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[meatspin 0]

I dont know wherelse to post this,

this is the situation, The K3 has been approved for my Fiancee, she will be coming here in June, but lately she just told me she wants to come for only 3 months then go back to the Philippines so she can take her nursing board exam.

It has really gotten me irritated to the point to where I was thinking of calling everything off.

Then I was thinking this, if she were to come here, maybe within 3 months she might change her mind and decide to stay.

any opinions ? am i an idiot or what ?

I would really appreciate it.

[john & jean 37]

yes

[Otto 83]

K-3 would mean you're already married... (so she wouldn't be your fiancé, she'd be your wife).

If you meant K-1 was approved then her returning in 3 months might not even be an option.

[Tahoma 2,292]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

[meatspin 0]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

[rheanick 42]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

K1 visa is good for 6 months from date of issuance. If you are approved this month, it is valid until november. If she will take her board on June, she could get the result within few days.

The 180 days is the requirement for you to get married upon her entry to the US.

[john & jean 37]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

K1 visa is good for 6 months from date of issuance. If you are approved this month, it is valid until november. If she will take her board on June, she could get the result within few days.

The 180 days is the requirement for you to get married upon her entry to the US.

180 days to get married, hmmmm

[luckymom 0]

I don't know if I am right, I am just basing this to my sis-in-law who came here on a K-1 visa. She got married with my brother here and they filed her papers and wait for it to be approved. She was approved last March 2009 and she will be going home this August. Local board exam is not really needed as far as I know because she will be taking her NCLEX here in the first place. Maybe they (her mother and her) don't know that. The issue about the mother is an unwelcome thing but I am not here to judge. Maybe they have their own mother and daughter agenda. Good luck to the both of you and Best Wishes on your forthcoming wedding.

[meatspin 0]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

K1 visa is good for 6 months from date of issuance. If you are approved this month, it is valid until november. If she will take her board on June, she could get the result within few days.

The 180 days is the requirement for you to get married upon her entry to the US.

is it not 90 days to get married for a K1 ?

anyways with her mentality she thinks that I can just easily come up with a plane ticket and send her back to the Philippines anytime she likes, she still doesnt see the hardship and time involved with this process.

Another problem with her MOM is that she tries to pretend to be a very conservative person, im going to call her bluff and the more I think of it, if i were to pull the plug they would be begging me back.

I am just frustrated with the fact that they have to mentality of EASIER SAID THEN DONE.

As for the BOARD EXAM ISSUE, her mom wants her to get it because of the fact she is proud to be a FILIPINA, i really dont want to think about it right now for the fact that I have been understanding for the past many years and seems like they are taking my kindness as a form of weakness.

her mom needs to stay out of the way and let us work things out as a couple.

So much time, effort and money has been spent to do this and they dont get it, seems as if i cant even reason out with either one of them on this, thinking of this makes me want to go POSTAL.

VERY FRUSTRATING

If i offended anyone, I am sorry I just had to vent.

[luckymom 0]

Yes you are right. Within 90 days you have to get married and it's very risky to go home after that because your soon-to-be wife's papers should be filed first. I go by what my brother did to my sis-in-law. And you're also right that her mom should stay away in your fiancee and your business. She (her mom) should step back and should be there to advice and to see to it that everything is going well in your relationship. Too much meddling (no offense meant to some mothers) is really a poison in a relationship. With regards to your fiancee, she should learn how to decide for herself. This is her future with you and she should be matured enough to tackle these issues. But please don't take it against them (your fiancee and her mom), try to be more understanding a little bit. I know that this visa journey is really a tough situation because I am still into this process.

[meatspin 0]

Yes you are right. Within 90 days you have to get married and it's very risky to go home after that because your soon-to-be wife's papers should be filed first. I go by what my brother did to my sis-in-law. And you're also right that her mom should stay away in your fiancee and your business. She (her mom) should step back and should be there to advice and to see to it that everything is going well in your relationship. Too much meddling (no offense meant to some mothers) is really a poison in a relationship. With regards to your fiancee, she should learn how to decide for herself. This is her future with you and she should be matured enough to tackle these issues. But please don't take it against them (your fiancee and her mom), try to be more understanding a little bit. I know that this visa journey is really a tough situation because I am still into this process.

well said.............

Yeah I am just frustrated, her mom really needs to back off and leave it between us to decide.

As of now we are not talking, she refuses to answer the phone and is ignoring my text messages.

What will be will be, leave it at Gods will. All i know is i did my part as a man, I sent her thru college and was always there for her, I think her mother got big headed and thinks that her daughter is the only daughter in the world.

Sorry to vent again..............

All those years of knowing her, waiting for the day for us to be together, filing the K1 and going thru the process of waiting and checking the status everyday and only to come to a conclusion like this..... very frustrating especially since she does not want to talk to me right now, I say yes a million times and then say no one time and then suddenly I am the biggest jerk in the world.

very disappointing.

[rheanick 42]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

K1 visa is good for 6 months from date of issuance. If you are approved this month, it is valid until november. If she will take her board on June, she could get the result within few days.

The 180 days is the requirement for you to get married upon her entry to the US.

is it not 90 days to get married for a K1 ?

anyways with her mentality she thinks that I can just easily come up with a plane ticket and send her back to the Philippines anytime she likes, she still doesnt see the hardship and time involved with this process.

Another problem with her MOM is that she tries to pretend to be a very conservative person, im going to call her bluff and the more I think of it, if i were to pull the plug they would be begging me back.

I am just frustrated with the fact that they have to mentality of EASIER SAID THEN DONE.

As for the BOARD EXAM ISSUE, her mom wants her to get it because of the fact she is proud to be a FILIPINA, i really dont want to think about it right now for the fact that I have been understanding for the past many years and seems like they are taking my kindness as a form of weakness.

her mom needs to stay out of the way and let us work things out as a couple.

So much time, effort and money has been spent to do this and they dont get it, seems as if i cant even reason out with either one of them on this, thinking of this makes me want to go POSTAL.

VERY FRUSTRATING

If i offended anyone, I am sorry I just had to vent.

Oppss... its 90 days to get married. My mistake. My math is bad today.

[DEDixon 39]

I'm kind of amazed that your very first post is about your unappreciative Filipina fiance and her controlling mother.

And, I'm amazed you've been dealing with the immigration process for quite a long time and again this is your very first post.

But, no matter, I'm easily amazed.

Anyway, I think, if my fiance ignored my text messages and wouldn't answer the phone for no good reason and if she seemed as unappreciative as your fiance, yeah, I'd leave her in the RP, good luck and goodbye!

[sjquin 0]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

no doubt that you're from Nevada with all the poker terminology, lol....all joking aside...Correct me if I'm wrong but it is not guaranteed that she can just leave like that after 3 months...You have to file for an AP for her (advance parole) when you apply for AOS and who knows how long it will take to get one...Does anybody know??? please post..

As for your fiancee, I think it sounds like you spoiled her, you sent her through nursing school, and you said you always say yes, yes, and yes to whatever she says....I can see trouble from what i'm hearing from you...1st, unappreciative..that's not gonna work in a relationship, she should be grateful you sent her through college, it seems like she's taking you for granted. 2ndly, a meddling mother in-law, she shouldn't be the one to make the decision on what her daughter should do...she can give advice, opinion and so on but that's it. 3rdly, It seems you're not a 100% sure about this marriage...So you should think about it....If you think it's not gonna work, don't do it...like you said you might go postal...you might regret it later on....If you think you can work it out, then go through, BUT weigh everything first. If she gets her way all the time...Watch out......TROUBLe It should always be a 2 way street, give and take, 50/50...

Edited May 11, 2009 by sjquin

[sjquin 0]

Your fiancée (wife?) may not necessarily need to take the Local Board Exam. If she is planning to work as a Registered Nurse in the United States, each state has different requirements. It is my understanding that not all states require the Local Board Exam.

You can Google the Board of Nursing for the state in question and read up on their requirements.

Or, maybe she can simply stay in the Philippines until she passes her Local Board Exam.

my brain is so frustrated that I cant even think right, I actually meant the K1 visa for Fiancee, thing is she has 180 days to use that visa, in which she will be taking the board exam in June and then wants to wait for the results. We already had plans but her mother got involved, from what I can see is that her mom is PAKIPOT (meaning she really likes it but acts as if she does not). Anyways I might be pulling the plug on this since it does not make any sense for me that she is waiting for her Philippine board exam and its not needed here in the state of NEVADA only a NCLEX.

Maybe its a bluff and I will be calling her bluff.

no doubt that you're from Nevada with all the poker terminology, lol....all joking aside...Correct me if I'm wrong but it is not guaranteed that she can just leave like that after 3 months...You have to file for an AP for her (advance parole) when you apply for AOS and who knows how long it will take to get one...Does anybody know??? please post..

As for your fiancee, I think it sounds like you spoiled her, you sent her through nursing school, and you said you always say yes, yes, and yes to whatever she says....I can see trouble from what i'm hearing from you...1st, unappreciative..that's not gonna work in a relationship, she should be grateful you sent her through college, it seems like she's taking you for granted. 2ndly, a meddling mother in-law, she shouldn't be the one to make the decision on what her daughter should do...she can give advice, opinion and so on but that's it. 3rdly, It seems you're not a 100% sure about this marriage...So you should think about it....If you think it's not gonna work, don't do it...like you said you might go postal...you might regret it later on....If you think you can work it out, then go through, BUT weigh everything first. If she gets her way all the time...Watch out......TROUBLe It should always be a 2 way street, give and take, 50/50...