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Oh Janice. :( That has about made me cry - staying in that room all day? Does Jon know this is going on??

Is there a Yahoo group for UKers near your hometown (or in your state) that you could join? Maybe find someone else to talk to or even go out and meet and comiserate with? There has to be some other outlet there for you.

Could you maybe volunteer somewhere a few days a week and get to know people that way (and get out of the house)?

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Oh Janice. :( That has about made me cry - staying in that room all day? Does Jon know this is going on??

Is there a Yahoo group for UKers near your hometown (or in your state) that you could join? Maybe find someone else to talk to or even go out and meet and comiserate with? There has to be some other outlet there for you.

Could you maybe volunteer somewhere a few days a week and get to know people that way (and get out of the house)?

I agree you can't stay penned up in one room all day, or only come out to do clearing up. Find yourself something to do while you wait to work. Many local animal shelters need volunteers, or children's hospitals, schools etc. Definetly discuss this with your hubby, hopefully he will put his foot down on whoever is causing you grief, you don't deserve to be treated this way after coming so far from all that you know. Thoughts are with ya!

Bethanie

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Janice, if at all possible hang in there until you have AP. I left without AP last year, and because of some processing issues at CSC at the time, it took ages to get back in (11 1/2 months to be excat). Hugs and all the best.

Permanent Green Card Holder since 2006, considering citizenship application in the future.

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Oh Janice. :( That has about made me cry - staying in that room all day? Does Jon know this is going on??

Is there a Yahoo group for UKers near your hometown (or in your state) that you could join? Maybe find someone else to talk to or even go out and meet and comiserate with? There has to be some other outlet there for you.

Could you maybe volunteer somewhere a few days a week and get to know people that way (and get out of the house)?

Jon does know what is going on, when I first arrived his sister was ok, then she started hitting me, the first time I went into shock and did not say a word this continued off and on for a couple of months until I eventually snapped and told his mum that if she touched me one more time I would personally land her in Hospital, needless to say that stopped. Now its little remarks that I find insulting, she does not do anything in the house she is the laziest person I know and nothing gets said I do not understand it!!!!! Yesterday she as if I ever wanted to hang somewhere, I stayed quite but in my head I was saying yeah a rope around your flipping head, but I did not have the guts to say it, I just do not want any trouble.

I did do some volunteering at the Local library but that stopped because they are renovating the place. I would do that kind of thing if there was anywhere to go to, I live quite a ways from anything, yes I did pass my driving test but Jon has the car for work. I do not know anyone, yes there are neighbours but none of them say anything, the men when home might say hello but not the women they do not say a bloody word so its difficult to make even one friend.

Last but not least I do love Jon very very much and it is hard to make the decision of leaving and going home but I feel I am coming to the end of my tether. In five months we have only made love 3 times and now it is just one excuse after another with him, he says he loves me and yes he does give me a peck on the cheek/lips sometimes but nothing else. :( I have tried so hard.

Janice

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This is why I never want to live with in-laws.

In my first marriage, we lived with his parents for nearly a year. I felt trapped most days. I spent the entire day in my room, waiting for my husband to come home and when he did, I'd ask him to go and get me something to eat since I hadn't felt comfortable leaving the room even for food. His parents were nice as could be, but I just never felt welcome. He also had a sister living there who did'nt have any responsibilities and would actually take my clothes out of the dryer while they were still wet becuase she couldn't wait to dry her own. I never had to deal with the level of abuse you're being faced with... and yes verbal abuse is still abuse.

I wouldn't blame you for leaving, if you can. But maybe your husband can find a place for the two of you to be together and you can get away from those crazy people.

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I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this. Have you discuss about getting own place? that might make you guys feel a lot better. and more private to do the laundry i hope :blush:

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AOS = 5 months

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What was Jon's reaction to you being HIT??? :angry: There is NO excuse for that whatsoever, and his sister is damn lucky you didn't call the police and charge her with assault. If any of my relatives ever hit my fiance, they better look out because I'd be one honking angry Southerner. Jon's reaction should have been exactly the same. He has to stand up for you first and foremost.

I cannot blame you for wanting to get out and go home, but PLEASE take whatever time is necessary to get AP before you go. I know now it feels like you never want to come back, but you never know what the future holds - so don't make things more difficult for yourself by leaving without permission. Not when you do have an opportunity to get it first.

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I was so close to hitting the button for a Ticket home yesterday, I suppose I have calmed down since then, as I said I do love Jon and maybe we can work something out, I thought if I went back home then maybe Jon could join me at a later date, or the other idea was to go home and once we had enough money together we could get somewhere here and then I could come back, we do not know where to start though and what our options would be if I left. I tried telling Jon about the K3 but he does not understand what that is all about, to be quite honest neither do I.

Janice

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Living with in-laws is a no-no. Can you two move out? I definitely would be pissed of if my sister or anyone would hit my fiancée. There would be trouble! :bonk:

Good luck,

Peter Miami

Johanna & Peter

Colombia / U.S.A.

I-129F / K-1 Fiancee Visa

08-20-02 - Met Johanna in Armenia, Colombia

10-05-05 - K-1 Sent to TSC

10-14-05 - Received NOA1 by E-Mail (Day 9)

12-22-05 - Reveived NOA2 By E-Mail & Mail (Day 78)

03-03-06 - Interview Date! (Day 149) Approved

03-10-06 - Johanna Arrived

05-27-06 - Married

I-485 / AOS (Did not applied for EAD or AP)

06-05-06 - Sent I-485 application to Chicago via USPS (Day 1)

06-06-06 - AOS Package Delivered at 12:29PM

06-12-06 - Received NOA1 by Mail

06-14-06 - Check Cashed

06-22-06 - Received Appointment Notice for Biometrics

06-26-06 - "Request for Additional Evidence" Online, waiting for letter

06-29-06 - Biometrics Done!

06-30-06 - Received RFE Letter by mail. (Missing Birth Certificate)

07-10-06 - Sent RFE by Express Mail USPS

07-11-06 - RFE Delivered @ 10:54AM Sign by D. Atwell

08-28-06 - AOS Transferred to CSC E-mail & USCIS Website (Day 85)

08-30-06 - Touched #1

08-31-06 - Touched #2

08-31-06 - E-Mail from CRIS & USCIS-CSSO - CSC received AOS Application

09-01-06 - Touched #3

09-01-06 - NOA by Mail Regarding Transfer to CSC

09-05-06 - Touched #4

09-07-06 - Touched #5

09-13-06 - Touched #6

09-15-06 - AOS Approved by Online Status & E-mail

09-21-06 - Received GC and Welcome Letter (Day 109)

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I was so close to hitting the button for a Ticket home yesterday, I suppose I have calmed down since then, as I said I do love Jon and maybe we can work something out, I thought if I went back home then maybe Jon could join me at a later date, or the other idea was to go home and once we had enough money together we could get somewhere here and then I could come back, we do not know where to start though and what our options would be if I left. I tried telling Jon about the K3 but he does not understand what that is all about, to be quite honest neither do I.

Janice

If you leave without having adjusted status, this will cause you problems if you ever try for another visa to the US. It would be seen that you had abandoned your AOS. I think the idea of you going home WITH AP and then waiting until he sorts you out another place to live is a better scenario.

FWIW, a K3 isn't that much more complicated than the K1 - it just has a different set of pros and cons (check out the guide). But again, if you abandon your case now, then I'm not sure that leaves you anywhere good. In fact, I think you'd even have problems visiting on the VWP.

What about the two of you taking a long weekend somewhere away from the in laws' house? That would at least give you a chance to really TALK (even about your options) and reconnect. I would still chase up an Infopass appointment, too, and get that ball rolling on the emergency AP.

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Because I cannot work we cannot afford a place of our own at the moment, maybe once I have a Job then yes we would be able to move out, let me stress my mother-in-law has been very nice, It is her daughter that is the problem. As I am an outsider it is more difficult to get my point across. I am just finding it very difficult to actually stay here, maybe some will see it as running away but I just do not want trouble, I cannot abide that sort of thing, never have, maybe I am a coward I honestly do not know.

Janice

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