TAAS NOO, PINAY AKO!

[nickoftime 0]

I was amused last night that based alone on an opinion veiled with sarcasm that I posted in one discussion thread here, someone already extrapolated about the likes of me using Americans for the purpose of getting a green card and ruining the image of Filipinas. And I am now the enemy, hahaha!

I lost track of what were posted there and well, I am anymore interested to know. It however, made me wonder -

ONE: Why is it that there are SOME USC (read: males who have American citizenship) who easily think, conclude and/or accuse that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? What I find it perpelexing is the fact that they, themselves have either a pending petition to bring their Filipina SO or have been with their SO who came here via K1, K3 or CR1. Is it not that the presumption why they filed their petition for their SO is because they really believe in true love and that when people are in love, they need to be together? Why then this seemingly standing assumption that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? I find it really insulting to us, FILIPINAS!!!

TWO - What really is the image of a Filipina that has been projected to the world, in general and to the USC in particular? Is it the concept of Maria Clara as portrayed in Jose Rizal's Noli Me Tangere or that of Gabriela Silang who was a historical figure in the Philippines? Or should the Filipina image be taken in the context of the present setting or trend that Filipinas comprises about 70% of the work force in the Philippines so much that it could easily be concluded that the vast majority of the Filipinos are working women?

THREE - If the Filipina decided to work and be empowered by being financially independent, does it make her less of a Filipina?

Ah, I leave it to you, peeps. For now, I've got to go and be empowered not necessarily to overpower my husband but only to be what I have always been, an intelligent Filipina who knows my priorities as a wife, a mother and a woman, wink**

[tallcoolone 102]

In my opinion.

You need to worry more about your personal life.

Not what is written or stated or implied on a forum.

Life is real, Forums are not.

[Ban Hammer 12,900]

Life is real, Forums are not.

[vichygurl 1]

I was amused last night that based alone on an opinion veiled with sarcasm that I posted in one discussion thread here, someone already extrapolated about the likes of me using Americans for the purpose of getting a green card and ruining the image of Filipinas. And I am now the enemy, hahaha!

That's how they've known it.. that's how they think of it..that's how they interpret...that's how they assumed. It's not new!

At the end of the day..what really matters is YOU. What you think,what you believe and what you aim for.

I don't need to explain to the whole world why I married an American. What's important is my husband and our marriage.

It's a public forum, expect the unexpected!

Vida Taylor

[rheanick 42]

It's their own opinion. Dont be bothered with it.

This is a public forum. Anyone can say what they want to say.

[PhiLandShiR 18]

I was amused last night that based alone on an opinion veiled with sarcasm that I posted in one discussion thread here, someone already extrapolated about the likes of me using Americans for the purpose of getting a green card and ruining the image of Filipinas. And I am now the enemy, hahaha!

I lost track of what were posted there and well, I am anymore interested to know. It however, made me wonder -

ONE: Why is it that there are SOME USC (read: males who have American citizenship) who easily think, conclude and/or accuse that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? What I find it perpelexing is the fact that they, themselves have either a pending petition to bring their Filipina SO or have been with their SO who came here via K1, K3 or CR1. Is it not that the presumption why they filed their petition for their SO is because they really believe in true love and that when people are in love, they need to be together? Why then this seemingly standing assumption that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? I find it really insulting to us, FILIPINAS!!!

TWO - What really is the image of a Filipina that has been projected to the world, in general and to the USC in particular? Is it the concept of Maria Clara as portrayed in Jose Rizal's Noli Me Tangere or that of Gabriela Silang who was a historical figure in the Philippines? Or should the Filipina image be taken in the context of the present setting or trend that Filipinas comprises about 70% of the work force in the Philippines so much that it could easily be concluded that the vast majority of the Filipinos are working women?

THREE - If the Filipina decided to work and be empowered by being financially independent, does it make her less of a Filipina?

Ah, I leave it to you, peeps. For now, I've got to go and be empowered not necessarily to overpower my husband but only to be what I have always been, an intelligent Filipina who knows my priorities as a wife, a mother and a woman, wink**

Well.... if the issues you point out were not problems then why does the embassy have so many people working to discover these things?

Why does the Philippines Government have counseling sessions that are required before a Filipino can leave the country?

As far as "If the Filipina decided to work and be empowered by being financially independent, does it make her less of a Filipina?"

I would say... yes, it does. It makes her an American woman. I have no desire in any way, shape or form for an American woman...

American women have forgotten that marriage is WE and US, not ME and I....

If you want Independence.... stay in the Philippines, stay single, why marry at all??

Why not marry a Filipino man if you want to marry??

You have your independence now... why do you even want to come to the United States?

Just a few random thoughts on this entire process...

Oh, congratulations on becoming an American woman, I will morn the loss of the Filipina...

GWN

[sunlyk 1]

Yes I agree for some replies here. This is a public forum we can't just tell this people to agree what we said, what we wrote as they are also entitle of their own opinion and so as you (agree or disagree). I been reading here some silly articles or questions even if the answers are obviously right under their nose but it doesn't mean that this people are dumbed. I don't care what people think. But I won't allow anybody to belittle me not even my husband especially if i'm not doing anything to hurt others.

[o0pink0o 3]

As for me, i don't care what other thinks about Fil-Am relationships (good or bad) as my hubby and I knows that we are deeply inlove with each other and our relationship is getting better and better everyday plus we (hubby and I) don't care about the haters as they are not involve in our marriage, so in short "walang pakielamanan" Edited January 14, 2009 by o0pink0o

[Princess_Maricar 0]

I was amused last night that based alone on an opinion veiled with sarcasm that I posted in one discussion thread here, someone already extrapolated about the likes of me using Americans for the purpose of getting a green card and ruining the image of Filipinas. And I am now the enemy, hahaha!

I lost track of what were posted there and well, I am anymore interested to know. It however, made me wonder -

ONE: Why is it that there are SOME USC (read: males who have American citizenship) who easily think, conclude and/or accuse that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? What I find it perpelexing is the fact that they, themselves have either a pending petition to bring their Filipina SO or have been with their SO who came here via K1, K3 or CR1. Is it not that the presumption why they filed their petition for their SO is because they really believe in true love and that when people are in love, they need to be together? Why then this seemingly standing assumption that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? I find it really insulting to us, FILIPINAS!!!

TWO - What really is the image of a Filipina that has been projected to the world, in general and to the USC in particular? Is it the concept of Maria Clara as portrayed in Jose Rizal's Noli Me Tangere or that of Gabriela Silang who was a historical figure in the Philippines? Or should the Filipina image be taken in the context of the present setting or trend that Filipinas comprises about 70% of the work force in the Philippines so much that it could easily be concluded that the vast majority of the Filipinos are working women?

THREE - If the Filipina decided to work and be empowered by being financially independent, does it make her less of a Filipina?

Ah, I leave it to you, peeps. For now, I've got to go and be empowered not necessarily to overpower my husband but only to be what I have always been, an intelligent Filipina who knows my priorities as a wife, a mother and a woman, wink**

Let it be...if they think of that so be it...nothing lost to us filipina.Maybe they only insecure cuz we filipinos/filipina wherever we go we are not left behind we always on top...we can compete to other races in every way.....cuz we our heart and mind....

[Jasman0717 8]

I am crazy about my wife and she is a Filipina! Best thing that ever happened to me

[nickoftime 0]

In my opinion.

You need to worry more about your personal life.

Not what is written or stated or implied on a forum.

Life is real, Forums are not.

Agree on that, tallcoolone. I'm not worried, just perplexed.

[nickoftime 0]

I was amused last night that based alone on an opinion veiled with sarcasm that I posted in one discussion thread here, someone already extrapolated about the likes of me using Americans for the purpose of getting a green card and ruining the image of Filipinas. And I am now the enemy, hahaha!

I lost track of what were posted there and well, I am anymore interested to know. It however, made me wonder -

ONE: Why is it that there are SOME USC (read: males who have American citizenship) who easily think, conclude and/or accuse that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? What I find it perpelexing is the fact that they, themselves have either a pending petition to bring their Filipina SO or have been with their SO who came here via K1, K3 or CR1. Is it not that the presumption why they filed their petition for their SO is because they really believe in true love and that when people are in love, they need to be together? Why then this seemingly standing assumption that Filipinas come to the US for the mere purpose of getting a green card? I find it really insulting to us, FILIPINAS!!!

TWO - What really is the image of a Filipina that has been projected to the world, in general and to the USC in particular? Is it the concept of Maria Clara as portrayed in Jose Rizal's Noli Me Tangere or that of Gabriela Silang who was a historical figure in the Philippines? Or should the Filipina image be taken in the context of the present setting or trend that Filipinas comprises about 70% of the work force in the Philippines so much that it could easily be concluded that the vast majority of the Filipinos are working women?

THREE - If the Filipina decided to work and be empowered by being financially independent, does it make her less of a Filipina?

Ah, I leave it to you, peeps. For now, I've got to go and be empowered not necessarily to overpower my husband but only to be what I have always been, an intelligent Filipina who knows my priorities as a wife, a mother and a woman, wink**

Well.... if the issues you point out were not problems then why does the embassy have so many people working to discover these things?

Why does the Philippines Government have counseling sessions that are required before a Filipino can leave the country?

As far as "If the Filipina decided to work and be empowered by being financially independent, does it make her less of a Filipina?"

I would say... yes, it does. It makes her an American woman. I have no desire in any way, shape or form for an American woman...

American women have forgotten that marriage is WE and US, not ME and I....

If you want Independence.... stay in the Philippines, stay single, why marry at all??

Why not marry a Filipino man if you want to marry??

You have your independence now... why do you even want to come to the United States?

Just a few random thoughts on this entire process...

Oh, congratulations on becoming an American woman, I will morn the loss of the Filipina...

GWN

Hmmm...as I have said the majority of women in the Philippines are working and they are still Filipinos, not Americans. I think the only difference is while Filipinas work, family remains their priority. And while financially independent, they still recognize and respect the ascendancy of their husband over them. Not that I am saying that American women do not have the same set of priorities. I think it is simply because how Filipinas are raised, i.e., when they marry, they are giving away a part of their identity as a SHE and let the US takes precedence over the ME.

[PingLocalHostess 1]

Hmmm...as I have said the majority of women in the Philippines are working and they are still Filipinos, not Americans. I think the only difference is while Filipinas work, family remains their priority. And while financially independent, they still recognize and respect the ascendancy of their husband over them. Not that I am saying that American women do not have the same set of priorities. I think it is simply because how Filipinas are raised, i.e., when they marry, they are giving away a part of their identity as a SHE and let the US takes precedence over the ME.

Hi nickoftime . Its been awhile... .

Somehow i do understand your dilemma. Ive been called "the island girl" a lot of times its not even funny. And they think going to Walmart is the best thing that ever happened to me (Lol Oh my god! *snickers*). Probably coz they dont realized i came from a civilized country or maybe they just dont know me at all. My husband is overly protective and gets agitated sometimes but i told him to give it up coz it doesnt matter and they dont know any better..... it does give me a good laugh hahaha.

I do agree except for "they still recognize and respect the ascendancy of their husband over them". I say, husband and wife should have the same amount of influence and dependence on each other. They should complement each other. Not one over the other.

(Just my opinion.)

Edited January 15, 2009 by PingLocalHostess

[HappyDancer 7]

Uhmm... Isn't it that island girls are hot??? I know I am... hehehheheheh

[PingLocalHostess 1]

(.....they didnt realize*......) I hate grammar... its so hard. In the "island" they dont teach us grammar. *evil smile*

Hahahahaha.......! You are so right HappyDancer.

Island girl! *giggles*

Edited January 15, 2009 by PingLocalHostess