Ever ponder this...

[Keith & Xiang 0]

Anyone here ever ponder if the average U.S. Citizen marrying another U.S. Citizen had to go through what we go through to marry our soulmates from overseas or connecting countries, if they had to file all the paperwork, had to wait forever to hold their loved ones in their arms again, had to wait for permission from the government to marry. How many marriages would still take place and what would the divorce rate be?

Just a question that I've pondered the past few days. Now that packet #3 has been submitted, the day is drawing near when packet #4 will arrive and my soulmate will finally have her interview. All that I can say is for everyone to have patience and never give up!!! I'm very lucky in being able to talk to Xiang at least twice a day on the phone and being able to see her everyday on the web camera. She is one very special lady that I could never live without, she gives me life, she gives me strength, she makes me complete!!!!!!

Thanks,

Keith & Xiang

[onyxrev 0]

It is a very good question. Personally I don't think it would function as a filtering process for a greater purity of marriages as much as it would function as a splendid training for very explicit communication skills and, thus, would cause a decrease in divorce rates.

Anyone here ever ponder if the average U.S. Citizen marrying another U.S. Citizen had to go through what we go through to marry our soulmates from overseas or connecting countries, if they had to file all the paperwork, had to wait forever to hold their loved ones in their arms again, had to wait for permission from the government to marry. How many marriages would still take place and what would the divorce rate be?

Just a question that I've pondered the past few days. Now that packet #3 has been submitted, the day is drawing near when packet #4 will arrive and my soulmate will finally have her interview. All that I can say is for everyone to have patience and never give up!!! I'm very lucky in being able to talk to Xiang at least twice a day on the phone and being able to see her everyday on the web camera. She is one very special lady that I could never live without, she gives me life, she gives me strength, she makes me complete!!!!!!

Thanks,

Keith & Xiang

[RosaMystica7 0]

It is a very good question. Personally I don't think it would function as a filtering process for a greater purity of marriages as much as it would function as a splendid training for very explicit communication skills and, thus, would cause a decrease in divorce rates

I agree! SC and I have spent hours on the phone every single day... we wouldn't have spent so many hours just sitting and talking if we were side by side. There's a lot of things we wouldn't know about each other.

[seldi 1]

This whole process has really taught me not to take anything for granted, it makes me cherish every single second I get to spend with him, even if its online.

[KarenCee 3]

It is a very good question. Personally I don't think it would function as a filtering process for a greater purity of marriages as much as it would function as a splendid training for very explicit communication skills and, thus, would cause a decrease in divorce rates

I agree! SC and I have spent hours on the phone every single day... we wouldn't have spent so many hours just sitting and talking if we were side by side. There's a lot of things we wouldn't know about each other.

Good to see you posting again Hope you find something soon and that you're feeling better.

Joel and I talked everyday via computer...hours and hours. Communication was ALL we had for months! You learn a lot about someone that way. Sometimes we would use the webcam and it was awesome. The downside to that is, it makes you long for your beloved so much more...at least it did for me.

I've always thought that those of us going through this type situation, for the most part, have a better chance of making it simply because you have to talk and actually get to know each other between visits. I know there are a few int'l marriages that don't make it...but I think if the average US couple had to sit down and do nothing but talk (the way most of us do) I wonder how it would go for them. Good question Keith...

[RosaMystica7 0]

Thanks! It's good to be back in action. My life got put on hold for SO long... I'll PM you.

I think that longing is good. By the time he finally gets here I think I'll appreciate his presence much more than I ever would have under a normal situation... and really, being able to spend time together in person is something that most couples take for granted - we, hopefully, won't after this experience!