New Life

[DanielParul 50]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also. Hate that bl**dy word now.. Am just a uneducated, neanderthal - Specialist Trainer (Sales, CS and Accounts) for Insurance who has worked for American and British Companies.... What do I know about the stress that the USCs go through for undeserving us

[DanielParul 50]

thanks babblesgirl.. the times, they are a pretty exciting

thanks to jeraly for complementing my shedding hair too

[bakofoil 27]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also. Hate that bl**dy word now.. Am just a uneducated, neanderthal - Specialist Trainer (Sales, CS and Accounts) for Insurance who has worked for American and British Companies.... What do I know about the stress that the USCs go through for undeserving us

Must have been hard filling out those forms with no electricity. Can you even afford a pen and a compooter?!

[Jeraly 4]

Lol, I dunno about patience. I think my impatience with the poster's remarks fueled my fire. You could be right about the motivation behind the posts since the scenarios described seem rather specific, although I assumed it was just a generalisation about RANUSCs (glad you defined that!). The poster mentions a couple of times a career in which immigration appears to be important - so I assumed the perspective stemmed from that somehow.

Regardless, you are right somepin must have gone pear-shaped somewhere along the way if this is the only perspective the poster can give.

I have been in your situation *hugs* I had my fire fueled then realised it was like arguing with a brick wall that the reason it is still standing is because of the cement Brick wall insists on arguing that this is strictly not the case and that brick wall is merely an architectural marvel.

Now I choose to pay attention to the OP instead and respond to intelligent and well thought out responses even if they contradict what I believe - at least they make logical sense

Just miss Daniel so much now... he's at the Newark airport right now waiting to catch his flight to Delhi - to me

He's going to be sooooooo jet lagged when I drag him to the Consulate for my interview too

Oh you must be soo excited!

Agreed on the making life interesting thing as well - I used to hate change and crave stability and routine. While I still don't particularly like this rollercoaster all the time I would never change a thing, even the extended July wait because it has taught me so much about myself, helped me grow as a person and taught us both a lot about our relationship and let that grow as well

I still want stability but I'm not adverse to a few rocky roads to keep life interesting - just have to make sure I get myself some decent hiking boots...

*can't seem to cut out the metaphors*

[Jeraly 4]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also. Hate that bl**dy word now.. Am just a uneducated, neanderthal - Specialist Trainer (Sales, CS and Accounts) for Insurance who has worked for American and British Companies.... What do I know about the stress that the USCs go through for undeserving us

Is that a complaint you scum-of-the-earth RANUSC?!?!

Must have been hard filling out those forms with no electricity. Can you even afford a pen and a compooter?!

Compooterz don't use electricity - they use elastic bands. What is a pen? What is a form? Electricity is used to brush your hair or did we establish that was for something else in the end? Help me fellow RANUSCs!!

[DanielParul 50]

Must have been hard filling out those forms with no electricity. Can you even afford a pen and a compooter?!

LMAO.... naah!! electricity is used to brush hair, and give us shock therapy. Who needs it to fill a few forms

[Krikit 1,166]

Just miss Daniel so much now... he's at the Newark airport right now waiting to catch his flight to Delhi - to me

He's going to be sooooooo jet lagged when I drag him to the Consulate for my interview too

Yep, I totally agree with you. What an exciting time for you too! Best of luck with the interview! *hugs*

Ohmygoodness, that's exactly what went through my head when I was reading her post, too! Parul, that's SO exciting for you! Good luck and all the best at your interview. That's so nice that you will have Daniel with you. My hubby (then fiancé) was with me, too, and it sure helped to take the pressure off.

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also.

TOTALLY agree. I had to take care of all the documentation too. My husband didn't have a clue. But that's okay, because attention to detail is one of my strengths and most in tune with my line of work. His strengths lie in other areas. Not that I can "comprehend the nature and scope of the pressures and dynamics involved", mind you.

[bakofoil 27]

Agreed on the making life interesting thing as well - I used to hate change and crave stability and routine. While I still don't particularly like this rollercoaster all the time I would never change a thing, even the extended July wait because it has taught me so much about myself, helped me grow as a person and taught us both a lot about our relationship and let that grow as well

I still want stability but I'm not adverse to a few rocky roads to keep life interesting - just have to make sure I get myself some decent hiking boots...

*can't seem to cut out the metaphors*

Precisely! No relationship is ever perfect. The sign of a good one is the ability of both of you to work through the difficult times and come out the other side still smiling about being with the person you love. Any relationship will face tests, but we have really big ones to deal with straight off and I think it helps to put things into perspective. I know J and I will have arguments, but we have learned through this process what is important to us as a couple and I feel confident that we can deal with those things as and when they arise.

I'm liking the metaphors

[Krikit 1,166]

I'm liking the metaphors

Met a fours help us simpel foke unnerstan stuff that's beyon ... beyon... way past our comm prenn shun.

[bakofoil 27]

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also.

TOTALLY agree. I had to take care of all the documentation too. My husband didn't have a clue. But that's okay, because attention to detail is one of my strengths and most in tune with my line of work. His strengths lie in other areas. Not that I can "comprehend the nature and scope of the pressures and dynamics involved", mind you.

Same here! I suppose the assumption is that because the USC petitions the K1 visa, the fiance(e) is redundant in this process. (S)he simply needs to wait for the plane ticket to arrive in the post (because a NON-USC could never possibly have either the sense or financial means to buy a plane ticket), pack a bag, hop on the plane and then spend the next 10 years doing ####### all (due to inability to do anything constructive) except flicking light switches and marvelling at the wonder of electricity and threatening the USC with the affadavit of support.

Met a fours help us simpel foke unnerstan stuff that's beyon ... beyon... way past our comm prenn shun.

[Krikit 1,166]

Same here! I suppose the assumption is that because the USC petitions the K1 visa, the fiance(e) is redundant in this process. (S)he simply needs to wait for the plane ticket to arrive in the post (because a NON-USC could never possibly have either the sense or financial means to buy a plane ticket), pack a bag, hop on the plane and then spend the next 10 years doing ####### all (due to inability to do anything constructive) except flicking light switches and marvelling at the wonder of electricity and threatening the USC with the affadavit of support.

[*JG* 2]

Just read too many threads talking about - got the visa - just married - isn't working out - can we get a divorce??.... I am going for my interview in a few days (not that all those threads bother me).. just make me wonder if all of us really understand the change that we will go through, the adjustments that we will need to make... How do we prepare ourselves and how much is too little or too much preparation??

We = USC and SO

Would be nice to get both parties perspective

Every relationship and marriage is an adjustment. As is every move to a new house, a new city, a new country. Combine them and, IMO, it is a huge adjustment. Like every relationship, some make it and some don't. Communication, patience, and compromise.....it CAN be done.

I'm not going to lie, though.......it is not all smooth sailing. You think just cause the visa is in your hand, it's all going to be sunshine and rainbows. That is often not the case. There's more paperwork, huge frustrations, and some disappointments along the way. I have found that we are constantly changing the course on which we were headed. It hasn't killed us. In fact, I think it's made us smarter and stronger.

Edited March 1, 2008 by Jomo's girl

[Jeraly 4]

That's so nice that you will have Daniel with you. My hubby (then fiancé) was with me, too, and it sure helped to take the pressure off.

Am jealous - will be all alone when I have mine... boo!!!!

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also.

TOTALLY agree. I had to take care of all the documentation too. My husband didn't have a clue. But that's okay, because attention to detail is one of my strengths and most in tune with my line of work. His strengths lie in other areas. Not that I can "comprehend the nature and scope of the pressures and dynamics involved", mind you.

Yeah - I must say Jeremy helped out a lot at first but now I know a hella lot more than he does

I'm liking the metaphors

Met a fours help us simpel foke unnerstan stuff that's beyon ... beyon... way past our comm prenn shun.

Can't compute - words contain more than one syllable...

Same here! I suppose the assumption is that because the USC petitions the K1 visa, the fiance(e) is redundant in this process. (S)he simply needs to wait for the plane ticket to arrive in the post (because a NON-USC could never possibly have either the sense or financial means to buy a plane ticket), pack a bag, hop on the plane and then spend the next 10 years doing ####### all (due to inability to do anything constructive) except flicking light switches and marvelling at the wonder of electricity and threatening the USC with the affadavit of support.

No no no no no - electricity doesn't work light switches - those are activated by magic cockroaches. *sigh* wow - you're even stupid for a RANUSC

You don't have to just look over this thread, it's in every thread he posts to. Tito's got a one-track mind. He posts only in this forum, and he posts only the one argument. Over and over and over. All the while insisting he doesn't have an agenda. Pretty sure that kind of behavior is the very definition of an agenda, but maybe I've got immigrant-tard syndrome or something.

RIGHT ON!!11!!!!!1

Keerk - maybe you are really a RANUSC... were you born outside the US? Or is it just too much time spent in other countries?!

[dbears 1]

Jeraly you are just too much! I hereby grant you the award "MOST RETARDED RANUSC"! Pls accept your trophy ... SPEECH SPEECH SPEECH!!! (your reatarded fans are clamoring)

Oh and just on the sidenote - I had to help Daniel with all his documentation and then do mine also.

TOTALLY agree. I had to take care of all the documentation too. My husband didn't have a clue. But that's okay, because attention to detail is one of my strengths and most in tune with my line of work. His strengths lie in other areas. Not that I can "comprehend the nature and scope of the pressures and dynamics involved", mind you.

Same here! I suppose the assumption is that because the USC petitions the K1 visa, the fiance(e) is redundant in this process. (S)he simply needs to wait for the plane ticket to arrive in the post (because a NON-USC could never possibly have either the sense or financial means to buy a plane ticket), pack a bag, hop on the plane and then spend the next 10 years doing ####### all (due to inability to do anything constructive) except flicking light switches and marvelling at the wonder of electricity and threatening the USC with the affadavit of support.

You did too? Gosh, I thought I was the only RANUSC who was granted the "entitlement'" to compile and arrange 95% of the documents we submitted for I-129F. Had to photoshop dates on all our pics (made montages also--not necessary but i wanted to show off our cute pics as much as i could), scanned & pinted all the necessary tickets and receipts, wrote all the needed supplements including cover letter and letters of intent and pre-filled I-129F & G-325 for him. All that was left for him was to insert his BC & divorce papers, 2x2pic, affix his signature where it is needed, pay the application fee and send it off. Of course I had VJ as my guide but still it was too much for my RANUSC brain to handle... my IQ further dropped to -311 and my nose was totally bleeding after that.

[dbears 1]

I was supposed to respond to tito's "went right above your head" but mox and others have already done so and it is pointless to add anything more to that especially when it seems it will never get across. And I was not offended in anyway coz though it was a response to my post, i am sure he was directing it to all RANUSC.... the truth is I actually feel sorry for tito.

Tito, are you still madly in love with your ex-wife whom you petitioned for K1 visa not a long time ago? If so, then it explains why you sound so bitter... If not, then why are you cementing her memory in your heart and mind by spewing your anger towards alien k1 beneficiaries and alien spouses/immigrants? It will never make her come back nor will it make your wounds less painful... it will only make you remember her and what she did to hurt you more and more.

when all things are said and done, most of us here will turn off the pc and have a life with our friends and family.... when all things are said and done, we will keep holding on to the hope that we will have a wonderful life with our SO's soon... some of us may fail, it might even be me but i will never take my pains out on others. I have been through a lot of pains in my life already but I have never allowed it to turn me into a bitter, hopeless, miserable, joyless person.... how about you? when all things are said and done, when you turn off your pc, how are you then?

i just hope in time, you will learn not only to forgive her but also forgive yourself... i just hope in time, you would be able to free yourself from your pains and anger and that your wounds would finally heal and you could begin to see that the world is not that dark after all.

my prayers goes out for you.