calling it quits

[marklovetina 52]

silly what are you drinking?? RC cola??

i am not drinking i am eating a popcorn... u want some?.. :pop:

[jandk 6]

you are always welcome Jayson.That's why we are here in VJ to share our ups and downs.help each other NOT to add more frustrations!Im proud on ur descisions.its not yet late,you are not really meant to each other.i pity that girl,she doesn't realize what she will be loosing!im a filipina,too.i grew up in a very big family in P.I but never they ask nor drag me to bully my husband.just dont mind those who are one-sided.though ur fIAnce' is like my race,i dont like her attitude.she is making the filipina customs look bad.wishing u good luck to ur journey.hoping you can find someone...honor,love and respect you.please dont hesitate to post on us.GODBLESS

We are one sided because we are only hearing one side of the story. no offense but Jason are you an ??

[marklovetina 52]

Thanks GODSGIFT and THE GOOD KNIGHT.

FYI JANDK I am Filipino, I JUST GREW UP HERE both my parents are Filipino from CAVITE AKA CAVITENEO SO SHUT Up !!!

I bought her a ticket from las Vegas to tacloban for $792. She is out of here tomorrow. I don't need this drama and bull. Her dad cannot be micromanaging our lives. Thanks everyone. This time tomorrow I will be totally free.

ur welcome jayson... well i think u will gonna miss her too... hope before the night is over there will be an angel to touch u both so the next morning u both will be ok again...

[jandk 6]

i am not drinking i am eating a popcorn... u want some?.. :pop:

whats in the can there? im not a big popcorn eater though

[marklovetina 52]

oh sorry i didnt noticed that i am holding a can too.. :P coz i am busy reading and eating my popcorn... :goofy:

[the good knight 2]

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Thanks GODSGIFT and THE GOOD KNIGHT.

FYI JANDK I am Filipino, I JUST GREW UP HERE both my parents are Filipino from CAVITE AKA CAVITENEO SO SHUT Up !!!

I bought her a ticket from las Vegas to tacloban for $792. She is out of here tomorrow. I don't need this drama and bull. Her dad cannot be micromanaging our lives. Thanks everyone. This time tomorrow I will be totally free.

........ ...JASON,PLEASE READ MY RESPONSE ON JANDK'S..IT SEEMS THAT SHE'S NOT WITH OUR IDEAS HMMMM.,BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHERS FLOCK TOGETHER!!!

[jandk 6]

oh sorry i didnt noticed that i am holding a can too.. :P coz i am busy reading and eating my popcorn... :goofy:

lol silly

im done with topic but i will leave with this.. Jason, wish you the best in all your decisions, not everyone is meant for one another. I am sorry your going through this life event and hope for your well being that you find happiness. Take care all and GOODLUCK on your VJ!

[elena aguilera 0]

how i wish i just got her slot on visa processing..

this topic makes me smile, almost all the replies are positive, though the ending is so sad..

[sea-monkey 13]

I hope you got someone there with you to help you get through the night. I'd hate to be in your shoes right now Mom or pops? A show of solidarity and force is always good also. They would help knock some sense into if you tried to weasel out before the flight.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

If you are competeing for money it is doomed to fail and you may as well calls it quits and stay a bachelor. If you "found her" on some website trying to send money, you are competeing for money. That won't work.

If a man can get happiness from doing all he can for his family, then he will always be truly happy. When he cannot he will always be miserable.

Sounds to me like you need to adjust your cell phone contract (I have worldwide free texting for a very small price)and your attitude if you want to be married.

[Maxx121 14]

The money conversation is the MOST important conversation. Me and mine had it a few times, and this makes me want to have it again

but with mine, her family told her - your family comes first. that to me was beautiful and made me respect her mother and father SOOOO much.

mind you they already treat me like im one of their own.

on a side note, her uncle asked me to sponsor his kids hehe.

Family is important, i woulndt be marrying my cathy if i didnt love her family as well, because its a gimme that a pinay is gonna send money home, if your not comfortable with that then you shouldnt marry one.

Now for this broad im not gonna call her a snake, cause more likely than not she just holds her family in a higher regard than you, she lacks respect and is going back to where she belongs.

[jandk 6]

well considering i am a male and a USC from birth I would find it hard to be part of those "Feathers from the same flock" I believe i have more dignity and respect for women and for my wife, if there was such an issue with us I would let her talk and ask questions as to why it is that she is acting the way she is. You cant really be that naive to say that this Jason guy is a perfect angel in this. He plays some part of this problem whether its him telling her and convincing her parents that he will be there to support her and them, or he thinks that she is only here for citizenship and not him so he hangs it over her head.. the way it sounds.. it sounds like she Values her family(which I dont blame) more because HE DOESN'T value her as much. Jason you expect her to change her ways.. what have you done to make a change? He seems to think that this pinay is his animal at the zoo, who doesn't have rights.. Jason, you bring her to the US of A guess what this is the land of the free. READ up on your culture more and understand that pinoy and pinay respect one another, they are there for one another and their families are valued at top priority.. if you cant understand and change accordingly to other people then stay out of the field and leave it to the men who can adapt to this way of living and diversity.

Anyone else who think and feels that Jason is in the right.. well consider the fact at the way he acts by displaying his thoughts on VJ.. MAKES you wonder if the reason why she doesn't talk to him and tries to hide things behind his back is because he puts fear into her and they have a relationship not based on trust, dignity, respect or loyalty. CHANGE yourself before you try and change others.

[sweetheart32 3]

Thanks everyone. As for the phone bill I already told her to use a phone card. She said she thought it would be so cheap on a cellphone from the tv commercials. Now for sending her family money I read the email, her bro in law want to open a business of his own, a gym. Her sister wants to open a restaurant, her uncle is asking for money so he can finish off the flooring at his house. Her elder brother wants to enroll his kids in private school, her younger sister got sick and went straight to a high end private hospital. I read just a incoming text message that her mom is TULALA AT THE WALL BECAUSE SHE IS OUT OF COFFEE.

I TRIED TO CLARIFY ABOUT THE MONEY SITUATION. HER BELIEF IN MONEY IS WHAT I EARN BELONGS TO THE BOTH OF US WHAT SHE EARNS ONLY BELONGS TO HER. IT'S ONE SIDED.

WHEN I TRY TO TALK IT OVER SHE WOULD SAY SHE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. I EVEN OVERHEARD HER ON THE PHONE SAY "YAN PESTENG KANO NA YAN"

OMG!!! i don't know what to say,about the family of your fiance,they all abusing you!!!sorry to tell you the truth.they have their own feet and back bone to work for their own.Oh my goodness sending to private school,not finish the flooring of their house,wants a business ECT!!!What the heck.. Its really annoying!!! Is not your problem anymore!!!if my family is like that to my husband i wont tolerate it.I will never allowed anybody even my own family to abuse my husband,his working sooo hard every penny,there is nothing wrong to help the family of your wife but,is not your obligation to support them.and believe me after you will help them they will ask you again

[Fudpukker 18]

Hey Jandk why don't you just stay out of this. You sound like a repoman who is always right.

[Pinay Wife 47]

Anyone else who think and feels that Jason is in the right.. well consider the fact at the way he acts by displaying his thoughts on VJ.

I've also noticed the "attitude" from his past postings

Jason, you also keep bringing up Rose's Dad and yet you posted a while back that Dad's been dead for more than a year. Let the old man rest in peace!

edited to add: So please refrain from talking about Dad as if he was still alive and capable of interfering in your relationship. You are sounding like you are making up the story.

So when you plan on leaving ? I gotta wait around 45 days before myRose gets here since she wanted to be there for her dads 1 yr death anniversary and I got no problem with her dong that.

I had a talk with her earlier and one of the first things I told her is that her daddy needs to step off our relationship and she stood up and went outside for a walk.. right now as we speak she is completely ignoring me like I don't exist. If she keeps this up I think a chair flying across the room will get her to mind me.

x x x Her dad cannot be micromanaging our lives. Thanks everyone. This time tomorrow I will betotally free.

I'M SO SICK OF HER SAYIN "sabi ni ate, kuya, daddy or mommy"

I'm gettin ready to tell her to go marry her dad or kuya.

She wants my paycheck and paystubs from now on because her dad said its a woman's job to budget everything.

Edited October 25, 2010 by Pinay Wife