How to answer why we got married so quickly

[Svadharma 11]

Hello all! My husband has his interview on the 29th of June and I have been trying to help him get ready for the interview. The only possible question that might be hard to answer is why we decided to get married so quickly. We met one day and essentially started living together the next day. We got married after only knowing each other for 4 1/2 months. If they ask him this, the only answer I can come up with is..... "because we fell in love and just knew that we wanted to be together." I don't know if this is a good response though... any ideas?

Thanks in advance!

[paulreed 0]

Hello all! My husband has his interview on the 29th of June and I have been trying to help him get ready for the interview. The only possible question that might be hard to answer is why we decided to get married so quickly. We met one day and essentially started living together the next day. We got married after only knowing each other for 4 1/2 months. If they ask him this, the only answer I can come up with is..... "because we fell in love and just knew that we wanted to be together." I don't know if this is a good response though... any ideas?

Thanks in advance!

Sounds like a good enough reply to me. It's the truth. Not sure what else you could tell them.

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hello all! My husband has his interview on the 29th of June and I have been trying to help him get ready for the interview. The only possible question that might be hard to answer is why we decided to get married so quickly. We met one day and essentially started living together the next day. We got married after only knowing each other for 4 1/2 months. If they ask him this, the only answer I can come up with is..... "because we fell in love and just knew that we wanted to be together." I don't know if this is a good response though... any ideas?

Thanks in advance!

The good response is the truth. Why DID you get married so quickly? What's wrong with your answer? I met my wife completely out of the blue, completely by fortunate accident and 3 hours later I KNEW I was walking around with my wife to be. Took her two days to figure it out, but she is slow like that.

4-1/2 months from meeting to marriage is not a long engagement but rules out drunken blunders in Vegas. Doesn't sound so unusual. Hey, when you know it...you know it.

[Dan & Juan 12]

Hello all! My husband has his interview on the 29th of June and I have been trying to help him get ready for the interview. The only possible question that might be hard to answer is why we decided to get married so quickly. We met one day and essentially started living together the next day. We got married after only knowing each other for 4 1/2 months. If they ask him this, the only answer I can come up with is..... "because we fell in love and just knew that we wanted to be together." I don't know if this is a good response though... any ideas?

Thanks in advance!

The good response is the truth. Why DID you get married so quickly? What's wrong with your answer? I met my wife completely out of the blue, completely by fortunate accident and 3 hours later I KNEW I was walking around with my wife to be. Took her two days to figure it out, but she is slow like that.

4-1/2 months from meeting to marriage is not a long engagement but rules out drunken blunders in Vegas. Doesn't sound so unusual. Hey, when you know it...you know it.

I hate this question in so many ways. I am paranoid and wondering how many red flags will pop up. I am 45 years old I have never been married. I enjoyed my single life sure it would be nice on many levels to have a family and all that, well I tell you what getting married is a hassle, its a lot of work stress and money. I was cruising along on my own. Then somehow I came across this woman online, which almost instantly changed my view and my life. I have no explanation how I knew that she was different, but I just KNEW. And like the timeline of a couple months I knew this was serious serious love. I had never met her in person but spending up to 8 hours a day online just felt right. Well when I planned on visiting her the whole idea of how to proceed, we were pretty sure that fiancee and engagement and eventual marriage would be a good plan, and we would see how it went. So my red flags are maybe, quick relationship, married first visit, maybe age gap.

Well my position was that i KNEW she was THE one for me and I for her and that if we married right away we would certainly be apart for a year maybe and that we could use the time apart to plan and know so much more, even though we got so close so quickly. Well we were apart 9 months but of course endless online time together.

So now we are still very happy to be married and really really hate being apart, but accept the fact that we have to be patient. now if they are going to be asking such questions why don't I visit more and longer etc. I don't know how much money and vacation that VO's get but most people can't afford to take off work that needs them there and pay thousands of dollars to travel across the world. If I had my way she would be here with me and all our problems would be solved. If they ask her this question we will be totally honest but I HATE that honest sounds so flaky. I mean we fell in love we arenot children and we knew it was right to be married, that is the only explanation they should need.

[Mike and Yan 0]

I hate this question in so many ways. ........ I was cruising along on my own. Then somehow I came across this woman online, ......... I have no explanation how I knew that she was different, but I just KNEW. ...... So my red flags are maybe, quick relationship, married first visit, maybe age gap.

........ now if they are going to be asking such questions why don't I visit more and longer etc. I don't know how much money and vacation that VO's get but most people can't afford to take off work that needs them there and pay thousands of dollars to travel across the world. If I had my way she would be here with me and all our problems would be solved. If they ask her this question we will be totally honest but I HATE that honest sounds so flaky. I mean we fell in love we arenot children and we knew it was right to be married, that is the only explanation they should need.

RIGHT ON BROTHER!!!!

[ao_cons 1]

My advice ts to be together physically with your spouses as much as possible before filing for a visa. If you notice, even people with a "normal" engagement" period and then go back to the US and file for a fiance/e visa can raise an issue if they've only spent a short time together (or appear to). I remember someone posting here a few months ago how the consul thought he'd spent only a few days with his wife based on their photographs.

On the other hand, even if you had a short engagement period (or none at all), you still do away with the doubts if you spend a LOT of time together. It seems that for the CR1/IR1 at least, it is the time you physically spend together as a couple that count the most. Also, your families knowing and approving of the relationship as evidenced by letters, pictures chats and phone calls would help a LOT as well.

[Svadharma 11]

Okay! Thank you so much for your replies! I feel more confident now. We lived together for over 7 months before I filed the I-130... and we have photos and emails and cards.

So, I think I will go with... Because we fell in love and just knew we wanted to be together.