Filipino fiancee never arrived and is missing

[alienlovechild 75]

You've been scammed and weren't quite as street smart as you thought. You let your dreams of a happy marriage blind you to some red flags and I suspect you're questioning a lot of things after the fact.

I wouldn't waste more time on her and you've done your bit so write her off.

If you go the visa route again, take your time and be somewhat skeptical and take your time after meeting and filing for a visa.

[Ladylethal 12]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

Hear hear, I almost let my loved one go 'cus I didn't want to go down this line. But in the end, I couldn't deny I didn't want anyone else.

[Rocky_nBullwinkle 6]

Did you send her money in the Philippines? Did you pay for her medical, visa interview and her plane ticket? I wonder if she is a member of the Abu Sayyaf? Why else would she want to come to the United States on a 90-day visa? She could have married you and stayed longer and then run away with a two-year green card?

I think your post is being made up. It does have many discrepancies. It does not meet the stink test.

Edited March 19, 2009 by Rocky_nBullwinkle

[Welshcookie 17]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

You are wise beyond your years

[alienlovechild 75]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

I think most adults are well aware of their value on the dating scene and it not surprising a tiny minority would look into marrying a more desirable foreign spouse. Sometimes the thought of marrying a local person out of desperation is worse.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

Skip the bars and save yourself the hassle.

[alienlovechild 75]

I think your post is being made up. It does have many discrepancies. It does not meet the stink test.

I'm usually the skeptical one but it seems quite plausible that a woman would hoodwink a lovestruck American and disappear in a nation of 300 million people and millions of illegal immigrants. If she doesn't get into a crime scene she won't get caught and deportation is pretty unlikely.

[Peikko 1,575]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

I think most adults are well aware of their value on the dating scene and it not surprising a tiny minority would look into marrying a more desirable foreign spouse. Sometimes the thought of marrying a local person out of desperation is worse.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

Skip the bars and save yourself the hassle.

So, your value judgment is more valid than someone who chooses differently?

Nessa made a lot of sense. Deliberately trying to find a spouse from another country, for whatever reason, is adding an extra layer of difficulty. Why would you be in denial about that?

[I'm Gone 60]

I say she went to Disneyland. LOL Just about every time someone comes on here with some wild story like this it turns out the be BS. Do the people that have been around for a while remember the guy that lived in Alaska and married the woman from Russia and posted the wild story about her only to come back later to say it was a joke and he made it all up.

If the person had been a member for a while and maybe had posted a few time I might believe the story, but to just join and come up with this wild story, he probably has a bridge for sale too.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Troll. Stop feeding it.

I know it's you!!!!!!!

Steven the OP is spooky's other username

Not true. There are certain things that I don't joke about, and this would be one of them.

Troll. Stop feeding it.

Exactly. I already PM'd the person offering help since my wife's from Cebu but got no response. This troll is taking everyone for a ride.

Agreed.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

why on earth would u be worried about if u can apply for a k1 visa again in the future? i still fail to understand why people would go look for a foreign spouse on purpose. i would never do that. it's extremely difficult to engage in a relationship with someone from another country, it happened to me, i don't regret a second, but i'd never on purpose do that.

I think most adults are well aware of their value on the dating scene and it not surprising a tiny minority would look into marrying a more desirable foreign spouse. Sometimes the thought of marrying a local person out of desperation is worse.

go to a bar, start dating, forget about her, move on.

Skip the bars and save yourself the hassle.

So, your value judgment is more valid than someone who chooses differently?

Nessa made a lot of sense. Deliberately trying to find a spouse from another country, for whatever reason, is adding an extra layer of difficulty. Why would you be in denial about that?

[one...two...tree 2,762]

He gave me his contact info as well as his fiancee's full name and address back in Cebu. I offered to help him at least find out what happened. One way to know if she is ok is to check her MySpace or Friendster account, which will show when she last logged in. If she's ok, more than likely, she's been in contact with her family. Hopefully, the OP can find out if she is in fact ok, possibly get her to explain to him why she did what she did and then put this all behind him.

Edited March 19, 2009 by Mister Fancypants

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Steven, that is really nice of you to offer your help. I hope he is on the up and up and that the woman has not been abducted.

I guess I just don't quite understand why someone would be on a message board searching for advice about a person that disappeared. It seems that the police, USCIS, the airline, the airport etc. would be the place to concentrate ones efforts, not asking strangers if we think he got scammed. But that's just my opinion. At this point, if the story is true, the main concern should be for this woman's well being. Was she abducted or not? Or was it all a scam to get into the US?

[Amby 490]

spooky like i said earlier, people to strange things that we can't understand when they're desperate

[one...two...tree 2,762]

Steven, that is really nice of you to offer your help. I hope he is on the up and up and that the woman has not been abducted.

I guess I just don't quite understand why someone would be on a message board searching for advice about a person that disappeared. It seems that the police, USCIS, the airline, the airport etc. would be the place to concentrate ones efforts, not asking strangers if we think he got scammed. But that's just my opinion. At this point, if the story is true, the main concern should be for this woman's well being. Was she abducted or not? Or was it all a scam to get into the US?

I agree, which is why I was skeptical. Hopefully, he'll come back online and explain things better. If this is real - at the very least, Homeland Security should be involved.

[spookyturtle 9,466]

Steven, that is really nice of you to offer your help. I hope he is on the up and up and that the woman has not been abducted.

I guess I just don't quite understand why someone would be on a message board searching for advice about a person that disappeared. It seems that the police, USCIS, the airline, the airport etc. would be the place to concentrate ones efforts, not asking strangers if we think he got scammed. But that's just my opinion. At this point, if the story is true, the main concern should be for this woman's well being. Was she abducted or not? Or was it all a scam to get into the US?

I agree, which is why I was skeptical. Hopefully, he'll come back online and explain things better. If this is real - at the very least, Homeland Security should be involved.

Absolutely. If this is true, it is a very serious matter regardless of whether it was an abduction or scam.