~July 2007 K-1 Filers~

[English Muffin 59]

Or they can't wait to have their GC so they can move along and get a divorce.

scam is out there.

That isn't true for everyone. Some people do get divorced shortly after getting their Green Card but it doesn't mean that they scammed anyone. Especially when it's the USC who initiates the divorce proceeding. My husband decided to leave me just 18 days after I received my Green Card. Not only did not scam him for the Green Card, I was completely devastated. Don't assume that everyone has the same intentions.

[StillThePrettiest 4]

I don't think she's assuming anything, or making generalisations... just saying that SOME people do scam, and they do; in many more situations than visa-related ones... however, I think your point is also well worth making - things aren't always the way they may look to outsiders

*hugs everyone*

*supplies SPECIAL flapjack*

(recipe available for anyone who might like it )

[English Muffin 59]

I know StP and I didn't mean to have a go at Agnes, it's just a very touchy subject for me right now.

I guess I'm just getting a touch paranoid about the whole thing and every time I read something like that I wonder if fingers are being pointed at me. Deep down I know that people have better things to do than talk about me, but it just gets to me sometimes.

No offence meant Agnes.

[rae_and_scott 1]

it's just all so weird, why do people get all worked up because of their AOS? I mean, after getting your EAD and AP, it doesn't really matter how long it takes.

Exactly. That is why some people's posting about it every day annoys the hell outta me. I mean, I understand that people vent on this forum and that's part of what it's for, but ... I guess I only have so much patience for other people's stupidity.

Aly, it sounds like you guys got really lucky finding your planner. But 25%! Wow, that's more than I thought it might be. Well, I guess we will just have to wait and see what we find when we're able to go back up to Canada and start looking into it. Thanks for your info. And as for the fittings, no worries, my dress won't be ready for it till December! And seeing as how we don't have a wedding date yet, well...

Hi Marta! Are you back or just poking in temporarily?

[StillThePrettiest 4]

I guess I'm just getting a touch paranoid about the whole thing and every time I read something like that I wonder if fingers are being pointed at me.

I can see how you would be, but I don't think you need to worry

the people who matter will understand... a few people may be gossiping, but then they would be anyway; that sort of person would probably gossip about you if you'd stayed married; they can't help themselves

I think you have dealt with everything SO well... I take my hat off to you

[Jeraly 4]

Poke everybody

Marta!! Are you back in Europe now?!

I know StP and I didn't mean to have a go at Agnes, it's just a very touchy subject for me right now.

I guess I'm just getting a touch paranoid about the whole thing and every time I read something like that I wonder if fingers are being pointed at me. Deep down I know that people have better things to do than talk about me, but it just gets to me sometimes.

No offence meant Agnes.

*hugs Gillian*

I think what Agnes was also trying to say was that there are people who are anxious to get their GC so they can move on with their "other plans" - I never once heard you complain or whine about the AOS process so that completely negates you from her statement anyway You do have to wonder though about those people you see saying "Ohhh but it's been like a day and my check hasn't been cashed yet" or "I am soooooo anxious to get my GC - I've been waiting a month already and it is driving me INSANE" - I mean those people just need to get a grip

Don't be so down on yourself either - we all love you - you're doing a wonderful job *and* you have a rather sexy new apartment to look forward to moving into Is it furnished or not?

Aly, it sounds like you guys got really lucky finding your planner. But 25%! Wow, that's more than I thought it might be. Well, I guess we will just have to wait and see what we find when we're able to go back up to Canada and start looking into it. Thanks for your info. And as for the fittings, no worries, my dress won't be ready for it till December! And seeing as how we don't have a wedding date yet, well...

That's what we thought at first as well - it seemed so expensive, but because they knew what they were doing, where to go for vendors and things, they managed to save us money! We prolly spent in fees what we would have paid extra by doing it all ourselves so it was well worth it But like I said - we didn't shop around so you might find cheaper places too

[English Muffin 59]

Thanks for the kind words and reassurance everybody. I'm feeling a bit less paranoid now.

Don't be so down on yourself either - we all love you - you're doing a wonderful job *and* you have a rather sexy new apartment to look forward to moving into Is it furnished or not?

It's unfurnished apart from the cooker, microwave and dishwasher. Apart from my washer and dryer I'm only taking my bed, my couch and my desk so I'm really looking forward to getting everything new for it.

It's back to Massachusetts for me tomorrow. I've really enjoyed my week in Charlotte and I'm looking forward to moving down here for good.

Scott and I have done a lot of talking this week (I think he missed me) and we're getting on really well right now. I'm still hoping we can work things out in the future but he'll need to get his depression sorted out first. For now though I'm still moving here and we'll keep in touch and see what happens.

If our relationship is meant to be things will work out for us.

Edited August 29, 2008 by English Muffin

[bakofoil 27]

Thanks for the kind words and reassurance everybody. I'm feeling a bit less paranoid now.

Don't be so down on yourself either - we all love you - you're doing a wonderful job *and* you have a rather sexy new apartment to look forward to moving into Is it furnished or not?

It's unfurnished apart from the cooker, microwave and dishwasher. Apart from my washer and dryer I'm only taking my bed, my couch and my desk so I'm really looking forward to getting everything new for it.

It's back to Massachusetts for me tomorrow. I've really enjoyed my week in Charlotte and I'm looking forward to moving down here for good.

Scott and I have done a lot of talking this week (I think he missed me) and we're getting on really well right now. I'm still hoping we can work things out in the future but he'll need to get his depression sorted out first. For now though I'm still moving here and we'll keep in touch and see what happens.

If our relationship is meant to be things will work out for us.

Your apartment looks fantastic!! And great value too. I am so excited for you and I strongly believe that, as you say, if things are meant to they will work out.

I think adjustment is hard for both people in these kinds of relationships. I know J and I have had our ups and downs already. If depression is added to the mix then it just makes things so much harder because it just muddies the water somewhat. I really think you are handling things so well and I think that you've shown great pride and courage in moving away from Scott - I think it's a smart move and will really help you both discover what you want from all of this. Good luck Gillian :X

[English Muffin 59]

Your apartment looks fantastic!! And great value too. I am so excited for you and I strongly believe that, as you say, if things are meant to they will work out.

I think adjustment is hard for both people in these kinds of relationships. I know J and I have had our ups and downs already. If depression is added to the mix then it just makes things so much harder because it just muddies the water somewhat. I really think you are handling things so well and I think that you've shown great pride and courage in moving away from Scott - I think it's a smart move and will really help you both discover what you want from all of this. Good luck Gillian :X

I think the move will help us too. Right now Scott can't deal with the 'pressure' of being married and living with someone so I think that being so far away will take a lot of that pressure off him. We were planning on moving to Charlotte together anyway so if there's a chance for things to work between us in the future Scott can move down here to join me. But right now I'm concentrating on myself and looking forward to my new start.

Except that I'll have to finally get a job now!

[bakofoil 27]

I think the move will help us too. Right now Scott can't deal with the 'pressure' of being married and living with someone so I think that being so far away will take a lot of that pressure off him. We were planning on moving to Charlotte together anyway so if there's a chance for things to work between us in the future Scott can move down here to join me. But right now I'm concentrating on myself and looking forward to my new start.

Except that I'll have to finally get a job now!

You'll love it!! I have a very good friend who is desperate to move back to NC. Not Charlotte though, Greensboro. She tells me so many wonderful things about NC I am certain that it is a great place to make a new start.

[Jeraly 4]

Thanks for the kind words and reassurance everybody. I'm feeling a bit less paranoid now.

Don't be so down on yourself either - we all love you - you're doing a wonderful job *and* you have a rather sexy new apartment to look forward to moving into Is it furnished or not?

It's unfurnished apart from the cooker, microwave and dishwasher. Apart from my washer and dryer I'm only taking my bed, my couch and my desk so I'm really looking forward to getting everything new for it.

It's back to Massachusetts for me tomorrow. I've really enjoyed my week in Charlotte and I'm looking forward to moving down here for good.

Scott and I have done a lot of talking this week (I think he missed me) and we're getting on really well right now. I'm still hoping we can work things out in the future but he'll need to get his depression sorted out first. For now though I'm still moving here and we'll keep in touch and see what happens.

If our relationship is meant to be things will work out for us.

Well said Jeremy and I had our differences, broke up, lost contact etc and we kinda ended up in this situation I think what you are doing is great - but you *have* to make it to the Halloween party I am just making an invitation now

[English Muffin 59]

Well said Jeremy and I had our differences, broke up, lost contact etc and we kinda ended up in this situation I think what you are doing is great - but you *have* to make it to the Halloween party I am just making an invitation now

I promise I will be there.

[Jeraly 4]

YAY!!!! I am going through facebook now to make sure I get everyone that I don't have in my e-mail address book

[BabyBlueSusie 1]

Hey guys!!

I haven't been around in ages, I know. My apologies.

I hope everyone is well and that things are moving along smoothly.

School has started and I am soooooo happy to be back in the classroom. I love my school and have been able to make some friends (my first ones here in Indiana) since classes have begun.

Adriano still hasn't found work, but is coping much better than he was before. He has even agreed to go to the free ESL class which begins a week from Monday. I am so excited for him, as he has come so far with his English already. I cannot imagine how much he will learn in the class. I really hope he makes a friend or two there as well. The class will meet Monday through Thursday from 9-11:30 am. I like that it's almost everyday, because I feel he will learn more than just once or twice a week for longer periods.

That's all for now I guess. I will try to pop in more often, but it is hard with school, working in the lab, and all of the other obligations that come along with grad school (ie: meetings, study groups, department gatherings, etc).

Speak to everyone soon!

[English Muffin 59]

Hello Susie.