Does not want to give me my GreenC

[Lucy2010 0]

Hi GUYS!

I finally founf some place on the net to get some help or advice. My husband is american and he´s been treating me very badly during the last months(mostly emotional abuse) I was always forgiving him because I was always hoping he would change but just before christmas we became really agressive. We did all the AOS and everything was ok. We passed the interview before christmas so I could go back home to spend sometime with my family. Before I left, I got the letter from USCIS telling me the card was ordered. They told me it should have arrived in 2 weeks. well its been almost 2 months since then. I am coming back home now but I dont want to live with him anymore, I am scared, very scared, and he knows, he theratens me on the phone, and he told me there is not any letter from USCIS, which I know he is lying...That means he is hiding my card. What should I do? Should I just order one as if it was missing? Should I ask an immigration lawyer? Should I tell the police?

Guys, I havent been before in such a terrible and painful situation, I am sure that most of you neither, but if you have some ideas or advices, those will be really helpful.

Thank you so much in advance.

Lucy

[Krikit 1,163]

Submit your change of address and order a new greencard. If you came in on a K-1 visa, show that, along with your card production notice, at the POE.

Moving from Moving to America forum to Effects of Major Changes forum.

Welcome to VJ.

[Lucy2010 0]

Submit your change of address and order a new greencard. If you came in on a K-1 visa, show that, along with your card production notice, at the POE.

Moving from Moving to America forum to Effects of Major Changes forum.

Welcome to VJ.

Thanks for your answer. I will probably have to go to an apartment os to a friends house since I dont feel safe coming back. Can I get a PO box address? I am not sure if USCIS allows that...

[Krikit 1,163]

Thanks for your answer. I will probably have to go to an apartment os to a friends house since I dont feel safe coming back. Can I get a PO box address? I am not sure if USCIS allows that...

It doesn't say you can't. I'm sure many people who live in rural areas have PO Boxes.

USCIS Online Change of Address

[SunDrop 59]

Hi GUYS!

I finally founf some place on the net to get some help or advice. My husband is american and he´s been treating me very badly during the last months(mostly emotional abuse) I was always forgiving him because I was always hoping he would change but just before christmas we became really agressive. We did all the AOS and everything was ok. We passed the interview before christmas so I could go back home to spend sometime with my family. Before I left, I got the letter from USCIS telling me the card was ordered. They told me it should have arrived in 2 weeks. well its been almost 2 months since then. I am coming back home now but I dont want to live with him anymore, I am scared, very scared, and he knows, he theratens me on the phone, and he told me there is not any letter from USCIS, which I know he is lying...That means he is hiding my card. What should I do? Should I just order one as if it was missing? Should I ask an immigration lawyer? Should I tell the police?

Guys, I havent been before in such a terrible and painful situation, I am sure that most of you neither, but if you have some ideas or advices, those will be really helpful.

Thank you so much in advance.

Lucy

Do you have any time at home alone? Have you been added to any of the bills, bank account, car insurance, car title - you need to gather together any documents that show you were living there and as his spouse. I understand that you might not have anything, his being the kind of man that he sounds to be. You also need to find any of the papers you can that were used for your visa and also your marriage license. And don't forget your passport!

When you've got everything together that you can, pack and leave. Go to the nearest police station and tell them that he assaulted you, you think stole your green card and you're in fear for your life. They should help you find a women's shelter and document the abuse. You'll need this if you want to proceed with your permanent residency without his help.

You can order a new green card, but you would have to pay to replace it. I don't know that you would if you can show that you were being abused and your number one priority right now is to get yourself somewhere safe. His aggressive behaviour towards you is escalating and it's extremely rare that men like this change.

I'm sorry for your situation and wish you the best of luck,

[Otto 83]

** Moving thread to "Effects of Major Family Changes on Immigration Benefits" (multiple threads on the same subject is discouraged).

[Krikit 1,163]

Merging two threads on the same topic.

[Rob and Jill 82]

Lucy,

I would say you've been given solid advice. First and foremost gather everything you can gather to prove you had a marriage.

However, with all of this information being said above, you should strongly consider whether it is safe at all for you to go to the home. If he has PHYSICALLY harmed you, file a police report. You can also have a police officer escort you to the home in order to remove your personal items. There are abused women shelters all across the country who will help you get back on your feet and who keep their locations hidden from anyone who does not work there. While it would be easiest to retrieve those documents from your home, you can also get copies in the places they were filed. Like the Circuit Court in your county for your marriage license etc. Do not put yourself at risk gathering this information. Your life is way more important than a piece of paper.

[Lucy2010 0]

Thanks Sundrop!

You may be right, I guess he will never change. But I never thought that would happen to me, this is the kind of story you always hear about somebody else...

Well, fortunately I have with me some dicuments as: passport, all the uscis letters (also the gc cas order letter and elcome letter), and marriage certificate. But unfortunately Idont have and joint bills. It was all in his name (even If I payed big part of everything since he does not have much money). He put my name in his bank account in order for the interview but I don´t have any documents showing it. I am just scared about going home to get my things back, but I have to get them. That´s why I don´t know where to go to ask for some help. I may go back home and he might be fine, or I may go home and he might be agressive and don´t let me go away......

[Lucy2010 0]

Thanks krikit for the link!!

[Lucy2010 0]

Rob and Jill,

Thanks so much for your advice, I really appreciate it since I have no idea what to do. As I said we don´t any bills together since he put everything in his name. I think I did put my name in the water bill and he added me into his bank account for the interview, But the problem is that I don´t feel safe going home, I am scared. I know he can get agressive and keep me there or who knows. I have there a big part of my stuff but I guess its a good idea about the police escort. When I told him that we should live separately for some time he was threatening with throwing all my stuff away. Terrible....I still can´t believe how can a person change so much...

[SunDrop 59]

Rob and Jill,

Thanks so much for your advice, I really appreciate it since I have no idea what to do. As I said we don´t any bills together since he put everything in his name. I think I did put my name in the water bill and he added me into his bank account for the interview, But the problem is that I don´t feel safe going home, I am scared. I know he can get agressive and keep me there or who knows. I have there a big part of my stuff but I guess its a good idea about the police escort. When I told him that we should live separately for some time he was threatening with throwing all my stuff away. Terrible....I still can´t believe how can a person change so much...

GO TO THE POLICE and report him. As Rob and Jill said, they can escort you to the home.

For the bank statements, if I were you, I'd go NOW to the bank, withdraw every penny that you can, get a letter from them showing your name on the account and then head STRAIGHT to the local precinct. Do not endanger yourself by going back there without a police escort. And no, not a friend. You need someone with the strength of the law on their side to protect you. Also tell the police you have nowhere to go, they can help you find a shelter. You will also want to consider having restraining order put on him, if you work somewhere that is publicly accessible. Tell your employer and also have any direct deposit to the account stopped.

I'm sincerely sorry to read of your experiences. By reporting it to the police, you are making it much harder for him to successfully do the same again, with another unsuspecting woman.

[Lucy2010 0]

Thanks again sundrop,

It´s such a nice feeling to know that you can get support.

About the bank, his account was almost zero when I left. I was the one with the money, but I have my own bank account and fortunately never put him on it. I helped him economically a lot , and I did it because I loved him. So I don´t have a real bad money issue right now, but it´s true that we dont have any joint bills

HIs abuse was mostly emotional: he got angry with no reason, called me names, didnt really want me to have a life, he broke some of my belongings.

He did hurt me physically a couple of times, not bad but he pushed me once hard and once he broke a mirror and some of the pieces cut my leg a little bit.

I really don´t know what to tell the police, it is such a violent situation...I feel that they are not going to listen to me since I am not a citizen.He sent me an email some days ago telling me that he was going to change and that he was going to go to therapy but I can´t trust him anymore..

[SunDrop 59]

Thanks again sundrop,

It´s such a nice feeling to know that you can get support.

About the bank, his account was almost zero when I left. I was the one with the money, but I have my own bank account and fortunately never put him on it. I helped him economically a lot , and I did it because I loved him. So I don´t have a real bad money issue right now, but it´s true that we dont have any joint bills

HIs abuse was mostly emotional: he got angry with no reason, called me names, didnt really want me to have a life, he broke some of my belongings.

He did hurt me physically a couple of times, not bad but he pushed me once hard and once he broke a mirror and some of the pieces cut my leg a little bit.

I really don´t know what to tell the police, it is such a violent situation...I feel that they are not going to listen to me since I am not a citizen.He sent me an email some days ago telling me that he was going to change and that he was going to go to therapy but I can´t trust him anymore..

You tell the police what you said to us here. How recent was the physical attack and do you have any evidence of it still? I can't say that they won't treat you any differently because you're not a citizen, but I can say that they shouldn't treat you any differently. How small town are you, where you are?

You can't go back to him, he's not going to change. It's absolutely classic abuser behaviour and good on you for getting out. It's not easy and very brave because you know that it can aggravate him. And if he's saying he'll change and you continue to refuse to return to him, it's likely to get uglier because you're not complying with his demands. Now is the time to protect yourself legally as well as physically. Please go to the police!

You can still go to the bank and request something confirming that you are named on the account.

[Lucy2010 0]

Thanks again sundrop!

You message really gives me higher confidence on myself, which is what I need right now. I am at my hometown now but I will be in the sates soon and I am planing to stay at a pretty big town (I can tell you where privately if you want to)

I was kinda scared of going to the police, I never did and its difficult for me but I also feel that´s going to be the best way to be safe. I don´t have any evidence from the physical injury, since it was a small injury made like 6 months ago already.