the same issue in Ukraine. It took her a year to go through the court system, because her kid's father attended all courts.

If you understand the language, check the options here, or let your wife read it: http://www.perevodim.com.ua/content/page/Viezd_detei_na_PMZh.html#1

If you're not ready for the interview, call the Embassy and re-schedule it (the embassy website has the "how" info), but be within a valid time gap, or file an extension. Hope, you'll overcome this.

[TheSahlis 10]

my wifes Ex tried that, we called his bluff insted and told him sign or you keep the child but my wife was leaving....took him 10 minutes to decide he didnt want to raise a child and he signed the letter.

[bxa 0]

my wifes Ex tried that, we called his bluff insted and told him sign or you keep the child but my wife was leaving....took him 10 minutes to decide he didnt want to raise a child and he signed the letter.

Thank you, everybody who replied, it really helps. This is the most difficult and agonizing question for us.

Now, we begin to assemble a deck of cards which we can play against the biological father, one of the cards is the money to buy his permission. The thought of bluffing and offering him to raise the child also entered my mind, but honestly I feel uneasy about both: offering money as well as bluffing, because of my personal ethics. Having said that, I think that both of these things may enter into the equation, should we become desperate and be left with no other choices.

But just generally, I wonder - people on this board that had to tackle this question in cases when the other side did not want to collaborate, what tools and techniques did you use to achieve the happy end? I should add that experience from anybody who dealt with the an adversary from Russia or Ukraine would be especially enlightening.

Thanks!

Edited June 15, 2011 by bxa